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UP said:
The death of my mother troubles me a lot, everyday. I really want to bring her out of the ground if I had my way. Quite often I see her in my dreams. Every minute she is in my mind.
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May Allah grant your mother Jannah and guide you through this tough time brother.
 
That shes gone and i won't talk to her again.

UP, same situation, may Allah grant her a place in jannah.
 
Mo_Ahmed84 said:
That shes gone and i won't talk to her again.

UP, same situation, may Allah grant her a place in jannah.
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I cant imagine the situation in which you are both in. I just wish you all the very best and Just be Strong. It can't get worse than this and things will improve surely.
 
Saqs said:
The depth of the post blew me away.
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I wish I could go back to being superficial and happy. Maybe that is what growing up is, the moment when you gain the ability to look back as much as you look forward. That is the essential difference between melancolia and nostalgia.
The first is a temporary state which will come to pass while the second, the longing for where you belong, where your happiness resides, is the dark fatality of our condition. To paraphrase Kundera, childhood bliss is the time where we had no biographies. We are all perpetually looking for home, never realizing that Odysseus only echoes through time because Homer couldn't find his Ithaca.

Anyways, what is really bothering me right now is effin pollen. That is the true bane of our existence, not the longing for home.
 
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endymion, I was also searching for the meaning of life..wanted to do something great. wouldn't settle for anything mediocre. but i kept on failing and lost all faith in myself. lost my will to live. then one day i decided, this is no life. i burnt my past, snapped all ties, and chose materialistic comfort and success. now, my only motivation is to earn more money and enjoy the material pleasures this world offers. i have found peace in hedonism.
 
CricketCartoons said:
endymion, I was also searching for the meaning of life..wanted to do something great. wouldn't settle for anything mediocre. but i kept on failing and lost all faith in myself. lost my will to live. then one day i decided, this is no life. i burnt my past, snapped all ties, and chose materialistic comfort and success. now, my only motivation is to earn more money and enjoy the material pleasures this world offers. i have found peace in hedonism.
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No offence but when i first read that. I thought you were searching on google.
 
endymion248 said:
The fact that I don't know what is bothering me. Why has my life come to a stand-still in the past year or so despite the fact that there was no catastrophic event in it. I smiled through doubts, questions, death of my loved ones and my own exposition to a deadly disease, yet I haven't laughed in months for no reason other than because I don't feel like laughing. Everything that has ever given me pleasure seems dull and pointless. I can't even remember the last time I ate without being hungry, woke up without being tired or thought without smog covering my mind. Life seems pointless and time will pass no matter how many of my dreams I have atteined, leaving me unsatisfied with paths I have chosen in life. As Galois said, it takes courage to die at 20. That is because the only people who are calm when facing death are those who have survived longer than they have lived. Yet I have gone through enough usure that I could die at 20 without being anymore courageous than the old man who has not had the taste of life for a generation. We all come from the intemporal and to the intemporal we shall return, why has this indifference draped my mind?
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You are simply being honest to a fault. Reminds me of the "The Stranger" by Albert Camus. His downfall is his inability to feign sorrow, regret or empathy simply because he chooses to live the truth.
 
endymion248 said:
The fact that I don't know what is bothering me. Why has my life come to a stand-still in the past year or so despite the fact that there was no catastrophic event in it. I smiled through doubts, questions, death of my loved ones and my own exposition to a deadly disease, yet I haven't laughed in months for no reason other than because I don't feel like laughing. Everything that has ever given me pleasure seems dull and pointless. I can't even remember the last time I ate without being hungry, woke up without being tired or thought without smog covering my mind. Life seems pointless and time will pass no matter how many of my dreams I have atteined, leaving me unsatisfied with paths I have chosen in life. As Galois said, it takes courage to die at 20. That is because the only people who are calm when facing death are those who have survived longer than they have lived. Yet I have gone through enough usure that I could die at 20 without being anymore courageous than the old man who has not had the taste of life for a generation. We all come from the intemporal and to the intemporal we shall return, why has this indifference draped my mind?
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:| That's very saddening, Have you lost faith/hope or something or just general post?
 
Finding the right smileys for what you have to say. Its annoying when you don't memorize the smileys you wanna use. Going through that list can be a drag.
 
my room's tv has broken down and i thing its time to buy a new one wadda timing by the Tv just a day before WC :14:
 
CricketCartoons said:
endymion, I was also searching for the meaning of life..wanted to do something great. wouldn't settle for anything mediocre. but i kept on failing and lost all faith in myself. lost my will to live. then one day i decided, this is no life. i burnt my past, snapped all ties, and chose materialistic comfort and success. now, my only motivation is to earn more money and enjoy the material pleasures this world offers. i have found peace in hedonism.
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While I appreciate your advice, I cannot adopt it. There is too much wisdom in the criticism of hedonism by people such as Marcus Aurelius to ignore it. Hedonism is the externalisation of a personal problem, which means that peace found through pleasures and materialism is a castle of cards ready to come crashing down under circumstances independent of your control.

saadibaba said:
You are simply being honest to a fault. Reminds me of the "The Stranger" by Albert Camus. His downfall is his inability to feign sorrow, regret or empathy simply because he chooses to live the truth.
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It's very strange, someone said the same thing to me last week, almost word to word. I have always seen ''The Plague'' and ''Journey to the end of night'' as inspirations for meaning (maybe because of the pessimist doctors in them) but there is something decidedly comforting about the indifference and the absurdity displayed in the Stranger. It's hard to caracterize but the moment your truly stop caring about anything is the moment you can really start to take control of where your life is going.

hz said:
:| That's very saddening, Have you lost faith/hope or something or just general post?
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These are just general thoughts I have been entertaining for a while but I always managed to brush them away with delusions. Almost two years ago, I went through a difficult period in my life which, without getting in the details, is linked to a grave STD (although, in my case, it would be ''transmitted through medically helping somebody for free''). That was also a period where I saw a lot of cancer patients (some who were going to die) when I had not seen anybody die in my 17 years of life. I managed to keep it under control until about a year ago (the period I became active on PP) when I was hit by depression, which lead me to paranoia, bad decision-making and stopping the medical follow-up for the STD. I guess my last post was more about not knowing why I am depressed or why I have been entertaining this ''hopeless'' thoughts, as you say. The STD part is more about the context of why I am thinking so much about death and my indifference towards what is happening, when I should be extremely worried about what I have done. The worst part about it is that I can't confide about it to anyone because I have been lying to friends and family. If I were to do something to myself, they would say ''I can't understand it, he was successful at school, happy in his skin and popular, why?''. Neither can I tell it the truth to my therapist who is my gate to getting back into medical school so I can't tell him the truth that I don't why I dropped out. Which is why I have hijacked this thread even though none of you neither want nor are qualified to deal with this and it is completely unfair from me to expect anything.
 
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It doesn't matter if anyone of us will be able to help you or not but I think it helps getting some of these feelings out in writing. We all have our share of burdens to bear, some more than others. Obviously, I can't even pretend to understand the gravity of your situation to offer any words of advice or even solace but all I can tell you from my experience is that there is no easy way out from these feelings. In my case, time was the best healer. You have to wait and take each day at a time till your emotional wounds become a scar. It can be a rough ride but believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel. Life has a lot to offer and circumstances do have a tendency to change and get better with time plus we just learns how to cope with life. I, strange as it may seem, can predict that you will get through this period and will come out of it even stronger.
 
saadibaba said:
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It doesn't matter if anyone of us will be able to help you or not but I think it helps getting some of these feelings out in writing. We all have our share of burdens to bear, some more than others. Obviously, I can't even pretend to understand the gravity of your situation to offer any words of advice or even solace but all I can tell you from my experience is that there is no easy way out from these feelings. In my case, time was the best healer. You have to wait and take each day at a time till your emotional wounds become a scar. It can be a rough ride but believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel. Life has a lot to offer and circumstances do have a tendency to change and get better with time plus we just learns how to cope with life. I, strange as it may seem, can predict that you will get through this period and will come out of it even stronger.
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Thanks for the kind of words and it does feel good to hear someone else's perspective. However, and this is going to sound very privileged, the essence of my problem is that I don't have a wound that can become a scar. My burden is one that all men share, yet it has been crippling my life because I can't find the strength to bear it. The nostos is a fatality for all of us and it is a cruel joke that natural selection has played on us: optimizing our ability to escape death by making us aware of it. I just can't bring myself to laugh at the irony of it like others can.
 
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endymion248 said:
Thanks for the kind of words and it does feel good to hear someone else's perspective. However, and this is going to sound very privileged, the essence of my problem is that I don't have a wound that can become a scar. My burden is one that all men share, yet it has been crippling my life because I can't find the strength to bear it. The nostos is a fatality for all of us and it is a cruel joke that natural selection has played on us: optimizing our ability to escape death by making us aware of it. I just can't bring myself to laugh at the irony of it like others can.
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Don't mean to be all psychoanalytic here but you did mention something happening 2 years back, health scare and seeing death from close. Both could have been potential triggers of the condition you are in right now. If you can somehow be able to reconcile with those issues maybe it will help you overall. Again, just trying to help here.
 
I've made too many Jinn posts today, and I have to work tonight (or pretend to work and post on the Urdu thread instead). It will be uncomfortable.
 
I have a meeting with the assistant director tomorrow for a committee I voluntarily signed up for thinking it'll be made up of peers at my level and hence will be some fun away from work. And I have prepared jack for it.


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I get tired too easily these days. Perpetual exhaustion. I wake up feeling tired.

Right now, I wish someone would massage my shoulders, particularly the point where my neck connects to the shoulders and back (this is coming from someone who has never allowed even her mother to massage her head..)

This can't mean well.
 
blinding light said:
I get tired too easily these days. Perpetual exhaustion. I wake up feeling tired.

Right now, I wish someone would massage my shoulders, particularly the point where my neck connects to the shoulders and back (this is coming from someone who has never allowed even her mother to massage her head..)

This can't mean well.
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Are you living in a furnished apartment? The mattresses they provide are often the cause of these symptoms.
 
Nostalgic said:
Try one of those memory foam toppers. Far, far cheaper than buying an actual mattress. Takes some getting used to, but I had the same symptoms, and it really helped.
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I'll try and get them when I get free (after 2 weeks), but I'm familiar with this kind of tiredness, Nostalgic bhai.

It's either (1) due to my iron and vit D deficiency (I'm very lazy at taking my supplements on time), or
(2) The fact that I've been studying non-stop since May last year. I now understand why we have 3 month vacations.. [wonder if that's a valid excuse, since people work 24x7]
 
blinding light said:
I'll try and get them when I get free (after 2 weeks), but I'm familiar with this kind of tiredness, Nostalgic bhai.

It's either (1) due to my iron and vit D deficiency (I'm very lazy at taking my supplements on time), or
(2) The fact that I've been studying non-stop since May last year. I now understand why we have 3 month vacations.. [wonder if that's a valid excuse, since people work 24x7]
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Actually once you have kids, work is the vacation, so it isn't so bad. Three months at home would have us working stiffs scurrying back to the office.
 
Nostalgic said:
Actually once you have kids, work is the vacation, so it isn't so bad. Three months at home would have us working stiffs scurrying back to the office.
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:))

Surely it can't be that bad!! Imagine what poor mothers/wives have to go through!
 
Working as a team on a project for a while. One of the members had the gall to take credit for what I did in front of the project manager, today. Makes my blood boil. I have seldom worked in team. But how often does that happen and how do you deal with it?
 
zane_ said:
Working as a team on a project for a while. One of the members had the gall to take credit for what I did in front of the project manager, today. Makes my blood boil. I have seldom worked in team. But how often does that happen and how do you deal with it?
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Happens all the time when team members are insecure. Beat 'em to the punch. Proclaim your ideas and your successes from the rooftops. Subtly of course. There are ways to do that. Send out emails asking intelligent questions or hinting at landmarks that leave no doubt regarding what you've achieved, giving the other members no chance to claim them for themselves.
 
96NotOut said:
Okay, thanks for the input. :facepalm:
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No worries. If you ever need a tissue you can buy one at the store. Normally that store is full of heart broken fans. Hey who knows on the bright side you may find a person like you there. :narine
 
One of the worst things about being a beginner in Cricket is to find the right cricket club to play in. It's really frustrating to have to wait weeks and weeks to train in the nets. The guy I contacted has delayed it each time, I have asked him for a update. If I don't get proper training then how will I know if I will be good in cricket or not?

Stuff like this can be very bother some and frustrating. But luckily I am not out of options yet. I will find me another club and take my chances there.

P.S. Sorry for the rant. Just felt this was right place to let my frustration out.
 
Zohaib Shah said:
No worries. If you ever need a tissue you can buy one at the store. Normally that store is full of heart broken fans. Hey who knows on the bright side you may find a person like you there. :narine
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No, I don't think I'll need a tissue. Thanks again. :110:
 
zane_ said:
Working as a team on a project for a while. One of the members had the gall to take credit for what I did in front of the project manager, today. Makes my blood boil. I have seldom worked in team. But how often does that happen and how do you deal with it?
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Lol you should make it clear, who did what work, I never let anyone take praise for my work.
 
Lack of sleep and rest as a whole over the past week.

I've only slept for about 4.5 hours each night for 5 days thanks to exams, the WC and other events. :facepalm:
 
Pain in the brachialis of my left arm due to squeezing it too hard during biceps curls.
 
Ate ice cream (3 scoops) after more than 8 months. Now, I'm regretting. Need to burn some calories.
 
Have to watch The Fault in our Stars with my girlfriend. I am getting palpitations just thinking about it. :po:
 
Haroon786 said:
Pain in the brachialis of my left arm due to squeezing it too hard during biceps curls.
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I have tennis elbow :/ (inclined press with 24kg dumbbells and apparently my technique sucks -> my left elbow is in pain!!)
 
My legs are still killing me. But since I am awake they are killing me more. Its a pain to stay awake at times!
 
The fact that Liverpool have been getting Penalties all season and Gerrard didn't get a Penalty :livid: (And Fred got one in the first match :facepalm: )
 
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The after taste of coffee in my mouth. I suck at making myself a drinkable cup at office :facepalm:
 
lilFlip said:
I have tennis elbow :/ (inclined press with 24kg dumbbells and apparently my technique sucks -> my left elbow is in pain!!)
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Unless you do incline press specifically for your arm condition, I would suggest doing all your compund lifts with a barbell.
 
Lack of sleep, coupled with the consequent loss of concentration-abilities.

Oh and yes - I've to clean my apartment too.
 
Haroon786 said:
Unless you do incline press specifically for your arm condition, I would suggest doing all your compund lifts with a barbell.
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Its second week now, I've stopped working out. I only play basketball on weekends (And I try to stay out of post area)

I hope until next week I am 100% healthy, Insha'Allah
 
Ive been busy in one way or the other for the past 5 years now. Even during summer vacations was always doing sth. Frankly I am burned out and need a break. Dont wanna go on vacation. Just want a week where I can do nothing!
 
Also the the six pack (or hints of it) I got due to working out religiously 5 times a week for a whole year have already started to go away now that Ive been off te regimen for barely more than a month.
 
KarachiKing said:
Also the the six pack (or hints of it) I got due to working out religiously 5 times a week for a whole year have already started to go away now that Ive been off te regimen for barely more than a month.
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Take a week or two off. Go up the mountains. Try Idaho, Colorado, or Utah.

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