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Far too many people live in a fantasy world believing there is one person made for them. This person is their true love or the soulmate selected by destiny, this person being the only individual they can share their life with.

I know a person who 'fell in love' with an individual but due to their circumstances cannot be together so will not now commit to being with anyone else because of some foolish belief this is the only one.

Why do people live in such fantasy worlds? There are plenty of fish in the sea is a very true saying , the human being is capable of loving more than one person. Does anyone on here feel like this or is this a result of watching a bit too much Bollywood and Hollywood? How can this person be convinced to move on to someone new?
 
Sometimes it seems like two people are genuinely made for each other, sometimes people can move from partner to partner quickly and seamlessly. It just depends on the person really. There's no universal rule.
 
Sometimes it seems like two people are genuinely made for each other, sometimes people can move from partner to partner quickly and seamlessly. It just depends on the person really. There's no universal rule.

I assume by 'it seems' you don't believe in the theory of one true love?

How would you convince someone this isn't true so stop wasting time and move on?

It's interesting in Islam a man can have up to four wives which suggests well at least a male is more than capable of loving more than one woman at a time. :asadrauf


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If you tell them it makes no difference, they have to realise themselves and at their own pace.

I agree it can be quite a pathetic sight at times but what can you do. Each to their own.
 
I duno, Allah puts couples together as everything is by Allah's will but that could be through an arranged marriage just as much through a love marriage
The problem is unrequited love and people throwing their toys out the pram, literally.
 
If you tell them it makes no difference, they have to realise themselves and at their own pace.

I agree it can be quite a pathetic sight at times but what can you do. Each to their own.

Some people realise this a little too late. Amazing story. :)

A furious 99 year old man is divorcing his wife of 77 years after he discovered she had an affair more than 60 years ago.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...77-years-discovering-affair-60-years-ago.html
 
I duno, Allah puts couples together as everything is by Allah's will but that could be through an arranged marriage just as much through a love marriage
The problem is unrequited love and people throwing their toys out the pram, literally.

I've heard such stories where marriages are made in heaven but if this was the case then there would be no divorce?

I think lust & ego plus being conditioned by romantic stories from entertainment can cause this type of thinking or is there more to it?
 
I've heard such stories where marriages are made in heaven but if this was the case then there would be no divorce?

I think lust & ego plus being conditioned by romantic stories from entertainment can cause this type of thinking or is there more to it?

I duno about made in heaven, but you're fated to be with whoever you end up with and fated to divorce them to if it ends like that
 
Love is an emotion my friend. The ability to fall in love once again in life is a sign of an ever-living heart, able to resurrect that special feeling once again. One at a time is different to once in a life, unless you of course get that person in life.

For us to stay cheerful, positive, adventurous, special in life, we must have to have love in our heart.

The best is when love happens by itself, when it injects itself in your heart by its force.

"love others not because they deserve your love, but because you deserve to have love in your heart!" - says one friend, a beautiful soul.

All in all, very interesting thread!
 
The only species where monogamy is the "norm" is Homo sapiens.
 
This is a very sensitive topic.

Many people fall in love when they are young. Call it crush or teenage infatuation or whatever. To them at that age, it appears like a big deal. For many people in India, after repeated failures at love in their teens and early 20's, they finally settle down by marrying a stranger. They are all happy now. I know many of my friends who went through this path.
 
Something which I get to hear quite often from people who take a dig at those in this Fad. They generally explain it in a phrase, " Love is merely a chem reaction in brain".
 
It is an interesting topic and also one that is extremely sensitive. In a nutshell it is all about belief. What is a fantasy world for one may not be a fantasy world for someone else. At the end of the day, if we don't believe in something or someone we automatically tend to think that anyone who holds a different opinion or view is living in a fantasy world - be it belief in God, discrimination in country X, Afridi vs Malik, economic progress of a country, etc etc etc. Basically, pretty much everything that constitutes our universe. That is human nature!

Now, let us move to the topic at hand. The scientific explanation for love is, I believe, a chemical reaction in the brain. It ostensibly has the same influence on a person's brain as addictive drugs, alcohol, etc. do. Assuming that is true, it is but natural for a person to find it hard to let go or quit. How many people do we see who are addicted to smoking, drugs and what not, and unable to quit despite their best efforts?! It takes years and years of counseling, therapy, treatment and what not and sometimes even that is not enough. It is the same with love. Apparently, scientific studies indicate that it takes a person roughly half the time period of a relationship to get over a separation/break up/divorce, IF everything else goes well (viz. support of friends and family to name but one factor). Therefore, someone who breaks up after a 10 year long relation could very well take 5 years to recover (or, for that "reaction" in the brain to die down).

Let us forget the scientific part of it now. Let us think like human beings. We get into a relationship, do everything that can be done under the sun for a long time, love each other like crazy, go through hell fire and brimstone for each other, meticulously plan for the future...(you get the drift) only to have the rug pulled from beneath our feet in a manner that you only believed possible in fables. How would we feel then? We'd lose hope, lose the will to live, lose faith in everyone and everything. No, this is not being melodramatic, nor is it some cheesy lines from a Bollywood movie, it is reality. If someone doesn't go through these things in the aftermath of a break up, then they never truly loved each other in the first place. A part of us dies in the immediate aftermath of a break up and I think you can never love anyone that much (as much as you loved before) ever again, particularly if the separation was brought about by force (external factors). It is akin to losing someone close (especially a parent). We may move on after a while but life is never quite the same. First love is something else. Only a very lucky person can truthfully say that his/her first love was the last as well.

I don't for one moment advocate clinging onto the past for eternity and living on memories. I think everyone in life should move on. Having said that, if someone genuinely thinks it is best if they walk alone for the rest of their lives, who are we to decide for them? Each to their own I say.
 
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Love is a union with somebody, or something, outside oneself, under the condition of retaining the separateness and integrity of ones own self. It is an experience of sharing, or communing, which permits the full unfolding of ones own inner activity Erich Fromm
 
Love is an emotion my friend. The ability to fall in love once again in life is a sign of an ever-living heart, able to resurrect that special feeling once again. One at a time is different to once in a life, unless you of course get that person in life.

For us to stay cheerful, positive, adventurous, special in life, we must have to have love in our heart.

The best is when love happens by itself, when it injects itself in your heart by its force.

"love others not because they deserve your love, but because you deserve to have love in your heart!" - says one friend, a beautiful soul.

All in all, very interesting thread!

Nicely put. Are you suggesting there is no such thing as a 'soulmate' & you should have the same love for everyone? You should have been born in the 60's bro, a radical but good vision.
 
Love is a union with somebody, or something, outside oneself, under the condition of retaining the separateness and integrity of ones own self. It is an experience of sharing, or communing, which permits the full unfolding of ones own inner activity Erich Fromm

Or it's just chance? It's just a union of two people who believe they are meant for each other but it's a result of their circumstances. A person living in London cannot have a soul mate in Africa, who they may never meet.

Most people who are married could easily be married to someone else & be exactly the same.

Some interesting posts but having a one true love or soul mate is just romantic fantasy not reality of how people are.
 
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...e-hour-apart-holding-hands.html#ixzz2cecNe4CB

After 72 years of marriage they had only an hour's separation between them in their passing, yet their locked hands never let go.
The family of the Iowa couple say their life together was a real-life love story, never separated, even after their tragic car accident which sent them both to the hospital.
'They believed in marriage,' Dennis Yeager, the youngest son of Gordon Yeager, 94, and wife Norma, 90, told MailOnline. 'They chose each other and once they had committed, that was it.'
The couple were both born in Iowa before Gordon Yeager moved to a farm a Minnesota with his family. After it was badly hit by the Depression, 16-year-old Gordon returned to work at the Chevrolet Garage in State Center, Iowa - a business which he would eventually go on to own.
It was once back in the town, he fell in love with Norma who was still studying at high school.
After his proposal, Gordon and Norma were married on the very day that she graduated, May 26, 1939.
It was a small wedding held at 8pm that evening in the home of Gordon's sister, the expense of which was covered by the young man's first pay cheque.
The newlyweds spent the first few years of marriage in California where Gordon worked as a welder in the shipyards during the Second World War while volunteering at night for the war effort.
They later returned to the town of State Center and had four children - Donna who was born in 1940, Roger in 1943, Gordon in 1946 and the youngest Dennis in 1949.
Tragically both middle sons Roger and Gordon later died in car crashes.
While bringing up their young children, the Yeagers first ran a hardware store before taking over the Chevrolet Garage with Gordon's brother Roger until both men retired at 65.
The couple's youngest son Dennis, 62, described his parents as incredibly active individuals.
He said: 'We took family camping trips in Iowa and Canada but spent most of the time at Clear Lake, Minnesota. We rented a cabin and went boating.
'I remember my Dad, even at almost 60 years old, water-skiing at Clear Lake. One time, when I was driving the boat he disappeared under for such a long time, that my Mom was worried sick.
'When he eventually surfaced, she screamed at him, ''what were you doing down there?'' to which he yelled back, ''well I wasn't coming back up without my trunks!'''
When they retired, the Yeagers would spend half the year in Tucson, Arizona, enjoying the outdoors and fishing in the Hoover Dam.
Despite their closeness, Dennis admits at times his parents were 'total opposites'.
He said: 'They just loved being together but of course they would get mad at each other.
'My Dad was very sociable, he loved doing anything that involved being with people. My Mom was quieter but she would support my Dad in whatever he was doing. She would be there making sure everyone had something to eat, had a drink in their hand.
'She was such a perfectionist. When they had the garage, she won every award going from Chevrolet for her book-keeping. I remember they would be up together poring over those books until 2am if there was even a penny out of place.'
After celebrating the rare achievement of a 70th wedding anniversary, surrounded by family, Dennis said his parents loved to spend time watching sports, socialising and walking their little Yorkie dog Radar.
'They were not your typical 90-year-olds,' he added.
Dennis said that his father would continuously say, 'I have to stick around. I can't go until she does because I have to stay here for her and she would say the same thing.'
Last Wednesday while making a trip into town, the car Gordon Yeager was driving mistakenly pulled out in front of another.
A police report said the oncoming driver tried to avoid the collision, but it wasn't able to stop in time.
Rushing to the hospital, Dennis said he found his parents sharing a unit in the intensive care unit.
Never separated and holding hands they lay, though 'not really responsive,' he said.
That afternoon at 3:38pm, Gordon passed away, with his wife and family beside him. The anomaly began though for the family, when Gordon's heart monitor kept beeping.
'It was really strange. They were holding hands, and dad stopped breathing but I couldn't figure out what was going on because the heart monitor was still going,' Dennis recalled.
'But we were like, he isn't breathing. How does he still have a heart beat?'
Dennis asked a nurse who checked, pointing out the couple's hands which were still locked together.
'Her heart was beating through him and picking it up,' Dennis said the nurse explained.
Exactly one hour later though, at 4:48pm, Norma died too.
'Neither one of them would've wanted to be without each other. I couldn't figure out how it was going to work,' said daughter Donna Sheets on what life would have been like for the other if only one had survived. 'We were very blessed, honestly, that they went this way.'
Dennis said: 'I don't believe there was a big secret to their marriage. Sometimes one or the other would get mad but they worked everything out.
'In the end, they chose each other and that was it. They were committed.'
The couple held hands at their funeral Tuesday, sharing the same casket. Their family says after they are cremated, their ashes will be mixed together.
The Yeagers are survived by Norma's sister, Virginia Kell, and Gordon's brother, Roger, along with their children Donna and Dennis as well as 14 grandchildren, 29 great-grandchildren and one great-great grandchild.
 
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The concept of true love

what is it exactly ? How does one know he´s in live. any experiences over here ?
 
IMO, true love is giving to another person without the expectation of getting anything in return.
 
concept of true love

True love is, in the initial stages, when your father comes to wake you up and finds you smiling whilst you are still asleep, unaware of the world outside.
 
giving someone the ability to hurt you, whilst trusting them not to
 
there is love. A love is love. No true or false. if the love is false, it is not love in the 1st place.

True love exists only in pony puff unicorn princess stories.
 
The concept of true love

The opening post talks about the personal experiences. I remember my first one. It had amazing intensity! On my way back home, I deliberately sat in the bus looking towards a corner so that I could avoid looking towards any ladies. I then heard a female voice, shouting my name again and again. I told her that I have very afresh fallen in love and simply can't even look towards her. "Daffa door! (go to hell!)" she said and went away. I later on discovered that it was my cousin who had come to visit us and was actually looking for me to help her in reaching our place (we had shifted and thus she wasn't confident in finding our address).
 
True love is when you can actually trust someone wits your life. When you feel guilty about not being able to provide that someone amount of love they give back in return. When you avoid doing things which would hurt them even if you're actually doing em without any chance of them knowing it.
 
The concept of true love

IMO, true love is giving to another person without the expectation of getting anything in return.

giving someone the ability to hurt you, whilst trusting them not to

there is love. A love is love. No true or false. if the love is false, it is not love in the 1st place.

True love exists only in pony puff unicorn princess stories.

True love is when you can actually trust someone wits your life. When you feel guilty about not being able to provide that someone amount of love they give back in return. When you avoid doing things which would hurt them even if you're actually doing em without any chance of them knowing it.

(if you ignore my rubbish) these are some excellent posts in this thread!
 
True love i do not know but what i know is about love which grows in intensity even when Not reciprocated . I call it divine love .
 
saying i love you, is just like saying good morning. socially conditioned to speak those words, not necessary to have emotions behind them.
 
saying i love you, is just like saying good morning. socially conditioned to speak those words, not necessary to have emotions behind them.

Well, I guess, in true love, you don't need to speak out those words loudly, you just know
 
Indianfan said:
Well, I guess, in true love, you don't need to speak out those words loudly, you just know

tell that to any girl. ANY girl will do.

They always want to hear those 4 words every now and then.... Even if they know how much you love them. Showoff is a necessity.
 
so if my wife truly loves me she will understand why i dont want her to wear certain types of clothes.

Yes in love one makes a lot of sacrifices, but also IMO it s a very selfish, vile person who cannot let go of his own narrow mind and insecurity and forces another human being to live against her own wishes. So her understanding why you don't want her to wear certain clothes is much more a sacrifice than your understanding that a human being has certain rights and wishes of their own
 
thankfully people like indiafan are in a minority, otherwise the world will be a bad place for couples. these are the kind of people who encourage a wife to fight against her husband. and enjoy the tamasha.
 
^^^ Why is the onus only on the wife to give up on her wishes and free life?

And yes, I agree, in the name of love, marriage and respect for her husband, millions of women all over the wolrd do listen to their husbands insecurities and whims and let go of their freedom. Unfortunately, this respect and compromise is only one-sided and not reciprocated

No wonder so many men do not want a working or an independent house-wife. Far less easier to control. How can you take out the frusturations of not achieving much in life, listening to your boss, etc if you cannot force a women to bend under your whims? At least one aspect of life men can control in this scary world
 
^ WHAT a RUBBISH logic to be honest. I expected better from you indianfan.
 
I really do not think I can ever settle down with one person. I am in my mid twenties now and I have had the same ideology since I started dating at the age of 15/16. I have been in serious relationships. I have also had my fun in a no strings attached manner. But in my opinion, all relationships come with an expiration date and sooner or later all relationships fizzle out. Kudos to all the couples who have been together for long , stayed faithful and made it through all the problems that surface in a relationship sooner or later. Wish they could let me in on the secret.
 
IMO, true love is giving to another person without the expectation of getting anything in return.

This is the quote [MENTION=46929]shaz619[/MENTION] was talking about! Shazzy bro u got good memory thats almost 4 years ago.
Do u give such love to your partner Robert.
 
thres no true love shove, when it comes to couple marriage/love, everyone is materialistic .
 
This is the quote [MENTION=46929]shaz619[/MENTION] was talking about! Shazzy bro u got good memory thats almost 4 years ago.
Do u give such love to your partner Robert.

How did you manage to find it? yours is not so bad either :))) Didn't remember it was from this thread but when Robert mentioned it while I was browsing it really struck me
 
How did you manage to find it? yours is not so bad either :))) Didn't remember it was from this thread but when Robert mentioned it while I was browsing it really struck me

I was searching for pain on the forum and this thread showed up lol,don't know if i was drunk or wth :))
 
Far too many people live in a fantasy world believing there is one person made for them. This person is their true love or the soulmate selected by destiny, this person being the only individual they can share their life with.

I know a person who 'fell in love' with an individual but due to their circumstances cannot be together so will not now commit to being with anyone else because of some foolish belief this is the only one.

Why do people live in such fantasy worlds? There are plenty of fish in the sea is a very true saying , the human being is capable of loving more than one person. Does anyone on here feel like this or is this a result of watching a bit too much Bollywood and Hollywood? How can this person be convinced to move on to someone new?

It's a bit unfortunate if someone decides not to commit to another but I believe with time people come around eventually, the person in question are they alright now? or do they still feel the same way after not being able to be with the person they love. Has the King ever been in love? :afridi
 
I was searching for pain on the forum and this thread showed up lol,don't know if i was drunk or wth :))

:)) You smash it lmao, three of me favourite posters are the centre pieces of this dejavu, KingKhan the thread starter, Robert with the inspirational quote, JaDed with the Bump and the bear with a quote he stole from Robert 4 years ago :yk3
 
One true love is a thing too far fetched but i experienced strange event during my early teenage. It happened when i was only 13-14 years old. But i was already around 6 feet tall by then. There was a girl, 3/4 years older than me, in my neighborhood with whom i had not even any proper interaction. One night, i saw a dream that she had written me a love letter. Mobile phones, internet were still not a common thing during those days, especially for teenagers. The very next day, my friend who was to act as courier , told me that he had a thing for me which he would only give me if i bought him a present. At that moment, i told him that he did not need to be so dramatic as i already knew that he had a letter from her. :))
 
You will get bored with the prettiest of faces after a while. After that only compatibility will last the test of time. There is no such thing as a "soulmate" in my view. We just try to find someone who is most compatible to ourselves.
 
The OP is being a little harsh...although it depends on the person in question...if this is his first love then fair enough...he's probably blinded by it...

I can say for myself though having recently gone through a breakup with someone I loved and who loved me...that for me it will difficult for me to attain the same feelings for someone again...and the same for the girl...circumstances unfortunately meant we couldnt be together...and the parting was a tough one for the two of us...

As a not so young man who has only loved one person I can empathise with the OP...whilst i dont believe in the one person for everyone thing...the 'plenty of fish in the sea' mantra is silly too...there are plenty of people to meet, to get with...but to share a special connection or to love is a needle in the haystack...which is why for those who discover it it's extra tough to let go and move on...
 
No true love.

The only unconditional & true love is the love of the Mother to Child or Father-Child.
 
Love comes again...and surprises you. Just learn not to get dismayed when it doesn't work out.
 
It's a bit unfortunate if someone decides not to commit to another but I believe with time people come around eventually, the person in question are they alright now? or do they still feel the same way after not being able to be with the person they love. Has the King ever been in love? :afridi

Sorry for the late reply :misbah

I have no idea as I do not know what love is. If you can define it for me, I might be able to answer :)
 
The OP is being a little harsh...although it depends on the person in question...if this is his first love then fair enough...he's probably blinded by it...

I can say for myself though having recently gone through a breakup with someone I loved and who loved me...that for me it will difficult for me to attain the same feelings for someone again...and the same for the girl...circumstances unfortunately meant we couldnt be together...and the parting was a tough one for the two of us...

As a not so young man who has only loved one person I can empathise with the OP...whilst i dont believe in the one person for everyone thing...the 'plenty of fish in the sea' mantra is silly too...there are plenty of people to meet, to get with...but to share a special connection or to love is a needle in the haystack...which is why for those who discover it it's extra tough to let go and move on...

What is this 'special connection' you speak of? Is it what both have in common ,eg love cricket while eating meat samosas with mint sauce?
 
What is this 'special connection' you speak of? Is it what both have in common ,eg love cricket while eating meat samosas with mint sauce?

Well i'm speaking of what I believe to be love...not simple chemistry but beyond that...intangibles actually that make you feel something special for someone...that feeling is rare...and in my case has only happened once...

Finding someone who looks great and ticks boxes is easy...
 
The concept of one perfect soul mate doesn't exist.

There could be 10,000 different people who could be your soul mate types.
 
Thought I had found the one. Only for her to dump me out of the blue
 
The only species where monogamy is the "norm" is Homo sapiens.

Utterly wrong. Polygamy divined by God.

http://mentalfloss.com/article/55019/10-monogamous-animals-just-want-settle-down

List of animals that are monogamous. Look up sexual dimorphism.

I first believed in soulmates when the world's population was 5 billion now it is 7. If DNA all started at same point then perhaps there is someone perfectly DNA compatible, yimg to the yang but the chances of finding them, I mean she could be a Vietnamese pig farmer, how am I gonna meet her?
 
People who live closeted lives think like this, or are deprived of relationships in their life.
 
I am now beginning to feel that what these attraction experts and pick up artists say is true. When you focus on one girl, you will very rarely get her but if you focus on 100 girls, your chances are better. Have always struggled whenever i have spent every ounce of my energy on that one girl.

How is it possible for people to get it on with people they are not remotely attracted too? What is the point of this life if you are forced into having a boring, stale, for the sake of it marriage with someone you don't even like?
 
I am now beginning to feel that what these attraction experts and pick up artists say is true. When you focus on one girl, you will very rarely get her but if you focus on 100 girls, your chances are better. Have always struggled whenever i have spent every ounce of my energy on that one girl.

How is it possible for people to get it on with people they are not remotely attracted too? What is the point of this life if you are forced into having a boring, stale, for the sake of it marriage with someone you don't even like?
I know what I am saying is a very touchy subject but Allah knows men and there is a very good reason why Islam allows men to have 4 wives.
Provided of course you give them equal rights. I have learned that having more than one wife is not considered an odd thing in a lot of muslim countries.
Obviously if I were to ask my wife than I want to marry again I can consider myself a dead man.
 
I know what I am saying is a very touchy subject but Allah knows men and there is a very good reason why Islam allows men to have 4 wives.
Provided of course you give them equal rights. I have learned that having more than one wife is not considered an odd thing in a lot of muslim countries.
Obviously if I were to ask my wife than I want to marry again I can consider myself a dead man.

So Allah doesn't know women? What if it was a rich Muslim woman who could afford to improve the lives of 4 men?
 
So Allah doesn't know women? What if it was a rich Muslim woman who could afford to improve the lives of 4 men?
That would be against nature. What I said earlier is based on scientific facts. I can elaborate further but it will take the discussion to a level which may have to be sensored.
Each to their own as they say. I respect people who stick to one wives but also totally understand why one would want more than one companion.
 
That would be against nature. What I said earlier is based on scientific facts. I can elaborate further but it will take the discussion to a level which may have to be sensored.
Each to their own as they say. I respect people who stick to one wives but also totally understand why one would want more than one companion.

Please do elaborate on the scientific facts and how it would be against nature. There have been many such discussions on here before. Don't think it would be a problem as long as we're not violating the forum rules.
 
Please do elaborate on the scientific facts and how that would be against nature. There have been many such discussions on here before. Don't think it would be a problem as long as we're not violating the forum rules.
He's just saying that women have a lower sexual desire than men. Which is totally correct.
 
He's just saying that women have a lower sexual desire than men. Which is totally correct.

Also if a woman has 4 husbands, how will they know who is the father of the child? Unless you live in modern times, in places where you can get tests but Islam is all for all times and all areas.

Back to the OP, there is no such thing as the one true love, this makes no sense at all.
 
He's just saying that women have a lower sexual desire than men. Which is totally correct.

That is a gross generalization. Assuming for a minute that was correct, what if one Muslim woman from the hundreds of millions has a higher sexual appetite and wants to have more than one husband?
 
That is a gross generalization. Assuming for a minute that was correct, what if one Muslim woman from the hundreds of millions has a higher sexual appetite and wants to have more than one husband?
Brother, it's not a generalisation, it's a scientific fact.

I personally cannot see a woman wanting more than one husband. It's not in their nature.
 
Brother, it's not a generalisation, it's a scientific fact.

I personally cannot see a woman wanting more than one husband. It's not in their nature.

It happens more times than you think esp in this day and age. Man is busy with work, doesn't have time to spend with his wife, so she feels shunned because she is not getting satisfied, and then deceit, frustration arise.

Yeah she might not get another husband but she'll start seeing someone else behind him. I'm just stating the reality, not saying her actions are right or wrong.

Yes men have a higher sex drive generally, but it doesn't mean a woman's sex drive is non-existent.
 
It happens more times than you think esp in this day and age. Man is busy with work, doesn't have time to spend with his wife, so she feels shunned because she is not getting satisfied, and then deceit, frustration arise.

Yeah she might not get another husband but she'll start seeing someone else behind him. I'm just stating the reality, not saying her actions are right or wrong.

Yes men have a higher sex drive generally, but it doesn't mean a woman's sex drive is non-existent.

U right.
 
Also if a woman has 4 husbands, how will they know who is the father of the child? Unless you live in modern times, in places where you can get tests but Islam is all for all times and all areas.

Back to the OP, there is no such thing as the one true love, this makes no sense at all.

True, there's always possibility to fall in love again with another. The other thing is some find it really tough to move on after heart break even when they make attempts to bounce back, that I can sympathise with but I suppose time should heal wounds.

Me, Fury, [MENTION=136729]Suleiman[/MENTION] and [MENTION=43583]KingKhanWC[/MENTION] on the other hand be like:


:))
 
I’m very happily married, and in marriage vows throughout history one typically declares that the other person is the only one for them, so I think that it is real.
 
I’m very happily married, and in marriage vows throughout history one typically declares that the other person is the only one for them, so I think that it is real.

This is you James:

 
I duno, Allah puts couples together as everything is by Allah's will but that could be through an arranged marriage just as much through a love marriage
The problem is unrequited love and people throwing their toys out the pram, literally.

Allah does or their parents with their cousin?
 
So I guess life is all about marrying someone unattractive and whom you are not attracted too?
 
lol. This is the funniest thread I've seen in the longest time. "It's against women's nature to be with more than one man". "Men have a higher sexual drive so they need 4 women"

LOL. What the hell is wrong with you people?
 
From my personal experience, I do not think that there is only person that is for you. There a lot of people one can be compatible.

But, in the end, there is nothing more rewarding than being in a committed relationship with that one person and wanting to live the rest of your life with them.
 
lol. This is the funniest thread I've seen in the longest time. "It's against women's nature to be with more than one man". "Men have a higher sexual drive so they need 4 women"

LOL. What the hell is wrong with you people?

Some really archaic and outdated thinking.
 
Brother, it's not a generalisation, it's a scientific fact.

I personally cannot see a woman wanting more than one husband. It's not in their nature.

Just because you say it is a scientific fact, doesn't make it so. Good to see you are such an expert in women and can speak on behalf of all of them.
 
Just because you say it is a scientific fact, doesn't make it so. Good to see you are such an expert in women and can speak on behalf of all of them.

It is a fact, you're fixated on the exceptions to the norm.

sources:
https://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare#1

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cultural-animal/201012/the-reality-the-male-sex-drive

and last source is a paper from the national institute of health

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22552705
 
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