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Donal Cozzie said:
[MENTION=137485]Dios[/MENTION] man there is no harm in adding here in facebook IMO, I posted something on a cricinfo page and got 50 Bangladeshi friend requests once :))

Besides Facebook is used to see what every single person you've ever met does/is doing, I dont think it'd be that awkward to send a friend request, if she asks just tell her she appeared in the "people you may know" section
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doubt anyone will ever ask

at most she will ignore the request
 
Dios said:
Thanks for the advice brother. I am useless at flirting especially when it's a girl I really really like. Hence conversations were limited to 'hi-hello' and 'did you do the assignment'. She's very popular as well and always with friends so it was almost impossible to get her alone and start a lengthy conversation. Once we were on the same bus back to uni and didn't find out until after we got off. Looking back that was the golden opportunity - if we had found out at the start that both of us were on the same bus, we would have been sitting next to each other for three hours. I think that was God cruelly punishing me for leaving religion. Now it's too late. As I said, my circumstances have changed and I'm not at university this year. I don't have her as a friend on facebook and think it'll be weird adding her since we've only spoken three or four times and that too very briefly and we don't really have that many mutual friends. I just hope I get someone else like her.
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Falling for one of these popular types can be sheer torture. Because of our South Asian cultural instincts, we are possessive. Needless to say, if the object of desire is popular, that just adds up to heartache. That's why there's an entire genre of poetry addressed to the raqeeb.

So, just going by what you've said, you have two opportunities: one, the mystique you can cultivate due to not having talked to her, and two, the sob story you can concoct because of the change in circumstances and not being in University this year.

Even if you don't add her on Facebook, do something on Facebook that elicits responses from her friends. She'll see that in her feed. Take it from there. The sky's the limit.
 
Thanks for the advice guys. It was really therapeutic getting all that off my chest. If I ever come face to face with her again I'll strike up a proper conversation (won't profess my love or anything) and then take it from there. The thing about adding her on fb now is that our interactions so far have been really awkward and brief even though we saw each other all the time. I tried playing the cool aloof strong-silent type guy and might have even come across as a bit rude which is not at all how I am in real life but that's how I instinctively act around girls that I find attractive. If I add her now she might think why is this weirdo adding me on fb when he never made an attempt to talk to me properly. Let's just hope fate gives me another chance. If not then I think I'll eventually learn to live with it.
 
Dios said:
Thanks for the advice guys. It was really therapeutic getting all that off my chest. If I ever come face to face with her again I'll strike up a proper conversation (won't profess my love or anything) and then take it from there. The thing about adding her on fb now is that our interactions so far have been really awkward and brief even though we saw each other all the time. I tried playing the cool aloof strong-silent type guy and might have even come across as a bit rude which is not at all how I am in real life but that's how I instinctively act around girls that I find attractive. If I add her now she might think why is this weirdo adding me on fb when he never made an attempt to talk to me properly. Let's just hope fate gives me another chance. If not then I think I'll eventually learn to live with it.
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youll forget abt it. plenty of fish in the sea

and don't delude yourself into thinking that she is the one or nonsense like that

you barely know her.
 
Nostalgic said:
Falling for one of these popular types can be sheer torture. Because of our South Asian cultural instincts, we are possessive. Needless to say, if the object of desire is popular, that just adds up to heartache. That's why there's an entire genre of poetry addressed to the raqeeb.

So, just going by what you've said, you have two opportunities: one, the mystique you can cultivate due to not having talked to her, and two, the sob story you can concoct because of the change in circumstances and not being in University this year.

Even if you don't add her on Facebook, do something on Facebook that elicits responses from her friends. She'll see that in her feed. Take it from there. The sky's the limit.
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When I described her as popular I didn't mean she's the 'Mean Girls' popular type. She is a sweet innocent bubbly girl with a lot of friends mostly female. That's one of the things that stopped things from developing. She has so many friends that she doesn't really have time for a relationship.
 
Dios said:
Thanks for the advice guys. It was really therapeutic getting all that off my chest. If I ever come face to face with her again I'll strike up a proper conversation (won't profess my love or anything) and then take it from there. The thing about adding her on fb now is that our interactions so far have been really awkward and brief even though we saw each other all the time. I tried playing the cool aloof strong-silent type guy and might have even come across as a bit rude which is not at all how I am in real life but that's how I instinctively act around girls that I find attractive. If I add her now she might think why is this weirdo adding me on fb when he never made an attempt to talk to me properly. Let's just hope fate gives me another chance. If not then I think I'll eventually learn to live with it.
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Yeah....we must blame our movies and stuff for that. :))

Biggest biggest myth.

If we don't have a reputation preceding us or any kind of positioning....that just won't work.
 
Nostalgic said:
Actually the interview day wasn't too long: five hours or so, and that included my presentation, lunch and the drive, and I spoke to relevant people . Their demeanor suggested it was a foregone conclusion.

I'll find something else of course, but I was looking forward to it, so it takes a few days to get out of the mindset and start looking again.
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That's strange. Have they actually said no to you or just haven't replied back. Maybe they are still going through interviewing all the candidates....
 
Modi wants India to bid for 2024 olympics. Would be an absolute disaster for a third world country with massive corruption. Scary part is that most indians will support the bid and see it as a sign of pride.
 
You can stop posting so much, but don't leave. This place won't last without you. :P
 
I don't have much of a choice, have some other commitments.
 
I want to overcome this addiction and utilize my time better.
 
saadibaba said:
That's strange. Have they actually said no to you or just haven't replied back. Maybe they are still going through interviewing all the candidates....
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Well, they didn't get back to me as promised. After a couple of weeks I called, and they said we "won't be moving forward" with my candidacy, and that they've decided to interview more people. I checked and they really had reposted the job on the website and on LinkedIn etc.

I told them if they can't find anyone still, they can check and see if I'm still available.
 
I showed up today because I had to prove my expert analysis on the selection of the squad for Bangladesh tour. From now on, I will only show up on match days to prove my expert, post-match analysis.

Can't afford to waste more time here.
 
Mamoon said:
I showed up today because I had to prove my expert analysis on the selection of the squad for Bangladesh tour. From now on, I will only show up on match days to prove my expert, post-match analysis.

Can't afford to waste more time here.
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Which means you aren't leaving :msd
 
Nostalgic said:
Well, they didn't get back to me as promised. After a couple of weeks I called, and they said we "won't be moving forward" with my candidacy, and that they've decided to interview more people. I checked and they really had reposted the job on the website and on LinkedIn etc.

I told them if they can't find anyone still, they can check and see if I'm still available.
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You may have tried this already, but for some jobs you may want to try this approach.

Apply for the job, then connect with an HR Rep from the company over LinkedIn. Hopefully you progress to having a phone conversation with him/her for them to understand your background/interests in the position. Let them know what type of jobs you are interested in, and if there are similar positions to let you know.

I got my current job through this approach, where the HR got back to me with similar positions. Good luck! :thumbsup
 
Yeah they can but I am unable to reply to a few for some reason. It seems to be a little glitchy.
 
Mamoon said:
I enjoy special privileges. Deal with it.
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I tried to pm you right now and couldn't. So the special privileges are enjoyed by the people who sent you the messages (since you can't reply). Which means they are mods.
 
If someone asks you to stay, you should demand the special privileges you just expressed your desire for.
 
Posters who change the background colour of their avatars to match the green.

Why and how do you do it?

CricketCartoons, WebGuru, Strike Rate, mussu-100 etc.
 
Mamoon said:
Posters who change the background colour of their avatars to match the green.

Why and how do you do it?

CricketCartoons, WebGuru, Strike Rate, mussu-100 etc.
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There are many websites online which can make the background of a picture "transparent" like the above users have.

Here's an example: http://www.ezimba.com/index-ln.html

Upload the picture whose background you want to remove with the orange arrow, then under the create section, click transparent and click the background in the picture, and voila, it'll be gone.

Not the simplest way, but it has worked for me in the past.

Or you could use photoshop.
 
Suleiman said:
There are many websites online which can make the background of a picture "transparent" like the above users have.

Here's an example: http://www.ezimba.com/index-ln.html

Upload the picture whose background you want to remove with the orange arrow, then under the create section, click transparent and click the background in the picture, and voila, it'll be gone.

Not the simplest way, but it has worked for me in the past.

Or you could use photoshop.
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Thank you, I was always curious about it.
 
96NotOut said:
. . . :wave

He's leaving, [MENTION=14431]blinding light[/MENTION].
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Of course he is! :baelish
[MENTION=131701]Mamoon[/MENTION]

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Boo.
 
My (would be) father in law just visited my parents. My mom called me now and told me the conversation that took place. Seems he is ready to accept me as his son in law.

Now I am nervous. I will be getting married!! God! I am so nervous and scared. :((
 
CricketCartoons said:
My (would be) father in law just visited my parents. My mom called me now and told me the conversation that took place. Seems he is ready to accept me as his son in law.

Now I am nervous. I will be getting married!! God! I am so nervous and scared. :((
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It's normal man. Have you met the girl?
 
CricketCartoons said:
Haven't met the girl since 12 hours. She is the reason I got out of depression and suicidal thoughts. But wondering if I can repay her by being a good husband.
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Looks like that you know the girl well then :))

Don't worry man, if she likes you and you like her. I am sure it will work. Just be the best husband you possibly could be to her.

You aren't Muslim, otherwise I would have told you to look at Prophet Muhammad (SAW) life and the kind of husband he was for inspiration.
 
Watsupdoc said:
Looks like that you know the girl well then :))

Don't worry man, if she likes you and you like her. I am sure it will work. Just be the best husband you possibly could be to her.

You aren't Muslim, otherwise I would have told you to look at Prophet Muhammad (SAW) life and the kind of husband he was for inspiration.
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I don't need to be a Muslim to derive inspiration from Prophet Muhammad. I already follow his sunnah of drinking from the same glass from which she drinks whenever we go outside to dine.
 
CricketCartoons said:
I don't need to be a Muslim to derive inspiration from Prophet Muhammad. I already follow his sunnah of drinking from the same glass from which she drinks whenever we go outside to dine.
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Great! I am sure you'll make for a great husband! There is no need to be nervous and scared man.
 
Just had an Indian takeaway, god damn I'm stuffed. Sauce must be made of quicksand or something :afaq
 
Really bad at anger management. Had an argument with someone (against whom I am going to file a case), and after 2 hours still unable to concentrate on work. And people think that I don't get angry.
 
CricketCartoons said:
Really bad at anger management. Had an argument with someone (against whom I am going to file a case), and after 2 hours still unable to concentrate on work. And people think that I don't get angry.
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What was the argument over?

Man just forget the guy and focus on something else.
 
Watsupdoc said:
What was the argument over?

Man just forget the guy and focus on something else.
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I have two options. Either to let it go and pretend to be an online activist, OR really take them to court. I am thinking about the latter. What is the use of online sermons if I cannot walk the talk. Just thinking if a court case will take too much out of my time and energy.
 
CricketCartoons said:
My (would be) father in law just visited my parents. My mom called me now and told me the conversation that took place. Seems he is ready to accept me as his son in law.

Now I am nervous. I will be getting married!! God! I am so nervous and scared. :((
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Is the the same FIL who had issues with you cos you were from a different caste?
 
sensible-indian-fan said:
You bloody Irish guy.

You better come to India. You will fit in here properly.

You are more Indian than most Indians.

By the way, what did you eat?
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First Indian I've had in months man :afaq

Just had Korma, but there were other side orders we had, dunno what they were.

Really havent tried much Indian food, been told tandoori chicken is something I should try though
 
Donal Cozzie said:
First Indian I've had in months man :afaq

Just had Korma, but there were other side orders we had, dunno what they were.

Really havent tried much Indian food, been told tandoori chicken is something I should try though
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I see...Never had those food myself so can't pass any comments.
 
sensible-indian-fan said:
Is the the same FIL who had issues with you cos you were from a different caste?
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Yes. But my mom told me that she was feeling bad for him. He flew all the way from delhi to bengal, and my mom told me that she can empathize with him..parents often have to bow down before their kids. Even I am feeling bad for him. Hopefully one day I will make him proud.
 
My back after a hard session of deadlift. #gettingold
 
*competition.

The deplorable lack of the edit feature destroyed the pun.
 
I have absolutely no self-discipline. Zero, zilch, nada.

I don't know how it ever came to this - it wasn't like this, ever in my life. I was way more disciplined as a child in getting my tasks done than I am now!

Where is that dogged, steely determination of my O/A levels?! All the ideals, moral justifications and thought processes that I developed later over how work is important and time must be managed, I can't believe I'm now doing the opposite of it all. And crying about it. :110:
 
blinding light said:
I have absolutely no self-discipline. Zero, zilch, nada.

I don't know how it ever came to this - it wasn't like this, ever in my life. I was way more disciplined as a child in getting my tasks done than I am now!

Where is that dogged, steely determination of my O/A levels?! All the ideals, moral justifications and thought processes that I developed later over how work is important and time must be managed, I can't believe I'm now doing the opposite of it all. And crying about it. :110:
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time management is key

i feel one of the disadvantages of desi culture is that the parents make them work hard and when they go to college and have freedom to set their own schedule and do whatever they want, they just dont have the discipline to manage time efficiently and be motivated because they have never done it on their own accord before

know a lot of kids who did great in hgh school as their parents ensured they were working hard. but fell away in college with no external pressure to be on top of stuff
 
blinding light said:
I have absolutely no self-discipline. Zero, zilch, nada.

I don't know how it ever came to this - it wasn't like this, ever in my life. I was way more disciplined as a child in getting my tasks done than I am now!

Where is that dogged, steely determination of my O/A levels?! All the ideals, moral justifications and thought processes that I developed later over how work is important and time must be managed, I can't believe I'm now doing the opposite of it all. And crying about it. :110:
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Relax don't worry about it, after pushing yourself so hard you can afford to relax unless you are in need of margins of 80%+. You don't want to get burned out. My first year at uni don't count so am taking it easy because I almost killed myself trying to get in.

Your mental health is more important then anything. Don't stress, chill. Go to the gym, hit the punching bag, running, video games and hanging out with mates. It's good to be intense and all that but you need an pressure relief valve to, isolating yourself from the world whilst making the excuse of "need to focus on my work" can have negative implications even more so when you put pressure on yourself that i need to get this done, or am too lazy etc. Make time for play and you'll also be able to make time for work to.
 
Many things are bothering me right now but too personal to express on here
 
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