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Married life versus single life?

Urmmmm both have their pros & cons.

Can’t really say which is better.
 
I think single life suits me because I am an introverted man with OCD and anxiety. Also, I am not great with many social aspects of life.

But, I concede that marriage has its perk as you can have a companion.
 
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I am not married, but from what i have seen there are people who are happily married, and those who are in miserable marriages. I have also seen people who are happy being single. And those who are miserable being single.

So there is not one right or wrong answer in what is better. Ultimately it depends on the person.
 
I am happily married but I still feel single life was so much better. Less responsibility on your shoulders and you can do anything you want (I hope my wife doesn’t see this and kicks my butt).

However there are perks of married life too, and #1 being companionship.
 
As if it's a choice, specially not in a country like Pak, almost everyone has to get married at some point,. on topic i would see single life is defo more freedom and less stress but in married life specially with kids when you make them and your better half happy it really gives you kinda satisfaction which is hard to get as single and married life does make you more mature and ready to face hardships of world and life, and then hug if your cute, toddler when you come back from a long day, that's just make up for all the troubles of married life and there ain't many better feelings than that. And you just have to adjust and no one is ever ready for to tkar the responsibility of married life but when and if it does happen always think of it as glass half full, no partner is perfect but just learn how to make it work, I kinda miss my single life more than most because I was married at 20, but still all things considered i don't have much to complain. Have beautiful wife, cute and healthy babies and a teaching job. I think life have gave me more than it has taken, even though it took the person i most loved and my childhood crush but still it's all for good.
 
There can be no standard answer at all. Personally speaking, my life has not changed at all.

I think in most cases, things start to change only when you become a parent.
 
Gharib Aadmi said:
I am not married, but from what i have seen there are people who are happily married, and those who are in miserable marriages. I have also seen people who are happy being single. And those who are miserable being single.

So there is not one right or wrong answer in what is better. Ultimately it depends on the person.
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this, although i think being miserable and single is better than miserable and married, cos being miserable and married means acting out might hurt a lot of people, whereas if ur miserable and single you can do a lot of things to change it, without hurting others.
 
A single person is a free thinker where you yourself take all decisions of your life. Marriage is a boundation where by law you are expected to bear the burden of someone else. If you like to live independently like a free spirited bird without a care in the word, single life is better. If you like to be answerable to someone all your life, marriage life is for you. I know which one I will choose.
 
Rajdeep said:
A single person is a free thinker where you yourself take all decisions of your life. Marriage is a boundation where by law you are expected to bear the burden of someone else. If you like to live independently like a free spirited bird without a care in the word, single life is better. If you like to be answerable to someone all your life, marriage life is for you. I know which one I will choose.
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Why must it always be a burden? Marriages can be great partnerships where the two partners complement each other well and have a lot of fun together.

I agree about the lowering of independence. Successful partnerships need compromises on both sides. One cannot have it one's way all the time. As long as the benefits of the compromise outweigh any loss of independence, it should all be ok.
 
gani999 said:
Why must it always be a burden? Marriages can be great partnerships where the two partners complement each other well and have a lot of fun together.

I agree about the lowering of independence. Successful partnerships need compromises on both sides. One cannot have it one's way all the time. As long as the benefits of the compromise outweigh any loss of independence, it should all be ok.
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Okay maybe burden is not the correct term but marriage is too big a sacrifice for me without much benefits.
 
Rajdeep said:
Okay maybe burden is not the correct term but marriage is too big a sacrifice for me without much benefits.
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I think marriage is a beautiful thing but it is not for everyone.

I personally think one should only marry if he/she has the right characteristics and situations. If a man has a troubled life (extreme health issues, family issues, financial issues etc.), maybe it is good for him to not get married. Transparency is important.
 
yup who will look after you when you are not able to earn and don't have enough savings or assets, and even if you have no servants are as good as your own children because they don't have any blood connections plus in that age you can't even force your servants to do their job properly. So in a way marriage and children are also Kinda future investment and like other investment they don't always turn good and you can end up in old peoples welfare homes but still it's better than don't even having that fall back option and in societies like Pak the western values are catching up but still many people do take care of their parents and i like this tradition, we should try our best to serve our parents and give them our actual time not just money and resources, nothing give them more happiness than the actual time you give them, listen to what they have to say, and that's the least we could for all the sacrifices they made in their youth for your youth and future, for a me person is complete failure if his parents are not happy with him her, even if whole world may call him the most successful, all those success is just meaningless annd and will never give him complete satisfaction, the only pure relation you will find is with your parents all else are give and take, so do you best before Allah take them away from you, Allah sab k parents ko salamat rakhay and sehat and skoon de. Ameen
 
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Cons of marriage:

-Makes you complacent
-Indulging in social and materialistic activities that you detested before


Pros of marriage
- "Companionship, having someone to share considering humans are social .
- Possible kids in future who probably are the only ones whom you would love unconditionally.
 
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JaDed said:
Cons of marriage:

-Makes you complacent
-Indulging in social and materialistic activities that you detested before
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Yup. This is one downside. You may end up participating in activities you do not quite like.

By the way, what did you mean by complacent?
 
sweep_shot said:
Yup. This is one downside. You may end up participating in activities you do not quite like.

By the way, what did you mean by complacent?
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Complacent about working out, working harder job wise (depends upon people) because you have a cushion of support from your partner.
 
JaDed said:
Complacent about working out, working harder job wise (depends upon people) because you have a cushion of support from your partner.
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I see. Makes sense.

I think working out and taking care of body should always be top priority (whether you are single or married). It should not be dependent on any factor.
 
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sweep_shot said:
I see. Makes sense.

I think working out and taking care of body should always be top priority (whether you are single or married). It should not be dependent on any factor.
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Easier said than done esp after kids and job but yes it should be, desis are worst at it as they overparent as well so no time for themselves.
 
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