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Number of men being forced into marriage reaches seven-year high in the UK

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https://news.sky.com/story/number-of-men-being-forced-into-marriage-reaches-seven-year-high-11727985

The number of forced marriage cases dealt with by a specialist British unit tackling the issue leapt to a record high last year.

The new figures released by the Forced Marriage Unit reveal they dealt with 1,764 cases in 2018, a jump of 47% from the year before.

Forced marriages are commonly associated with vulnerable young women suffering at the hands of domineering male relatives, but the statistics show it is a significant problem in Britain for young males too.

These new figures also showed a rise in the number of male victims to total of 297, the highest number reported in seven years.

And while most cases in 2018 involved a UK citizen being taken to a foreign country or marrying a foreign national, 7% of the latest cases were entirely domestic based.

Sky News spoke to several young men who have either been forced into marriage, or have witnessed it first-hand.

Imran told Sky News that he received death threats from his family when he didn't want to marry his first cousin, but at the age of 17 he was forced into it by his parents who blackmailed and pressured him.

He said: "My mum said we're going to take you to Pakistan for a holiday…and I went innocently thinking it was a holiday. Two weeks later they basically said to me we're going to set you a date…your wedding date.

"I cried my eyes out. I said mum why you doing this to me, I'm begging you don't do this to me. And they said well if you don't do it, your grandmother's hidden your passports and you won't be going back to the UK."

He added: "I was getting married to a woman I didn't even know, I didn't even know what she looked like at the time.

"I was absolutely devastated. From being in an innocent idyllic life to having that thrown on you was the biggest shock of my life. I literally broke down."

Imran is now divorced after years away from his family and the woman he was forced to marry, but he has been left with the emotional scars of his past.

He said: "I'd probably be a doctor, I'd be in the medical profession because I was predicted straight As and had a place at Manchester University to do dentistry, medicine, and I was never able to fulfil my potential."

"When I came back in between the first and second year of my A-levels, I was an emotional wreck. I just went off the rails, I just wanted to escape it. From predicted straight As, I went on to fail my A-levels twice, and then I just did the first university course I could to get away from that situation."

While the majority of forced marriage cases in the UK come from a South Asian background, the new statistics show an increase of people from a Romanian background reporting the crime.

The country with the highest number of cases of forced marriage was Pakistan with 769, or 44% of the total, followed by Bangladesh with 157 cases.

There are many reasons behind why it happens - there's a protection of perceived cultural and religious beliefs that parents hold, and in many cases a child will be promised to someone from a young age. Breaking that promise between families is seen as a 'dishonourable' act.

Azam, 27, ran away from home after he witnessed his older brother beaten up, abused, and forced to marry a woman he didn't want to wed.

He told Sky News: "When he said no, my dad went mental - he went crazy, he said that's my friend's daughter.

"You need to marry her. You're going to cause shame on the family.

"There was punching and kicks everywhere - you could hear the shouting every night, he was just never happy, but he had to do what he had to do."

Discussing his reasons for running away, Azam added: "I didn't want it to happen, I just knew in the back of my mind something like this would happen one day. But it would have been a no from me. I don't care how many kicks or punches I got I would still say no. But I wouldn't know if it turned into anything more violent."

Forced marriages have only been criminalised since 2014, and while men are now beginning to find their voices, campaigners insist the real proportion of male cases are much higher.

Natasha Rattu, the executive director of charity Karma Nirvana, said she hears from victims of honour-based abuse and forced marriages almost every day.

In a statement, the minister for Crime, Safeguarding and Vulnerability, Victoria Atkins, said forced marriages were an "abhorrent crime", and could "mark the start of years of abuse".

She said: "In 2018, the Forced Marriage Unit provided support to more victims than ever before. We will continue to raise awareness of forced marriage so that all those affected by it know where they can go for support."
 
The country with the highest number of cases of forced marriage was Pakistan with 769, or 44% of the total, followed by Bangladesh with 157 cases.

Brit Paks making Pakistan Proud again. Great progress being made while living among the people in the first World.
 
I said this years ago that it was sexist to focus only on women being forced into arranged marriages, boys are often pressurised too, good that they are finally acknowledging it.
 
I bet most of these forced marriages cases would be predominantly among the Mirpuris who are still big into marrying someone into their clan back home.
 
Brit Paks making Pakistan Proud again. Great progress being made while living among the people in the first World.

The british Pakistanis who force the marriage (parents) were born in Pakistan. It is unfair to blame it on to the British Pakistanis as the parents mentality is very desi. British Pakistanis are the victims here.
 
I am surprised the numbers are going up, you would think as the community becomes more mature in Britain they would drop off. Although the report does mention Romanian and Bangladeshis may have boosted the numbers.
 
I bet most of these forced marriages cases would be predominantly among the Mirpuris who are still big into marrying someone into their clan back home.

Yes it is certainly mostly Mirpuris. The sad truth is they've given Pakistanis in the UK a bad name with all the grooming, drug dealing, fanatics and etc.
 
Yes it is certainly mostly Mirpuris. The sad truth is they've given Pakistanis in the UK a bad name with all the grooming, drug dealing, fanatics and etc.

Were you hurt by a Mirpuri? This sounds like you have personal hate for them because what you have mentioned is found in all communities, ethnicities and races.

Btw Im not Mirpuri.
 
We are top of another shameful list again. Let us not say "South Asian" but mostly us Pakistanis have this problem. We still don't allow people to choose their own partners. Sadly within the Pak community it is indeed mostly within the Mirpur community no doubt about it at all. These people give all Pak's a bad name.
 
Were you hurt by a Mirpuri? This sounds like you have personal hate for them because what you have mentioned is found in all communities, ethnicities and races.

Btw Im not Mirpuri.

Lol funny you make this outlandish claims exclusively about me when there are 2 other posters (see posts 4 and 10) who've said the same thing. Does that mean we all hate Mirpuris? Also nice one bringing up Southall earlier. I stay well away from there!

I have many Mirpuri friends myself actually and funnily enough most of them share the same sentiments as me about their own community. In relation to the topic, I will give a recent example of this about a close Mirpuri friend of mine, who was a graduate at the same university I studied. He was forced to marry his cousin from back home. It literally tore him apart, so I am not making sweeping generalisations out of thin air and on that note I would suggest making a meaningful contribution to this thread because it's a very serious and sensitive issue that is plaguing the Mirpuri community in particular, rather than trying to score points as per usual.
 
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Lol funny you make this outlandish claims exclusively about me when there are 2 other posters (see posts 4 and 10) who've said the same thing. Does that mean we all hate Mirpuris? Also nice one bringing up Southall earlier. I stay well away from there!

I have many Mirpuri friends myself actually and funnily enough most of them share the same sentiments as me about their own community. In relation to the topic, I will give a recent example of this about a close Mirpuri friend of mine, who was a graduate at the same university I studied. He was forced to marry his cousin from back home. It literally tore him apart, so I am not making sweeping generalisations out of thin air and on that note I would suggest making a meaningful contribution to this thread because it's a very serious and sensitive issue that is plaguing the Mirpuri community in particular, rather than trying to score points as per usual.

So you have a friend line lol.

You have shown nothing to suggest this is only a Mirpuri problem or majority of Mirpuris are forced to marry. I think its best to leave out communties and discuss the issue in general.
 
It is funny how people are singling out Mirpuris when in reality all ethnicities in Pakistan have parents choosing the life partner for their children. Now most of the time it isn't as tyrannical as the cases mentioned in OP but parents remain an authority and their permission highly important when it comes to marriage.
 
So you have a friend line lol.

You have shown nothing to suggest this is only a Mirpuri problem or majority of Mirpuris are forced to marry. I think its best to leave out communties and discuss the issue in general.

Yes lets assume the worst and I made it up. Obviously this common practice from me, especially during Ramadhan :)

Okay no worries, lets put communities aside, so what's your take on the matter?
 
Yes lets assume the worst and I made it up. Obviously this common practice from me, especially during Ramadhan :)

Okay no worries, lets put communities aside, so what's your take on the matter?

We have a law in the UK where a parent now will be prosecuted for forcing their child into marriage. I believe there are a few cases where the parent(s) have been prosecuted. I dont believe a parent has any right to force their child to marry anyone against their will. However we need to keep in mind, many parents have pressured their children into marriage and after marriage their child has become happy in his/her new life. Every situation is different.
 
how can u force marry a man, like just say no.

desi parents never disown sons.
 
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