What have been some of your life's unpleasant experiences?

[mominsaigol]

In the UK, we have a computer test (theory test) and then a practical driving test.

Driving test in Canada seems harder than the one in UK.

Yeah. More bureaucracy/red tapes in Canada.

My cousin recently got married and moved to Canada.

She failed her driving test

 

[psyoptica]

My cousin recently got married and moved to Canada.

She failed her driving test

Depends where in Canada. I have seen test centers run by indians who will pass anyone with atrocious driving skills. Brampton is one example.

 

[sweep_shot]

My cousin recently got married and moved to Canada.

She failed her driving test

I see.

Did she give the test in Toronto (or another major city)? It is generally harder to pass in big cities because roads are super-busy.

One strategy for passing is to give the test outside of big cities. I gave my test in a small city called Peterborough. It is easier there and I passed.

 

[mominsaigol]

Depends where in Canada. I have seen test centers run by indians who will pass anyone with atrocious driving skills. Brampton is one example.

I see.

Did she give the test in Toronto (or another major city)? It is generally harder to pass in big cities because roads are super-busy.

One strategy for passing is to give the test outside of big cities. I gave my test in a small city called Peterborough. It is easier there and I passed.

In Toronto yes. Or I assume so, her husband lived in Toronto before marriage and currently she is on a spouse visa but will eventually transition to a passport. They married recently like 5 months ago.

So I assume their still in Toronto

 

[sweep_shot]

Being broke and starving. Being dumped by someone i thought i was gonna marry.

I have come a long way.

In year 2017, I was close to personal bankruptcy. I had a student loan of $55K, credit card loan of $11.5K, car loan of $10.5K, and around $6K of other loans. I was contempleting bankruptcy.

However, I managed to clear all of my debts by 2023 by the grace of Allah (SWT). I have been debt-free since January of 2023.

I also got rejected by my high school crush. I was attracted to her for 6-8 years. At that time, I wasn't very religious. Anyway, the rejection doesn't hurt me anymore because I have become religious and she doesn't wear any hijab. I am not sure if she prays 5 times; if the lady doesn't pray, I don't want her.

Death of my grandmother and grandfather who i was deeply attached to. I fell into a depression and took me a while to recover.

I experienced this.

While I wasn't depressed like you, I felt bad and I regularly pray for my deceased paternal grandparents. Probably the only 2 relatives who I genuinely care about.

 

[LordJames]

there is a great book called Barakah effect where the main point is to attain barakah rather than aim for salary, ( of course salary is important) but basically a job can be a form of worship when approached with the right intentions and mindset. Striving to do the best for your employer will give you barakah

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[sweep_shot]

I want to share another unpleasant experience.

I know this one Bangladeshi auntie in Toronto. She runs an organization. She once asked for some clerical help. So, I helped.

Since then, she has been constantly asking me to do similar clerical things for her organization. LOL. Very annoying.

I asked her to give me a professional reference. She refused.

In hindsight, I shouldn't have offered to help. I ended up doing many hours of free work. She even doesn't want to give me a reference.

I don't think I will be helping another middle-aged Bangladeshi auntie again.

 

[BouncerGuy]

I want to share another unpleasant experience.

I know this one Bangladeshi auntie in Toronto. She runs an organization. She once asked for some clerical help. So, I helped.

Since then, she has been constantly asking me to do similar clerical things for her organization. LOL. Very annoying.

I asked her to give me a professional reference. She refused.

In hindsight, I shouldn't have offered to help. I ended up doing many hours of free work. She even doesn't want to give me a reference.

I don't think I will be helping another middle-aged Bangladeshi auntie again.

These freeloaders should be dealt with some anger... Pathetic stuff

 

[sweep_shot]

These freeloaders should be dealt with some anger... Pathetic stuff

Agree.

Nobody should work for free. Time is very valuable.

There has to be payment or something in return (for example, a recommendation letter or a reference).

Some people are very entitled I guess.

 

[BouncerGuy]

Agree.

Nobody should work for free. Time is very valuable.

There has to be payment or something in return (for example, a recommendation letter or a reference).

Some people are very entitled I guess.

yes... letter of recommendation is the least they can do..