What makes a woman happy?

[LordJames]

The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness is a well-documented phenomenon, supported by multiple long-term studies (including Betsey Stevenson & Justin Wolfers' 2009 analysis), showing that women’s self-reported happiness in the U.S. and other developed nations has steadily declined since the 1970s—despite significant gains in rights, education, and workforce participation.

Main Points of the study:​

1. Declining Happiness Among Women Since the 1970s, women in the U.S. and other developed countries have reported a steady decline in happiness.
2. Male-Female Happiness Gap Reversed Women used to report higher happiness than men; now men report being slightly happier on average.
3. Progress vs. Satisfaction Paradox Despite gains in education, earnings, reproductive rights, and labor participation, women's subjective well-being fell.
4. Consistent Across Demographics The trend holds across ages, income levels, marital status, and employment status.
5. International Pattern Similar patterns were observed in Europe, Australia, and other advanced economies, not just the U.S.
   1. Rising expectations
   2. Work-life conflict
   3. Choice overload
   4. Double burden (work + family)
   5. Increased self-awareness but doesn’t claim a definitive cause.

 

[RexRex]

What makes a woman happy ? Being or feeling needed by a man.

Nothing else comes close.

 

[LordJames]

What makes a woman happy ? Being or feeling needed by a man.

Nothing else comes close.

Read the 35 year long study.

If they would have come across you may be 35 years would have been saved

 

[Bhaijaan]

A woman is never truly happy.

 

[Suleiman]

What makes a woman happy ? Being or feeling needed by a man.

Nothing else comes close.

That’s not happy. That’s just validation and the dopamine hit that comes from getting attention.

Plenty of attractive women are unhappy despite feeling they are “needed” or wanted by men around them.

Happiness is more fulfilling.

Being given attention to is a part of their happiness, but is not the whole basis of it.

 

[sweep_shot]

This thread cracked me up for some reason.

I must admit I find women very confusing and complex. More complex than Muralitharan's spin bowling, Ajantha Mendis's variations, and Sunil Narine's variations combined.

In my life, vast majority of my personal issues were caused by women (problematic female figures in family, female coworkers etc.). But, I am still respectful toward women in general.

What makes women happy? I really don't know. Some are always happy. Some are never happy no matter how much blessings they have.

 

[Suleiman]

Most important aspect is leadership from the man. In every facet of the relationship, faith, intimacy, financial future, kids, leisure whatever. Whether you are a liberal or feminist or whatever, by nature, the man sets the tone of the relationship.

You lead with conviction and love and if she is an emotionally and mentally mature woman, she will follow your lead. You can’t be a lallu panju.

This way she will feel emotionally and mentally safe and secure and fulfilled.

If she is rebellious by nature and carrying baggage, even then she may not follow, but you probably don’t want to be with her anyway then unless you stay and help her workout whatever trauma is holding her back if she is willing to open up.

in general You want to lead those who want to be lead, we are not here to force women to follow our lead.

This is where I stand currently personally. But this is one of those things the more you mature the more you learn.

 

[sweep_shot]

This thread cracked me up for some reason.

I must admit I find women very confusing and complex. More complex than Muralitharan's spin bowling, Ajantha Mendis's variations, and Sunil Narine's variations combined.

In my life, vast majority of my personal issues were caused by women (problematic female figures in family, female coworkers etc.). But, I am still respectful toward women in general.

What makes women happy? I really don't know. Some are always happy. Some are never happy no matter how much blessings they have.

Based on my observation, many women want people to listen to what they have to say (they prefer good listeners).

They like to keep problems going so that they can talk about it and rant about it. If problems get resolved quickly, it is boring for them.

They like social interactions and they like to talk a lot.

Again, just my observation. I can be wrong.

 

[LordJames]

The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness is a well-documented phenomenon, supported by multiple long-term studies (including Betsey Stevenson & Justin Wolfers' 2009 analysis), showing that women’s self-reported happiness in the U.S. and other developed nations has steadily declined since the 1970s—despite significant gains in rights, education, and workforce participation.

Main Points of the study:​

1. Declining Happiness Among Women Since the 1970s, women in the U.S. and other developed countries have reported a steady decline in happiness.
2. Male-Female Happiness Gap Reversed Women used to report higher happiness than men; now men report being slightly happier on average.
3. Progress vs. Satisfaction Paradox Despite gains in education, earnings, reproductive rights, and labor participation, women's subjective well-being fell.
4. Consistent Across Demographics The trend holds across ages, income levels, marital status, and employment status.
5. International Pattern Similar patterns were observed in Europe, Australia, and other advanced economies, not just the U.S.
   1. Rising expectations
   2. Work-life conflict
   3. Choice overload
   4. Double burden (work + family)
   5. Increased self-awareness but doesn’t claim a definitive cause.

The point this 35 year long and one of the most comprehensive studies is making is that gains in education, reproductive rights and labor participation has actually made women less happy.

 

[DeadlyVenom]

Respect, comfort, love, leadership from male partner without being overbearing, spontaneous behaviour, children.

 

[sweep_shot]

Most important aspect is leadership from the man. In every facet of the relationship, faith, intimacy, financial future, kids, leisure whatever. Whether you are a liberal or feminist or whatever, by nature, the man sets the tone of the relationship.

You lead with conviction and love and if she is an emotionally and mentally mature woman, she will follow your lead. You can’t be a lallu panju.

This way she will feel emotionally and mentally safe and secure and fulfilled.

If she is rebellious by nature and carrying baggage, even then she may not follow, but you probably don’t want to be with her anyway then unless you stay and help her workout whatever trauma is holding her back if she is willing to open up.

in general You want to lead those who want to be lead, we are not here to force women to follow our lead.

This is where I stand currently personally. But this is one of those things the more you mature the more you learn.

True. This is my position also.

 

[DeadlyVenom]

The point this 35 year long and one of the most comprehensive studies is making is that gains in education, reproductive rights and labor participation has actually made women less happy.

It doesn't say they are less happy because of all these gains.

The reasons for unhappiness are different but blinkered western mindset won't allow them to see it.

The reasons for unhappiness are mainly due to breakdown of traditional structures, no longer pursuing family and attempts as at equality with men.

The reproductive rights, labour stuff isn't responsible for defeminizing them. A woman can very easily have those things and be happy too - provided she is in a stable marriage and has children.

 

[IAJ]

I have been married for 18 years, Alhamdulillah, and my experience has taught me the following:

• Show love and care.
• Listen to her, even if you're not entirely interested in the story.
• Give gifts, especially gold or diamonds.
• Maintain a good relationship with her parents (very important, lol).
• Praise her dressing style and cooking (I love doing this because nothing beats a good chicken biryani or lamb korma with homemade naans after a long day at the office or a workout).
• Help with household duties, especially since we have three children.
• Understand that she can also be tired at times

There are probably more, but these are the things that come to mind right now.

 

[Suleiman]

Respect, comfort, love, leadership from male partner without being overbearing, spontaneous behaviour, children.

Leading in all the above without being overbearing- key caveat I 100% agree.

 

[ElRaja]

from what i've seen, kids, a strong loyal husband and a supportive female social circle. however thats just a generalisation and on an individual level you cannot say who needs what to be happy.

would be nice if some women replied to this thread, not sure if theres any left on PP tho, maybe mods can tag em.

 

[HalBass9]

Stability.

 

[Technics 1210]

Stability. Love. Motherhood.

 

[Champ_Pal]

Praising about their beauty.
Buying them surprise gifts.

 

[jaspa888]

Women strived for decades to get equality, but many then didn't want it when they attained it. Many Gen-Z women now lament that men expect to share the bill on the first date, won't open doors for them, expect them to work equal hours for equal pay. It is equity they want.