Also will note, if someone is found cheating in a marriage… The punishment, requires stones… Hope you catch the drift. And this is for full blown adultery while married. By no way do you have to wait till the day of judgement if you truly live under Islamic rule.
read the post directly above yours… I spelled out pretty explicitly what the punishment for cheating in a marriage is in this life.
I think major has explained the situation well..cheating culture is becoming more rife and rich men can hide it via marriage and stuff.
Huh? Cheating and infidelity is not some western construct or elite culture. Happens probably in every section of the society.
It was less common in Pakistan but becoming more common now. In Pakistan it can sometimes become covered up and legitimised because they can legally marry and become a second spouse, but often that relationship also starts off with infidelity. When it is then given the tag of second wife, people can blame the first woman for not accepting it and rather than being victim she becomes perpreator.
Indians like me are questioning posters quoting Islamic laws here.. my opinion is they are not being implemented and if anything religious scholars are on overdrive in South Asia.
they re mostly kids who dont live in pakistan or are not fully aware of ground realities. a vast chunk of pakistan legal code is still the legacy british commonwealth code with some modifications from the islamic jurisprudence but thats not to say all sharia laws are enforced. even if they could in this case, how can you prove the guy committed adultery or cheated? islamic law requires witnesses for zina. evidence has to be fool proof. from what i read here, and i am no expert in this case, it seem to be all circumstantial. Maybe he just fell in love with this other woman and decided to dump his first wife.
I thought a lot of such data was confidential ..
what data are you referring to here?
How much he ll provide in alimony or return the mehr etc
She was with child when he cheated on her and married the influencer .. ex or any human will be bitter also because she called it and they denied it 6-7 months ago.
I find it despicable. Nonetheless this crap happens around the world and a lot of men (and women) get away with it
Modi Ji kabhi nahi pakrey gaye Stormy ke saath. Iss vyakti mein achchhe naitik gun hain.
Sad to hear of your bro’s marriage. Kids should never live in an unhappy household, they are better off living with separated but happy parents individually - but desi guys never understand this.
That’s absolutely not true. Bringing up kids in a toxic, dysfunctional environment should be absolutely a no no - parents who fight continuously but live together for the sake of children end up causing irreparable harm to the mental health of children & this ultimately manifests in children having several personality &/or mental issues. Time & again, research & mental health advocates have proven that kids are much better off having parents who live separately but happily then combative, unhappy parents together.
This sounds great when you read it on paper but the reality is different.
I agree, there is lack of laws around this in the subcontinent - but atleast in this generation we should move away from this practice of making parents live forcibly together for the sake of kids. My first cousin grew up in such a household experiencing things no child should ever witness - DV and stuff which his mother could never escape, to the extent that he has now a severe aversion to marriage (and he is still one of the sane ones to acknowledge & deny marrying another- oftentimes kids from dysfunctional families make shittier partners themselves). He tells us often that he wished his parents would separate and end the nonsense.
The middle class is fast disappearing in Pakistan. Most people live close to poverty line. I have those people in mind when I say this. The elites have their own world and they should be considered an exception and not the norm.
For us in India atleast in the urban centers and even in Tier-2 cities, it’s going the opposite way - divorces are increasing exponentially because women are increasingly independent & don’t suffer anymore & so you have bunch of incels crying online about Indian traditional values & marriage sanctity & DV/anti-dowry/child support & alimony laws. A good development but needs to penetrate more into the lower strata as you pointed out.
The divorce rates are rising in Pakistan as well because compared to the past, obviously the independence of women is showing upward trend and the taboo around divorced women is also starting to fade away, but that does not mean they are equipped to handle whats coming to them and the children fare any better under them. Ideally in this day and age, both husband and wife should work and provide the best for their children. Decent schooling in Pakistan is becoming ridiculously expensive now.
