I have seen some people who basically had to put their parents into old folks home because of their illnesses and dementia.
Nuclear.
Joint families only work in Bollywood movies where everyone dances in unison to Didi Tera Dewar Deewana....
My dad is currently in a situation where he cannot walk due to Peripheral Neuropathy. He has trouble doing some basic things in life and needs intense physiotherapy to get back to normalcy. We have tried bringing him to states and given him as much help as we could. But it took a toll on all of us and they are not happy either.
Older generation have way more ties to the soil. Younger are used to moving around. But for the old people their heart can never be at peace outside their country.
For well funded rich families yes brother but not for normal families. An extended family's mother had cancer, needed nurse which cost £64,000 a year for personal care, medication, end of life care eventually. When the average yearly salary is under £40,000 it's not doable. The times have changed now, you don't have many people who are home owners and people are buried under rent and all nonsense.
Yes. Older generation are too stuck in their ways. They cannot change. Language is also a major barrier for them.
Meet people(even if they are your immediate family) once a year, you can see the excitement and happiness to talk to them.
If we talk to them, they will say your side was horrible and toxic so it goes both ways. Live separate and help the extended family when it’s needed.I am 35 years old. Out of these 35 years, my 21 years were spent in family conflicts. This is why I am very bitter toward relatives. I have no emotional attachments toward them (minus my parents, my brother, my 80-year old grandmother, and one cousin maybe).
Relatives are pretty much Islamic checkmarks for me. I may say hello just to fulfill Islamic requirement of "not cutting ties of kinship". There is no emotion involved. I hate most of them because they caused issues in my life and in my family for many years.
I don’t know if you are married, but if you are the wife adds a lot to the family equations.I am 35 years old. Out of these 35 years, my 21 years were spent in family conflicts. This is why I am very bitter toward relatives. I have no emotional attachments toward them (minus my parents, my brother, my 80-year old grandmother, and one cousin maybe).
Relatives are pretty much Islamic checkmarks for me. I may say hello just to fulfill Islamic requirement of "not cutting ties of kinship". There is no emotion involved. I hate most of them because they caused issues in my life and in my family for many years.
Your family is an exception. When it all works out like in your case, its a beautiful thing. But it rarely does.
Trust me, not a single issue till date. Yes, not even one.Your family is an exception. When it all works out like in your case, its a beautiful thing. But it rarely does.
True.
