One thing I've realised is that there are certain people that just "don't like you" for some reason and would be quite subtle about it. It's just the way they act around you and around their friends or other group of people. Normally with me as a person I never get into arguments with anyone since I'm the type to get along with any human being making plenty of friends and giving off a positive vibe; avoiding negative vibes is a big thing that I do. Like there was one issue I had during last year of University that fits completely into this thread that I want to talk about and it's quite common amongst young British Asians.
My student accommodation hall consists of mainly asians, of whom majority are from Birmingham and the rest are from other places like Nottingham, Luton, Leeds, Bedfordshire, Coventry and London (I'm from London anyways). Now there was this one group of asians that just chill with each other and I tend to get along with them very well and I've chilled with them quite a few times but the thing with me is that I'm not a "regular" amongst the group. There was this one guy I met who's from Birmingham and he was pretty chilled with me the first time I met him, played pool with him and stuff. Then somehow he became a bit shifty with me and when I shook hands with him he would just look down and give a half-hearted response. Normally I don't care since I don't get attached to people like that but I knew there was a shift in attitude by him towards me.
To me he comes across as a guy who was very quiet in school but came to uni pretending to be someone he's not, after a night out at a club, the whole group (who I don't chill with that much) went back to our halls and we were all in one room chilling with this guy there too. This guy tends to be the joke of the bunch but "respected somewhat", in the sense that they'd call him a "Gujji B*****d" as a joke. Everyone including me laughed since it was funny but it's all banter and nothing serious, then he'd look at me and be like "why are you laughing for?". Then I had to shut him down by saying that why you being a little girl for, the guy next to me called you that and you're afraid of him
) which resulted in everyone laughing. There was a dumbbell on the floor to which one mate next to me grabbed and done 1 forearm rep perfectly. The other guy who I'm on about then grabs it and struggles so everyone including me laugh again. He then switches at me and says "why you laughing for? Try it yourself then". So I grabbed it and done a perfect forearm and he responded with "oh..." to which everyone laughed again
) After a while I saw him whispering to another guy in the room in front of me and he said to me "Yo come lets chill in block A me and you". Obviously this is where the suspicion came because first of all, you don't talk to me and only do when you need something in your favour and second of all is that you don't like me for some reason. Me personally I have no idea what me and him were gonna do in another block of the accommodation hall but I personally think he wanted to ditch me.
One time we were all going to go on a night out and he comes up to one time to tell me not to move to this Pakistani girl because his mate (who is cool with me) wants to score. I'm thinking that this useless creature clearly has zero respect for me
) So at the club the girl ended up having a good time with me (I didn't even put in effort or intent, she just wanted my attention
) ) and the guy's mate couldn't score. So all in all, the guy managed to convince one other guy in the group to delete me off snapchat for no reason and has convinced another guy to not like me either
) So they end up talking stuff to certain girls about me just to impress the girl which kind of gets me thinking that there are just certain guys out there that are trash.
Now the only reason why I shared this story is to just highlight some of the dodgiest characters you can meet in life, you shouldn't trust anyone and above all, positive vibes should be spread. I'm just praying everyone including me live a happy life ahead with no worries, stress or trouble.
