How to stay positive and practical?

[JaDed]

Have any of you been dealt with negativity
and that as a person you tend to become more bitter and negative due to that?

If yes, other than faith how come did you overcome the same?

 

[Madplayer]

Personally speaking, no other way worked better than faith that its just a temporary world anyway.

 

[JaDed]

Personally speaking, no other way worked better than faith that its just a temporary world anyway.

I tried faith and it did help undoubtedly, but my mind can not accept the issues that come with it sadly.

More like agnostic's way to positivity is what I'm looking for.

 

[Madplayer]

Few other things that i tried is:

1) watch a lot of comedy movies.
2) surround myself with positive, funny people.
3) try to create a balance between staying alone and being in company of others. Too much of either could cause bitterness.
4) listen to energetic songs. Avoid depressive songs even if they are good.
5) do charity.
6) help one person a day at least.
7) work out in gym even if its for 30 minutes.(cannot emphasise this enough)
8) buy the ones you love small gifts from time to time even if cheap.
9) try to keep your fashion up to date with trends.
10) look in the mirror and say good things to yourself. And practice smiling while you are at it.

 

[Madplayer]

I tried faith and it did help undoubtedly, but my mind can not accept the issues that come with it sadly.

More like agnostic's way to positivity is what I'm looking for.

I respect that. The baggage which comes with faith is not for everybody.

 

[Swashbuckler]

Got off internet for 6 odd months, used only for basic mail checkings.
Deleted all social media apps so as not to be distracted. Learnt to enjoy the real world rather than virtual world.
Played a lot of sports.
Meditation and yoga.
Cut out junk food, tried to adapt to a healthy lifestyle.
Visited a psychological counselor, had 8 sessions, well worth it.

All happened in college, I was back to normal within 4-5 months, after that bad habits again creeped in but I never went back into that mental space.

 

[JaDed]

Thanks [MENTION=131678]Madplayer[/MENTION]
[MENTION=143530]Swashbuckler[/MENTION]
Sorry to know about your experience in college and glad you are well now.

Im guessing it's basically to put yourself out there and involve in activities, I guess I have been partially home ridden for a month now due to certain circumstances and it has gotten to me badly ,hopefully I turn it around soon.

 

[Sachin136]

Faith and knowing that in 60 years, nothing that happened in your life will matter.

 

[Rayyman]

Be more selfish. Stop thinking about other people.

 

[JaDed]

Be more selfish. Stop thinking about other people.

How does that help one become positive?

 

[Last Monetarist]

I have had bleak episodes on and off for a long time (nigh on a decade or more), a crisis of confidence, a crisis of identity, call it what you will. Occasionally, there isn't even any trigger, negativity just creeps up and gnaws away. It's debilitating to constantly will your mind to stave it off.

I usually find that the most effective palliative is work, if I am busy, I don't have time to pay attention to pessimism. Other avenues include increasing physical exertion (in the gym or outside): the mind can be ignored when other parts of the body are aching. I also read a lot, so I'll start reading things that amuse me more. Finally, having a friend or two who are infectiously funny doesn't hurt.

The worst thing one can do is giving the negativity time to settle in through welcoming it by either feeling sorry for oneself or deriving sadistic pleasure from torturous thoughts. It's very enticing but there is nothing but ruin down that road.

However, it is what it is and I haven't really found a permanent solution. You learn to live with it, I guess.

 

[gazza619]

Well it depends on what is causing you to be negative. Is it work? then have a friendly chit chat over a coffee or something with your senior/manager/boss.

If it is family, then try to spend more time with people you like e.g friends.

If I was to give to an honest answer than Namaaz is the solution for everything.

 

[Suleiman]

By exposing myself to situations where I have to trust myself or forced to. Practically this was choosing a new hobby, something that’d get me to go a place I wasn’t familiar with or do something I wasn’t familiar with. When presented with something unfamiliar you can frame it as positive or negative, practice on reframing it as a positive, I’m here, I’m learning something new even if I fail at the start.

The other was giving to others. Not necessarily money, but emotions. Asking others at work, class, home how they are and what’s going in their lives, just a simple hi or hello, even meeting someone new. It makes you go out of your own way and cultivate positive emotions to project to the environment around you and gets you out of your own head and that doom and gloom headspace. Takes you out of that me me me frame.

Meditation was helpful too. Prayer as well, but even if you don’t believe in God, meditation is a good practice to be relaxed with your emotions and not fight them because it’s human nature to feel positive and negative emotions at the end of the day, you can’t feel good if you’ve never felt meh at times.

 

[PakLFC]

Use the power of affirmations whenever you're feeling down.

 

[sweep_shot]

Completing your objectives is a great way to stay positive/practical.

When you achieve the things you want to achieve (no matter how small or big), you can overlook many of the negatives.

This is why successful people are generally very positive. They have the winning mindsets and cheerful personalities.

 

[sweep_shot]

Completing your objectives is a great way to stay positive/practical.

When you achieve the things you want to achieve (no matter how small or big), you can overlook many of the negatives.

This is why successful people are generally very positive. They have the winning mindsets and cheerful personalities.

When I get things done, I am less cranky.

When I am having an unproductive day, I can get cranky over smallest of issues.

For me, "getting things done" or having progresses is one way to feel good/stay positive/stay practical.

 

[Rajdeep]

When I get things done, I am less cranky.

When I am having an unproductive day, I can get cranky over smallest of issues.

For me, "getting things done" or having progresses is one way to feel good/stay positive/stay practical.

Absolutely no one cares or asked for it mate.

 

[sweep_shot]

Absolutely no one cares or asked for it mate.

It is a thread. I was responding to the thread.

Just like you do in other threads.