Marrying a Hindu girl

[PakLFC]

Yes I am the sheep...the irony honestly.

There's nothing wrong with marrying within your religion just like there's nothing wrong with marrying outside your religion.

The only thing that is wrong is your obsession with wanting to dictate how other people live their lives.

I am not dictating, Allah is. I am telling you what Allah says in Islam. The thread starter asked for an opinion which he his getting. You are just a follower of what is considered to be the orthodox view but Islam does not see it that way. Islam does not allow a believing man to marry a Hindu lady. As the person is not a believer in Islam he is exempt from these rules.

 

[Napa]

Its his choice , whether he goes after his desires or obeys his creator. If he disobeys his creator , its not that he would be punished straightaway in this world. He can live his life on his own terms , but later would have to pay for all this.

It all basically boils down which side he wants to go.

Scaring people into believing that they will be punished in afterlife is rather old-fashioned in the 21st century now that we believe in science rather than mythology.

 

[CricketDon]

Congrats. Delighted for you. It's the only way you should've handled it. Don't compromise over things that aren't even important to you.

Thanks so much bro

 

[CricketDon]

Scaring people into believing that they will be punished in afterlife is rather old-fashioned in the 21st century now that we believe in science rather than mythology.

It’s what believers of abrahamic religions resort to. It’s one of the things I kinda like about religions like Hinduism and Sikhism. Seems like true peace and tranquility.

 

[CricketDon]

lol. Im very happy. Isn't it you having issues?

If religion means nothing to you both, why worry it about? Strange couple, hope you both get to be with each other.

It’s not us who care about religion but both our parents. Maybe reading and comprehension ain’t one of your strong points.

 

[KingKhanWC]

It’s not us who care about religion but both our parents. Maybe reading and comprehension ain’t one of your strong points.

No I read it properly, you didn't understand my point. You pretty much said religion is nonsense to you so instead of telling us on here, tell them! Why not try it?

 

[PakLFC]

No one is forcing anyone to believe in Islam. As I have said before people from other faiths also mostly marry in their own religion as well. If this guy is only a Muslim by name then he can do whatever he wants. Why did he even bother opening a thread on it then?
https://islamqa.info/en/answers/8015/a-muslim-is-in-love-with-a-hindu-girl-and-wants-to-marry-her

 

[CricketDon]

No I read it properly, you didn't understand my point. You pretty much said religion is nonsense to you so instead of telling us on here, tell them! Why not try it?

I can buy you a GCSE level English language and literature book, maybe that may help. Foundation level ofc. I don’t care about religion and nor does she. However our parents do. Dearly do. We can’t just go and say we want to leave Islam and Hinduism. We just have to partake in events and indulge culturally.

When we have our own children we will dilute religion out and focus on their educations and future.

 

[KingKhanWC]

I can buy you a GCSE level English language and literature book, maybe that may help. Foundation level ofc. I don’t care about religion and nor does she. However our parents do. Dearly do. We can’t just go and say we want to leave Islam and Hinduism. We just have to partake in events and indulge culturally.

When we have our own children we will dilute religion out and focus on their educations and future.

No buy a romance novel and keep it.

Who gives a? You called religion illogical and lacking of reason, go explain this to them. Surely you can convince them otherwise it seems you will be in tears for this girl until the end of days. I dont think you have any better ideas atm.

Anyway best of luck and I hope it works out for you.

 

[shaz619]

No buy a romance novel and keep it.

Who gives a? You called religion illogical and lacking of reason, go explain this to them. Surely you can convince them otherwise it seems you will be in tears for this girl until the end of days. I dont think you have any better ideas atm.

Anyway best of luck and I hope it works out for you.

Basically bro what he is saying is that while he isn't a believer; his and the girls parents are so it presented an obstacle to faciliate this relation. But he spoke to the girls dad now and they are cool with it and to keep the peace there will be an Islamic ceremony from his side and a Hindu one from the girls. This way both can be together also whilst respectiving the views of both parties and not seriously damaging relations, then when married do their own thing.

 

[Eagle_Eye]

Basically bro what he is saying is that while he isn't a believer; his and the girls parents are so it presented an obstacle to faciliate this relation. But he spoke to the girls dad now and they are cool with it and to keep the peace there will be an Islamic ceremony from his side and a Hindu one from the girls. This way both can be together also whilst respectiving the views of both parties and not seriously damaging relations, then when married do their own thing.

How can there be an Islamic marriage if she’s isn’t Muslim and how can there be a Hindu marriage if he’s isn’t a Hindu... That would an utter sham wedding.

 

[CricketDon]

No buy a romance novel and keep it.

Who gives a? You called religion illogical and lacking of reason, go explain this to them. Surely you can convince them otherwise it seems you will be in tears for this girl until the end of days. I dont think you have any better ideas atm.

Anyway best of luck and I hope it works out for you.

Don’t need to buy a romance novel, we’re writting our own

 

[shaz619]

How can there be an Islamic marriage if she’s isn’t Muslim and how can there be a Hindu marriage if he’s isn’t a Hindu... That would an utter sham wedding.

It's following those traditions to keep the peace basically and maintain the family's respect amongst the locals / community. Same way at times the other half converts purely to facilitate a marriage. Thing is, marriage would be official as a contract needs to be signed nothing else but neither can proceed without abiding by the way of their family's beliefs. Life is not as simple as we make out on forums, how could these two be together with their own beliefs without isolating their family ? So it's harsh calling it a sham unless you feel it is acceptable for these guys to be disowned because they reject Islam or Hinduism.

 

[CricketDon]

It's following those traditions to keep the peace basically and maintain the family's respect amongst the locals / community. Same way at times the other half converts purely to facilitate a marriage. Thing is, marriage would be official as a contract needs to be signed nothing else but neither can proceed without abiding by the way of their family's beliefs. Life is not as simple as we make out on forums, how could these two be together with their own beliefs without isolating their family ? So it's harsh calling it a sham unless you feel it is acceptable for these guys to be disowned because they reject Islam or Hinduism.

Don’t waste your time bro. Some people are ignorant and ask questions with closed ears.

 

[Eagle_Eye]

It's following those traditions to keep the peace basically and maintain the family's respect amongst the locals / community. Same way at times the other half converts purely to facilitate a marriage. Thing is, marriage would be official as a contract needs to be signed nothing else but neither can proceed without abiding by the way of their family's beliefs. Life is not as simple as we make out on forums, how could these two be together with their own beliefs without isolating their family ? So it's harsh calling it a sham unless you feel it is acceptable for these guys to be disowned because they reject Islam or Hinduism.

It’s a sham because neither are Muslim or Hindu. But yet pretending to be both. It’s a cowards way out and one that never works.... it’s just kicking the can down the road exercise. Getting married is the easy obstacle to jump over, but keeping up this dual pretence for life is something else altogether. Best to be yourself right from the outset and come to terms with that.

Doesn’t this situation describe the SC mentality pretty well.... “what will people say”

 

[Itachi]

It’s a sham because neither are Muslim or Hindu. But yet pretending to be both. It’s a cowards way out and one that never works.... it’s just kicking the can down the road exercise. Getting married is the easy obstacle to jump over, but keeping up this dual pretence for life is something else altogether. Best to be yourself right from the outset and come to terms with that.

Doesn’t this situation describe the SC mentality pretty well.... “what will people say”

You are forgetting one key aspect. Religion isn't the utmost aspect for them.

He can go to masjid and she can go to temple for all that matters. The kids can be given options for both and when they become adult, they can chose which pathway they want to go.

All your conclusions are based upon religion as the most important aspect of life but for OP, it may be not.

That makes these conclusions out of context.

 

[Itachi]

It’s what believers of abrahamic religions resort to. It’s one of the things I kinda like about religions like Hinduism and Sikhism. Seems like true peace and tranquility.

You'll always find people in each religion with extreme views.

Let me tell you my case.

My gf is non indian, older than me, and comes from an orthodox Christian family.

So you are in a much much better position than me. I will have to fight three fronts in this battle. You just need to fight one.

I hope it works out for you.

 

[Napa]

It’s a sham because neither are Muslim or Hindu. But yet pretending to be both. It’s a cowards way out and one that never works.... it’s just kicking the can down the road exercise. Getting married is the easy obstacle to jump over, but keeping up this dual pretence for life is something else altogether. Best to be yourself right from the outset and come to terms with that.

Doesn’t this situation describe the SC mentality pretty well.... “what will people say”

Cowards way? No, it is courageous to not be bound by tradition and have the courage to find the best life, and to build a life with someone who one loves.

 

[Eagle_Eye]

You are forgetting one key aspect. Religion isn't the utmost aspect for them.

He can go to masjid and she can go to temple for all that matters. The kids can be given options for both and when they become adult, they can chose which pathway they want to go.

All your conclusions are based upon religion as the most important aspect of life but for OP, it may be not.

That makes these conclusions out of context.

They are both living in a free country and my conclusions are based on the fact they are both atheists and that there is no compulsion on them to carry out sham religious weddings.

They should be who they are and not worry about what others think. It would be hard at first but easier in the long run, and the fact that you can then live your life they way you want.

 

[Slog]

Cowards way? No, it is courageous to not be bound by tradition and have the courage to find the best life, and to build a life with someone who one loves.

It is a bit cowardly that they both live in the west but still are concerned by ‘what will people say?’ And don’t have the balls to tell their parents that neither of them really do care for religious traditions

I understand the circumstances but this is hardly bravery.

 

[Napa]

It is a bit cowardly that they both live in the west but still are concerned by ‘what will people say?’ And don’t have the balls to tell their parents that neither of them really do care for religious traditions

I understand the circumstances but this is hardly bravery.

Obviously they are trying to find their way to a life together. Accusations of cowardice are wrong in this context. Besides, those who are quick to judge others usually fail in their personal lives.

 

[sensible-indian-fan]

Congrats.

Hope it works out for you.

 

[Abdul]

Do what you gotta do for yourself man, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

[MenInG]

Really depends on how much you value your families' opinions

If you are close to mum and dad and they are against it, my suggestion would not to do it as these things linger for years and make life hell for you and your future off-spring.

 

[Swashbuckler]

Congrats [MENTION=147696]CricketDon[/MENTION], worked out easily for you in the end . Like you her dad seems pretty cool and flexible, so that's a nice start.

 

[Suleiman]

Update

Spoken to her father and explained how much I love his daughter and I’d spend the rest of my life caring and loving her. Give her e rrything her heart desires and support all her dreams.

I told him I ain’t a religious person and I would never have her change her religion or beliefs ever. Nor would I force the children into Islam but would allow them to choose what they believe and focus on giving them an education.

He accepted! We are going to get married in 2020 after she finishes her medicine degree and I finish my computer science degree. We finish in 2019 but want to spend a year settling into the work force and our careers then get married with money saved up!

We are going too have two ceromonies, one Islamic for my side and one Hindu for her side. Then we are going to travel for a month as a honey moon! I’m so excited, thank toh all for your paorice advice and help it really helped a lot!

Too all the negative extremists, I hope one day you find love and peace that you so claim!

Dude I'm so proud of you. Came to the thread to advise you to just be upfront with it no matter what, and you did pretty much that, guess was late to the party heh. More than getting the chick I'm happy that you faced the issue like a man, that's gonna be a huge life lesson right there.

Congrats though. Nothing cowardly about anything you said in the OP, talking to parents about anything that intrudes on their beliefs and boundaries is never easy because you love them, they're not strangers you dgaf about or their opinions like few in this thread.

 

[Pakistanian]

congratulations.

Pakistan 1 - India 0

 

[GBK_Fan]

Congrats OP

 

[Bubby]

Then the question would be did she convert for the sake of Allah or just to please her partner?

But the question is why convert, other when you can't convert for other why this hypocrisy, why can't accept him or her for who she or he is, she or he loved you not Allah, for her or him the partner matters not any religion and it should be vice versa.

 

[Slog]

But the question is why convert, other when you can't convert for other why this hypocrisy, why can't accept him or her for who she or he is, she or he loved you not Allah, for her or him the partner matters not any religion and it should be vice versa.

That’s fine. But then don’t call yourself Muslim either and have that facade. Which in this OPs case is fine if he is upfront with his family about his faith (or lack of it)

 

[Bubby]

That’s fine. But then don’t call yourself Muslim either and have that facade. Which in this OPs case is fine if he is upfront with his family about his faith (or lack of it)

Muslim and Hindu is ur identity, as a religion whether one follows it or not, I would say even if you follow religion it's better to keep it to yourself and let ur partner follow his path

 

[Swashbuckler]

congratulations.

Pakistan 1 - India 0

Why?

 

[CricketCartoons]

congratulations.

Pakistan 1 - India 0

Pakistan: 1, India: -1. it is a zero sum game.

 

[TM Riddle]

Bit suspicious how dad agreed so easily in the end.
But I guess since the families mentioned are both British it mustn't have been as hard as it would have been had the couple faced this situation while living in the Subcontinent.
Congratulations I guess.

 

[GBK_Fan]

Bit suspicious how dad agreed so easily in the end.
But I guess since the families mentioned are both British it mustn't have been as hard as it would have been had the couple faced this situation while living in the Subcontinent.
Congratulations I guess.

Depends on the family. I have seen less opposition in interfaith marriages at times than inter caste ones

 

[TM Riddle]

Depends on the family. I have seen less opposition in interfaith marriages at times than inter caste ones

I guess it's a British thing then.
There would have been a huge uproar had the couple were living in say Jaipur or Dilli.

 

[GBK_Fan]

I guess it's a British thing then.
There would have been a huge uproar had the couple were living in say Jaipur or Dilli.

No I meant in Mumbai. I have dated 2 Muslim women in India and their parents were ok with it

 

[Hitman]

Update

Spoken to her father and explained how much I love his daughter and I’d spend the rest of my life caring and loving her. Give her e rrything her heart desires and support all her dreams.

I told him I ain’t a religious person and I would never have her change her religion or beliefs ever. Nor would I force the children into Islam but would allow them to choose what they believe and focus on giving them an education.

He accepted! We are going to get married in 2020 after she finishes her medicine degree and I finish my computer science degree. We finish in 2019 but want to spend a year settling into the work force and our careers then get married with money saved up!

We are going too have two ceromonies, one Islamic for my side and one Hindu for her side. Then we are going to travel for a month as a honey moon! I’m so excited, thank toh all for your paorice advice and help it really helped a lot!

Too all the negative extremists, I hope one day you find love and peace that you so claim!

That's the way to go. I'm so happy for you. The reason her father agreed is because you're a good person who doesn't shove religion down others throats. I just hope your side of the happy is happy with the decision you and your girlfriend have made.

 

[Adijazz1706]

Much ado about nothing in the end, the girl's family seems suspiciously pliable but whatever

 

[Rayyman]

Congrats bro you're a stud. Good luck with everything. Hope it goes smoothly.

 

[CricketDon]

Thanks for all the well wishes guys! Wedding is In 2020!

Was so scared and nervous meeting her father and wore I suit which I never do. Showed him my educational and business accolades and assets. But he didn’t care he just wanted to know what kind of man I am and how I’d treat and care for his daughter and I was honest.

To all those calling me a coward And such names you’re the reason people like me can’t ckme out and express our opinion. Look at zayn malik, he came out and said he was not Muslim and the same people here calling me coward and a sham abused him as a person in the thread. It’s not a religion it’s a cult. Even in the West such people fear for their lives because of extremists and terrorists it’s world wide.

Me and my girlfriend are going to finish our degrees. She a doctor me a artificial Intell engineer. We are going to enjoy our time and settle into the work force. Then in summer 2020 get married, travel and live happily ever after.

 

[Banter]

Thanks for all the well wishes guys! Wedding is In 2020!

Was so scared and nervous meeting her father and wore I suit which I never do. Showed him my educational and business accolades and assets. But he didn’t care he just wanted to know what kind of man I am and how I’d treat and care for his daughter and I was honest.

To all those calling me a coward And such names you’re the reason people like me can’t ckme out and express our opinion. Look at zayn malik, he came out and said he was not Muslim and the same people here calling me coward and a sham abused him as a person in the thread. It’s not a religion it’s a cult. Even in the West such people fear for their lives because of extremists and terrorists it’s world wide.

Me and my girlfriend are going to finish our degrees. She a doctor me a artificial Intell engineer. We are going to enjoy our time and settle into the work force. Then in summer 2020 get married, travel and live happily ever after.

congratulations. Just remember to hold on to the feelings and intentions that you have today, as you go on your journey together. Married life is a marathon not a sprint, and bumps in the road are inevitable. More so with different backgrounds - it takes that little bit extra to stay on the same page. If you keep in mind that its more about 'US' than "me", then rest will fall into place.

Sorry for the unsolicited lecture and advice, but take it for what it is, unfiltered BOL DIYA. DIL SE.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

Thanks for all the well wishes guys! Wedding is In 2020!

Was so scared and nervous meeting her father and wore I suit which I never do. Showed him my educational and business accolades and assets. But he didn’t care he just wanted to know what kind of man I am and how I’d treat and care for his daughter and I was honest.

To all those calling me a coward And such names you’re the reason people like me can’t ckme out and express our opinion. Look at zayn malik, he came out and said he was not Muslim and the same people here calling me coward and a sham abused him as a person in the thread. It’s not a religion it’s a cult. Even in the West such people fear for their lives because of extremists and terrorists it’s world wide.

Me and my girlfriend are going to finish our degrees. She a doctor me a artificial Intell engineer. We are going to enjoy our time and settle into the work force. Then in summer 2020 get married, travel and live happily ever after.

I did say that you should go with your gut instinct rather than try to please parents on account of a religion you didn't believe in, but I am surprised you are being so abusive towards some members who are religious. You asked for advice and they gave it. What were you expecting coming on a Pakistani website where the members are predominantly Muslim?

 

[DeadBall]

I did say that you should go with your gut instinct rather than try to please parents on account of a religion you didn't believe in, but I am surprised you are being so abusive towards some members who are religious. You asked for advice and they gave it. What were you expecting coming on a Pakistani website where the members are predominantly Muslim?

Tbh didn't see much well intentioned advice but name calling (coward, etc), preaching, judging and threatening him with hellfire and what not as a last resort. Also they are the one who first started being abusive towards him.

 

[DeadBall]

Also @OP, My wife and I are from different religious backgrounds, Muslim and Christian Orthodox, I'm not religious and she is a bit. We celebrate Eid, Christmas etc with the families but without the praying etc part, it's basically just getting together to have a good time, it is more of a cultural thing rather than religious, and after all we do live in a society.

We also had a Muslim Nikkah and an Orthdox wedding mostly for my parents/family and hers, however that was mostly formality as those are just counted as religious ceremonies here and one has to legally marry in a court of civic center here.

Since you both aren't religious it won't really matter that much in your marriage but it is hard enough with it as it is. The real secret to a successful marriage is compromise which will be usually done by you, the man.

 

[Justcrazy]

Are we just going to assume a creator exists, and that too the creator you say out of all the millions of past creators?

Brother , this is not a thread discussing about existence of God. That OP is a Muslim , so I have replied considering that.

 

[Justcrazy]

Update

Spoken to her father and explained how much I love his daughter and I’d spend the rest of my life caring and loving her. Give her e rrything her heart desires and support all her dreams.

I told him I ain’t a religious person and I would never have her change her religion or beliefs ever. Nor would I force the children into Islam but would allow them to choose what they believe and focus on giving them an education.

He accepted! We are going to get married in 2020 after she finishes her medicine degree and I finish my computer science degree. We finish in 2019 but want to spend a year settling into the work force and our careers then get married with money saved up!

We are going too have two ceromonies, one Islamic for my side and one Hindu for her side. Then we are going to travel for a month as a honey moon! I’m so excited, thank toh all for your paorice advice and help it really helped a lot!

Too all the negative extremists, I hope one day you find love and peace that you so claim!

Its really surprising that you both are not religious , but still want to perform religious ceremonies .

 

[DeadBall]

Its really surprising that you both are not religious , but still want to perform religious ceremonies .

What's surprising. They're doing it for the families.

 

[Snak3eye5]

Its really surprising that you both are not religious , but still want to perform religious ceremonies .

It’s a celebration for the parents who still obviously want to see some sort of a ritualistic wedding whether the children believe in religion or not. What would you rather prefer, have the parents take both the kids to court and get a court registered marriage ? Throwing a wedding for both sides under both religions is the right thing in my mind and itÂ’s also a way to get families of the parents to come and see the groom/bride and to give their blessings. I guess this is all new for people that are outside the realities of life and living under a rock.

 

[TM Riddle]

Its really surprising that you both are not religious , but still want to perform religious ceremonies .

Nothing surprising about it. People do that all the time to please their elders.
It's what Desi culture is about. Keeping your parents happy.

 

[Slog]

I don’t want her to convert. I’m happy for her to stay Hindu.

Neither of us are religious at all. Just our families are. I’m going to see how things progress over the next year. If things get serious and I want to marry her, I’m gonna try to sit her father down and tell him how I feel and attempt to convince him.

damn things progressed super fast in a matter of days

but seems everyone got what they wanted so congrats!

 

[jaf348]

Its really surprising that you both are not religious , but still want to perform religious ceremonies .

It's more an act of formality to please everyone else. If both families were not religious then I am sure he and she would not bother with such weddings.

 

[PakLFC]

But the question is why convert, other when you can't convert for other why this hypocrisy, why can't accept him or her for who she or he is, she or he loved you not Allah, for her or him the partner matters not any religion and it should be vice versa.

Coz Islam does not see it that way. Of course Allah loves us more then 70 mothers do. As Quaid Jinnah said "Hindu's and Muslim's are two different people".

 

[Eagle_Eye]

It’s a celebration for the parents who still obviously want to see some sort of a ritualistic wedding whether the children believe in religion or not. What would you rather prefer, have the parents take both the kids to court and get a court registered marriage ? Throwing a wedding for both sides under both religions is the right thing in my mind and itÂ’s also a way to get families of the parents to come and see the groom/bride and to give their blessings. I guess this is all new for people that are outside the realities of life and living under a rock.

No this is symptomatic of a regressive mindset that forces people to go through such hypocritical scenarios, just to keep the family honour.

I cannot commentbon what you have to do in Hindu ceremony, but in Islamic wedding, you have to affirm that you are both Muslim.... it’s a very specific requirement... so bang right there, what a lie to start your married life with.

 

[Eagle_Eye]

damn things progressed super fast in a matter of days

but seems everyone got what they wanted so congrats!

Things move fast here... all that was needed was to show how rich you are

 

[Eagle_Eye]

Tbh didn't see much well intentioned advice but name calling (coward, etc), preaching, judging and threatening him with hellfire and what not as a last resort. Also they are the one who first started being abusive towards him.

I encouraged him to be a proud athiest and live it....

 

[DeadBall]

No this is symptomatic of a regressive mindset that forces people to go through such hypocritical scenarios, just to keep the family honour.

I cannot commentbon what you have to do in Hindu ceremony, but in Islamic wedding, you have to affirm that you are both Muslim.... it’s a very specific requirement... so bang right there, what a lie to start your married life with.

Heh Heh, why are you getting so bent out of shape for? It's his life and whatever he does he will have to bear the rewards or consequences. Who made you the thaykaydaar of Islam and marraige? He can start his married life however he wants.

 

[DeadBall]

I encouraged him to be a proud athiest and live it....

And he can do that as he sees fit, not everything is black and white in life, it doesn't have to confirm to your idea or narrative of it.

 

[Eagle_Eye]

Heh Heh, why are you getting so bent out of shape for? It's his life and whatever he does he will have to bear the rewards or consequences. Who made you the thaykaydaar of Islam and marraige? He can start his married life however he wants.

I am encouraging him to be his true self... an atheist. That clearly rules me out for being thaykedaar of Islam.

 

[DeadBall]

However @OP I don't know about Hindiusm but no orthodox Mullah will oversee a Nikah with a woman who is not from the Ahle-Kitaab (Christian, Jewish), so you may have to find a progressive Mullah for that or are you just going to do the traditional, cultural part like Mehndi, khaana peena etc.

 

[DeadBall]

I am encouraging him to be his true self... an atheist. That clearly rules me out for being thaykedaar of Islam.

As an anti theist I myself did the same to placate my family and wife, it was just reciting some verses and signing a piece of paper in the Muslim marriage case and about the same in the Christian marriage. Also had to do the same for the legal marriage in court. I am confident in my belief (or lack thereof) and everyone who knows me knows that since I was 22 years old. If it made a few people happy for a couple of days then I see no harm in it.

 

[pillionrider]

Sounds to me like some were not too happy about someone else finding a partner for themselves and being happy and excited. Covering up resentment with religion is an old trick

 

[Halaribo]

Sounds to me like some were not too happy about someone else finding a partner for themselves and being happy and excited. Covering up resentment with religion is an old trick

It's some random child asking for marriage advice on an internet forum dominated by people he thinks are idiots.

Deserves the ridicule.

 

[MenInG]

damn things progressed super fast in a matter of days

but seems everyone got what they wanted so congrats!

Very curious if the thread creator's timeline for this is a compressed one as I have never seen such matters resolve themselves so quickly!

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

Tbh didn't see much well intentioned advice but name calling (coward, etc), preaching, judging and threatening him with hellfire and what not as a last resort. Also they are the one who first started being abusive towards him.

The advice was well meaning if not to the OP's liking...doesn't mean anyone was insisting that he take it. There was nothing abusive in there until one poster starting lambasting others as using paindu logic and generally going off on one with regard to those posters in further posts. OP was asking about possibilities of converting to Hinduism and being advised on this by Hindu members which he was delighted with. Nothing wrong with any of this by the way, but just to provide some context as to the patience of our members who are after all predominantly Muslim here. The cowardly comment was by a poster who said that he didn't agree with the OP going along with sham ceremonies. Not exactly the same thing as calling someone a coward, I think you took that out of context.

 

[Donal Cozzie]

You've been romantically involved a few weeks and already talking about marriage.

***. Takes at least 12 months of living together to know if that'll work, here ye are rushing into it after about two months

Anyway, the man you need is, as always, [MENTION=134809]sensible-indian-fan[/MENTION]

 

[Donal Cozzie]

OK read up through the thread and see he's now waiting, disregard my above post.

 

[KingKhanWC]

Basically bro what he is saying is that while he isn't a believer; his and the girls parents are so it presented an obstacle to faciliate this relation. But he spoke to the girls dad now and they are cool with it and to keep the peace there will be an Islamic ceremony from his side and a Hindu one from the girls. This way both can be together also whilst respectiving the views of both parties and not seriously damaging relations, then when married do their own thing.

It's just a good fairy tale story in order to take digs at religions. The parents were very opposed but a quick chat and they are shopping for hats, doesn't happen in the real world.

 

[Saeed]

It's just a good fairy tale story in order to take digs at religions. The parents were very opposed but a quick chat and they are shopping for hats, doesn't happen in the real world.

True, need pics or this thing never happened. Sounds more like a Bollywood movie.

 

[Slog]

It's just a good fairy tale story in order to take digs at religions. The parents were very opposed but a quick chat and they are shopping for hats, doesn't happen in the real world.

haha dont normally agree with you on much but youve got this one right...

its actually pretty hilarious to be honest

 

[MenInG]

haha dont normally agree with you on much but youve got this one right...

its actually pretty hilarious to be honest

Yes the 3 hour Bollywood blockbuster type story.

 

[Slog]

Starts off nice but immediate unprovoked attack on Islam.

Clarification.my family is religious I ain’t. I hardly even believe in god. When it comes to life decisions I don’t ever look to a book written 1400 hundred years ago, but to logic and reasoning.

For all intents and purposes I’m agnostic/atheist.

Progression:

People like you make Islam sound like a scary and unforgiving war like religion of death. The love and peace you claim is all fake. I hope you find love in your heart one day.

Hmm. Interesting how this post and thought has literally nothing to do with the discussion but is still snuck in there:

Are we just going to assume a creator exists, and that too the creator you say out of all the millions of past creators?

Extra LOLs for this one:

It’s what believers of abrahamic religions resort to. It’s one of the things I kinda like about religions like Hinduism and Sikhism. Seems like true peace and tranquility.

And the cherry on top of the cake:

To all those calling me a coward And such names you’re the reason people like me can’t ckme out and express our opinion. Look at zayn malik, he came out and said he was not Muslim and the same people here calling me coward and a sham abused him as a person in the thread. It’s not a religion it’s a cult. Even in the West such people fear for their lives because of extremists and terrorists it’s world wide.

Next time make it less obvious. And while the Bollywood ending was pretty funny please do make it more realistic. Audiences now want some realism

 

[PakLFC]

What? People in the west fear Muslim's who marry in to their own faith encouraging other believers to do the same!!!

 

[TM Riddle]

Starts off nice but immediate unprovoked attack on Islam.



Progression:


Hmm. Interesting how this post and thought has literally nothing to do with the discussion but is still snuck in there:


Extra LOLs for this one:


And the cherry on top of the cake:




Next time make it less obvious. And while the Bollywood ending was pretty funny please do make it more realistic. Audiences now want some realism

I called it out pretty early. No way the British Pakistanis are stud enough to convince the parents of a girl of Dharmic religion so quick. That too when she has roots in a rival enemy country.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

I called it out pretty early. No way the British Pakistanis are stud enough to convince the parents of a girl of Dharmic religion so quick. That too when she has roots in a rival enemy country.

Indian girls love British Pakistani boys, or at least they used to. Why do you think the love jihad campaign was first launched in Britain by Indian parents, tired of losing their daughters to the 'enemy'? The recent media campaign following the grooming scandal might have changed perceptions though, so there is a chink of light at the end of the tunnel. They'll probably switch to Christians now.

 

[TM Riddle]

Indian girls love British Pakistani boys, or at least they used to. Why do you think the love jihad campaign was first launched in Britain by Indian parents, tired of losing their daughters to the 'enemy'? The recent media campaign following the grooming scandal might have changed perceptions though, so there is a chink of light at the end of the tunnel. They'll probably switch to Christians now.

I can understand the fascination since Indian girls tend to be liberal and rebellious types and who better to go out with than your hood wearing, short haired muscular British Pakistanis.

We need a local Bajrang Dal branch in Bradford asap.

 

[enkidu_]

Indian girls love British Pakistani boys, or at least they used to. Why do you think the love jihad campaign was first launched in Britain by Indian parents, tired of losing their daughters to the 'enemy'? The recent media campaign following the grooming scandal might have changed perceptions though, so there is a chink of light at the end of the tunnel. They'll probably switch to Christians now.

They shall be converted at least otherwise it’s love yudh for Akhand Bharat (considering the next generations will be Hinduised).

 

[Justcrazy]

It's more an act of formality to please everyone else. If both families were not religious then I am sure he and she would not bother with such weddings.

Yes , you are right .

But its surprising that you doing something you do not believe in , just to please others.

 

[Justcrazy]

It’s a celebration for the parents who still obviously want to see some sort of a ritualistic wedding whether the children believe in religion or not. What would you rather prefer, have the parents take both the kids to court and get a court registered marriage ? Throwing a wedding for both sides under both religions is the right thing in my mind and itÂ’s also a way to get families of the parents to come and see the groom/bride and to give their blessings. I guess this is all new for people that are outside the realities of life and living under a rock.

They do not believe in blessings .

 

[Stewie]

Honestly speaking...... this is selfish stuff.. i know most will disagree with me but the institution of marriage in our culture is not just about you .. its about your family and kids.. something like this ends up hurting a lot of people.. what about the future kids? They will be pariahs in the family..

This sort of stuff works when you have an extremely progressive family... which most pakistani families are not!