What's new

What's the motive of this girl?

Sher Khan

Sher Khan

Local Club Captain
Joined
Jan 17, 2018
Runs
2,407
I have been liking this girl that works alongside me for about one year now. I have been chasing after her hard, sometimes she responds back to me and it felt as if she was secretly interested. But when i confessed my feelings to her, she kind of said no to me and appeared not to show interest.

Now recently, as I have tried to move on and get with other girls, she has expressed her anger and displeasure. She has started to show a keenness to talk to me in a flirty way. But she has done this before as well when I have tried to talk to other women.

Another major thing she is saying she will do is to showcase me as a `playboy` in front of the other girls. I believe she is saying she will do this to destroy my chances with them.

Whats the motive of this girl, she is very attractive in looks and has a magnetic personality. But does she secretly like me, despite saying no?
 
Sher Khan said:
I have been liking this girl that works alongside me for about one year now. I have been chasing after her hard, sometimes she responds back to me and it felt as if she was secretly interested. But when i confessed my feelings to her, she kind of said no to me and appeared not to show interest.

Now recently, as I have tried to move on and get with other girls, she has expressed her anger and displeasure. She has started to show a keenness to talk to me in a flirty way. But she has done this before as well when I have tried to talk to other women.

Another major thing she is saying she will do is to showcase me as a `playboy` in front of the other girls. I believe she is saying she will do this to destroy my chances with them.

Whats the motive of this girl, she is very attractive in looks and has a magnetic personality. But does she secretly like me, despite saying no?
Click to expand...

It's rather simple, she wants to keep you around but is not attracted enough to you to have a relationship. Time for you to move on, find a girl who reciprocates your feelings and not waste your time.

Btw, where do you live? What you may expect also depends upon the culture of country you live in.
 
Napa said:
It's rather simple, she wants to keep you around but is not attracted enough to you to have a relationship. Time for you to move on, find a girl who reciprocates your feelings and not waste your time.

Btw, where do you live? What you may expect also depends upon the culture of country you live in.
Click to expand...

I live in Australia bro.
 
She just misses the attention you first gave her. Now without that attention is making her angry and all upset hence her attempts to show you up as a playboy. Tell her do whatever she wants.
 
PakLFC said:
She just misses the attention you first gave her. Now without that attention is making her angry and all upset hence her attempts to show you up as a playboy. Tell her do whatever she wants.
Click to expand...

Fair enough, thanks for the advice.
 
[MENTION=131701]Mamoon[/MENTION] waiting for your thoughtful advice on my issue?
 
Sher Khan said:
[MENTION=131701]Mamoon[/MENTION] waiting for your thoughtful advice on my issue?
Click to expand...

Great getting opinion of someone who had an arrange marriage and most likely not dated a girl.

Well, just be straight up with this girl, tell her again that you like her and ask her, whether she likes you? If she doesn't, tell her good bye. Life is simple, don't play games or be played. Be a man.
 
I thought you were going to be some sort of TV stud? So naturally all these girls would falling at your feet!

These threads are a good laugh though.
 
Kroll said:
I thought you were going to be some sort of TV stud? So naturally all these girls would falling at your feet!

These threads are a good laugh though.
Click to expand...

Nothing to laugh about. It didn't work out as a TV stud.
 
Sher Khan said:
[MENTION=131701]Mamoon[/MENTION] waiting for your thoughtful advice on my issue?
Click to expand...

Well I think there are three possibilities:

1. She wants to friend-zone you. After seeing you move on, she now feels comfortable enough to be friendly with you, and you are confusing her friendless with flirting.

2. She likes you and has had a change of heart. Thus, she is now disappointed to see you move on and is hoping that you will go back to her.

3. She is just messing around with you and is trying to confuse you into thinking that she is now interested in you. She rejected you, and the notion that you might lose your chance with someone else just because she has messed with your head might give her a dose of sadistic pleasure.
 
Mamoon said:
Well I think there are three possibilities:

1. She wants to friend-zone you. After seeing you move on, she now feels comfortable enough to be friendly with you, and you are confusing her friendless with flirting.

2. She likes you and has had a change of heart. Thus, she is now disappointed to see you move on and is hoping that you will go back to her.

3. She is just messing around with you and is trying to confuse you into thinking that she is now interested in you. She rejected you, and the notion that you might lose your chance with someone else just because she has messed with your head might give her a dose of sadistic pleasure.
Click to expand...

Thanks for your comprehensive response, appreciate it.
 
Bro, i will give you honest advice as a "ladies man" - that girl is going to be nothing but stress and trouble for you.

She doesnt likes you or considers you worthy as a partner but likes having you around because you make her feel that she has control over someone. Some people both girls/boys like to do this "carrot trope" when they are aware that the other person has a crush on them and hence they hold some sort of "power" over them. Hence, when you talk to other girls she feels like shes losing control and therefore acts out.

My recommendation: Get out, and move on. Theres always a better girl out there. Trust me. :ronaldo
 
You are "her toy". She doesn't like it when others get attached. But that doesn't mean she sees a future.
 
Sher Khan said:
I have been liking this girl that works alongside me for about one year now. I have been chasing after her hard, sometimes she responds back to me and it felt as if she was secretly interested. But when i confessed my feelings to her, she kind of said no to me and appeared not to show interest.

Now recently, as I have tried to move on and get with other girls, she has expressed her anger and displeasure. She has started to show a keenness to talk to me in a flirty way. But she has done this before as well when I have tried to talk to other women.

Another major thing she is saying she will do is to showcase me as a `playboy` in front of the other girls. I believe she is saying she will do this to destroy my chances with them.

Whats the motive of this girl, she is very attractive in looks and has a magnetic personality. But does she secretly like me, despite saying no?
Click to expand...

I think you are either very young to understand how female psychology works or you haven't taken the red pill yet.

One thing you never do is chase after a girl and express your feelings. If you really like this girl and want to be with her, you gotta do the opposite of what your heart tells you to do. You gotta have the patience and not let yourself get too attached. I know it's tough and it takes a very strong mind to deal with your emotions. You should aim to become a high-value man who is willing to walk away anytime. You should never be scared to lose her.

Also, my advice is to walk away if you are not looking to build a family with her. Having a relationship is a waste of your precious time.
 
Stay away from women unless you are financially secured and have a good career going on for you.
 
psyoptica said:
I think you are either very young to understand how female psychology works or you haven't taken the red pill yet.

One thing you never do is chase after a girl and express your feelings. If you really like this girl and want to be with her, you gotta do the opposite of what your heart tells you to do. You gotta have the patience and not let yourself get too attached. I know it's tough and it takes a very strong mind to deal with your emotions. You should aim to become a high-value man who is willing to walk away anytime. You should never be scared to lose her.

Also, my advice is to walk away if you are not looking to build a family with her. Having a relationship is a waste of your precious time.
Click to expand...

Solid advice.
 
Sher Khan said:
I have been liking this girl that works alongside me for about one year now. I have been chasing after her hard, sometimes she responds back to me and it felt as if she was secretly interested. But when i confessed my feelings to her, she kind of said no to me and appeared not to show interest.

Now recently, as I have tried to move on and get with other girls, she has expressed her anger and displeasure. She has started to show a keenness to talk to me in a flirty way. But she has done this before as well when I have tried to talk to other women.

Another major thing she is saying she will do is to showcase me as a `playboy` in front of the other girls. I believe she is saying she will do this to destroy my chances with them.

Whats the motive of this girl, she is very attractive in looks and has a magnetic personality. But does she secretly like me, despite saying no?
Click to expand...

This behavior is a red flag, stay well away mate, your better off finding someone who is mutually interested 100% of the time and not when it suites her.
 
Having an image of Playboy isn't always a bad thing. The more a girl thinks you get attention from other girls the more they're become interested in you once you show some interest but not go hard after them like the way you did with this once. Keep things good with this girl, no need to sideline her. Tell her someone is showing interest in you and you're interested to some extent as well and see how she responds to it. If she likes you now then she'll make some effort if not then friend zone and move one. Guys over estimate how a girl can ruin your chances with another girl, if anything that could work in your favour.
 
psyoptica said:
I think you are either very young to understand how female psychology works or you haven't taken the red pill yet.

One thing you never do is chase after a girl and express your feelings. If you really like this girl and want to be with her, you gotta do the opposite of what your heart tells you to do. You gotta have the patience and not let yourself get too attached. I know it's tough and it takes a very strong mind to deal with your emotions. You should aim to become a high-value man who is willing to walk away anytime. You should never be scared to lose her.

Also, my advice is to walk away if you are not looking to build a family with her. Having a relationship is a waste of your precious time.
Click to expand...

I think youve either had some really bad relationships or none.
 
Sher Khan said:
I have been chasing after her hard
Click to expand...

Why dude, show your interest but chasing hard? She can sense the desperation from miles. It's not an attractive trait, girls get creeped out by this behaviour.

Sher Khan said:
sometimes she responds back to me and it felt as if she was secretly interested.
Click to expand...
Because she wants to be seen as friendly n nice person, don't go after what you felt as crushes fog your brain.


Sher Khan said:
But when i confessed my feelings to her, she kind of said no to me and appeared not to show interest.
Click to expand...

She set the boundaries here instead of leading you on, a no means no.

Sher Khan said:
Now recently, as I have tried to move on and get with other girls, she has expressed her anger and displeasure. She has started to show a keenness to talk to me in a flirty way. But she has done this before as well when I have tried to talk to other women.
Click to expand...

Human beings love attention, you should have done this in first place instead of after being rejected as it looks vengeful. She is just checking if she still has a hold on you.

Sher Khan said:
major thing she is saying she will do is to showcase me as a `playboy` in front of the other girls. I believe she is saying she will do this to destroy my chances with them.
Click to expand...

Girls communicate way different than us guys, they let other girls know that guy is creepy.

Sher Khan said:
Whats the motive of this girl, she is very attractive in looks and has a magnetic personality. But does she secretly like me, despite saying no?
Click to expand...

if she said no go by no, don't assume and waste your energy. You need to change your mindset to one of abundance.
 
Move on and find some non controling non feminist type girl or soon she will #metoo you at your workplace. In Australia every electronic print social media run by hardcore feminists, you will get no help Move on Goodluck
 
Ryw said:
Move on and find some non controling non feminist type girl or soon she will #metoo you at your workplace. In Australia every electronic print social media run by hardcore feminists, you will get no help Move on Goodluck
Click to expand...

Reminds me of this Tyson interview. Femanists are so annoying.

 
Just focus on yourself and talk to other girls bro. Some of the above posters are right she only wants you to orbit her so naturally when you draw back your attention she tries to reel you back in. Just focus on yourself and game other girls if she wants you she will let it be know just dont get caught in her games.
 
Ignore her. Women prefer to chase and she’ll do that if she thinks you have other options.
 
Thanks everyone for the advice. I will most likely limit contact with her and try to move on from her and her silly games.
 
Sher Khan said:
Yes, i already did that 6 weeks ago on her birthday. It was a pretty expensive perfume and she loved it.
Click to expand...

You can be "friends with benefits" if you want. Ask her about that option if you want to go through that route.
 
Sher Khan said:
Dolce and Gabbana the pink bottle. Great perfume.
Click to expand...

So you bought an expensive D & G perfume but don't even know the name? A lot pf feminine perfume bottles are pink. This sounds like something who has glanced at his mothers dressing table would say.
 
I´ve been staying completely away from this wonderful forum due to being exhausted and very busy with some project. However, yesterday, a friend sent me the link to this thread because, according to him, this thread is literally designed for me to jump in with the experiences that I´ve had in life. I declined at first, but today I´d a change of mind as here I´m with my thoughts on this.

The number of girls who´ve done the same with me is beyond the point of being counted on fingers, but I´ll highlight three major cases of my life here. I can´t go into details about the massive health troubles that I´ve had to face right from m childhood, but if I could relate all of that here, I´m sure that most of you would be shocked to know the torture that these girls made me go through, and I´m afraid that many of you would lose trust in women, trust me!

"You don´t have to love me as much as I love you."

"People desire to reach the moon, how lucky I´m that I get to spend time with the moon."

"If you don´t want me to spend my entire life in loneliness without someone by my side, then please never leave me."

Three different girls said these three different things to me, and these are just the singular highlights. Coupled with these were over hundred hints, which I can´t disclose here, which made it impossible for me to ignore the obvious. The funniest thing being that each girl that came into my life promised me that she´ll not do to me what the earlier one(s) did!

However, having pushed me into seeing the friendship as something else, it was then said, "Oh´.... you took it that way? It was just friendship on my part", and some said that they didn´t mean by these words how I´ve ended up interpreting them as. I don´t know whether we´ve any female members here on the forum, but if there´s any sister reading then, I would really love to know what their opinion is about what I´ve related above. Can you really say, having said all that, that this was just friendship on their part? How?

It doesn´t end here, though, as having been "clarified" that they didn´t mean what I understood, I broke all contact and moved on in life. Then, however, they tried different methods to have me back, contacting me again and again! What was the need now? I moved on, of course.

The jury is out as to why this keeps happening with me. Different theories have been presented, one being that all these girls wanted a relationship with me without it being officially recognised as one. They wanted enough room in the relation so that they could walk away from my life whenever they wanted, having made no commitments. A life with me in the long run, with the health troubles that I´ve, scared them, but yet, on the other hand, they felt entertained by my presence. My friends that I´ve over here on PP would testify to the fact that I´m a joker of the highest order and my company has immense value. Nobody feels bored even after spending straight 24 hours with me. My relatives call me when they´re in stress and want someone who can distract them from the daily life troubles. I know that I´ve praised myself a lot, a lot, but I don´t see a reason beyond this for girls again and again coming in my life, despite the obvious health issues that I suffer from. I see no good in me, except maybe what I´ve just related.

So, my friend, I do not have an idea or a solution, but I did have a lot of experience to related. But, you know, I´m still as ready as ever for further such episodes because, as a Hindi song says, "Dil tou bachchaa hai ji... " :msd

*Note: I do not mean to generalise women through my this post. They´re a wonderful creation of my Lord. May Allah bless them all; Aameen.*
 
DHONI183 said:
I´ve been staying completely away from this wonderful forum due to being exhausted and very busy with some project. However, yesterday, a friend sent me the link to this thread because, according to him, this thread is literally designed for me to jump in with the experiences that I´ve had in life. I declined at first, but today I´d a change of mind as here I´m with my thoughts on this.

The number of girls who´ve done the same with me is beyond the point of being counted on fingers, but I´ll highlight three major cases of my life here. I can´t go into details about the massive health troubles that I´ve had to face right from m childhood, but if I could relate all of that here, I´m sure that most of you would be shocked to know the torture that these girls made me go through, and I´m afraid that many of you would lose trust in women, trust me!

"You don´t have to love me as much as I love you."

"People desire to reach the moon, how lucky I´m that I get to spend time with the moon."

"If you don´t want me to spend my entire life in loneliness without someone by my side, then please never leave me."

Three different girls said these three different things to me, and these are just the singular highlights. Coupled with these were over hundred hints, which I can´t disclose here, which made it impossible for me to ignore the obvious. The funniest thing being that each girl that came into my life promised me that she´ll not do to me what the earlier one(s) did!

However, having pushed me into seeing the friendship as something else, it was then said, "Oh´.... you took it that way? It was just friendship on my part", and some said that they didn´t mean by these words how I´ve ended up interpreting them as. I don´t know whether we´ve any female members here on the forum, but if there´s any sister reading then, I would really love to know what their opinion is about what I´ve related above. Can you really say, having said all that, that this was just friendship on their part? How?

It doesn´t end here, though, as having been "clarified" that they didn´t mean what I understood, I broke all contact and moved on in life. Then, however, they tried different methods to have me back, contacting me again and again! What was the need now? I moved on, of course.

The jury is out as to why this keeps happening with me. Different theories have been presented, one being that all these girls wanted a relationship with me without it being officially recognised as one. They wanted enough room in the relation so that they could walk away from my life whenever they wanted, having made no commitments. A life with me in the long run, with the health troubles that I´ve, scared them, but yet, on the other hand, they felt entertained by my presence. My friends that I´ve over here on PP would testify to the fact that I´m a joker of the highest order and my company has immense value. Nobody feels bored even after spending straight 24 hours with me. My relatives call me when they´re in stress and want someone who can distract them from the daily life troubles. I know that I´ve praised myself a lot, a lot, but I don´t see a reason beyond this for girls again and again coming in my life, despite the obvious health issues that I suffer from. I see no good in me, except maybe what I´ve just related.

So, my friend, I do not have an idea or a solution, but I did have a lot of experience to related. But, you know, I´m still as ready as ever for further such episodes because, as a Hindi song says, "Dil tou bachchaa hai ji... " :msd

*Note: I do not mean to generalise women through my this post. They´re a wonderful creation of my Lord. May Allah bless them all; Aameen.*
Click to expand...

Even though you may have mentioned your health problems here in the past you haven't really specified so I don't know. In my opinion it could be the health issue because females are programmed to think about the offspring and the future. Also it wasn't true love probably because I have seen people overcome obstacles but eventually life and practicality gets in the way.

Anywas life is one big adventure, dont give up, find your one true love and then learn to regret her day by day like the rest of us.
 
DHONI183 said:
I´ve been staying completely away from this wonderful forum due to being exhausted and very busy with some project. However, yesterday, a friend sent me the link to this thread because, according to him, this thread is literally designed for me to jump in with the experiences that I´ve had in life. I declined at first, but today I´d a change of mind as here I´m with my thoughts on this.

The number of girls who´ve done the same with me is beyond the point of being counted on fingers, but I´ll highlight three major cases of my life here. I can´t go into details about the massive health troubles that I´ve had to face right from m childhood, but if I could relate all of that here, I´m sure that most of you would be shocked to know the torture that these girls made me go through, and I´m afraid that many of you would lose trust in women, trust me!

"You don´t have to love me as much as I love you."

"People desire to reach the moon, how lucky I´m that I get to spend time with the moon."

"If you don´t want me to spend my entire life in loneliness without someone by my side, then please never leave me."

Three different girls said these three different things to me, and these are just the singular highlights. Coupled with these were over hundred hints, which I can´t disclose here, which made it impossible for me to ignore the obvious. The funniest thing being that each girl that came into my life promised me that she´ll not do to me what the earlier one(s) did!

However, having pushed me into seeing the friendship as something else, it was then said, "Oh´.... you took it that way? It was just friendship on my part", and some said that they didn´t mean by these words how I´ve ended up interpreting them as. I don´t know whether we´ve any female members here on the forum, but if there´s any sister reading then, I would really love to know what their opinion is about what I´ve related above. Can you really say, having said all that, that this was just friendship on their part? How?

It doesn´t end here, though, as having been "clarified" that they didn´t mean what I understood, I broke all contact and moved on in life. Then, however, they tried different methods to have me back, contacting me again and again! What was the need now? I moved on, of course.

The jury is out as to why this keeps happening with me. Different theories have been presented, one being that all these girls wanted a relationship with me without it being officially recognised as one. They wanted enough room in the relation so that they could walk away from my life whenever they wanted, having made no commitments. A life with me in the long run, with the health troubles that I´ve, scared them, but yet, on the other hand, they felt entertained by my presence. My friends that I´ve over here on PP would testify to the fact that I´m a joker of the highest order and my company has immense value. Nobody feels bored even after spending straight 24 hours with me. My relatives call me when they´re in stress and want someone who can distract them from the daily life troubles. I know that I´ve praised myself a lot, a lot, but I don´t see a reason beyond this for girls again and again coming in my life, despite the obvious health issues that I suffer from. I see no good in me, except maybe what I´ve just related.

So, my friend, I do not have an idea or a solution, but I did have a lot of experience to related. But, you know, I´m still as ready as ever for further such episodes because, as a Hindi song says, "Dil tou bachchaa hai ji... " :msd

*Note: I do not mean to generalise women through my this post. They´re a wonderful creation of my Lord. May Allah bless them all; Aameen.*
Click to expand...

I've two questions.

1. Were those girls emotionally damaged?

2. Are you the type of person who tends to get involved more with emotionally damaged girls?
 
DeadBall said:
So you bought an expensive D & G perfume but don't even know the name? A lot pf feminine perfume bottles are pink. This sounds like something who has glanced at his mothers dressing table would say.
Click to expand...

For your satisfaction, i have just texted the girl and asked. Apparently the name of that particular perfume is "Garden" its a Dolce and Gabanna brand perfume. You should buy it for your MRS.
 
Sher Khan said:
For your satisfaction, i have just texted the girl and asked. Apparently the name of that particular perfume is "Garden" its a Dolce and Gabanna brand perfume. You should buy it for your MRS.
Click to expand...

No need, yai jawaab sun kai mera dil waise hi garden garden ho gaya hai . She will have to go without this exclusive perfume sadly.
 
Sher Khan said:
For your satisfaction, i have just texted the girl and asked. Apparently the name of that particular perfume is "Garden" its a Dolce and Gabanna brand perfume. You should buy it for your MRS.
Click to expand...

Lets be honest, you just wanted to have an excuse to contact the girl and took it the moment you saw. Didn't you?
 
Sher Khan said:
Yes, im very interested in her.
Click to expand...

You've already gone down that road.

My advice, don't play the game if you don't know the rules.

You are playing with fire and more often than not, it will burn you.

But you'll do it anyway because it becomes a obsession afterwards.
 
Itachi said:
You've already gone down that road.

My advice, don't play the game if you don't know the rules.

You are playing with fire and more often than not, it will burn you.

But you'll do it anyway because it becomes a obsession afterwards.
Click to expand...

Its no blooming game, Asians just over complicating things.

Like a girl, tell the girl..either date her then or move on after rejection. I always took his approach.

However, dont date to waste time, effort and money.
 
King-Misbah said:
Its no blooming game, Asians just over complicating things.

Like a girl, tell the girl..either date her then or move on after rejection. I always took his approach.

However, dont date to waste time, effort and money.
Click to expand...

Move on after the rejection.... It Doesn't happen when there is element of obsession. There's unhealthy attachment involved from both sides here.
 
Itachi said:
Move on after the rejection.... It Doesn't happen when there is element of obsession. There's unhealthy attachment involved from both sides here.
Click to expand...

Not from both sides. If he goes away, she won't miss him for long.
 
[MENTION=146530]DeadBall[/MENTION] firstly, I hate you and everyone else over here. Here I´ve a very important project to work on and here´re you people pulling me into a very addictive discussion.

It´s 16:23 PM in Germany as I type, and below follows part two of my story....

Part two......

The whole picture, brothers, is that, due to my health issues, I´ve always got enough on my plate to be even thinking about such stuff. Love and relationship have always been the last thing on my mind, and I never go searching for it. Given my health, I find it somewhat foolish, and kind of playing with fire, to be entertaining such desires. In matters of love, you could say that I´ve thus kind of a mountain-like ego. These girls, being six in total in number, didn´t come into my life. They raided me and woke me up from a slumber. Seeing my stone-heart like personality, it puzzled them as to why I don´t entertain such desires. These are not my words, these things were admitted by themselves quite early into the friendship. So, seeing my personality, they take it as a challenge to grow a heart inside my chest. They literally pull me to the well, promising to jump with me. Amidst all men of my age, they wonder why I act with limits with them. First thing, "Oh´ please, please stop calling me sister." It begins from this point and ends at the point where they compel me to change myself. Some of them admitted to have taken up the challenge of changing me and evoking the emotions in my heart. After two hundred hints, and shedding tears for me, I decide to change. The moment I change myself and respond in a likewise manner, they change, suddenly! It´s just mind-boggling, the whole affair!

I´m such a person that I let people themselves decide whether they stay in my life or not. So, next up, the moment they say that it was just friendship and they never meant what I understood, I bid them a polite farewell. Then starts the game. They keep peaking into my life, even when I´ve moved on. They keep contacting me, yet saying that it´ll only stay as a friendship. I´ve had to block some of them to win myself peace of mind from all this stretched on nonsense.

Itachi said:
I've two questions.

1. Were those girls emotionally damaged?

2. Are you the type of person who tends to get involved more with emotionally damaged girls?
Click to expand...

1. Some were, some weren´t.

2. No, I´ve no such preference. Again, love is always the last thing on my mind. It´s they who begin all this in the first place, some of which were emotionally damaged and some weren´t. Why? What´s the point here, if I may ask, sir? One of these girls was an Indian mind you, the emotionally damaged one, giving me yet another reason to think that there exists no good over there, except Dhoni. Sorry.
 
Stop chasing her. If she is interested in you to be , she will step forward. Don’t chase her anymore if she does not reciprocate.
 
DHONI183 said:
[MENTION=146530]DeadBall[/MENTION] firstly, I hate you and everyone else over here. Here I´ve a very important project to work on and here´re you people pulling me into a very addictive discussion.

It´s 16:23 PM in Germany as I type, and below follows part two of my story....

Part two......

The whole picture, brothers, is that, due to my health issues, I´ve always got enough on my plate to be even thinking about such stuff. Love and relationship have always been the last thing on my mind, and I never go searching for it. Given my health, I find it somewhat foolish, and kind of playing with fire, to be entertaining such desires. In matters of love, you could say that I´ve thus kind of a mountain-like ego. These girls, being six in total in number, didn´t come into my life. They raided me and woke me up from a slumber. Seeing my stone-heart like personality, it puzzled them as to why I don´t entertain such desires. These are not my words, these things were admitted by themselves quite early into the friendship. So, seeing my personality, they take it as a challenge to grow a heart inside my chest. They literally pull me to the well, promising to jump with me. Amidst all men of my age, they wonder why I act with limits with them. First thing, "Oh´ please, please stop calling me sister." It begins from this point and ends at the point where they compel me to change myself. Some of them admitted to have taken up the challenge of changing me and evoking the emotions in my heart. After two hundred hints, and shedding tears for me, I decide to change. The moment I change myself and respond in a likewise manner, they change, suddenly! It´s just mind-boggling, the whole affair!
Click to expand...

Since you mentioned the sister thing I'm guessing these girls were desi?
 
DHONI183 said:
Some of them admitted to have taken up the challenge of changing me and evoking the emotions in my heart. After two hundred hints, and shedding tears for me, I decide to change. The moment I change myself and respond in a likewise manner, they change, suddenly! It´s just mind-boggling, the whole affair!
Click to expand...

Sorry to know that. You had offended them by not bowing to their charms like other guys, and they got their revenge. It is a cruel world.
 
[MENTION=6745]DHONI183[/MENTION] I didn't mean to offend you. I asked you simply because I had similar experience in case of relationships in past. From my experience, what I've realized was, the girls were attracted to what seemed like mystery to them and they were kind of attracted in to it. But once you open up, there will be insecurities (we all have) that will be laid on the table and the girls aren't sure whether they are able to handle it or put up with it.

Hence the same girl who will chase you, will also leave as a matter of time. Because the person they got attracted to, becomes a bit different in reality from their expectations. They were attracted to the outward persona but not what defines you as "you".
 
DeadBall said:
Since you mentioned the sister thing I'm guessing these girls were desi?
Click to expand...

Yes, sir! All were desi and not only desi but in fact belonging to very religious families. Very religious in fact, even though I don´t actually mean to make any point by the mention of it. My therapist, who´s actually more of a friend since years now, often says that I should give German girls a chance because, in her opinion, they´re less likely to build all the mess that I´ve been through. Don´t know about that, to be honest, but having had the experiences that I´ve had since over a decade now, I´m fed up of all this nonsense now. Same old, same old. For the time being, I just feel like saying things which the woman from your profile picture said in front of the camera. :))

CricketCartoons said:
Sorry to know that. You had offended them by not bowing to their charms like other guys, and they got their revenge. It is a cruel world.
Click to expand...

No idea what to say, man. I´m no Sultan Rahi but a human-being after all. It baffles me that they first compelled me into seeing things "that" way and then, the moment I change myself for them, they changed themselves. Strange, from head to toe!

I was also in a couple of relationships as well, mind you, six months once and four years once. Whereas at least they didn´t say after all the time that they saw me just as a friend, but both simply apologised to me, asking to be forgiven, for they admitted that they lacked the courage to face the pressure from their families, and I readily forgave and emerged from those setbacks as even stronger than before. :msd

Itachi said:
[MENTION=6745]DHONI183[/MENTION] I didn't mean to offend you. I asked you simply because I had similar experience in case of relationships in past. From my experience, what I've realized was, the girls were attracted to what seemed like mystery to them and they were kind of attracted in to it. But once you open up, there will be insecurities (we all have) that will be laid on the table and the girls aren't sure whether they are able to handle it or put up with it.

Hence the same girl who will chase you, will also leave as a matter of time. Because the person they got attracted to, becomes a bit different in reality from their expectations. They were attracted to the outward persona but not what defines you as "you".
Click to expand...

Firstly, the English dictionaries are all agreed that the word "offend" applies not to me. So spare me that.

I asked you because I knew what you´re getting and, and my own assessment runs along the same lines. Another thing is, from far, I shine as bright as a shining star, laughing, joking, full of life and energy, giving people hope and helping them fight despair (please pardon the extreme narcissism! Please pardon). However, the moment you come near me you realise just how difficult my life actually is, and maybe that pushes them away..... ? Don´t know.

However, add twist number 232 here: the moment I see that things aren´t going to work, I move away and move on. I resume my usual life of being what I´m. This doesn´t sit well with them, for, having told me that they didn´t see me that way, they perhaps expect that I´ll publish my agony and will publicly rue my loss. Then I get contacted again for no reasons, sometimes just being shared that their pet died or the grandmother has caught fever. Me being me, I use the block button and move on! :msd
 
It's pretty simple. She likes you enough that she hopes you are around but doesn't like you enough to commit to you. Basically you are her back-up. If someone better according to her comes along during this time she will happily cut u off and will express shock if you tell her at that time that I thought things were going on between us. We have all been there mate.
 
Sher Khan said:
For your satisfaction, i have just texted the girl and asked. Apparently the name of that particular perfume is "Garden" its a Dolce and Gabanna brand perfume. You should buy it for your MRS.
Click to expand...

I don't think this was a good idea. Now she'll think you have someone else, that you want to buy it for. Did she ask you why you wanted to know?
 
The point about not telling a girl how you feel doesnt mean you hide your feelings and hope for the best.

The point is you flirt and build up attraction and the rest will automatically fall in its place.
 
Last edited:
Tera Gawaandi said:
Why dude, show your interest but chasing hard? She can sense the desperation from miles. It's not an attractive trait, girls get creeped out by this behaviour.


Because she wants to be seen as friendly n nice person, don't go after what you felt as crushes fog your brain.




She set the boundaries here instead of leading you on, a no means no.



Human beings love attention, you should have done this in first place instead of after being rejected as it looks vengeful. She is just checking if she still has a hold on you.



Girls communicate way different than us guys, they let other girls know that guy is creepy.



if she said no go by no, don't assume and waste your energy. You need to change your mindset to one of abundance.
Click to expand...

The bolded part is soo true. There is this natural instinct to say it to other girls if we find something is creepy.
 
DHONI183 said:
I´ve been staying completely away from this wonderful forum due to being exhausted and very busy with some project. However, yesterday, a friend sent me the link to this thread because, according to him, this thread is literally designed for me to jump in with the experiences that I´ve had in life. I declined at first, but today I´d a change of mind as here I´m with my thoughts on this.

The number of girls who´ve done the same with me is beyond the point of being counted on fingers, but I´ll highlight three major cases of my life here. I can´t go into details about the massive health troubles that I´ve had to face right from m childhood, but if I could relate all of that here, I´m sure that most of you would be shocked to know the torture that these girls made me go through, and I´m afraid that many of you would lose trust in women, trust me!

"You don´t have to love me as much as I love you."

"People desire to reach the moon, how lucky I´m that I get to spend time with the moon."

"If you don´t want me to spend my entire life in loneliness without someone by my side, then please never leave me."

Three different girls said these three different things to me, and these are just the singular highlights. Coupled with these were over hundred hints, which I can´t disclose here, which made it impossible for me to ignore the obvious. The funniest thing being that each girl that came into my life promised me that she´ll not do to me what the earlier one(s) did!

However, having pushed me into seeing the friendship as something else, it was then said, "Oh´.... you took it that way? It was just friendship on my part", and some said that they didn´t mean by these words how I´ve ended up interpreting them as. I don´t know whether we´ve any female members here on the forum, but if there´s any sister reading then, I would really love to know what their opinion is about what I´ve related above. Can you really say, having said all that, that this was just friendship on their part? How?

It doesn´t end here, though, as having been "clarified" that they didn´t mean what I understood, I broke all contact and moved on in life. Then, however, they tried different methods to have me back, contacting me again and again! What was the need now? I moved on, of course.

The jury is out as to why this keeps happening with me. Different theories have been presented, one being that all these girls wanted a relationship with me without it being officially recognised as one. They wanted enough room in the relation so that they could walk away from my life whenever they wanted, having made no commitments. A life with me in the long run, with the health troubles that I´ve, scared them, but yet, on the other hand, they felt entertained by my presence. My friends that I´ve over here on PP would testify to the fact that I´m a joker of the highest order and my company has immense value. Nobody feels bored even after spending straight 24 hours with me. My relatives call me when they´re in stress and want someone who can distract them from the daily life troubles. I know that I´ve praised myself a lot, a lot, but I don´t see a reason beyond this for girls again and again coming in my life, despite the obvious health issues that I suffer from. I see no good in me, except maybe what I´ve just related.

So, my friend, I do not have an idea or a solution, but I did have a lot of experience to related. But, you know, I´m still as ready as ever for further such episodes because, as a Hindi song says, "Dil tou bachchaa hai ji... " :msd

*Note: I do not mean to generalise women through my this post. They´re a wonderful creation of my Lord. May Allah bless them all; Aameen.*
Click to expand...

DHONI183 bhai, you should meet people in person. These online thing will only be used by girls to exploit you.
 
kaayal said:
DHONI183 bhai, you should meet people in person. These online thing will only be used by girls to exploit you.
Click to expand...

Both, my sister, both..... I´ve had an experience of both! It runs much deeper than what you´re thinking it to be.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

Bhaag Viru Bhaag
Papa is in drum, Meerut man's daughter told neighbours after wife killed him
Replies
32
Views
1K
MP2011
M
D
The family issues - My father and sister
Replies
71
Views
2K
Dulex9
D
sweep_shot
Weird/Crazy Incidents Worldwide Thread
Replies
1
Views
255
sweep_shot
sweep_shot
Bhaag Viru Bhaag
Who is Kashish Chaudhary? 1st Hindu woman assistant commissioner in Balochistan
Replies
10
Views
426
Bhaag Viru Bhaag
Bhaag Viru Bhaag
BouncerGuy
From founder of the nation to focus of public hate - How Bangladeshis have changed their views on Sheikh Mujibur Rahman?
Replies
29
Views
882
sweep_shot
sweep_shot
Back
Top