Ghazinator1313
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So a "friend" of mine is in the friend/bro zone. How does said "friend" get out of this? ADVICE NEEDED! lol
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Good luck. A guy i know who is very good at picking girls up always tells me you can be friends with a girl you dont love but cant be friends with a girl you love. Hopefully some experienced folks here can critique this.
I was and still am briefly interested in this girl i met in my uni in Canada, worst of all i can speak to her whenever i want, as i wish on sms/bbm but its clear based on the fact that since i am always doing most of the talking, getting no detailed interested responses from her that its pointless to entertain any further thoughts. Its upto her to open up and help me get to know her further.
I dont know her well enough to flatly proposition her first of all, second of all even if i do such a thing i know she will freak out and the end result will not be pleasant. Third we have plenty of other headaches to deal with in life so no point wasting time on something insignificant at this point.
Hence i have basically moved on, i am sure others eventually do the same once they realize things are at a dead end and not going anywhere. I must admit though that all this depends on the level of attraction as well, if it is at 10-30% then its easy to be indifferent, casual and unconcerned. But if it is at 70-95% then one is screwed. Speaking from experience.
Good luck. A guy i know who is very good at picking girls up always tells me you can be friends with a girl you dont love but cant be friends with a girl you love. Hopefully some experienced folks here can critique this.
I was and still am briefly interested in this girl i met in my uni in Canada, worst of all i can speak to her whenever i want, as i wish on sms/bbm but its clear based on the fact that since i am always doing most of the talking, getting no detailed interested responses from her that its pointless to entertain any further thoughts. Its upto her to open up and help me get to know her further.
I dont know her well enough to flatly proposition her first of all, second of all even if i do such a thing i know she will freak out and the end result will not be pleasant. Third we have plenty of other headaches to deal with in life so no point wasting time on something insignificant at this point.
Hence i have basically moved on, i am sure others eventually do the same once they realize things are at a dead end and not going anywhere. I must admit though that all this depends on the level of attraction as well, if it is at 10-30% then its easy to be indifferent, casual and unconcerned. But if it is at 70-95% then one is screwed. Speaking from experience.
Oh my god, Savak. I'm so sorry to hear that. That's so sad.
best thing to do is move on and not think about her ever, even though probably difficult
Stop paying attention to her
If you really want her, you'll make her want you.
I was best friended -_-
And then.....
Stop paying attention to her
You cannot get out of this zone OP, unless the girl becomes desperate for a relationship in the future for some reason/is looking for a rebound man, etc.
Once you are in the 'friend' zone, she will not look at you as anything other than a friend from that point onwards - unless something about you drastically changes to catch her attention ($$$ - ).
Maybe you should treat this girl more as a 'woman' and not so much as another 'homeboy' you just joke around with, etc, that would be a start. But even then, you would have to be very subtle because you wouldn't want to come across as an old perv or something.
Best thing would perhaps be to move on. Making an attempt at a relationship may just jeopardize the current friendship that you do have.
Good luck.
one sided love is a hopeless situation to be in..i have been in one sided love always...with different girls over time.. it consumes you..your ego is such a thing that tells you how come she doesnt love me..and you want to prove to yourself that you love her a lot..love needs to be returned.. one sided love burns your own self esteem.. it is depressing to know that you love someone and she cannot love you back...
my advice..hold your emotions..unleash your love only when the other person is ready to accept it..otherwise dont waste it..no one deserves so much from you when they offer so little..and you owe it to yourself.. love yourself first...
and remember you are like a diamond ring and she is like the finger... the finger looks good if it accepts the diamond ring..but the diamond ring can dazzle just by itself..
and remember you are like a diamond ring and she is like the finger... the finger looks good if it accepts the diamond ring..but the diamond ring can dazzle just by itself..
If your friend does go for it, and it doesnt work out, that friendship is gone. But staying in friend zone with a girl you like, whats the point of that? Tell him to start subtly dropping hints, until she gets it, tell him to go slow
find a new one
You can definitely get out of the friend zone!! For all the ppl who say otherwise
You know the girl, she is your friend, you know her likes-dislikes, that is a great head-start. First up your friend should start flirting. Only once she starts flirting back, act arrogant. Stop with the extra attention and reduce flirting. Its a simple 2-step process but it will definitely stop her thinking about you the normal "friend" way. Its then what you make of it.
Btw dont attempt this if you are not a witty/funny guy
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Lol, true
I just noticed, your name is not written in red anymore. Looks awkward
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Lol, true
I just noticed, your name is not written in red anymore. Looks awkward
For those saying you can definitely get out of the friend zone - I am assuming you people were never actually in the friend zone but rather were in the 'check-out' zone.
Not really. Opposite-sex friends do occasionally 'flirt' (maybe without realizing it/unintentionally), doesn't mean anything. If the guy and girl are in that comfortable 'we can talk about anything/joke around' phase without experiencing any 'sexual tension'/attraction , then thou shall forever remain friends.
Like I said, unless one day, the OP's friend wakes up and looks like Channing Tatum or becomes really rich or something, anything that will make the girl give that guy a second look, I doubt he will get out of the friend zone.
I have managed to get out of the friend zone a couple times and it's all about YOUR attitude. Most guys who end up in the friend zone make the mistake of subconsciously bowing down to a girl or giving her too much attention which puts the girl on a pedestal.
If you focus only on YOU and dont OVER THINK what she will think, treat her as an equal, just as a human, she will get intrigued. You have to create the perception that YOU are the prize and if she turns you down, its her loss.
Lol, I suppose we will simply have to disagree on this. Different people have different experiences I guess!
To OP: It will take your friend at least 5-8 years to get out of the friend zone, based on Pure Evil's post.
one sided love is a hopeless situation to be in..i have been in one sided love always...with different girls over time.. it consumes you..your ego is such a thing that tells you how come she doesnt love me..and you want to prove to yourself that you love her a lot..love needs to be returned.. one sided love burns your own self esteem.. it is depressing to know that you love someone and she cannot love you back...
my advice..hold your emotions..unleash your love only when the other person is ready to accept it..otherwise dont waste it..no one deserves so much from you when they offer so little..and you owe it to yourself.. love yourself first...
and remember you are like a diamond ring and she is like the finger... the finger looks good if it accepts the diamond ring..but the diamond ring can dazzle just by itself..
If you're good looking, no girl can dare friend-zone you but then again they won't talk to you either and just stare at you all the time. I have never been in friendzone because its pointless and I've always avoided friendships with girls cause I feel like they're going to use me. Honestly, I just won't approach a new girl ever unless she looks better than me which is not so easy or when a girl has a wonderful personality.
Like I said, unless one day, the OP's friend wakes up and looks like Channing Tatum or becomes really rich or something, anything that will make the girl give that guy a second look, I doubt he will get out of the friend zone.
True story bro, only good looking guys like us understand how stupid it is to fall for any girl. You need to have standards
or you can also try this..
tell the girl how you had a bad childhood..some girls have this tendency to be a mother..when she knows you are a tortured soul..it will bring out the mother in her....if you are good at acting then you can also bring out some tears..and she will wipe your tears..and her heart will melt.. then you say that thanks for bringing happiness to my life..what would i do without you..i am really blessed that i got a friend like you..and promise never to leave me..
this will work if the girl has strong maternal instincts..
ok..you can try this also..
if you know the girl loves animation movies..then tell her how one scene reminds you of her..like in Madagascar 2.. when the giraffe finds that the hippo Gloria is dating Modo Modo..and the speech he gives telling Modo Modo how to keep gloria happy.. tell the girl that the scene is exactly how you feel... animation movies are very good at making people emotional..if the girl has watched the scene..she will feel...awww..this is so sweet of you..
or if not animation movies..tell her about that scene in My Sassy Girl..where the guy tells what would he have done if he had got a chance to marry that girl...basically use any emotional scene to tell her how you feel about her..
and this is not lying..because you love her anyway..and everything is fair in love..
Best option is to talk about the new episode of Vampire Diaries It always works, it also doesn't hurt your chances if you look like Ian Somerhalder like me
Wake up? XD
So, UPDATE: told her how I felt, she took it as a joke, told her parents, her sister (lol ***).anyway it be became awkward af for the longest time. She made me out to be some creepy weirdo, but my fault for letting her do that to me. Anyway, put me on a path to become a completely different person, completely changed my aspect on life and women in general. Had a few flings, found my now wife(her family vehemently opposed, I got death threats and to this day they are trying to cause trouble, but another story for another day). Alhumdulillah all is well. The friend zone gal was even at the wedding, because our families were close. Anyway, years have gone by and wanted to update because I am sure you all were concerned ��
Good on you dude. Friendzone is just an excuse for guys who are not sure of themselves and approach people and girls they are interested in with a half-assed approach, being interested in a relationship but not having the spine for going for what they want and being overly friendly and compensating that the girl isn't really interested.
Good that you have moved on.
[MENTION=134809]sensible-indian-fan[/MENTION] think we have your successor!It is as simple as that:
This thing works in atttaction -> comfotm -> seduction.
When yoi make girl attracted towards you first n then make her feel comfortable within her attraction. She will fall for yoi.
When you screw up this order you're done.
If seduction comes first you will come across as creep.
If comfort comes first you will be friendzoned. N attraction doesnt spark in friendzone
If you are already in friendzone it means she is comfortable with you. Girls feel comfortable when ypu become predictible.
Start being little bit unpredictible. Create some mystery around you. Make her think abt you n your mystery in your abcense. Flirt with other girls hotter than her in frontt of her. Or discuss how this girl's hair drive you crazy etc.
Friend zone can definitely be broken
So, UPDATE: told her how I felt, she took it as a joke, told her parents, her sister (lol ***).anyway it be became awkward af for the longest time. She made me out to be some creepy weirdo, but my fault for letting her do that to me. Anyway, put me on a path to become a completely different person, completely changed my aspect on life and women in general. Had a few flings, found my now wife(her family vehemently opposed, I got death threats and to this day they are trying to cause trouble, but another story for another day). Alhumdulillah all is well. The friend zone gal was even at the wedding, because our families were close. Anyway, years have gone by and wanted to update because I am sure you all were concerned ��
If a member of opposite sex finds you attractive - you will never be friendzoned. Its that simple.
Congratulations to you for coming out of it as a "Ghazi".
Lol friend zone is still much better than the ignore, lack of acknowledgement or worst case scenario creep zone, speaking from experience.
No bigger hurt and pain when you give someone a special place in your ♥ and she doesn't even deem you worthy of acknowledging your presence, existence, talking to you or responding to your initiative.
Thats not the biggest pain. Thats just humiliation in a way.
The biggest pain is when both of you love each other but still cant be together. You know a life long relationship is there for the taking but due to unavoidable circumstances it cant happen. This kind of a regret stays with you forever.
The biggest pain is when you are together but don't love each other.
This same tragedy is happening with me right now because of ** reasons. Fear of losing her forever. There’s still a tiny hope maybe I will get her one day.Thats not the biggest pain. Thats just humiliation in a way.
The biggest pain is when both of you love each other but still cant be together. You know a life long relationship is there for the taking but due to unavoidable circumstances it cant happen. This kind of a regret stays with you forever.
This same tragedy is happening with me right now because of ** reasons. Fear of losing her forever. There’s still a tiny hope maybe I will get her one day.
Thats not the biggest pain. Thats just humiliation in a way.
The biggest pain is when both of you love each other but still cant be together. You know a life long relationship is there for the taking but due to unavoidable circumstances it cant happen. This kind of a regret stays with you forever.
Two families not getting along with each other. And obviously ego problems. It has become a mess and also log kya kahen gey. Outside interference. She has given up but I have not. Going on for 4 years.May I ask the reason?
Two families not getting along with each other. And obviously ego problems. It has become a mess and also log kya kahen gey. Outside interference. She has given up but I have not. Going on for 4 years.
I went through the exact same thing last year before my wedding. My family was supportive but hers was not at all. Every Male member of her family was giving me death threats(father, brothers, uncles,cousins), making up rumors about my parents, just overall total jahalat. She landed in the ER twice due to mental torture. At the end of the day, it's about the couple. If you two want to be together, take the necessary steps. If they still have not come around after 4 years, inaction on your part is typically seen as weakness and they will never come around. Of course, he safe in whatever you do and evaluate any REAL dangers of your actions, but don't fall victim to perceived threats or bullying.
Why can you not be together? Family opposition? I
The biggest pain is when you are together but don't love each other.
This same tragedy is happening with me right now because of ** reasons. Fear of losing her forever. There’s still a tiny hope maybe I will get her one day.
[MENTION=134809]sensible-indian-fan[/MENTION] think we have your successor!