Thoughts on rich parents and their spoilt kids

[Saj]

Yes you know the type I mean.

We have all come across them during our lives, sometimes we see them too often.

More money than sense. The type whose kids are spoilt rotten, and whose parents think that the sun shines out of their kids and the kids can never do any wrong.

The parents are usually a bit too defensive and the kids are not really in touch with reality.

Is it the parents who are at fault regarding the lives these kids leave or is it the kids who are the problem?

Discuss......

 

[KingKhanWC]

Parents.

Being rich of course isnt a bad thing, it's a great in most cases.

The problem usually occurs when such families are either born into wealth or when they meet with poorer families.

From what I;ve seen the kids are often over-protected. The kids of such families are usually out of touch with reality, think they are better than others, usually over-weight, avg at sport and have little social skills. This is especially the case in Pakistan.

 

[Colorblind Genius]

Yes you know the type I mean.

We have all come across them during our lives, sometimes we see them too often.

More money than sense. The type whose kids are spoilt rotten, and whose parents think that the sun shines out of their kids and the kids can never do any wrong.

The parents are usually a bit too defensive and the kids are not really in touch with reality.

Is it the parents who are at fault regarding the lives these kids leave or is it the kids who are the problem?

Discuss......

I tell this to my kids,

"Tell me who do you hang out with, and I will tell you where are going with your life".

It's all about what kinda company and friendships they have, and what kinda folks they hangout with.
This is THE BIGGEST factor in a child's upbringing, and how their personalities and characters are shaped.

 

[KingKhanWC]

Btw I keep reading the term 'Burger kids'. Can someone explain what a burger kid is in Pakistan? Are you seen as a burger kid, how do you feel about it?

 

[Bigboii]

Parents
There's something lacking in thier upbringing being rich is not a problem not is the kid (cause he was braught up that way he didn't come out of the womb that way)

 

[shaz619]

Parents can be responsible but some kids are just pure wastemen

 

[Gharib Aadmi]

Btw I keep reading the term 'Burger kids'. Can someone explain what a burger kid is in Pakistan? Are you seen as a burger kid, how do you feel about it?

They are the upper middle class/elite kids.

They will speak Urdu in an accent, or talk half Urdu/English.

They live in posh areas and have very little awareness of whats going on in their own city.

They look down on Pakistani culture. Want to imitate westerners.

They will be "woke" to issues effecting the western countries, and then they will lecture Pakistanis on issues that the majority of population does not care about.

 

[KingKhanWC]

They are the upper middle class/elite kids.

They will speak Urdu in an accent, or talk half Urdu/English.

They live in posh areas and have very little awareness of whats going on in their own city.

They look down on Pakistani culture. Want to imitate westerners.

They will be "woke" to issues effecting the western countries, and then they will lecture Pakistanis on issues that the majority of population does not care about.

Thanks !

Now I see why some people Ive met and some posters on here are so anti-Pak and pro-west even when they live in Pakistan, still find it very strange.

Reminds me of an instance when I was in Pak , speaking to someone on the phone in English. Soon after a couple of guys came up to me asking me where I'm from. They then began to continue talking in English, when I said talk in Urdu or Punjabi, I can understand it. They were less interested then, tbh boring people so I moved on.

Why call themselves burger kids? Burgers are a poor mans food, should be cuisine boys or something.

 

[PakLFC]

Parents should teach kids the value of work from a very young age. Often such kids born with silver spoons in their mouth waste all the money even millions coz they never earned it themselves.When that is done they have nothing to fall back on, no skills, education or work experience. Only choice then is to sell tea like Modi!!

 

[Gharib Aadmi]

Thanks !

Now I see why some people Ive met and some posters on here are so anti-Pak and pro-west even when they live in Pakistan, still find it very strange.

Reminds me of an instance when I was in Pak , speaking to someone on the phone in English. Soon after a couple of guys came up to me asking me where I'm from. They then began to continue talking in English, when I said talk in Urdu or Punjabi, I can understand it. They were less interested then, tbh boring people so I moved on.

Why call themselves burger kids? Burgers are a poor mans food, should be cuisine boys or something.

Bun Kabab is the term used to describe the middle class people who dont live in posh areas.

Because burger is western its used to for the foreign wannabes.

 

[PakLFC]

@Gharibaadmi

Gharib sahib wealthy kids is one thing you will never have to worry about!

 

[Gharib Aadmi]

@Gharibaadmi

Gharib sahib wealthy kids is one thing you will never have to worry about!

Never say never. Maybe i will marry a rich beautiful doctor, who will spoil me and the children.

 

[Jadz]

Wealth is associated with success and poverty with failure, because we live in extremely materialistic times and everything is measured against how much we possess or how many consumer items we are able to purchase, where we live, how we dress and speak, and so on.

People are obsessed with status, position and power, all of which are obtained through wealth. The offspring of the wealthy inherit self-entitled attitudes, but I have also witnessed those who are not very wealthy with the same obnoxious attitudes too.

The best thing about a human being is the way (s)he treats family, friends, relatives and strangers - courtesy, humility, kindness, patience, respect, tolerance, compassion and so on can be taught, but sometimes an individual acquires these beautifully humane traits through experience, or is simply (by the Grace of God) born with them.

 

[ElRaja]

dont aim to give your kids that which you lacked during your childhood, but teach them that which you wish you were taught at that age.

many parents, rich or poor, dont spend enough time with their kids, and when u mix unsupervised access to the internet your gonna end up with a mess.

some of it is down to this idea that people have to have kids, some people who are in volatile relationship, or mentally not ready for it just shouldnt.

 

[OMB]

@ Burger kids / Bun Kabab kids

We can claim to be a sandwich adults.

We are a generation that used to get it heavily from our parents
and now we get it from our kids lol

 

[Major]

Btw I keep reading the term 'Burger kids'. Can someone explain what a burger kid is in Pakistan? Are you seen as a burger kid, how do you feel about it?

Burger is a word used ffor any kid who is polite and isnt street smart or cunning in pakistan

 

[Major]

They are the upper middle class/elite kids.

They will speak Urdu in an accent, or talk half Urdu/English.

They live in posh areas and have very little awareness of whats going on in their own city.

They look down on Pakistani culture. Want to imitate westerners.

They will be "woke" to issues effecting the western countries, and then they will lecture Pakistanis on issues that the majority of population does not care about.

Anyone who isn't street smart or cunning is labelled as a burger

 

[IAJ]

@ Burger kids / Bun Kabab kids

We can claim to be a sandwich adults.

We are a generation that used to get it heavily from our parents
and now we get it from our kids lol

Haha, true that, Na idhar kay, na udhar kay

 

[Itachi]

"spoiled" is due to parents whether rich or poor.

Being rich doesn't mean a kid won't realize the value of money.

Being poor doesn't mean a kid will understand the sacrifices that are being made.

financial status is irrelevant here.

 

[Saj]

I see some of these kids of today from these 'wealthy' families and they aren't in touch with reality.

I came across a family recently where the son was telling me that he was literally brought up by the housemaid and his parents were nowhere to be seen in his life.

Then there are others for whom their kids can do no wrong, spoilt brats who the parents will never accept have made a mistake, but the parents will instead confront others to protect their spoilt and misbehaving kids.

 

[WhenSultansBowled]

"spoiled" is due to parents whether rich or poor.

Being rich doesn't mean a kid won't realize the value of money.

Being poor doesn't mean a kid will understand the sacrifices that are being made.

financial status is irrelevant here.

Financial status is the only relevant factor, lol.

If you are poor and spoilt, society will correct your misbehaving with a bonus painta. You will be expelled from school, team, job, society or relationships. Going back will require authentic hard work and getting your act together.

On the other hand, of you are a rich kid and spoilt you can literally chop your critics to pieces and world will still sing your songs.

 

[Adil_94]

Parents fault they indulge the kids n allow that behaviour to be acceptable

 

[sjahmed23]

I feel like in Pakistan alot of middle class / upper middle class kids are brought up to be spoilt brats. The domestic help their parents hire for dirt cheap does all the chores around the house, kids are on their phones or lap tops all day long trying to copy westerners or speak like them.

 

[Saj]

Parents fault they indulge the kids n allow that behaviour to be acceptable

Which means that their kids go through life with no sense of reality and a sense of privilege as if the world is beneath them and nobody else but them matters.

Their parents instil in their heads that they are always right and that sense of arrogance stays with them for their whole life and that is then passed on through their generations.

 

[Saj]

Btw I keep reading the term 'Burger kids'. Can someone explain what a burger kid is in Pakistan? Are you seen as a burger kid, how do you feel about it?

But is that type of kid restricted only to Pakistan? I don't think so. You see and hear and come across such people in other parts of the world surely?

 

[Bigboii]

But is that type of kid restricted only to Pakistan? I don't think so. You see and hear and come across such people in other parts of the world surely?

Private school kid, country club kid...

 

[Bigboii]

Private school kid, country club kid...

And they're all hated by general society just like people don't like burgers in Pakistan

 

[Rana]

Personally, I’ve never come across a rich/spoilt brat in my life who cannot be put in his place.

Don’t hate the playah, hate the game

 

[Bigboii]

Personally, I’ve never come across a rich/spoilt brat in my life who cannot be put in his place.

Don’t hate the playah, hate the game

No I say

Hate the playa, play the game

 

[Mamoon]

The level of black and white judgement in this thread shows the lack of depth in the discourse and also the lack of perception.

When you are rich, it is quite a monumental task to ensure that you kids are not spoiled whilst enjoying a luxurious childhood.

Every parent wants to fulfill all the needs and wants of their children and when you are rich, the wants become great to the point where other people might view your children as spoiled.

It is a difficult job because you have to ensure that not only are you giving your children a luxurious life, you know where to tow the line because it is imperative to make them realize that not everyone is as privileged as they are.

As long as they develop empathy and are grateful for what they have, they will be fine.

 

[KingKhanWC]

The level of black and white judgement in this thread shows the lack of depth in the discourse and also the lack of perception.

When you are rich, it is quite a monumental task to ensure that you kids are not spoiled whilst enjoying a luxurious childhood.

Every parent wants to fulfill all the needs and wants of their children and when you are rich, the wants become great to the point where other people might view your children as spoiled.

It is a difficult job because you have to ensure that not only are you giving your children a luxurious life, you know where to tow the line because it is imperative to make them realize that not everyone is as privileged as they are.

As long as they develop empathy and are grateful for what they have, they will be fine.

Many dont , this is the point. It seems such people esp in Pakistan think they are somehow superiour to others when they are not.

Those who gained wealth through crime, ie fraud, corruption, not paying taxes seems even more arrogant.

 

[KingKhanWC]

But is that type of kid restricted only to Pakistan? I don't think so. You see and hear and come across such people in other parts of the world surely?

Sure.

From my experience, Ive met many rich people from England and Pakistan. The ones in England will still talk to you on a human level, those in Pak seem to think they are Royalty. I guess living among so many poor and having wealth makes them believe this delusion.

 

[Mamoon]

Many dont , this is the point. It seems such people esp in Pakistan think they are somehow superiour to others when they are not.

Those who gained wealth through crime, ie fraud, corruption, not paying taxes seems even more arrogant.

Arrogance comes in many shape and forms. I have seen many overseas Pakistanis look down on those living in Pakistan because they are living in a third world country and have accents.

There are numerous examples of arrogance and vanity.

 

[Rana]

Aitchinson Schoolboys from Lahore are probably the most elite

The vast majority of the ones I know are probably the coolest guys I’ve met from Pakistan. Good school.

 

[KingKhanWC]

Arrogance comes in many shape and forms. I have seen many overseas Pakistanis look down on those living in Pakistan because they are living in a third world country and have accents.

There are numerous examples of arrogance and vanity.

They shouldnt esp if their parents were poor & moved to earn money. However many give aid, help & support to people in Pakistan.

The arrogant criminal families in Pakistan do the opposite, they make such people even poorer. Someone needs to clamp down on these people, they are an embarrasment to the nation. Some think because they are wealthy, speak & write English they are also intellectully superior, spouting nonsense such as the one nation theory. This is borderline treachary.

 

[Bigboii]

They shouldnt esp if their parents were poor & moved to earn money. However many give aid, help & support to people in Pakistan.

The arrogant criminal families in Pakistan do the opposite, they make such people even poorer. Someone needs to clamp down on these people, they are an embarrasment to the nation. Some think because they are wealthy, speak & write English they are also intellectully superior, spouting nonsense such as the one nation theory. This is borderline treachary.

We call tham papa ka Prince, living in a bubble
Andhon me kana raja..

 

[golagunda]

This thread reminds me of a spoilt brat I used to have in my class when I was in school a long time ago. I was probably in grade 6 so the average age of the class was maybe 11 or 12 years. This guy was the son of a very famous feudal personality/politician (who I won’t name for obvious reasons) and was probably around 17. He was the definition of a spoilt rich kid. In those days mobile phones had recently been introduced in Pakistan and were extremely expensive. He used to bring one to class (the huge brick sized one) and make prank calls to the principals office. The usual prank was to call the principal and pretend that he was calling from our class teacher’s home and needed to speak to her urgently. If the principal fell for this she would send for the teacher and we would get some free time. If she didn’t fall for it, he would call the office again after 5 minutes and this time pretend to be the classteacher herself asking the principal if she had received a call from her home because her grandmother was very sick. It was all good fun for us but a nightmare for the teachers.

Eventually, they all realized who was doing this but were powerless to do anything against him because of how powerful his father was. Some teachers even refused to teach a class where he was present because there was no way they could do anything to control him. Eventually, his family had a very dramatic fall from power and I think he now lives in very ordinary life somewhere in the US. The worst part is that his family had all the money and power to give him the best education anywhere in the world but they knowingly destroyed his life. Our school had told his parents about his issues many times but instead of reprimanding him they threatened the school to stop any disciplinary action against him. This is the hallmark of our feudal culture

 

[Gilly]

I've met some nice spoilt kids and some not so nice spoilt kids. I guess it comes down to how much you want to hate on someone who is different to you. There is always a trade off between hate and envy.

 

[Saj]

Sure.

From my experience, Ive met many rich people from England and Pakistan. The ones in England will still talk to you on a human level, those in Pak seem to think they are Royalty. I guess living among so many poor and having wealth makes them believe this delusion.

I've seen this sort of attitude and behaviour from some in various parts of the world - Middle East, America, Canada, UK too. I don't thin it's just a based in Pakistan thing.

 

[Gullycricket]

The spoilt rich kids I have seen have no Tameez. They dont know how to behave in normal society. I remember my close friend who was a very simple guy getting married. He told me many times that he dreads his two cousins who are totally spoilt and out of touch with customs. God the day of his wedding I saw them and they were worst.
They embrassed him so much by asking private questions in front of everyone like what he will do to his wife first night etc (This is just toned down version). These kids had been given money and cars by their parents with no watching and they used to treat girls like trash. So they thought everyone is like that. But thankfully that day a few elders put them in their place.
I have serious issues with such parents who dont teach their kids respect for elders, women and fellow humans.

 

[MenInG]

Lets keep this impersonal and to the point.

 

[Stewie]

The buck stops with parents. And they have seen this is a trait with pakistanis mostly. I have seen wealthy Americans who make their kids get jobs soon as they turn 18 to teach them the value of money and hard work. No such thing in Pakistan.

 

[Gharib Aadmi]

The buck stops with parents. And they have seen this is a trait with pakistanis mostly. I have seen wealthy Americans who make their kids get jobs soon as they turn 18 to teach them the value of money and hard work. No such thing in Pakistan.

Younger than that. From what i have seen its usually around 16. And at least among the middle class, its almost everyone who has a job once they turn that age.

 

[MenInG]

Guess you can spoil children with money only!

So if you are middle-class or so, then your children have a pretty good chance of not being spoilt!

 

[Bigboii]

Younger than that. From what i have seen its usually around 16. And at least among the middle class, its almost everyone who has a job once they turn that age.

Me who who got his first job at a local deli after finishing 8th grade

Someone should have told me the 18 y/o rules I would have been chilling that summer...

 

[Saj]

A lot of these spoilt kids seem to have an attitude where they think they are always right, the world owes them and they can have/get what they want.

It seems also that quite a few of these kids don't work and instead spend/blow mummy and daddy's money.

 

[Saj]

The buck stops with parents. And they have seen this is a trait with pakistanis mostly. I have seen wealthy Americans who make their kids get jobs soon as they turn 18 to teach them the value of money and hard work. No such thing in Pakistan.

Yes. The problem is that these kids and their families don't have much respect for the value of hard work and integrity.

For the parents too, only these kids health, only these kids exams, only these kids wealth matters. When that's the attitude, then things will only end up one way.