Couple in India sue son for not giving them a grandchild

[James]

<b>A couple in the north Indian state of Uttarakhand are suing their only son and his wife for not giving them a grandchild after six years of marriage.</b>

Sanjeev and Sadhana Prasad, 61 and 57, say they used up their savings raising their son, paying for his pilot's training as well as a lavish wedding.

They are demanding compensation worth nearly $650,000 (£525,000) if no grandchild is born within a year.

The highly unusual lawsuit was filed on grounds of "mental harassment".

Mr Prasad said he had spent all his savings on his son, sending him to the US in 2006 for pilot training at a cost of $65,000.

He returned to India in 2007, but lost his job and his family had to support him financially for more than two years, the Times of India reports.

Shrey Sagar, 35, did eventually get a job as a pilot. His parents say they arranged his marriage to Shubhangi Sinha, now 31, in 2016, in the hope that they would have a "grandchild to play with" during their retirement.

The parents say they paid for a wedding reception in a five-star hotel, a luxury car worth $80,000 and a honeymoon abroad.

"My son has been married for six years but they are still not planning a baby," Mr Prasad said.

“At least if we have a grandchild to spend time with, our pain will become bearable."

The couple's lawyer, AK Srivastava, told The National that the couple had demanded the money "because of mental cruelty".

"It is a dream of every parent to become a grandparent. They had been waiting for years to become grandparents."

The couple's petition, filed in Haridwar, is expected be heard by a court on 17 May.

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-61424869.amp

 

[James]

A bizarre case!

 

[sweep_shot]

Wow! I have never heard anything like this before.

Quite absurd.

 

[Technics 1210]

No words.

 

[dildilpak]

Desi parents & their blackmailing

 

[Itachi]

I think it is the result of being neglect from both financial and emotional side from their sons. Not justifying their actions but probably, they feel bitter because neither the son is sharing his financial responsibility nor probably giving them the emotional support which every parents expect.

After doing so much for him even jeoparidizing their own financial stability, it's not nice (morally) from the sons part.

My father took many loans from my studies. After securing job, I paid every one of them and still paying. Even if I don't pay, banks won't approach me legally but I can't let my father go through that harassment and anxiety.

 

[Mamoon]

A couple in the north Indian state of Uttarakhand are suing their only son and his wife for not giving them a grandchild after six years of marriage.

Sanjeev and Sadhana Prasad, 61 and 57, say they used up their savings raising their son, paying for his pilot's training as well as a lavish wedding.

They are demanding compensation worth nearly $650,000 (£525,000) if no grandchild is born within a year.

Their son and his wife do not appear to have commented. The highly unusual lawsuit was filed on grounds of "mental harassment".

Mr Prasad said he had spent all his savings on his son, sending him to the US in 2006 for pilot training at a cost of $65,000.

Pakistani/Indian, and I presume Bengali parents as well put excessive pressure on their sons and daughters once they get married, but this is taking to a completely ridiculous level.

This father needs a lot of introspection if he spent $65,000 on his son’s education to become a grandfather.

I was shocked to read this news in the morning. Thoughts?

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-61424869.amp

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

I think it is the result of being neglect from both financial and emotional side from their sons. Not justifying their actions but probably, they feel bitter because neither the son is sharing his financial responsibility nor probably giving them the emotional support which every parents expect.

After doing so much for him even jeoparidizing their own financial stability, it's not nice (morally) from the sons part.

My father took many loans from my studies. After securing job, I paid every one of them and still paying. Even if I don't pay, banks won't approach me legally but I can't let my father go through that harassment and anxiety.

He should have just sued his son for the money he loaned him, it's the failure to provide a grandson angle which is bizarre.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

Pakistani/Indian, and I presume Bengali parents as well put excessive pressure on their sons and daughters once they get married, but this is taking to a completely ridiculous level.

This father needs a lot of introspection if he spent $65,000 on his son’s education to become a grandfather.

I was shocked to read this news in the morning. Thoughts?

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-61424869.amp

My thoughts are that this story must have stung somewhat, that is why you had to include Pakistan and Bangladesh in your piece in order to diffuse from where this actually took place. Shining India.

 

[DeadlyVenom]

I think it is the result of being neglect from both financial and emotional side from their sons. Not justifying their actions but probably, they feel bitter because neither the son is sharing his financial responsibility nor probably giving them the emotional support which every parents expect.

After doing so much for him even jeoparidizing their own financial stability, it's not nice (morally) from the sons part.

My father took many loans from my studies. After securing job, I paid every one of them and still paying. Even if I don't pay, banks won't approach me legally but I can't let my father go through that harassment and anxiety.

Do you think the transactional and unloving relationship with your father has affected you psychologically?

 

[James]

He should have just sued his son for the money he loaned him, it's the failure to provide a grandson angle which is bizarre.

I can’t even fathom the idea of a parent suing their child. Perhaps I live in a bubble

 

[Itachi]

Do you think the transactional and unloving relationship with your father has affected you psychologically?

You failed to grasp the gist of the post. It was from the moral responsibility of a son regardless the role of the father or the mother.

 

[Itachi]

He should have just sued his son for the money he loaned him, it's the failure to provide a grandson angle which is bizarre.

Well, people after retirement tend to behave in a more childish manner. You can't expect that maturity from all parents.

 

[Technics 1210]

What can the parents sue for? 80% of Indians live below the breadline anyway.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

Well, people after retirement tend to behave in a more childish manner. You can't expect that maturity from all parents.

They paid for his pilot license training, arranged his marriage, paid for a wedding reception in a 5 star hotel, a honeymoon abroad and an $80,000 dollar car. This hardly sounds like a case of retirees who are regressing towards childhood. How many children do you know who will file a court case to retreive lost investment?

 

[Bewal Express]

I love children and the only thing that keeps me going is the dream of having lots of grand children running around the house. I am with this guy.

 

[KingKhanWC]

I love children and the only thing that keeps me going is the dream of having lots of grand children running around the house. I am with this guy.

What about the constant noise and destruction of the house?

On topic, all parents have a responsibility to look after their children best they can but no child has a responsibility to breed for their parents.

However strange this couple doesnt want kids, why wouldnt anyone want to have kids with their new spouse?

 

[Thala]

What about the constant noise and destruction of the house?

On topic, all parents have a responsibility to look after their children best they can but no child has a responsibility to breed for their parents.

However strange this couple doesnt want kids, why wouldnt anyone want to have kids with their new spouse?

A very close buddy of mine got married in his late 30s and her wife can't become pregnant because of medical issues. But he can't reveal this fact to his parents or relatives because he fears that they will force him into 2nd marriage. So they have made a story that they are happy with their life as it is and don't want children.

Desi stories have many untold versions other than known ones.

 

[Bewal Express]

What about the constant noise and destruction of the house?

On topic, all parents have a responsibility to look after their children best they can but no child has a responsibility to breed for their parents.

However strange this couple doesnt want kids, why wouldnt anyone want to have kids with their new spouse?

Generally i hate noise because I have to put up with it at School, but the noise of children that are my own flesh blood, is music to my ears. My wife often jokes that if we had grandchildren, you would the house into a nursery

 

[Itachi]

They paid for his pilot license training, arranged his marriage, paid for a wedding reception in a 5 star hotel, a honeymoon abroad and an $80,000 dollar car. This hardly sounds like a case of retirees who are regressing towards childhood. How many children do you know who will file a court case to retreive lost investment?

The person is 61 year old so in most general cases, he's retired for a year now. After retirement, the pension becomes miniscule compared to his salary. So in all probability, he is facing the heat now for all the loans he took for his kids education.

Generally no parents go for court for such circumstances. It is an extreme cases which could be aid by total ignorance towards them by their son with break down of communication.

In my opinion, people should plan for retirement such that, even if their son/daughter doesn't give contribution, he or she can sustain. You can't force people to pay.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

The person is 61 year old so in most general cases, he's retired for a year now. After retirement, the pension becomes miniscule compared to his salary. So in all probability, he is facing the heat now for all the loans he took for his kids education.

Generally no parents go for court for such circumstances. It is an extreme cases which could be aid by total ignorance towards them by their son with break down of communication.

In my opinion, people should plan for retirement such that, even if their son/daughter doesn't give contribution, he or she can sustain. You can't force people to pay.

What are you talking about? First you suggested the grandparent was losing his mental faculties, now you reveal he is only 61. Seems now you are also agreeing with my intial point that he should have just sued for his financial losses so you must agree this is not about producing grandchildren? Why are you even arguing at this point?

 

[KingKhanWC]

Generally i hate noise because I have to put up with it at School, but the noise of children that are my own flesh blood, is music to my ears. My wife often jokes that if we had grandchildren, you would the house into a nursery

May God bless you with many grandchildren.

I prefer being on my own watching sports.

 

[Bewal Express]

May God bless you with many grandchildren.

I prefer being on my own watching sports.

IA I live to see them running around the house.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

IA I live to see them running around the house.

I dunno mate, I'm with KK on this one, I didn't have much time for my own kids. Role model dad I am not, but I like to think I was a distant hero of sorts.

 

[Bewal Express]

I dunno mate, I'm with KK on this one, I didn't have much time for my own kids. Role model dad I am not, but I like to think I was a distant hero of sorts.

I am one of 2 and all I remember was my old man having a real temper and lots of arguments. Then my niece was born and she changed the whole family. Everyone was calmer and as I had children it got even better. So my experience of having a family has been amazing.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

I am one of 2 and all I remember was my old man having a real temper and lots of arguments. Then my niece was born and she changed the whole family. Everyone was calmer and as I had children it got even better. So my experience of having a family has been amazing.

I am one of five, my old man had a legendary temper, and it was equally matched by my mum. I thank my upbringing in a Christian school where they read out lessons from Hazrat Isa at school assembly for instilling some moral codes in me, but I also thank my parents for letting me attend those.

 

[DeadlyVenom]

You failed to grasp the gist of the post. It was from the moral responsibility of a son regardless the role of the father or the mother.

Moral responsibility is one thing but measuring love in terms dollars and rupees is another.

 

[Deewana Mastana]

Pakistan should be doing this too imagine how many cases will come out.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

And here they come, false flaggers to the rescue.

 

[Saj]

If the parents don't want to have kids then why force them to?

Reminds me of a cousin who has 3 daughters and his parents and in-laws upset with him and his wife as they didn't have a son.

 

[Itachi]

What are you talking about? First you suggested the grandparent was losing his mental faculties, now you reveal he is only 61. Seems now you are also agreeing with my intial point that he should have just sued for his financial losses so you must agree this is not about producing grandchildren? Why are you even arguing at this point?

Where do you see me arguing with you?

You put forwarded your view and as a reply, I gave mine. A conversation doesn't necessarily have to be an argument.

I don't see why you are in a such agitated mode considering I am being respectful and polite.

 

[Itachi]

Moral responsibility is one thing but measuring love in terms dollars and rupees is another.

Everyone has a limit beyond which morality goes out of the window. For some people, the thrashold is very low such as in these cases.

 

[Energy]

The world is getting robotic and so are family values. Parents keeping track on what they're spending on their children. Children keeping track if they are providing financial help to their parents.

On topic: Today's generation is not like the previous one and cannot take responsibility of raising children like how their parents did. This is because of many reasons: financial instability, lack of patience, poor work-life balance, nightlife and other social shenanigans. All results in less time dedicated toward raising a family.

 

[ARK Rafay]

The world is getting robotic and so are family values. Parents keeping track on what they're spending on their children. Children keeping track if they are providing financial help to their parents.

On topic: Today's generation is not like the previous one and cannot take responsibility of raising children like how their parents did. This is because of many reasons: financial instability, lack of patience, poor work-life balance, nightlife and other social shenanigans. All results in less time dedicated toward raising a family.

Exactly. It's truly a bizarre case but societal and family norms are shifting. Arguably even love is being calculated

 

[Itachi]

The world is getting robotic and so are family values. Parents keeping track on what they're spending on their children. Children keeping track if they are providing financial help to their parents.

On topic: Today's generation is not like the previous one and cannot take responsibility of raising children like how their parents did. This is because of many reasons: financial instability, lack of patience, poor work-life balance, nightlife and other social shenanigans. All results in less time dedicated toward raising a family.

I disagree with blaming the new generation. It's a consequences of old conservative generation which led to identity crisis of the new generation. Had old generation could accommodate and guide the new generation properly, the situation wouldn't have been this bad. On superficial level, it's easy to blame the new generation but if you go up the chain, you'll see how the old generation has neglected those same kids while they growing up.

 

[Energy]

I disagree with blaming the new generation. It's a consequences of old conservative generation which led to identity crisis of the new generation. Had old generation could accommodate and guide the new generation properly, the situation wouldn't have been this bad. On superficial level, it's easy to blame the new generation but if you go up the chain, you'll see how the old generation has neglected those same kids while they growing up.

I agree. Children at times get emotionally brainwashed by their parents, and we all know that every parent would have had a past as well and would not have been perfect each time.

However, you have to give 'massive' respect to your parents if you have been looked after until University. It is not an easy job. And it's a considerable chunk of life's time & pleasure taken away from the parent to ensure that their child can now stand on their feet and do whatever they want.

 

[Bhaag Viru Bhaag]

Adopt a child. Problem solved.