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Tips on Making New Friends? (At University)

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I have had the same group of friends for so long now but I kind of want to step out of my bubble, however I’m not the best at initiating conversations with people I don’t know. I go to uni and none of my friends have the same classes as me this year so I really want to meet new people but I’m just not sure how to go about it. It seems like most people in my classes already have their own groups. Any tips on how to not overthink approaching a new person?
 
Don't overthink it and don't go out of your way to make friends.

Just be yourself and you will connect with the right company.

I would also advise taking part in any of the uni sports clubs/societies. I took up skydiving when I was studying.

Hope your time at uni goes well.
 
Join a few clubs if you want. You can make friends there.

Also, if you are attending in-person classes, you should make friends automatically (group projects).

Finally, do not try too hard. Do not appear desperate for friendship.
 
like whats been said above, join some clubs. when ur younger its easier finding out common interests cos things trend when ur a kid, and whether its tv, games, or whatever a lot of people are doing it.

as u get older interests get more varied, so difficult to find something to talk about after small talk dries up.

i made my uni group of friends because we all ended up late to the first day, sat at the back, missed the bit about our next lecture venue change, and all ending up at the wrong lecture the next day.
 
Say hi to people and start conversation. That helped me more than looking for person in social media (back in the day when there was no social media, fb started in my 3rd year :D).

So strike a conversation with your peers. Ask them of their friday night plans, and join in. You will make tonnes of friends. If a shy guy like me can in University of Toronto (St. George) in 2003, then you for sure can in 2021.
 
Join your Isoc ( if you are into that) or just some general clubs or societies. You will be fine and pick up new friends easily. Don't stress over it, everyone is quite nervous at first in Uni.
 
Try to make friends with people of other nationalities and don't just hang around with the desis. It's easier than you think, and will teach you some very important lessons about the world.

Above all, enjoy your student days. They won't come back ever.
 
I'm like you there, I made my friend group in elementary school and haven't really made any new friends since 6th grade. Now in third year uni.
 
I'm like you there, I made my friend group in elementary school and haven't really made any new friends since 6th grade. Now in third year uni.

Same.

I had like 50-100 friends in high school. But, I barely made any friend in university. It is because most of my courses were online and hence I didn't have to go to campuses a lot.
 
I have had the same group of friends for so long now but I kind of want to step out of my bubble, however I’m not the best at initiating conversations with people I don’t know. I go to uni and none of my friends have the same classes as me this year so I really want to meet new people but I’m just not sure how to go about it. It seems like most people in my classes already have their own groups. Any tips on how to not overthink approaching a new person?

Will you be on or off campus bro ?

Some suggestions:

- Try not to stress over it or what others are doing socially, focus mainly on your study’s as it’s the main priority

- With those who you don’t know, you have work in common so try to build on that or anything common you may find but no need to force anything

-Societies/Clubs etc are a great chance to find common interests etc even if you’re from a different background, for me it was Boxing, MMA and Writing, Islamic Society and Inter-Faith involvement is great to

- Don’t force anything, some folk just keep to themselves to while others don’t or are diplomats, you focus on you and let nature take its course WOOOO! :yk2
 
GO in and start talking to random students. You will know for yourself which ones will become your friends and which are not interested at all. Take it easy
 
I have had a lot of friends from other countries in my German university. They were my classmates. They all were foreigners and to be honest total time waster. Then corona happened I became more productive learned German to a higher level start getting respect from all German ladies and men around me. Loneliness is also gone. I starting feeling at home. Use your time wisely and be productive. Work on your skillsets.
 
Will you be on or off campus bro ?

Some suggestions:

- Try not to stress over it or what others are doing socially, focus mainly on your study’s as it’s the main priority

- With those who you don’t know, you have work in common so try to build on that or anything common you may find but no need to force anything

-Societies/Clubs etc are a great chance to find common interests etc even if you’re from a different background, for me it was Boxing, MMA and Writing, Islamic Society and Inter-Faith involvement is great to

- Don’t force anything, some folk just keep to themselves to while others don’t or are diplomats, you focus on you and let nature take its course WOOOO! :yk2

Thanks Bro Bro! I'm on Campus which has been a breath of fresh air after last year being online. I've had a lot of success meeting new people which has been awesome!
 
I loved reading all the suggestions! This is such a great community! Sucks I can't post more often being so busy with Uni! But thank you all!
 
I'm like you there, I made my friend group in elementary school and haven't really made any new friends since 6th grade. Now in third year uni.

Yeah man I've stepped out of my bubble a bit more this year and it's been the best! How's Uni going for you?
 
Is it tough to manage your own time?

Like at home with parents, time is generally managed by them but at Uni - its all for you to do!
 
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