What have been some of your life's unpleasant experiences?

[sweep_shot]

Some of my life's unpleasant experiences have been:

- Getting my first speeding ticket. That felt awful.

- Falling from a hill and breaking my right arm.

- Being scammed online while trying to sell Bitcoin.

- Getting fired from a job a few years ago (my fault was I wrote a negative review but forgot to be anonymous).

- Someone hitting me for 43 runs in 1 over (I gave away 7 sixes and 1 no-ball).

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What about you? What are some of your life's unpleasant experiences?

 

[Cricket Warrior]

- Getting fired from a job a few years ago (my fault was I wrote a negative review but forgot to be anonymous).

hahaha now u will always remember to keep ur ID hidden lol

 

[sweep_shot]

hahaha now u will always remember to keep ur ID hidden lol

Indeed.

To be fair, I have only written one bad review like that. Never wrote a negative one again for a company.

 

[Varun]

Someone hitting me for 43 runs in 1 over (I gave away 7 sixes and 1 no-ball).

Par for the course for pretend sportsmen: Bangladeshi cricketers.

 

[BouncerGuy]

I just experienced a total blackout (power+internet) in our area in extreme heat for 2 days. That too on the occasion of EID.

Still facing same power cut issues here.

Pathetic

 

[sweep_shot]

Par for the course for pretend sportsmen: Bangladeshi cricketers.

I was never a proper sportsman. Used to play tape ball and then a bit of hard ball cricket (lower division of Toronto league).

6 sixes also happened to Stuart Broad. It's all good.

 

[sweep_shot]

I just experienced a total blackout (power+internet) in our area in extreme heat for 2 days. That too on the occasion of EID.

Still facing same power cut issues here.

Pathetic

That sucks.

Hard to live without internet for 2 days.

 

[BouncerGuy]

That sucks.

Hard to live without internet for 2 days.

It was not just the internet. There was no electricity as well. LOL

It was like back to stone age days.

 

[sweep_shot]

Last Saturday, I was outside and saw a skunk with its head stuck in a cup. I tried to help it.

Skunk seemed scared and released its oily yellow liquid on me (skunk's defense mechanism).

I had to throw away my t-shirt because skunk's liquid smell wasn't going away.

 

[sweep_shot]

Some more unpleasant experiences:

- At my last job, I had to deal with a very difficult female coworker. She had a bad attitude and was blatantly dishonest. Never experienced such a dishonest coworker before anywhere.

- During my high school days (in Toronto), I participated in an indoor football tournament. I was the goalkeeper. We had a match against the teachers one game and I conceded 4 goals. I let my team down. That was also the last football game I played. It was year 2008.

- I once had this super-spicy chicken burger. It was winter (freezing temperature outside) and I was at a park. I suddenly had the urge to defecate but there was no toilet nearby. I tried to rush toward home but I ended up pooping in my pants. I had to throw away my pants because it was soiled badly.

- I bought a nice t-shirt from a local store. I was taking the public bus. Once I returned home, I realized I left the t-shirt in the bus. It was a shame because I really liked the t-shirt.

 

[Justcrazy]

Love life .

 

[Mamoon]

Watching Amir’s Super Over vs USA and Imad’s innings vs India.

 

[DeadlyVenom]

Some more unpleasant experiences:

- At my last job, I had to deal with a very difficult female coworker. She had a bad attitude and was blatantly dishonest. Never experienced such a dishonest coworker before anywhere.

- During my high school days (in Toronto), I participated in an indoor football tournament. I was the goalkeeper. We had a match against the teachers one game and I conceded 4 goals. I let my team down. That was also the last football game I played. It was year 2008.

- I once had this super-spicy chicken burger. It was winter (freezing temperature outside) and I was at a park. I suddenly had the urge to defecate but there was no toilet nearby. I tried to rush toward home but I ended up pooping in my pants. I had to throw away my pants because it was soiled badly.

- I bought a nice t-shirt from a local store. I was taking the public bus. Once I returned home, I realized I left the t-shirt in the bus. It was a shame because I really liked the t-shirt.

This is probably due to the 4% south indian DNA lol

 

[sweep_shot]

This is probably due to the 4% south indian DNA lol

LMAO.

Possible.

 

[sweep_shot]

Watching Amir’s Super Over vs USA and Imad’s innings vs India.

I am a big Amir fan and I must say Amir's over vs USA was painful to watch. He lost the plot completely.

He is still a world class bowler but he really messed it up in that game.

 

[ElRaja]

being broke, worst feeling ever, early 20s, total loser, no job, no income, stay at home recluse. I had less than £100 in my account at one point, and watching all my friends, whom I had stopped hanging out with, living their lives while listening to indirect comments from extended family members about me being lazy or not looking hard enough, or having too high standards, was horrible. took me years to get over that psychologically.

 

[sweep_shot]

Love life .

Interesting.

I got rejected by my high school crush in 2012. I wasn't very religious at that time and I was trying to make her my girlfriend.

Anyway, those days are gone. I have started to be a practicing Muslim from 2015. Alhamdulillah. I no longer seek haram relationships. I now want a wife who wears a hijab and who has good Islamic values.

 

[sweep_shot]

being broke, worst feeling ever, early 20s, total loser, no job, no income, stay at home recluse. I had less than £100 in my account at one point, and watching all my friends, whom I had stopped hanging out with, living their lives while listening to indirect comments from extended family members about me being lazy or not looking hard enough, or having too high standards, was horrible. took me years to get over that psychologically.

I know that feeling of getting bullied by family members.

I had some really nasty and toxic relatives. They gave me a hard time in my 20's.

I can't cut them off as Islam doesn't permit cutting off relatives. So, I try to avoid them without cutting them off. I only text 2 Eid Mubaraks during the 2 Eids. No other interaction.

 

[DeadlyVenom]

I don't dwell on them. You either win or learn .

I do sometimes dwell on how I may have behaved to other people, but I have repented and asked for forgiveness.

 

[ElRaja]

I know that feeling of getting bullied by family members.

I had some really nasty and toxic relatives. They gave me a hard time in my 20's.

I can't cut them off as Islam doesn't permit cutting off relatives. So, I try to avoid them without cutting them off. I only text 2 Eid Mubaraks during the 2 Eids. No other interaction.

i wouldnt call it bullying, its just desi culture, relatives talk. it is what it is. i was lucky that most of my family dont live in the same city or country as me, so it was usually from a distance, and easy enough to avoid.

 

[Suleiman]

i wouldnt call it bullying, its just desi culture, relatives talk. it is what it is. i was lucky that most of my family dont live in the same city or country as me, so it was usually from a distance, and easy enough to avoid.

Seems like a pretty epic success story from what you’ve posted about where you are now in other threads, Allah Humma Barik, how did you manage to turn it around?

 

[sweep_shot]

i wouldnt call it bullying, its just desi culture, relatives talk. it is what it is. i was lucky that most of my family dont live in the same city or country as me, so it was usually from a distance, and easy enough to avoid.

Yes. Malicious gossipping, spreading rumors etc.

Can cause a lot of conflicts and hurts.

 

[ElRaja]

Seems like a pretty epic success story from what you’ve posted about where you are now in other threads, Allah Humma Barik, how did you manage to turn it around?

i got very lucky, a family contact eventually got me an interview for an internship, when i say lucky, it wasnt just that, i got rejected from my first interview and they sent me to a second team cos the first team didnt want me, the first team got sacked within 12 months of me being their, the second ended up eventually becoming the most important part of the business. eventually i found out even the second team didnt want me either, but the boss thought whats the worse that could happen, and hed have a favour to hold over the family friend.

i never looked back, i was so scared of being in that situation i worked and worked, didnt care about the money, didnt care about doing all nighters, i was just grateful that i wasnt where i was. theres loads of other stuff too, but generally i got lucky breaks, got a lot of support from my parents and i worked really hard.

to put this into perspective by this point i had applied to more than a thousand jobs over multiple years, and gotten to the final interview stage of maybe 3 or 4.

 

[sweep_shot]

i got very lucky, a family contact eventually got me an interview for an internship, when i say lucky, it wasnt just that, i got rejected from my first interview and they sent me to a second team cos the first team didnt want me, the first team got sacked within 12 months of me being their, the second ended up eventually becoming the most important part of the business. eventually i found out even the second team didnt want me either, but the boss thought whats the worse that could happen, and hed have a favour to hold over the family friend.

i never looked back, i was so scared of being in that situation i worked and worked, didnt care about the money, didnt care about doing all nighters, i was just grateful that i wasnt where i was. theres loads of other stuff too, but generally i got lucky breaks, got a lot of support from my parents and i worked really hard.

to put this into perspective by this point i had applied to more than a thousand jobs over multiple years, and gotten to the final interview stage of maybe 3 or 4.

Inspiring.

Your persistence and hardwork paid off. Well done.

 

[sweep_shot]

When I was in grade 2 or grade 3 (I was in Bangladesh at that time), I accidentally farted in classroom. My classmate heard it. We laughed and then talked about something else. That was an awkward experience.

Another unpleasant experience was when I was in grade 11 (in Canada). I twisted my knee while playing football during lunch break. That injury has remained with me till this day. I now have to watch when I run or jog.

 

[sweep_shot]

A while ago, I was inside toilet doing activity #2. At that time, a job recruiter called me. I picked up the phone and attended a phone interview while defecating.

It felt awkward but I managed to complete the interview successfully. I am glad I didn't have to take any note or anything.

 

[LordJames]

being broke, worst feeling ever, early 20s, total loser, no job, no income, stay at home recluse. I had less than £100 in my account at one point, and watching all my friends, whom I had stopped hanging out with, living their lives while listening to indirect comments from extended family members about me being lazy or not looking hard enough, or having too high standards, was horrible. took me years to get over that psychologically.

Sorry to hear that and it is unfortunate and bad part of the culture, glad you are ok now.

i got very lucky, a family contact eventually got me an interview for an internship, when i say lucky, it wasnt just that, i got rejected from my first interview and they sent me to a second team cos the first team didnt want me, the first team got sacked within 12 months of me being their, the second ended up eventually becoming the most important part of the business. eventually i found out even the second team didnt want me either, but the boss thought whats the worse that could happen, and hed have a favour to hold over the family friend.

i never looked back, i was so scared of being in that situation i worked and worked, didnt care about the money, didnt care about doing all nighters, i was just grateful that i wasnt where i was. theres loads of other stuff too, but generally i got lucky breaks, got a lot of support from my parents and i worked really hard.

to put this into perspective by this point i had applied to more than a thousand jobs over multiple years, and gotten to the final interview stage of maybe 3 or 4.

 

[pillionrider]

A while ago, I was inside toilet doing activity #2. At that time, a job recruiter called me. I picked up the phone and attended a phone interview while defecating.

It felt awkward but I managed to complete the interview successfully. I am glad I didn't have to take any note or anything.

Do you post in match threads while doing the same activity?

 

[JaDed]

Death of my mother followed immediately by getting delta covid from the guy doing funeral rights - 2021 starting was the worst of my life.

I don’t I have completely processed 2021 yet

 

[sweep_shot]

Death of my mother followed immediately by getting delta covid from the guy doing funeral rights - 2021 starting was the worst of my life.

I don’t I have completely processed 2021 yet

Experienced something like this when my paternal grandmather died a few years ago. As soon as I heard she died, I planted a tree in memory of her.

I dislike/hate 99.99% of my relatives but I really liked her as a relative. She was always nice to me. I pray for her regularly. My paternal grandfather died a few years before her. I also pray for him regularly.

 

[JaDed]

Experienced something like this when my paternal grandmather died a few years ago. As soon as I heard she died, I planted a tree in memory of her.

I dislike/hate 99.99% of my relatives but I really liked her as a relative. She was always nice to me. I pray for her regularly. My paternal grandfather died a few years before her. I also pray for him regularly.

Sorry to know, My naani died last year too, last of my grand parents but she was in pain physically and emotionally, she had already seen her daughter(my mother) die.

I try to pray and i always feel better when I pray but I’m getting more cynical by the day.

 

[LordJames]

Death of my mother followed immediately by getting delta covid from the guy doing funeral rights - 2021 starting was the worst of my life.

I don’t I have completely processed 2021 yet

I am Sorry to hear about your mother and hope that your heart finds peace, brother.

Experienced something like this when my paternal grandmather died a few years ago. As soon as I heard she died, I planted a tree in memory of her.

I dislike/hate 99.99% of my relatives but I really liked her as a relative. She was always nice to me. I pray for her regularly. My paternal grandfather died a few years before her. I also pray for him regularly.

Same for you, brother.

 

[sweep_shot]

Sorry to know, My naani died last year too, last of my grand parents but she was in pain physically and emotionally, she had already seen her daughter(my mother) die.

I try to pray and i always feel better when I pray but I’m getting more cynical by the day.

3 out of 4 of my grandparents are now dead. Only 1 is remaining. Most from her generation are now dead; only a few are remaining.

Same for you, brother.

Thanks, brother.

 

[mominsaigol]

Some of my life's unpleasant experiences have been:

- Getting my first speeding ticket. That felt awful.

- Falling from a hill and breaking my right arm.

- Being scammed online while trying to sell Bitcoin.

- Getting fired from a job a few years ago (my fault was I wrote a negative review but forgot to be anonymous).

- Someone hitting me for 43 runs in 1 over (I gave away 7 sixes and 1 no-ball).

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What about you? What are some of your life's unpleasant experiences?

Their was a girl who looked good on camera. My dad thought that we should meet as we both come from a super rich multi million dollar family hence marriage would be a good option between us.

But when my Mom and I met her, she let herself go, was fat as heck and personaloty wise she was crazy. Infact she blocked me on social media before I even met her .

My mom said no ASAP and I agreed but it was unpleasant as it was a total waste of time. Ain't no way I'm marrying someone with a horrible personality and a body size the size of my door .

I dont wish to fat shame, and I wouldnt but her personality was awful as well. If she was nice personality wise then it would be a different story and I would not be stating such mean things.

Fortunately my Mom has found a pretty girl for me .

Moral of the story: Never trust my dad on such things, hes clueless.

 

[LordJames]

First time I went to Prison, I had to pray and there was urine and feces everywhere and I couldn't find a clean spot to pray and that bothered me immensely so I asked for prison human rights booklet and put it on a small place on the floor and prayed on the corner while barely touching the floor.

The inability to pray bothered me and not the prison itself.

 

[sweep_shot]

A few more unpleasant experiences:

- I once went to a shopping mall and a black man took a swing at me. I was guessing he was either drunk or had mental health issues. Anyway, we were similar in size. So, I was unlikely to be overpowered. Anyway, he backed down and I also didn't call cops or anything.

- Another time, a Bangladeshi dude was giving me aggressive stare. LOL. It was funny because I was much bigger than him in size. Anyway, I deescalated as I didn't want to hurt a fellow Bangladeshi and a fellow Muslim. I suspect he also had mental health issues.

- Another time, I accidentally cracked my new laptop's window (ASUS brand). It was almost brand new. I was very upset as it cost me a lot of money. After that, I never bought another ASUS laptop again. I now use HP and Dell.

 

[sweep_shot]

Their was a girl who looked good on camera. My dad thought that we should meet as we both come from a super rich multi million dollar family hence marriage would be a good option between us.

But when my Mom and I met her, she let herself go, was fat as heck and personaloty wise she was crazy. Infact she blocked me on social media before I even met her .

My mom said no ASAP and I agreed but it was unpleasant as it was a total waste of time. Ain't no way I'm marrying someone with a horrible personality and a body size the size of my door .

I dont wish to fat shame, and I wouldnt but her personality was awful as well. If she was nice personality wise then it would be a different story and I would not be stating such mean things.

Fortunately my Mom has found a pretty girl for me .

Moral of the story: Never trust my dad on such things, hes clueless.

Nice.

Glad you found a nice girl.

 

[LordJames]

A few more unpleasant experiences:

- I once went to a shopping mall and a black man took a swing at me. I was guessing he was either drunk or had mental health issues. Anyway, we were similar in size. So, I was unlikely to be overpowered. Anyway, he backed down and I also didn't call cops or anything.

- Another time, a Bangladeshi dude was giving me aggressive stare. LOL. It was funny because I was much bigger than him in size. Anyway, I deescalated as I didn't want to hurt a fellow Bangladeshi and a fellow Muslim. I suspect he also had mental health issues.

- Another time, I accidentally cracked my new laptop's window (ASUS brand). It was almost brand new. I was very upset as it cost me a lot of money. After that, I never bought another ASUS laptop again. I now use HP and Dell.

Got a small scratch on my brand new Rolex (underside facing my wrist), barely visible and I swear it appeared so big in my mind that it was visible from the other side of the world.

To stop my mind from Hallucinating and constantly bothering me, I sold it on Ebay, made profit and that reset my mind

Stupid things we do when we are young...

 

[mominsaigol]

Nice.

Ladies generally observe more. They nitpick a lot. So, they tend to be good at these things.

Its cause my mother knows me better while my father has taught me life lessons better if that makes sense.

Both of my parents compliment one another extremely well.

 

[LordJames]

Its cause my mother knows me better while my father has taught me life lessons better if that makes sense.

Both of my parents compliment one another extremely well.

Alhumdolillah

 

[sweep_shot]

Got a small scratch on my brand new Rolex (underside facing my wrist), barely visible and I swear it appeared so big in my mind that it was visible from the other side of the world.

To stop my mind from Hallucinating and constantly bothering me, I sold it on Ebay, made profit and that reset my mind

Stupid things we do when you are young...

Nice.

I used to wear digital casio watches during my younger days.

I now have another digital watch but I rarely wear it. No need as my smartphone is enough.

Not a fan of mechanical watches.

 

[Suleiman]

Got a small scratch on my brand new Rolex (underside facing my wrist), barely visible and I swear it appeared so big in my mind that it was visible from the other side of the world.

To stop my mind from Hallucinating and constantly bothering me, I sold it on Ebay, made profit and that reset my mind

Stupid things we do when we are young...

I too can fall prey to such OCD tendencies when buying something I was looking really forward to.

Usually a new shirt or thobe or kurta that I try to shield from salan, sauce, fizzy diet soda from splashing on, but because I’m putting in so much effort, it still gets a stain lol.

 

[Major]

being broke, worst feeling ever, early 20s, total loser, no job, no income, stay at home recluse. I had less than £100 in my account at one point, and watching all my friends, whom I had stopped hanging out with, living their lives while listening to indirect comments from extended family members about me being lazy or not looking hard enough, or having too high standards, was horrible. took me years to get over that psychologically.

Feel for you sir, and could understand this.

I went through something same. Stayed at home mostly, couldnt get myself a job due to the garbage job market in Pakistan and no proper guidance on career. But than after few years of unemployed, God was kind to me and i finally got a job in investor relations side. Havent looked back since.

But it does take a toll that affects you pshologically. After Uni, i had developed an ego that i can do anything, but i was bought down to the world. Unemployed and being brokes gets the worst feelings in you.

I still dont go anymore like i would during my Uni days though.

 

[Major]

i got very lucky, a family contact eventually got me an interview for an internship, when i say lucky, it wasnt just that, i got rejected from my first interview and they sent me to a second team cos the first team didnt want me, the first team got sacked within 12 months of me being their, the second ended up eventually becoming the most important part of the business. eventually i found out even the second team didnt want me either, but the boss thought whats the worse that could happen, and hed have a favour to hold over the family friend.

i never looked back, i was so scared of being in that situation i worked and worked, didnt care about the money, didnt care about doing all nighters, i was just grateful that i wasnt where i was. theres loads of other stuff too, but generally i got lucky breaks, got a lot of support from my parents and i worked really hard.

to put this into perspective by this point i had applied to more than a thousand jobs over multiple years, and gotten to the final interview stage of maybe 3 or 4.

Sir rreally appreciate you shared this with us. Your post means alot to me, as now i know im not the only one has gone through this. Its a really inspiring story really.

So the job i ended up getting after being referred by a classmate of mine was simple data entry but with a fancy title and good salary. I remember taking up the job and than doing my numbers with honesty. Soon in 2 weeks, i started getting msgs from my co workers taht i shouldnt be working too hard or that i am taking this job to seriously and what not. Some even asked how come i did tha tmuch work and all.

And the answer to that is what you have posted. After being unemployed, or leaving toxic work environments, you soon start to doubt yourself. You soon start to think maybe the problem is in you. But what i learned was that Allah is just polishing you and to give you something good he is making you conditioned so that you wont leave that good thing when you get it. The job i had, i would had left it maybe had i joined right after Uni thinking its not my level or something like that.

But anyways, like you said, its that fear of being in that situation again, that you force yourself to work hard, and not care about what other people say, what you are even doing. That fear pushes you do go for the numbers, and you start to get noticed. I ended up doing well, getting the respect of my team members and being the guy influencing the team and even got a promotion within an year that alot of people from 3 years are still waiting.

Im still very new in the job market, barely have 2 years experience, but i still have fear of unemployment. It is indeed one of the worst phases of life where no one really respects you.

I have always said to people dont take your job for granted. I know people that quit for petty reasons and than sit unemployed, and it bothers me because i have seen how difficult it is to land these jobs and how that unemployment can mess with you.

 

[hks222]

Many - but life is bittersweet, it serves bad with good. Good can have delight but at the same time bad can screw you up.

Just to mention a few

Loosing parents in childhood and growing up in toxic political environment.

Having arranged marriage to a wrong person and then a divorce with year long marriage.

Loosing a child at birth.

 

[LordJames]

Many - but life is bittersweet, it serves bad with good. Good can have delight but at the same time bad can screw you up.

Just to mention a few

Loosing parents in childhood and growing up in toxic political environment.

Having arranged marriage to a wrong person and then a divorce with year long marriage.

Loosing a child at birth.

Our prayers are with you and know that with every hardship comes ease.

 

[LordJames]

Sir rreally appreciate you shared this with us. Your post means alot to me, as now i know im not the only one has gone through this. Its a really inspiring story really.

So the job i ended up getting after being referred by a classmate of mine was simple data entry but with a fancy title and good salary. I remember taking up the job and than doing my numbers with honesty. Soon in 2 weeks, i started getting msgs from my co workers taht i shouldnt be working too hard or that i am taking this job to seriously and what not. Some even asked how come i did tha tmuch work and all.

And the answer to that is what you have posted. After being unemployed, or leaving toxic work environments, you soon start to doubt yourself. You soon start to think maybe the problem is in you. But what i learned was that Allah is just polishing you and to give you something good he is making you conditioned so that you wont leave that good thing when you get it. The job i had, i would had left it maybe had i joined right after Uni thinking its not my level or something like that.

But anyways, like you said, its that fear of being in that situation again, that you force yourself to work hard, and not care about what other people say, what you are even doing. That fear pushes you do go for the numbers, and you start to get noticed. I ended up doing well, getting the respect of my team members and being the guy influencing the team and even got a promotion within an year that alot of people from 3 years are still waiting.

Im still very new in the job market, barely have 2 years experience, but i still have fear of unemployment. It is indeed one of the worst phases of life where no one really respects you.

I have always said to people dont take your job for granted. I know people that quit for petty reasons and than sit unemployed, and it bothers me because i have seen how difficult it is to land these jobs and how that unemployment can mess with you.

A Muslim should excel in everything and aim for excellence in every matter. You are 100% correct and no job and no task should be taken lightly or for granted.

Shaddad ibn Aws reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Allah has prescribed excellence in everything. If you have to kill, kill in the best manner. If you have to slaughter, slaughter in the best manner. Let one of you sharpen his knife, so his animal is spared of suffering.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1955

 

[JaDed]

I appreciate this thread, thanks @sweep_shot , sometimes life experiences help, that’s why I have always stuck around this forum coz irrespective of weird south Asian identity politics most posters deep down are decent people with human emotions.

 

[Major]

A Muslim should excel in everything and aim for excellence in every matter. You are 100% correct and no job and no task should be taken lightly or for granted.

It bothers me that people are very dishonest, and just cause they lack, they give others wrong advice that do less numbers, or under report and keep the extra numbers for next day. And these are my Pakistani co workers that i am talking about

 

[LordJames]

It bothers me that people are very dishonest, and just cause they lack, they give others wrong advice that do less numbers, or under report and keep the extra numbers for next day. And these are my Pakistani co workers that i am talking about

When I go to the Middle East and Pakistan I look at the construction and its million Dollar House with stupid careless things like switch board is crooked or curtain rod is not straight etc. A/C unit is not properly drained.

And it bothers me too.

In Pakistan, in construction you see it everywhere (all over Pakistan) carelessness and lack of professionalism.

It shows you the culture and mentality of a Nation.

Same in India by the way, no different.

 

[shaz619]

When you’re a youngster, some of these experiences don’t really dawn on you, they may manifest psychologically at a later point, things like going from living in a council estate with no heating or warm water to being homeless to living in hostels and getting paid for getting disfigured with bare knuckles, or a figure who’s your own blood that means you serious harm. When I got older and saw that people who had the basics were still somehow unhappy, it was an alien concept until I began to understand that wealth does not guarantee happiness, and generally, the human especially in the civilised world lacks gratitude. The one thing that I will say was the most challenging moment for me in my life was the realisation that all my grandparents had passed away, and I live with the regret of not spending enough time with them; they were my greatest wealth.

 

[Major]

When I go to the Middle East and Pakistan I look at the construction and its million Dollar House with stupid careless things like switch board is crooked or curtain rod is not straight etc. A/C unit is not properly drained.

And it bothers me too.

In Pakistan, in construction you see it everywhere (all over Pakistan) carelessness and lack of professionalism.

It shows you the culture and mentality of a Nation.

Same in India by the way, no different.

Cheap labor basically. Everyone has figured to do the job, only a very few can do it proper..
Its like how u go to a pakistani restaurant, order lasagne and they make it in white sauce lol

 

[DeadlyVenom]

A Muslim should excel in everything and aim for excellence in every matter. You are 100% correct and no job and no task should be taken lightly or for granted.

there is a great book called Barakah effect where the main point is to attain barakah rather than aim for salary, ( of course salary is important) but basically a job can be a form of worship when approached with the right intentions and mindset. Striving to do the best for your employer will give you barakah

 

[sweep_shot]

I appreciate this thread, thanks @sweep_shot , sometimes life experiences help, that’s why I have always stuck around this forum coz irrespective of weird south Asian identity politics most posters deep down are decent people with human emotions.

You are welcome.

Setbacks, failures, and unpleasant experiences can make us better. These definitely made me very battle-hardened. My 20's was extremely challenging in many different ways.

God sometimes tests us; these tests may seem unbearable at times but if you hang in there and show perseverence, you can become a better version of yourself.

I remember when I was in my 20's, I was in a big hole. I came out of that hole eventually by the grace of God. Islam helped me a lot in terms of discipline.

 

[LordJames]

there is a great book called Barakah effect where the main point is to attain barakah rather than aim for salary, ( of course salary is important) but basically a job can be a form of worship when approached with the right intentions and mindset. Striving to do the best for your employer will give you barakah

The Barakah Effect:

https://www.kalamullah.com/Books/The%20Barakah%20Effect_%20More%20With%20Less%20-%20Mohammed%20Faris.pdf

 

[sweep_shot]

The Barakah Effect:

https://www.kalamullah.com/Books/The%20Barakah%20Effect_%20More%20With%20Less%20-%20Mohammed%20Faris.pdf

Thanks for sharing.

Never heard of this book before.

 

[The_KING]

- I have lost family members, but losing my maternal grandmother was the toughest, as I was very close to her. The worst part is not being able to attend her funeral, as I live in the UK and she was in Pakistan.

- I used to work in retail, and I got racially abused by a customer. In my 20+ years of living in the UK, that is the only time that it happened to me.

 

[JaDed]

Cheap labor basically. Everyone has figured to do the job, only a very few can do it proper..
Its like how u go to a pakistani restaurant, order lasagne and they make it in white sauce lol

In all honesty I love Desi twist to western food.

 

[mominsaigol]

Feel for you sir, and could understand this.

I went through something same. Stayed at home mostly, couldnt get myself a job due to the garbage job market in Pakistan and no proper guidance on career. But than after few years of unemployed, God was kind to me and i finally got a job in investor relations side. Havent looked back since.

But it does take a toll that affects you pshologically. After Uni, i had developed an ego that i can do anything, but i was bought down to the world. Unemployed and being brokes gets the worst feelings in you.

I still dont go anymore like i would during my Uni days though.

I feel you, job market was so garbage for me in Aus that I came back to PK. I got my passport but I dont think I can go back to AU now after the toll it took on me.

Truth be told I am a rich family boy who loves being privileged. Ik I may sound selfish at times to others but thats the reality.

I tried to be someone I wasnt in AU, I just cant go around handing resume after resume and remain unemployed due to bias.

Am extremely happy with my current job now.

Truth be told all this Online job boards, these are the biggest scams on earth imo as many of them(not all) are just ghost jobs.

Networking wins every single time. No shame in using nepotism to your advantage. It isnt a fair system anyway.

 

[msb314]

Networking wins every single time. No shame in using nepotism to your advantage. It isnt a fair system anyway.

100% agree here

 

[msb314]

I’ve lost a few extended family members over the years but the death of my cousin (murdered by ex-husband) was absolutely the worst day of my life…

He was guilty actually of more crimes as well… which I will not go into detail in this forum… he had actually driven me to the airport a few days earlier. Still makes me totally sick writing about it.

My cousins had gifted me a sweater a few months prior to her death for my birthday. It doesn’t fit me any longer but I still keep it as a lasting memory of her

 

[JaDed]

- Another time, I accidentally cracked my new laptop's window (ASUS brand). It was almost brand new. I was very upset as it cost me a lot of money. After that, I never bought another ASUS laptop again. I now use HP and Dell.

I was about to buy Asus dayym, I somehow don’t like HP anymore and Dell seems to much for the cost.

 

[JaDed]

I feel you, job market was so garbage for me in Aus that I came back to PK. I got my passport but I dont think I can go back to AU now after the toll it took on me.

Truth be told I am a rich family boy who loves being privileged. Ik I may sound selfish at times to others but thats the reality.

I tried to be someone I wasnt in AU, I just cant go around handing resume after resume and remain unemployed due to bias.

Am extremely happy with my current job now.

Truth be told all this Online job boards, these are the biggest scams on earth imo as many of them(not all) are just ghost jobs.

Networking wins every single time. No shame in using nepotism to your advantage. It isnt a fair system anyway.

Networking is not the same as Nepotism.

 

[sweep_shot]

I was about to buy Asus dayym, I somehow don’t like HP anymore and Dell seems to much for the cost.

Why don't you like HP anymore? I think it is pretty good. My favorite brands --> Lenovo, HP, Dell, and Acer.

ASUS gave me 2 issues --> 1) it was shutting down automatically, and 2) the screen seems very brittle; it cracked very easily. I never want to buy ASUS again.

 

[mominsaigol]

Networking is not the same as Nepotism.

Never claimed they are. Nepotism however is still a form of networking. Networking is a broad term.

It can mean simply expanding your social circle or in business terms relate to jobs or partnerships.

Nepotism is when networking meets favouritism.

 

[sweep_shot]

When I was living in university dorm, my roommates did a prank on me. They removed my doorknob. I thought there was a break-in and I was ready to call security. Anyway, they returned the doorknob a few hours later. I was anxious because I didn't know what was happening. I personally think nobody should be pranked like this.

Another time, I was ready to go home from my dorm. While I was packing my bags, one drunk guy came to my room and lied down in my bed. He then left. He was eventually apprehended by security.

Another time, I slipped on the road (it was -31C outside; very snowy and icy; typical Toronto winter) and became injured. I had a calf strain and I had to be on stretchers for about a week. That was one of the most painful injuries of my life.

 

[Suleiman]

I’ve lost a few extended family members over the years but the death of my cousin (murdered by ex-husband) was absolutely the worst day of my life…

He was guilty actually of more crimes as well… which I will not go into detail in this forum… he had actually driven me to the airport a few days earlier. Still makes me totally sick writing about it.

My cousins had gifted me a sweater a few months prior to her death for my birthday. It doesn’t fit me any longer but I still keep it as a lasting memory of her

Man… this one hits hard. Sorry to hear that brother, losing a family member in such a way is never easy, may Allah give peace to you and her parents, and grandparents and others who were close to your cousin. Rest assured Allah is always just in judgement to those who are wronged and to the zullam who oppress in this world and the hereafter.

 

[sweep_shot]

Another time, I slipped on the road (it was -31C outside; very snowy and icy; typical Toronto winter) and became injured. I had a calf strain and I had to be on stretchers for about a week. That was one of the most painful injuries of my life.

Sorry. I meant crutches. Not stretchers.

 

[sweep_shot]

I’ve lost a few extended family members over the years but the death of my cousin (murdered by ex-husband) was absolutely the worst day of my life…

He was guilty actually of more crimes as well… which I will not go into detail in this forum… he had actually driven me to the airport a few days earlier. Still makes me totally sick writing about it.

My cousins had gifted me a sweater a few months prior to her death for my birthday. It doesn’t fit me any longer but I still keep it as a lasting memory of her

That's horrible. May Allah (SWT) grant your cousin Jannah.

I have a distant relative. Her husband was very abusive also. Anyway, they are still together.

 

[JaDed]

Why don't you like HP anymore? I think it is pretty good. My favorite brands --> Lenovo, HP, Dell, and Acer.

ASUS gave me 2 issues --> 1) it was shutting down automatically, and 2) the screen seems very brittle; it cracked very easily. I never want to buy ASUS again.

HP used to last longer now the heating issues are annoying.

Lennovo is good but not always. Dell is probably the best still for quality, I really thought Asus would be the answer.

I have a Mac but honestly I prefer a windows right now way easier to manoeuvre and learn.

 

[Champ_Pal]

Some of my life's unpleasant experiences have been:

- Getting my first speeding ticket. That felt awful.

- Falling from a hill and breaking my right arm.

- Being scammed online while trying to sell Bitcoin.

- Getting fired from a job a few years ago (my fault was I wrote a negative review but forgot to be anonymous).

- Someone hitting me for 43 runs in 1 over (I gave away 7 sixes and 1 no-ball).

=========================================

What about you? What are some of your life's unpleasant experiences?

Expected from a Bangladeshi

 

[sweep_shot]

HP used to last longer now the heating issues are annoying.

Lennovo is good but not always. Dell is probably the best still for quality, I really thought Asus would be the answer.

I have a Mac but honestly I prefer a windows right now way easier to manoeuvre and learn.

I see.

Never used Mac. Don't want to use Mac ever. LOL. I am anti-Apple.

I have only used Windows and Linux. I took 2 Linux courses and I became hooked to Linux after that. Anyway, I have been using Windows primarily.

 

[The_KING]

I recently failed my driving test in April. I feel so dejected after failing. I felt like I let everyone down.

Thankfully, I retook the test in June and passed, but failing my first test was a horrible experience.

 

[sweep_shot]

I recently failed my driving test in April. I feel so dejected after failing. I felt like I let everyone down.

Thankfully, I retook the test in June and passed, but failing my first test was a horrible experience.

I also failed driving Test first time. I screwed up with parallel parking.

Anyway, I passed next time I did the test. I now have full license. Alhamdulillah.

Here in Canada, there are 3 licenses to pass. G1, G2, and G.

G1 is the written test, G2 is the local road test, and G is the final test (including highway driving test).

 

[ElRaja]

Sir rreally appreciate you shared this with us. Your post means alot to me, as now i know im not the only one has gone through this. Its a really inspiring story really.

So the job i ended up getting after being referred by a classmate of mine was simple data entry but with a fancy title and good salary. I remember taking up the job and than doing my numbers with honesty. Soon in 2 weeks, i started getting msgs from my co workers taht i shouldnt be working too hard or that i am taking this job to seriously and what not. Some even asked how come i did tha tmuch work and all.

And the answer to that is what you have posted. After being unemployed, or leaving toxic work environments, you soon start to doubt yourself. You soon start to think maybe the problem is in you. But what i learned was that Allah is just polishing you and to give you something good he is making you conditioned so that you wont leave that good thing when you get it. The job i had, i would had left it maybe had i joined right after Uni thinking its not my level or something like that.

But anyways, like you said, its that fear of being in that situation again, that you force yourself to work hard, and not care about what other people say, what you are even doing. That fear pushes you do go for the numbers, and you start to get noticed. I ended up doing well, getting the respect of my team members and being the guy influencing the team and even got a promotion within an year that alot of people from 3 years are still waiting.

Im still very new in the job market, barely have 2 years experience, but i still have fear of unemployment. It is indeed one of the worst phases of life where no one really respects you.

I have always said to people dont take your job for granted. I know people that quit for petty reasons and than sit unemployed, and it bothers me because i have seen how difficult it is to land these jobs and how that unemployment can mess with you.

bro im glad my post resonated with you. that period was dark, and as someone whos not religious in the conventional sense it took a lot of time for me to make sense of what happened, and a part of it i chose to accept was to help people if they ever come to me in a similar position to understand how important it is to run with any opportunities that you get, and it looks like thats what youve done.

my few words of advice from here on in, cos i dont think you need much advice, is that to always keep that feeling of desperation alive in some part of your psyche, there will come times where you will relax, or feel a lack of motivation, at that point use those memories as fire to keep yourself striving, in doing so you make fuel of what was your burden, as the old saying goes, the obstacle is the way.

great to see you doing well tho, because i remember you posting some very dispondant sounding messages related to the job market in pakistan some time ago, and i didnt really know what to say, because i felt my advice may not be relevant to the pakistani job market. great to hear your story tho.

 

[sweep_shot]

While there were many people who genuienely helped me and cared for me, there were also a percentage of people who ripped me off, backstabbed me, and even harmed me. They took advantage of my easygoing nature. They changed my personality; I have become far more cutthroat due to them.

I used to ignore harmful ones. But, I realized ignoring them is not the solution as they can ruin your reputation or harm you in other ways (experienced it before). Better to confront them, expose them, or lawfully retaliate. Whatever you do, keep it halal amd don't break the law. LOL.

I try to forgive people 9 out of 10 times and I have forgiven many people. However, there are a few people who I may never forgive and I pray they will get God's punishments both in this world and next world (proportional to what they have done). I have given them many chances.

I think I have reached a status quo in my life where I am not much affected by bad people and bad situations anymore. It is like a form of emotional numbness but in a good way.

 

[The_KING]

I also failed driving Test first time. I screwed up with parallel parking.

Anyway, I passed next time I did the test. I now have full license. Alhamdulillah.

Here in Canada, there are 3 licenses to pass. G1, G2, and G.

G1 is the written test, G2 is the local road test, and G is the final test (including highway driving test).

In the UK, we have a computer test (theory test) and then a practical driving test.

Driving test in Canada seems harder than the one in UK.

 

[sweep_shot]

In the UK, we have a computer test (theory test) and then a practical driving test.

Driving test in Canada seems harder than the one in UK.

Yeah. More bureaucracy/red tapes in Canada.

 

[psyoptica]

Being broke and starving. Being dumped by someone i thought i was gonna marry.

I have come a long way.

 

[psyoptica]

Death of my grandmother and grandfather who i was deeply attached to. I fell into a depression and took me a while to recover.