Myth of 'One True Love/Soulmate'

[Mages]

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It's interesting in Islam a man can have up to four wives which suggests well at least a male is more than capable of loving more than one woman at a time.

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The Quran allows up to nine wives. The Sunnah confirms the prophet had that many at a time.

The only species where monogamy is the "norm" is Homo sapiens.

Not true.

https://www.rd.com/culture/animals-mate-for-life/

 

[Devilsadvokat]

I personally cannot see a woman wanting more than one husband. It's not in their nature.

This is called fallacy of incredulity. Polyandry exists. Gender is on a spectrum not binary, you will have some women with higher sex drives than men.

Just because in our culture women have been socialised into acting demurly does not mean it is natural.

 

[KingKhanWC]

The Quran allows up to nine wives. The Sunnah confirms the prophet had that many at a time.

No it doesn't but the point is relative, people have the capability to love more than one person.

 

[Rayyman]

This is called fallacy of incredulity. Polyandry exists. Gender is on a spectrum not binary, you will have some women with higher sex drives than men.

Just because in our culture women have been socialised into acting demurly does not mean it is natural.

I am not speaking about "sex drives" though.

I'm talking about marriage.

 

[Chrish]

Lol people making up their own theories to justify religious beliefs. Why am I not surprised?

Where are all those doctors/ med students when you need them?

 

[Mages]

No it doesn't but the point is relative, people have the capability to love more than one person.

Yes it does. Otherwise, you are implying the prophet broke Allah's law as the sunnah records the prophet having 9 wives max at a time.

 

[PakLFC]

I would get bored with one partner after a while no matter how beautiful she is. I think most men do feel this way but are to afraid to admit it, after a while the relationship continues on autopilot mode without feelings. It is near impossible for feelings to be retained when you see your partner every day knowing that the rest of your life will be with them. There is no soulmate or true love rather we accept the other for their imperfections and strengths. James Bond got the relationship thing right!

 

[Mages]

I would get bored with one partner after a while no matter how beautiful she is. I think most men do feel this way but are to afraid to admit it, after a while the relationship continues on autopilot mode without feelings. It is near impossible for feelings to be retained when you see your partner every day knowing that the rest of your life will be with them. There is no soulmate or true love rather we accept the other for their imperfections and strengths. James Bond got the relationship thing right!

You won't if you really love her. Unfortunately (or fortunately?), in the Sunnah, of the four reasons to marry a women, love is not one of them. (A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status. her beauty and her religion..)


Kenyan President press conference- "I have only one wife"

 

[PakLFC]

You won't if you really love her. Unfortunately (or fortunately?), in the Sunnah, of the four reasons to marry a women, love is not one of them. (A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status. her beauty and her religion..)


Kenyan President press conference- "I have only one wife"

Islam is perfect but Muslim men are as human as anyone else. After a certain age the beauty requirement of a man in his partner leaves him. I think Hazoor(saw) mentioned that a man reaches that age 40 onward. Before that even Muslim men keep changing girlfriends.

 

[sweep_shot]

Far too many people live in a fantasy world believing there is one person made for them. This person is their true love or the soulmate selected by destiny, this person being the only individual they can share their life with.

I know a person who 'fell in love' with an individual but due to their circumstances cannot be together so will not now commit to being with anyone else because of some foolish belief this is the only one.

Why do people live in such fantasy worlds? There are plenty of fish in the sea is a very true saying , the human being is capable of loving more than one person. Does anyone on here feel like this or is this a result of watching a bit too much Bollywood and Hollywood? How can this person be convinced to move on to someone new?

Bumping this old thread. Fully agree with you.

There is nothing called "absolute love" in this world. It is Bollywood nonsense. Everything in this world is conditional.

For example, let's say there is a young couple. If one spouse dies, will the other spouse stay unmarried? Answer is probably not.

There are many love marriages which end up in divorces.