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How do you deal with rejection?

Relationships? It's all about your self-confidence. I didn't talk to girls before because I didn't have the self-confidence to do so and I was afraid of getting rejected.

Moving on is the key. There are plenty of other girls out there.
 
By rejecting them before they have a chance of rejecting me :hafeez2
 
For academic rejections, try the Rejection Of Rejection Letter Letter. There are several variants of it online.
 
Nostalgic said:
For academic rejections, try the Rejection Of Rejection Letter Letter. There are several variants of it online.
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Were you rejected by Bhabhiji at first too or did she also fell for your usual shenanigans?
 
Watch youtube vids, sleep and going out with family/friends lol. Just trying not to dwell too much into it and going into a freakish state.
 
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TM Riddle said:
Were you rejected by Bhabhiji at first too or did she also fell for your usual shenanigans?
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The shenanigans are a recent development, probably a symptom of early-onset dementia. And no, for the record, I wasn't initially rejected.
 
I liked something I read recently, that life is not to be cured, but managed. Whether its succeeding in your studies, sports or even relationships. The best way to deal with rejection in whatever field, I believe is looking at different ways to improve, and ensuring you do not make the same mistakes again. Manage rejection, take it on the chin and keep moving forward. It's easier to put into words than do, but that's the mindset needed I believe to deal with rejection.
 
Stay off social media of all forms, they only provide a short dopamine high & don't numb the pain. Pick up a good book regarding personal development & read it. If you don't feel like going to the bookstore, download an ebook or audiobook of the web so that you can have your esteem back and realize that you are special no matter what anybody says & think about your life goals & how to achieve them.

The ones who reject you or dislike you will remain the same no matter what you do for yourself or how much you change for them or how much time you spend thinking about them. Just learn from this, evaluate yourself, don't repeat the mistakes next time & keep moving towards your life goals. Inshallah you will get what you want.
 
You deal with it by coming from a place of emotional abundance. I'm still learning, but the key is that I'm not trying to get one specific outcome from one specific moment, person or situation anymore. You begin to realize that whatever I'm looking for I can get from somewhere else or someone else. Instead you begin to focus on a trend.

So let's say you want a certain job. If I'm going to a company with my resume, I'm not coming from a needy mind frame which is a consequence of fear of rejection. I go in with confidence, present myself, and if it doesn't work out, I can take my experience and skills elsewhere for a similar job.

What I'd rather focus on is a trend. If I'm being rejected time and time again let's say over a certain period of time (again, depends where you are being rejected), then I will adjust myself, but again I'm not shunning myself as not good enough. Rejection shouldn't affect your value as a person and as a man or woman. You shouldn't be vying for approval and validation from others (aka opposite of rejection) to feel good, all that should come from within. You validate yourself - regardless of materialistic achievements (I'm rich, I'm handsome, I have social privilege, etc)

The whole concept of rejection is something you can't get over in an instant. I guess, it takes practice. Experiencing frames of references in your life where you face "rejection" and seeing them through the lens of emotional abundance to become numb to it.

I know some of this is very vague, but OP said any situation, and while I kind of have an idea of what he's talking about, if you apply these concepts to specific areas where you feel like rejection affects you, it will make sense.

It is a mindset you have to develop. Won't happen overnight. Will take months, maybe a year..
 
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Me and [MENTION=136729]Suleiman[/MENTION] deal with it like this:

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We're going back to the top of that cell just after being thrown off it by god!
 
Pakistanian said:
It could be in any situation.
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To be honest I just keep going even in my darkest moments, there's just no quit in me even when I want to. No doubt there are moments when you just don't want to get up after being knocked down and you just say to yourself:

I Can't Get Up

Can't Get Up

Get Up

Get Up !!!!!!

Just remember, a man that don't quit can never be beat.
 
TQ89 said:
Stay off social media of all forms, they only provide a short dopamine high & don't numb the pain. Pick up a good book regarding personal development & read it. If you don't feel like going to the bookstore, download an ebook or audiobook of the web so that you can have your esteem back and realize that you are special no matter what anybody says & think about your life goals & how to achieve them.

The ones who reject you or dislike you will remain the same no matter what you do for yourself or how much you change for them or how much time you spend thinking about them. Just learn from this, evaluate yourself, don't repeat the mistakes next time & keep moving towards your life goals. Inshallah you will get what you want.
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Or just watch Irish Mickey Ward v Gatti Trilogy on loop :))

I do find a lot of inspiration from sport / sports entertainment still lol but generally speaking when people experience a negative they should ask themselves at their core why are they truly doing something and then their priorities will sort them self out and all the insects just vanish, never but rubbish on a pedestal. For me family is everything and my reason to keep fighting and doing well whilst not bothering about all the minuscule things in life which are very shallow or superficial, so going of social media is not a bad advice at all to be honest
 
A winner is just a loser who tried one more time - George M Moore

You just have to realize that it needs to work only once... so if you have been rejected in multiple interviews/ or someone you like... chances are the next ones might be the one you get accepted. That's how it works. Persistence pays off
 
Everyone faces some form of rejection in their life. Deal with it by remembering where your proposal was accepted or where you rejected something or someone:bm Rejection makes a person humble and makes them consider the feelings of others.
 
It's not just relationships lol. I had work, school, sports and even society in general in mind. It's hard to cope with rejection from a school or job you really want or getting rejected off your team's roster :misbah3

Women don't faze me.
 
[MENTION=142256]Pakistanian[/MENTION]

Am glad that it wasn't just about relationships and something more important, I knew you were above putting women on a pedestal and where you have to try and get hench to make up for a lack of charisma among other things :yk

You know who Anthony Joshua is don't you? the big stiff weight lifter that is pretending to be a boxer :yk if he were to walk into a club and so did Tyson Fury in his current state out of shape and all, it would be Fury who walks out with the woman; more personality, can hold a convo and is supremely confident.

My advice is focus on yourself , your strengths, be confident and put the legit things on a pedestal whilst never giving up. You don't need to do x or y or z to please so and so that's for desperate / superficial people. Everything else will take care of itself :afridi
 
shaz619 said:
Me and [MENTION=136729]Suleiman[/MENTION] deal with it like this:

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We're going back to the top of that cell just after being thrown off it by god!
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Dude I was literally reading your post to me few months back of the "phenom rising from the dead and contacting me" with Undertaker gif :)))

But yeah man it's all about self realization about yourself as a man, and valuing yourself above all these materialistic things in life be it job, status, women or whatever. Ironically when you develop such a high sense of self value the materialistic things will follow you, but that is just a bonus..
 
How do you deal with Romantic Rejection?

With tears, depression and when it happens like 10 times then of-course with the knowledge that it is what it is and that you can't fight destiny and what the almighty has written for you
 
Rejection in general brings out bad vibes and emotions. Some people cope with it better while others do not.

IMO the initial period is the shock you need to handle. The shock depends on ones' expectations. Always try to keep reasonable expectations, not necessarily negative. Also would be good to have a back up plan if you are rejected and what will you do next.

Do something to divert your mind, perhaps pray even. Sometimes sleeping helps as well.

Also remember you have to keep on going forward and sulking or being depressed doesnt help u feel good.
 
shaz619 said:
Or just watch Irish Mickey Ward v Gatti Trilogy on loop :))

I do find a lot of inspiration from sport / sports entertainment still lol but generally speaking when people experience a negative they should ask themselves at their core why are they truly doing something and then their priorities will sort them self out and all the insects just vanish, never but rubbish on a pedestal. For me family is everything and my reason to keep fighting and doing well whilst not bothering about all the minuscule things in life which are very shallow or superficial, so going of social media is not a bad advice at all to be honest
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I used to watch Ali fights a lot when i was depressed few years back when i didn't cope with them better. It would lighten my mood a lot when i was hurting bad.
 
I was rejected by an Ivy-League uni after an interview that went really well.

So, I just studied harder, joined more clubs, and read A LOT.

Rejection either drives your will to succeed to greater heights or it makes you lose faith in your ambitions and self-worth. It’s up to you to decide what you want to do.
 
This thread is gonna come handy for me too very soon😀😀😀. Well let's see what's gonna happen next. But I damn sure what the answer gonna be .I could use these advices.Gonna ask very soon.
 
One shrinks into a hole for a few hours/days/weeks/months but eventually realizes that one has to brush off the dust, grimace, get up and soldier on. Life won't wait for anyone. It's clichéd and sounds terribly blasé.

I speak as someone who has debilitating issues dealing with failure, but every time I realize the hard way that I can't keep obsessing and that it's better to try again and potentially face more failure, rather than stay immobile, curled up like a ball. I believe the pain of failure is better than the stillness of inertia. I've learned that it's how we grow and gain perspective as human beings.
 
I got rejected recently.

Not professional work/job or university.

No love related either.

It does feel weird. I don't like the feeling.
 
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