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11ShadyBrothers said:
Yeah man. I think i have issues when i am not an alpha male in a group. And its something i have no control over. :)) Its like i dont want to assert myself at people but i demand respect and significance. Good conclusion, shaz. And yes absolutely spot on about the ugly guy - good looking girl part. I have a guy in my group who has one of my former crushes as her gf. And damn that guy is not good looking. Sounds real harsh but its true. That guy is charismatic though. Very carefree and it makes me feel uncomfortable that why i am not like that sometimes. But then i am just me.

Yeah man. I have noticed this thing. The more good you are to woman the more they are awful to you. But then i have tried to play douche gamez and i have had little success. But i can only do douche gamez to woman i have no interest in. Its like if i dont like you i would own your a$$ but if i do then i am your biatch. This is some observation i made about myself with experience and i cant help it.
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Respect and significance can come in many forms, if you just focus on your strengths without worrying too much about the things you think you need to do you'll stand out in your own way and if people can't see that then they are no good to you in the first place and good riddance.

Yeah it can work both ways, for guys and gals. It must be harder to play a kutha with someone you have interest in so it's not so easy but in the end no point trying to portray a certain persona to cater to someones needs you'll be left disappointed at some point; it's best to be yourself and display kindness to everyone, if someone can't see that then they aren't really worth your time. There's bound to be someone who will value your feelings at some point, it's of no use being someones biznatch.

I guess if it all don't work out in the end you could pay for the mail order bride :))) at the cost of two camel and goat, gurantee for 10 years...can return within 5 years as long as you keep the receipt :yk
 
shaz619 said:
Respect and significance can come in many forms, if you just focus on your strengths without worrying too much about the things you think you need to do you'll stand out in your own way and if people can't see that then they are no good to you in the first place and good riddance.

Yeah it can work both ways, for guys and gals. It must be harder to play a kutha with someone you have interest in so it's not so easy but in the end no point trying to portray a certain persona to cater to someones needs you'll be left disappointed at some point; it's best to be yourself and display kindness to everyone, if someone can't see that then they aren't really worth your time. There's bound to be someone who will value your feelings at some point, it's of no use being someones biznatch.

I guess if it all don't work out in the end you could pay for the mail order bride :))) at the cost of two camel and goat, gurantee for 10 years...can return within 5 years as long as you keep the receipt :yk
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Yeah well thats what they say. Be yourself. But yes, after all you are you and if they dont like yourself for being you then good riddance without doubt.

Exactly. If i try to play kutha there is always anxiety waiting around the corner telling me beta what if that other person gets genuinely ******? What are you gonna do then? So, yeah cant do it. Yeah well i am being me mostly and it works in the start but in the end well i have the results in front of me.

Hahahha bless the arranged marriage part. Parents are always for the rescue in the end. :))
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
I have tried teaching myself to not expect. It doesnt come naturally to me unfortunately.



By that you mean you are the same? or like i summed up myself well? :p
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I mean yes i think same and agree with you. Yes you can say sort of same but i dont expect from other person. Will only expect once i find out a genuinely dedicated and down to earth girl.
 
Hamzakhalid said:
I mean yes i think same and agree with you. Yes you can say sort of same but i dont expect from other person. Will only expect once i find out a genuinely dedicated and down to earth girl.
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Trust me hamza i found a genuinely dedicated girl and after a year she changed. You can never know what a person actually is genuinely. A human is a very complex creature.
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Trust me hamza i found a genuinely dedicated girl and after a year she changed. You can never know what a person actually is genuinely. A human is a very complex creature.
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You can never change the nature of a person, If she was like this in nature only then she would play on, Having said that i would have adviced you to marry her if you had feelings for her.
 
Hamzakhalid said:
You can never change the nature of a person, If she was like this in nature only then she would play on, Having said that i would have adviced you to marry her if you had feelings for her.
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Marry and me? An almost 20 yo. Not possible in Pakistani culture. Only if i was super duper rich. Then that was possible. You know desi parents, right? :)
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Marry and me? An almost 20 yo. Not possible in Pakistani culture. Only if i was super duper rich. Then that was possible. You know desi parents, right? :)
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You could have tried talking to your family, And if they dont allow you to marry then go ahead by your own luck
And this probably is the best option, Parents will possibly look for a good or swag wala rishta, But all these well off girls have a well off record in ex boyfriends maybe you can compromise on it.
 
Hamzakhalid said:
You could have tried talking to your family, And if they dont allow you to marry then go ahead by your own luck
And this probably is the best option, Parents will possibly look for a good or swag wala rishta, But all these well off girls have a well off record in ex boyfriends maybe you can compromise on it.
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Let me give you an idea. The girl was the daughter of a CFO of a cement company. I wont speak further than that. But you might now have an idea where i am heading. And me and her its over. Long time ago. Sadly.
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Marry and me? An almost 20 yo. Not possible in Pakistani culture. Only if i was super duper rich. Then that was possible. You know desi parents, right? :)
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Personally, I advocate early marriage because that is only logical solution by nature and religion. Also, I would like parents to give responsibilities to their children at early age, Develop them at early age and have them set up and independant by 18 whilist advising and assissting them, Barely education will not put them to gold overnight, As the main reason for the marriage delays are educational or career related.
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Let me give you an idea. The girl was the daughter of a CFO of a cement company. I wont speak further than that. But you might now have an idea where i am heading. And me and her its over. Long time ago. Sadly.
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See thats what happens, I would prefer a down to earth lady who actually calms you down rather than trying to **** you off or provides you some depression.
 
Hamzakhalid said:
See thats what happens, I would prefer a down to earth lady who actually calms you down rather than trying to **** you off or provides you some depression.
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Yeah, well down to earth means that woman potentially might have some mentality matching issues with you. Because as you go up the more educated it gets. Too many problems man. Haha.
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Let me give you an idea. The girl was the daughter of a CFO of a cement company. I wont speak further than that. But you might now have an idea where i am heading. And me and her its over. Long time ago. Sadly.
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Ideally you should look for a girl who is: From middle to lower middle class, has very less company of friends and do not keep them much close, Is decent in manners upfront, Also one who has suffered some tragedies, Tragedies because the people that face some hardships are likely to be mature and stronger.
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Yeah, well down to earth means that woman potentially might have some mentality matching issues with you. Because as you go up the more educated it gets. Too many problems man. Haha.
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Down to earth in sense that she is less demanding and has concern for you as well as your own concerns, I find education merely show off, An educated woman is still likely to shout out to her husbands regarding her demands and desires despite not knowing or showing concern to how much he carries in his pocket and how he has to manage it.
 
People who are right wing nationalists when it comes to their own country. But when they are a minority they pander to left wingers to show them sympathy and appease them.
 
the shalwar kameez my future wife and her family bought me for Eid is too small. Instantly Eid ruined as i don't know what i will wear for eid prayers. Don't want to wear jeans and shirt and look like a chawal either
 
My legs hurt. A lot. Like I've pulled all the muscles in at once.

I actually need some advice on this.

I've been taking a Panadol since the past 3-4 days now. I find myself utterly exhausted, and with literally pain in my body (legs, back, and especially a killer headache) by the time it's night.

Don't know if the rozas are taking a toll, or if it's something else. All I know is that I shouldn't be taking paracetamols that often.
 
sully3 said:
the shalwar kameez my future wife and her family bought me for Eid is too small. Instantly Eid ruined as i don't know what i will wear for eid prayers. Don't want to wear jeans and shirt and look like a chawal either
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If they are too tight, corsets are all the rage these days.

If they are too short in length, just pretend you've had a religious epiphany, and have started wearing the shalwar above the ankle.
 
shaz619 said:
How is that supposed to help him? does he have to believe that all that is happening to him now has been orchestrated by a higher power which is going to ultimately help his difficulties

*providing he never miss 5 daily prayers and protects his private parts*
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shaz619 said:
What about all the other people who are suffering in the world [MENTION=134473]Haroon786[/MENTION] do they have to accept their fate in this life for reward in the after is that their test? even though [MENTION=113742]Hamzakhalid[/MENTION] still has options for now in that there is a "table" which may turn
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I'm assuming you're a Muslim, if you don't believe in the current circumstances as a test from Allah, then what else can you see them as ? That you're perpetually doomed forever ?
 
blinding light said:
My legs hurt. A lot. Like I've pulled all the muscles in at once.

I actually need some advice on this.

I've been taking a Panadol since the past 3-4 days now. I find myself utterly exhausted, and with literally pain in my body (legs, back, and especially a killer headache) by the time it's night.

Don't know if the rozas are taking a toll, or if it's something else. All I know is that I shouldn't be taking paracetamols that often.
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Possible vitamin D deficiency ?
 
blinding light said:
My legs hurt. A lot. Like I've pulled all the muscles in at once.

I actually need some advice on this.

I've been taking a Panadol since the past 3-4 days now. I find myself utterly exhausted, and with literally pain in my body (legs, back, and especially a killer headache) by the time it's night.

Don't know if the rozas are taking a toll, or if it's something else. All I know is that I shouldn't be taking paracetamols that often.
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Sometimes it could be a result of a back disc problem that is pinching a nerve to the legs.
 
Adil_94 said:
People who are right wing nationalists when it comes to their own country. But when they are a minority they pander to left wingers to show them sympathy and appease them.
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This basically describes every human on the planet. And I agree.
 
Saqs said:
This basically describes every human on the planet. And I agree.
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Yep especially when it comes to people from SC. You have people moaning coz Asda had an eid mubarak sign next to tinned corn beef. But will turn a blind eye to cleansing of religious minorities in their country of origin.
 
blinding light said:
My legs hurt. A lot. Like I've pulled all the muscles in at once.

I actually need some advice on this.

I've been taking a Panadol since the past 3-4 days now. I find myself utterly exhausted, and with literally pain in my body (legs, back, and especially a killer headache) by the time it's night.

Don't know if the rozas are taking a toll, or if it's something else. All I know is that I shouldn't be taking paracetamols that often.
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Or maybe you should go to a doctor rather than taking advice here. :yk
 
WC-Passion said:
True, but it's also the fact that I'm in waiting for a-lot things in the future that makes all this stuff seem boring. (and by future I mean about 1-2 months)

Also that's some deep stuff :srt
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Which bank are you planning to rob ? :yk2
 
_Ace_ said:
This is so me man, it all intensified when I fell into depression, it became a go to source of comfort away from the real life that I now want to have none of and subconsciously urge to keep away from, a way of hiding away from it, everything beginning to feel so meaningless, the obvious realization about my desperately needing help dawning upon me only for the sheer absence of will to do something at all about it. I don't even know what the **** I'm doing with myself or why I'm letting it out here. :sanga
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Only way through this is to normalize your dopamine receptors so watching a movie becomes interesting like it should. First off all stop watching naughty videos on internet if you do, take fish oil/krill oil as they help you repair your dopamine receptors and finally try to limit the time you spend on internet. It seems easy but it is boring, when you are away from internet you almost feel depressed and that your life sucks or something. The only way through is, going through it. When you fell into depression, your comfort was internet and it helped you forget the negativity but when you got away from it, it all came back so you spent even more time on the internet. Face depression, it might last for short time but you will be done with it sooner, if you run away from it you will hold on to it forever. Face the reality, get sad, get depressed and soon you will start getting motivation to do something, just like in the movies. Coming out of depression is the greatest thing because you will never go back and you will totally be a different person, nothing will intimidate you and nothing will bring you down. The only way is to go up. Use GYM as an outlet, working out improves your mood, testosterone, serotonin and etc. These things make you feel good, motivated, gives you tons of energy.

Lot of guys on the internet alot tend to self pleasure themselves alot and watch naughty videos. If you are doing it totally stop it, convert your sexual energy and put use of it in the gym, finding a job or whatever it is that you need improvement. And remember, you only need to hit them gym for the first 2 weeks, then motivation to hit the weights will be always there so just push yourself of the first 2 weeks and you will be good.
 
Thivagar said:
Only way through this is to normalize your dopamine receptors so watching a movie becomes interesting like it should. First off all stop watching naughty videos on internet if you do, take fish oil/krill oil as they help you repair your dopamine receptors and finally try to limit the time you spend on internet. It seems easy but it is boring, when you are away from internet you almost feel depressed and that your life sucks or something. The only way through is, going through it. When you fell into depression, your comfort was internet and it helped you forget the negativity but when you got away from it, it all came back so you spent even more time on the internet. Face depression, it might last for short time but you will be done with it sooner, if you run away from it you will hold on to it forever. Face the reality, get sad, get depressed and soon you will start getting motivation to do something, just like in the movies. Coming out of depression is the greatest thing because you will never go back and you will totally be a different person, nothing will intimidate you and nothing will bring you down. The only way is to go up. Use GYM as an outlet, working out improves your mood, testosterone, serotonin and etc. These things make you feel good, motivated, gives you tons of energy.

Lot of guys on the internet alot tend to self pleasure themselves alot and watch naughty videos. If you are doing it totally stop it, convert your sexual energy and put use of it in the gym, finding a job or whatever it is that you need improvement. And remember, you only need to hit them gym for the first 2 weeks, then motivation to hit the weights will be always there so just push yourself of the first 2 weeks and you will be good.
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Or you can smoke weed everyday. :yk
 
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This is hardee's islamabad rn. :)))
 
Thivagar said:
Only way through this is to normalize your dopamine receptors so watching a movie becomes interesting like it should. First off all stop watching naughty videos on internet if you do, take fish oil/krill oil as they help you repair your dopamine receptors and finally try to limit the time you spend on internet. It seems easy but it is boring, when you are away from internet you almost feel depressed and that your life sucks or something. The only way through is, going through it. When you fell into depression, your comfort was internet and it helped you forget the negativity but when you got away from it, it all came back so you spent even more time on the internet. Face depression, it might last for short time but you will be done with it sooner, if you run away from it you will hold on to it forever. Face the reality, get sad, get depressed and soon you will start getting motivation to do something, just like in the movies. Coming out of depression is the greatest thing because you will never go back and you will totally be a different person, nothing will intimidate you and nothing will bring you down. The only way is to go up. Use GYM as an outlet, working out improves your mood, testosterone, serotonin and etc. These things make you feel good, motivated, gives you tons of energy.

Lot of guys on the internet alot tend to self pleasure themselves alot and watch naughty videos. If you are doing it totally stop it, convert your sexual energy and put use of it in the gym, finding a job or whatever it is that you need improvement. And remember, you only need to hit them gym for the first 2 weeks, then motivation to hit the weights will be always there so just push yourself of the first 2 weeks and you will be good.
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Good advice. Btw, you seem quite knowledgeable. How do you know about all this? Did it happen to you?

I've found some more energy to do more things and find them NOT boring. For a while, Pak-Passion and Youtube were a very fun but as-soon as I stopped I was pretty bored.

11ShadyBrothers said:
Or you can smoke weed everyday. :yk
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Who do you want people to be? Anwar Ali? :)))
 
The fact that I have to work tommorow from 5am to 9am tommorow despite it being Eid, will still make it to the final Eid prayer at the local mosque at 10 am, but it will be a frantic rush, something that ideally I wouldn't have wanted.
 
Haroon786 said:
I'm assuming you're a Muslim, if you don't believe in the current circumstances as a test from Allah, then what else can you see them as ? That you're perpetually doomed forever ?
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It is a test, I've been questioning God lately because am going through a tough period in my life at the moment. But when I come to my senses I give myself a slap; yes I am a Muslim and will always be one because Islam makes more sense to me then any other religion and I don't believe that the Universe could have been created from nothing. But even when things were going well 5 years ago, rarely did I pray for myself am never selfish when it comes to what I ask from God, I always Pray for everyone on Earth and then specifically for my family. I only pray for myself when I feel like I've earned it; most of the time in Ramadan because I don't shy from prayer or reading the Quran in Arabic, it fills my empty soul with peace and serenity. Read the Quran in English to, got to Surah Imran so far it's so terrifying reading about the punishment but the purpose of the holy good in essence is to Fear Allah.
 
Haroon786 said:
The fact that I have to work tommorow from 5am to 9am tommorow despite it being Eid, will still make it to the final Eid prayer at the local mosque at 10 am, but it will be a frantic rush, something that ideally I wouldn't have wanted.
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That's quiet early isn't it, what kind of Job is it if you don't mind me asking. Be grateful in a way to because not everyone has a Job.
 
shaz619 said:
It is a test, I've been questioning God lately because am going through a tough period in my life at the moment. But when I come to my senses I give myself a slap; yes I am a Muslim and will always be one because Islam makes more sense to me then any other religion and I don't believe that the Universe could have been created from nothing. But even when things were going well 5 years ago, rarely did I pray for myself am never selfish when it comes to what I ask from God, I always Pray for everyone on Earth and then specifically for my family. I only pray for myself when I feel like I've earned it; most of the time in Ramadan because I don't shy from prayer or reading the Quran in Arabic, it fills my empty soul with peace and serenity. Read the Quran in English to, got to Surah Imran so far it's so terrifying reading about the various punishments etc but the purpose of the holy book in essence is to Fear Allah.
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shaz619 said:
It is a test, I've been questioning God lately because am going through a tough period in my life at the moment. But when I come to my senses I give myself a slap; yes I am a Muslim and will always be one because Islam makes more sense to me then any other religion and I don't believe that the Universe could have been created from nothing. But even when things were going well 5 years ago, rarely did I pray for myself am never selfish when it comes to what I ask from God, I always Pray for everyone on Earth and then specifically for my family. I only pray for myself when I feel like I've earned it; most of the time in Ramadan because I don't shy from prayer or reading the Quran in Arabic, it fills my empty soul with peace and serenity. Read the Quran in English to, got to Surah Imran so far it's so terrifying reading about the punishment but the purpose of the holy good in essence is to Fear Allah.
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Don't see it as being selfish honestly, it's nothing like being selfish because only Allah gives you, from the most trivial things to the most significant things. Personally, I'm also going through a rough patch, but you have to have absolute trust and patience that everything will become better and life will be changed for the better - that in itself is a test.
 
shaz619 said:
That's quiet early isn't it, what kind of Job is it if you don't mind me asking. Be grateful in a way to because not everyone has a Job.
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It's a temporary summer job; I've just finished my A levels, so have te to work in the holidays and got a job.
 
sully3 said:
the shalwar kameez my future wife and her family bought me for Eid is too small. Instantly Eid ruined as i don't know what i will wear for eid prayers. Don't want to wear jeans and shirt and look like a chawal either
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Gold! Thanks for the laugh :))
 
Haroon786 said:
It's a temporary summer job; I've just finished my A levels, so have te to work in the holidays and got a job.
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That's great, am going to work next week hopefully until I go back to uni. Was waiting for Ramadan to be over because shift patterns are not convenient for fasting.
 
Haroon786 said:
Don't see it as being selfish honestly, it's nothing like being selfish because only Allah gives you, from the most trivial things to the most significant things. Personally, I'm also going through a rough patch, but you have to have absolute trust and patience that everything will become better and life will be changed for the better - that in itself is a test.
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I feel it's selfish in that there are probably people out there with greater issues and when am not praying consistently enough it's like why should God even bother to listen to me? that was the thinking behind it but I agree with your post.
 
shaz619 said:
That's great, am going to work next week hopefully until I go back to uni. Was waiting for Ramadan to be over because shift patterns are not convenient for fasting.
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Thanks and some people mind then use of Ramadan here. :inti

shaz619 said:
I feel it's selfish in that there are probably people out there with greater issues and when am not praying consistently enough it's like why should God even bother to listen to me? that was the thinking behind it but I agree with your post.
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From that point of view, it kind of makes sense, but to me, first of all as an individual, I would want to attain the type of morally good character that may perhaps admit me into heaven (praying 5 times a day, minimizing/eliminating bad habits and sins and following 5 pillars of Islam etc.) - that way you can make any type of dua ( as long as it's legitimate) for yourself without any remorse.

IIRC, the tougher and more adverse calamities and afflictions that befall a Muslim, the greater in reward they get for perseverance in their faith from Allah in the hereafter (where we will be for eternity) and perhaps even in this life as well. So in my view, you should make duas, give charity and even run a charity to help people in crises, but do not lose sight of the fundamentals of being a Muslim.
 
Haroon786 said:
Thanks and some people mind then use of Ramadan here. :inti



From that point of view, it kind of makes sense, but to me, first of all as an individual, I would want to attain the type of morally good character that may perhaps admit me into heaven (praying 5 times a day, minimizing/eliminating bad habits and sins and following 5 pillars of Islam etc.) - that way you can make any type of dua ( as long as it's legitimate) for yourself without any remorse.

IIRC, the tougher and more adverse calamities and afflictions that befall a Muslim, the greater in reward they get for perseverance in their faith from Allah in the hereafter (where we will be for eternity) and perhaps even in this life as well. So in my view, you should make duas, give charity and even run a charity to help people in crises, but do not lose sight of the fundamentals of being a Muslim.
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Great Post, thanks for it.

That's the most important thing to do; having a morally good Islamic Character. And everything else just revolves around it. Yes Allah is even more happy with those who turn to them in suffering or when the temptation is great but they refuse to give into evil. He also doesn't burden your shoulders so much that they can not bare it. I have moments of weakness but always have belief in Allah and hope to get back into a routine which will make me a better man of God.
 
Most of this thread is full of first world or white people problems. Quite amusing.
 
shaz619 said:
Great Post, thanks for it.

That's the most important thing to do; having a morally good Islamic Character. And everything else just revolves around it. Yes Allah is even more happy with those who turn to them in suffering or when the temptation is great but they refuse to give into evil. He also doesn't burden your shoulders so much that they can not bare it. I have moments of weakness but always have belief in Allah and hope to get back into a routine which will make me a better man of God.
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Agreed and I also was allowed to leave early from work as there wasn't as much of a rush, hence can pray the 9 am prayer.
 
WC-Passion said:
Good advice. Btw, you seem quite knowledgeable. How do you know about all this? Did it happen to you?

I've found some more energy to do more things and find them NOT boring. For a while, Pak-Passion and Youtube were a very fun but as-soon as I stopped I was pretty bored.



Who do you want people to be? Anwar Ali? :)))
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It happened to me and i love knowledge in general just not the one that my teachers and professors tell us to learn:yk. So i poked my head around and kind of learned what happened to me. When you understand how your brain works, why are you getting easily bored and so on, the next time you are bored you will actually be less bored because your brain now knows that getting bored is now normal because you just read about it. BUT, if you continue to not do anything with your life even after learning, your brain will start thinking that you are a loser because even after learning whats going wrong, you continue to not take action.

Netflix, pakpassion, youtube are my life right now, recently introduced gym to kick start my energy and so on lol. How old are you ?
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Have you considered trying more safer options like oxygen shots, hash, weed? :usman

Drinking pepsi right now. :yk
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Hash and weed is not for me. I absolutely hate the high I get from them. Weed is easily available in Guwahati, but Hash is not available here. I've tried both and hated them.
 
Hitman said:
Hash and weed is not for me. I absolutely hate the high I get from them. Weed is easily available in Guwahati, but Hash is not available here. I've tried both and hated them.
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I am surprised because here in pak you cant get weed anywhere. Like its very rare. Max you get is synthetic weed which is of course tripe. Hash is easily available and yeah if you get a downer then you should avoid. Have you tried oxygen shots? Also isnt whisky a pansy drink? :nehra
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Have you considered trying more safer options like oxygen shots, hash, weed? :usman

Drinking pepsi right now. :yk
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The reason why a lot of posters despise me is because of the threads and posts I've created in the past under the influence of alcohol. Otherwise I'm not a disrespectful person at all.
 
Thivagar said:
It happened to me and i love knowledge in general just not the one that my teachers and professors tell us to learn:yk. So i poked my head around and kind of learned what happened to me. When you understand how your brain works, why are you getting easily bored and so on, the next time you are bored you will actually be less bored because your brain now knows that getting bored is now normal because you just read about it. BUT, if you continue to not do anything with your life even after learning, your brain will start thinking that you are a loser because even after learning whats going wrong, you continue to not take action.

Netflix, pakpassion, youtube are my life right now, recently introduced gym to kick start my energy and so on lol. How old are you ?
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I'm around 16. Probably going to hit the gym soon.
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
Yeah well thats what they say. Be yourself. But yes, after all you are you and if they dont like yourself for being you then good riddance without doubt.

Exactly. If i try to play kutha there is always anxiety waiting around the corner telling me beta what if that other person gets genuinely ******? What are you gonna do then? So, yeah cant do it. Yeah well i am being me mostly and it works in the start but in the end well i have the results in front of me.

Hahahha bless the arranged marriage part. Parents are always for the rescue in the end. :))
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NO, You can't always be yourself. Sometimes yourself isn't good enough for the society or your life style. When you are going to an interview, you are never yourself, you try to be someone the employer want. Just like that, you have to REALIZE that sometimes you need to change. We all are raised here with some what of subcontinent mentality to at least a little bit since we spent our younger years listening to our parents beliefs on how we should behave and how we should live.

I realized that i was too nice and naive till i was about 18-19. People walked all over me all the time, 2 crushes i was after for about 3.5 years each rejected me. With one girl i was rejected like 4-5 times before i gave up. It makes me cringe thinking back and what I did was stupid, but i thought I was in "love". I thought liking a girl = getting married. I also blame stupid Tamil movies for this. One of ex crush and her sister still tells her friend, who iam friend with that I'm a creep for buying chocolates and teddybears to her, talk about chivalry. Guys in Tamil movies did it, so i did too :facepalm:. Im nearly 22, since then I haven't let people walk over me, if people do something stupid, I let them know and for some reason confronting people make them respect you. I also don't have issue talking to girls anymore, in fact I've become very good at talking to girls, i always prefer meeting them first face to face then adding them through instagram and doing the work. But if you add a girl through instagram and they are replying to your messages pretty well then they think you are worth talking to so that is also good. Remember girls are just like guys, they are just told by the society how to behave, it is better if you don't judge them, make yourself sound very liberal and watch how conversation change. Not all girls want relationships, just saying

P.S Never take tamil movie advice, especially advice regarding love and ESPECIALLY from this particular guy named DANUSH [MENTION=134809]sensible-indian-fan[/MENTION] [MENTION=135125]Pantani[/MENTION] [MENTION=134867]Kiri[/MENTION] [MENTION=137142]JaDed[/MENTION].
 
Hitman said:
The reason why a lot of posters despise me is because of the threads and posts I've created in the past under the influence of alcohol. Otherwise I'm not a disrespectful person at all.
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If that's true, I'm really sorry. :yk2
 
11ShadyBrothers said:
I am surprised because here in pak you cant get weed anywhere. Like its very rare. Max you get is synthetic weed which is of course tripe. Hash is easily available and yeah if you get a downer then you should avoid. Have you tried oxygen shots? Also isnt whisky a pansy drink? :nehra
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Weed is not available easily other where in India, but here in Guwahati you can get it anywhere. The reason behind it is because 'weed' is considered a holy thing here, a thing that Shiva (according to 'Hindu' tradition) used to consume regularly. So it's kind of a thing used in rituals. Of course you can't get it in bulk quantities like 10 kgs or 15 kgs, but you can get what we call here 'purias' (small quantity wrapped in paper) almost everywhere. Maybe 10-15 grams are there in a 'puria'.
 
WC-Passion said:
If that's true, I'm really sorry. :yk2
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You don't have to be sorry. I'm the one responsible for my actions. If posters dislike me here, it's because of my actions. Funny I called Imran Khan a 'coward' recently in one of the threads. People who know me know how much I admire and respect Imran Khan. The problem is that when I'm sober, I don't lose my cool if someone makes fun of Sachin. But when I'm drinking, I simply lose my cool and can't control myself when someone makes fun of Sachin.
 
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11ShadyBrothers said:
Trust me hamza i found a genuinely dedicated girl and after a year she changed. You can never know what a person actually is genuinely. A human is a very complex creature.
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What do you mean she changed ? Most of the time they are always like that, over time they get used to you and then they start expressing their true selves. Chances are she was always like that, this is why they tell you that don't plan on marrying anyone unless you know them for 2-3 years. Don't change yourself for her, you can make minor adjustments and little sacrifice, but if you don't want to and it isn't going to make you a better person then you don't have to.
 
Thivagar said:
Good, good. Remember, never play with yourself or watch naughty video. One screws your energy, the other one screws your brain, literally.
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I think that would be more helpful advice for [MENTION=139202]11ShadyBrothers[/MENTION] but ok. :ksi
 
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