The variety of cultural wedding conditions in the Subcontinent

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The pakistani wedding ceremony was influenced by the cultural setting that if you have a nikkah, mhendi, barat and walima, than that is considered a proper wedding. If you skip any one of the event that was not considered a proper marriage. Any event missed was consider a marriage of poor people.

The tradition of having a nikkah, mhendi, barat and walima wasnt an expensive endeavor 40 years back. As marriages were done by having a makeshift tent and having food made in daig. Most of the people that used to attend were neighborhood people.

Marriage expenses in Pakistan started to boost up due to the concept of marriage hall. The food became a per head endeavor. Than came the photography culture, where people want to show everyone on social media their pics. Than recent trends of Ambanis and Influencers have week or month long marriages has started to attract people aswell. For some reason, this has become a power flex where week long qawalis are being held....

Covid did put a stop on this though. During Covid, alot of people started to do only nikkah and Walima, which helped in normalizing things and alot of relatives had issue with this, but than realize that having one off event really saves alot of money.

Also, in recent years i find it abit funny how this propaganda has started that dowry is a bad thing. But ignoring the fact that the grooms family is suppose to buy gold and clothes for the bride.....

Expensive marriage is silly.

Imagine doing a lavish wedding and the couple divorce 3 years after that. LOL. All the money gone down the drain.

Everything should be done in moderation.

 

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Expensive marriage is silly.

Imagine doing a lavish wedding and the couple divorce 3 years after that. LOL. All the money gone down the drain.

Everything should be done in moderation.

It has happened. I have seen many dumb families sell a plot of land take a loan to fund their daughters/sons marriage only for the marriage to end in divorce.

Thats the difference between our culture and western culture. In our culture, we do weddings on parents expense. Money is spent and wasted foolishly, the marriage compatibility is not checked based upon personality compatibility but on the basis of family wealth which often runs out.

In west, the marriage isnt funded by parents, its funded by the groom and bride themselves. So basically they spend the money which they themselves have earned so they know where to spend money and how to use the rest of the amount to build a future.