As you grow older, do you become more fearless?

[sweep_shot]

I am in my 30's currently.

When I was in my 20's, I had all sorts of fears. Fear of doing badly in school. Fear of what people might think about me. Fear of being fat. Fear of scoring ducks or being expensive with the ball (in cricket). Fear of losing money. Many other fears.

After crossing 30, all of those fears have disappeared for me. I have mentally reached a "I don't give a damn" stage. It feels liberating. I am actually experiencing far more productivity and control in my life than I experienced in my 20's.

It is a bit like how a batter can get bogged down in cricket due to fear. Once he starts to play carelessly, he often succeeds (Head or Pant, for example).

Has this happened to you? Do you feel more fearless as you grow older?

 

[BunnyRabbit]

I am in my 30's currently.

When I was in my 20's, I had all sorts of fears. Fear of doing badly in school. Fear of what people might think about me. Fear of being fat. Fear of scoring ducks or being expensive with the ball (in cricket). Fear of losing money. Many other fears.

After crossing 30, all of those fears have disappeared for me. I have mentally reached a "I don't give a damn" stage. It feels liberating. I am actually experiencing far more productivity and control in my life than I experienced in my 20's.

It is a bit like how a batter can get bogged down in cricket due to fear. Once he starts to play carelessly, he often succeeds (Head or Pant, for example).

Has this happened to you? Do you feel more fearless as you grow older?

For some stuff yes, for some things you develop fear of that you were previously indifferent to.

 

[sweep_shot]

For some stuff yes, for some things you develop fear of that you were previously indifferent to.

Agree.

30's can cause different fears if one is married with kids. For example, a married man may fear for his child's progress or his family's financial situation.

 

[BouncerGuy]

More fearless, but you also get more tensions... NO??

Mental health goes down and down.

 

[mominsaigol]

I am in my 30's currently.

When I was in my 20's, I had all sorts of fears. Fear of doing badly in school. Fear of what people might think about me. Fear of being fat. Fear of scoring ducks or being expensive with the ball (in cricket). Fear of losing money. Many other fears.

After crossing 30, all of those fears have disappeared for me. I have mentally reached a "I don't give a damn" stage. It feels liberating. I am actually experiencing far more productivity and control in my life than I experienced in my 20's.

It is a bit like how a batter can get bogged down in cricket due to fear. Once he starts to play carelessly, he often succeeds (Head or Pant, for example).

Has this happened to you? Do you feel more fearless as you grow older?

I'm 25 and I have many fears.

But you need to realise the difference between age 30+ and age 20+.

At age 20 unless you are an outlier which some people like Zuckerberg were, you are typically

A) Focused on appearance because media wants us to be divas and models and we care about appearance. I want a hot GF and a HOT wife and she would defo want the same. Appearance matter.

At age 30 if you are married or going to get married it now becomes more about compatability and mutual respect and comfort.

Yes compatibility matters at age 20+ and appearances still matter at age 30+ but it is now 2nd nature and not that important mentally for both parties.

And if you aren't married, their is more pressure for age 20+ to get married whereas by age 30+ no one especially your peers dont care that much and honestly the age 30+ individual doesnt care.

B) Coming back to appearances, other then marriage and dating, its also about some careers. Most models on marketing ads are age 20+. Sure exceptions like chris Hemsworth is applicable but media clearly focuses on us looking good at age 20+.

C) Job wise, you are either employed at 30 with years of experience so job is now 2nd nature to you or if you are unemployed, Chances are you will be employed very soon due to having experience + recruiters preferring 30 year old mature individuals.

20+ is usually your first job so far more difficult to find a job and very difficult to be taken seriously as a fresher in the workplace.

D) Managing finances is also easier at age 30+ as youve been doing it for years at this point.

E) We get judged more. If i buy anything or do anything, Some moron will come along and judge me, but a 30+ year old can smoke, Drink, Do drugs, Go to nightclubs and no one will care beyond very old aunties lol.

The reason 20+ years old get judged is because everyone believes we are crazy immature maniacs who already do this stuff.

This stereotype is harmful by default and isnt amicable to all 20+ years old individuals.

Being 20-29 is far harder then 30+ for obvious reasons.

 

[Theo_14]

It’s subjective. It could be either what you (OP) have said or they become so inherent to feeling this way, they either become numb accepting it’s part of them and prefer to be in that comfort zone or that anxiety or fear places in other areas that are relevant in your 30s which were not so in your 20s. Ie parents getting old and thinking of them for example.

 

[mominsaigol]

More fearless, but you also get more tensions... NO??

Mental health goes down and down.

20-29 is harder then 30+. You have more experience to handle nonsense in your life.

I on the other hand am freqently dealing with in real life nonsense for the first time.

 

[Farhan The Man]

Definitely.

I broke through these shackles of religion. And indoctrinated fear of this uncompromising god.

In exchange for freedom and peace. In my 40s. No fear now.

 

[IMMY69]

Quite the opposite for me..

In my 20's I was fearless... able to take risks work wise... as you get older you start to feel more vulnerable and then you hit a certain age and start think "hang on there is more life behind me then opposite me"...

 

[straighttalk]

I am in my early 60s..you go through different stages...in early life you have energy and time but no money. In mid life you have energy and money but no time and later on your hopefully have time and money but no energy. Something's you are more confident and others less so...the most tensionless time if you are lucky to be born to loving and resourceful parents is from 0-20 year old time and most fun is the 20-30 year time

 

[sweep_shot]

It’s subjective. It could be either what you (OP) have said or they become so inherent to feeling this way, they either become numb accepting it’s part of them and prefer to be in that comfort zone or that anxiety or fear places in other areas that are relevant in your 30s which were not so in your 20s. Ie parents getting old and thinking of them for example.

Yes. I think I have become numb but in a good way. I do not get affected by people/situations as much as I used to in my 20's.

My 20's was filled with family issues and various personal issues. Those issues made me battle-hardened and contributed to my current "positive numbness".

 

[Bhaijaan]

There have been times when i was engulfed by the dark side. That's when i'm at my most dangerous and when i have built up anger, its constantly looking for an excuse to come out. That's when i am continuously sizing up my potential opponents like a psychotic murderer and thinking of ways to end them in my mind, looking for weaknesses in their body, in their personality to exploit and deliver a fatal blow they cannot recover from. Going by my own experience i would say always beware of the silent assassins who give you "that look". You just have to be smart enough to know when you're dealing with just another angry man, a stupid bully and when you're dealing with an actual psycho who will for sure finish you.

Luckily, Sanatan came to my rescue and turned me into a loving man. Now i am a forgiving person and swallow my anger. I want to give my best to the society and spread love wherever i go so that people can be inspired by it and in turn do the same to other strangers they come across. What goes around does come back around. I believe in it.

 

[sweep_shot]

I am in my early 60s..you go through different stages...in early life you have energy and time but no money. In mid life you have energy and money but no time and later on your hopefully have time and money but no energy. Something's you are more confident and others less so...the most tensionless time if you are lucky to be born to loving and resourceful parents is from 0-20 year old time and most fun is the 20-30 year time

You are in your 60s! Wow!

I thought you were Gen Z. LOL.

 

[Bhaijaan]

The coldest of assassins generally walk around quietly minding their business until someone takes a chance with destiny.