According to you, what is the biggest reason for divorce?

[Devadwal]

I think Lack of communication is often the main reason relationships break down.

When couples don't express their feelings and needs, misunderstandings and unresolved conflicts arise, leading to divorce.

Share your thoughts?

 

[FearlessRoar]

It varies from culture to culture, and difference of opinions can be the biggest reason.

 

[Devadwal]

It varies from culture to culture, and difference of opinions can be the biggest reason.

Agree .any role of social media ?

 

[YousafTheBeast]

When you ask for meethe chawal but instead you get bland rubber grains, happened to me yesterday.

If the food isn’t cooking, then we ain’t cooking.

 

[FearlessRoar]

Agree .any role of social media ?

Yes, I have seen divorces in Pakistan that were caused by social media use.

 

[sweep_shot]

Women are probably responsible for most divorces (based on what I have seen). They often don't want to compromise/get along and are very entitled.

Not all women of course. But, a big percentage of them.

 

[Devadwal]

Women are probably responsible for most divorces (based on what I have seen). They often don't want to compromise/get along and are very entitled.

Not all women of course. But, a big percentage of them.

They want something better all the time and availability of the options .

 

[sweep_shot]

They want something better all the time and availability of the options .

Indeed.

Simplicity is missing from them. They tend to be very materialistic and shallow. Also, they often spread malicious rumors which cause fights and divorces.

Again, not all women of course. There are many sensible women too.

 

[Stewie]

Ego

 

[sweep_shot]

Another reason is finance.

Many families break up due to bad financial situations. Arguments often happen due to money issues.

 

[KingKhanWC]

Could be many reasons depending on the society & culture .

Eg Western culture mainly due to adultry .

Asian culture mainly due to bickering & arguments over finance & lifestyle

 

[RexRex]

Boredom.

 

[Nikhil_cric]

Increasingly, marriage is perhaps a social institution that has outlived it's usefulness or necessity.

 

[sweep_shot]

Increasingly, marriage is perhaps a social institution that has outlived it's usefulness or necessity.

Marriage was and is still is classy.

Are you saying people should live together without getting married?

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

Increasingly, marriage is perhaps a social institution that has outlived it's usefulness or necessity.

Maybe traditional marriage worked in patriarchal setup only. If thats the right assumption then we can say feminism might be one of the causes as it takes down patriarchy.

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

Marriage was and is still is classy.

Are you saying people should live together without getting married?

What's so classy about marriage?
It is literally the one of the most common acts a person does in this society.

 

[sweep_shot]

What's so classy about marriage?

LOL. What kind of question is this?

Marriage is like Test cricket. Everything else is like The Hundred (not real cricket).

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

LOL. What kind of question is this?

Marriage is like Test cricket. Everything else is like The Hundred (not real cricket).

Forgive me for asking, how long have you been married?

 

[sweep_shot]

Forgive me for asking, how long have you been married?

I am not married yet. But, I recognize marriage is classy and important. You don't need to be married to understand it.

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

I am not married yet. But, I recognize marriage is classy and important. You don't need to be married to understand it.

I hope to get married in a few years in sha Allah.

I kinda guessed based on your statement brother, hehe, Wish you well on that front!

 

[Itachi]

Maybe traditional marriage worked in patriarchal setup only. If thats the right assumption then we can say feminism might be one of the causes as it takes down patriarchy.

This. If you noticed, this thread turned from divorce to borderline misogyny.

Patriarchy is losing its grip. But some people have same level of expectations and want domination over the gender. The outcome will be obviously divorce.

"if my food isn't cooking, we are not cooking...."

 

[Itachi]

I am not married yet. But, I recognize marriage is classy and important. You don't need to be married to understand it.

"You don't need to married to understand it...."

You have no idea what marriage is.

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

This. If you noticed, this thread turned from divorce to borderline misogyny.

Patriarchy is losing its grip. But some people have same level of expectations and want domination over the gender. The outcome will be obviously divorce.

"if my food isn't cooking, we are not cooking...."

That's why i said "traditional marriage". Honestly its a complex issue, I dont think Humanity has been able to find the right balanced solution to it. We are experimenting and evolving the norms as we go along.

 

[Itachi]

That's why i said "traditional marriage". Honestly its a complex issue, I dont think Humanity has been able to find the right balanced solution to it. We are experimenting and evolving the norms as we go along.

In this context, I tend to follow Marxism and his conflict theory. Conflict will always be a part of society and it'll be conflict which will bring changes..... Changes which will bring other conflicts and same cycle continues.

 

[sweep_shot]

"You don't need to married to understand it...."

You have no idea what marriage is.

LOL.

Marriage is a formal union between a man and a woman. Nothing complicated to understand here.

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

In this context, I tend to follow Marxism and his conflict theory. Conflict will always be a part of society and it'll be conflict which will being changes..... Changes which will bring other conflicts and same cycle continues.

Are we really in a cycle about the concept of marriage and family? For a cycle, we would need to circle back to something na.

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

LOL.

Marriage is a formal union between a man and a woman. Nothing complicated to understand here.

Arre yaar... plzzz I know you are giving your genuine opinion but sorry its too simplistic . We all go through these phases of life, you will join our stages too. Everyone does. Some time ago, we were at your stage too

 

[sweep_shot]

Maybe traditional marriage worked in patriarchal setup only. If thats the right assumption then we can say feminism might be one of the causes as it takes down patriarchy.

Why are you anti-patriarchy? Patriarchy isn't automatically bad.

Patriarchy can be both abusive and benevolent.

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

Why are you anti-patriarchy? Patriarchy isn't automatically bad.

Patriarchy can be both abusive and benevolent.

I am not anti -patriarchy or anti-feminist. My opinions are fluid on the concept and keep evolving on these matters.

I would not choose the word benevolent, if you ever get into these discussions and some females are in the group. Just a friendly note.

 

[Champ_Pal]

Women fighting back Male shackles.

This question has been asked several times. Its not always Man's fault. Many times women are also equally responsible.

Male Chauvinism, Insecurity, Unrealistic expectations from women, Overbearing restrictions on women freedom, Clashes on career aspirations, In Laws trouble etc.. all can lead to divorce.

Everyone has only one life to live. You live by your choice. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices. But how much of a sacrifice should be made depends on the person. Many Men and Women end up sour and cynical as they age. They feel they could have done things differently instead of sacrificing their youth and happiness over some guy/girl who never really cared for him/her.

Marriage is a mess. You just have to try your best make the best out of it.

 

[Aang_The_last_airbender]

Women fighting back Male shackles.

This question has been asked several times. Its not always Man's fault. Many times women are also equally responsible.

Male Chauvinism, Insecurity, Unrealistic expectations from women, Overbearing restrictions on women freedom, Clashes on career aspirations, In Laws trouble etc.. all can lead to divorce.

Everyone has only one life to live. You live by your choice. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices. But how much of a sacrifice should be made depends on the person. Many Men and Women end up sour and cynical as they age. They feel they could have done things differently instead of sacrificing their youth and happiness over some guy/girl who never really cared for him/her.

Marriage is a mess. You just have to try your best make the best out of it.

Here is the counter argument against equality in workforce.
We as a species, have a major bottleneck pregnancy time and limited age zone for female for fertility. We are already seeing that nearly 60+ countries have TFR below replacement levels. The population declines are going to be severe and catastrophic in coming 40-50 years. How do we handle that boondongle??

I really hate to admit that Elon Musk might have some sense about Population decline.

Marriage and family will always cost a female far more than a male on the professional front. So do we still strive for equality if it means that it can lead to virtual end of human species down the line?

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

Increasingly, marriage is perhaps a social institution that has outlived it's usefulness or necessity.

What would you suggest as an alternative?

 

[Itachi]

LOL.

Marriage is a formal union between a man and a woman. Nothing complicated to understand here.

You'll know in future.

 

[Savak]

Lol there is never one reason.

Major reason is incompatibility.

 

[Bhaag Viru Bhaag]

I think Lack of communication is often the main reason relationships break down.

When couples don't express their feelings and needs, misunderstandings and unresolved conflicts arise, leading to divorce.

Share your thoughts?

The main reason is a delusional spouse, fake emotions, and propaganda spread by your in-laws. I hope you liked my answer Mr @Devadwal.

 

[LordJames]

I think Lack of communication is often the main reason relationships break down.

When couples don't express their feelings and needs, misunderstandings and unresolved conflicts arise, leading to divorce.

Share your thoughts?

Sexual dissatisfaction.

 

[KingKhanWC]

Lol there is never one reason.

Major reason is incompatibility.

Can you define compatibility?

After you legendary thread years ago you should be able to provide a detail explanation of compatibility.

 

[hks222]

Could be many reasons.

Societal pressures, forced arranged marriages, incompatibility, toxic relationship, lack of mental alignment, or even physical attraction to eachother.

 

[globetrotter]

sexual dissatisfaction, no mutual understanding, physical abuses are the major causes for divorce... if you see any family courts in India, they are over flooded with divorce cases.... good business for Lawyers

 

[Devadwal]

Is social media's also responsible for increasing divorce cases? Recently I seen a lot of case in india where couples taking the divorce because they finds another partner through social media interaction.

 

[Theo_14]

This one can be disputed but strongly believe if a man lacks masculinity, principles and leadership then that lays the foundations for any major issue for future separation.

A lot of elements tie to this. A man for example can define his masculinity through having his own routine ie gym, goals or ties to financial power/responsibilities (from major ie helping in the house/finance or little ie planning travelling itinerary)

If your wife is having to baby for you and you are not a man of your own thoughts and decisions in most scenarios then the feminine in the woman fades and she becomes the masculine one.

 

[Farhan The Man]

if a man lacks masculinity, principles and leadership then that lays the foundations for any major issue for future separation.

Nail. Head. Hammer.

This is IT.

Women love and respect a man of these 3 qualities.

 

[Suleiman]

Focusing too much attention on neighbors and not enough on one’s own wife and kids

 

[Bhaijaan]

Not being a team player and putting shared goals above your personal ego.

 

[Devadwal]

Focusing too much attention on neighbors and not enough on one’s own wife and kids

Maybe thinking too much about others women's and getting married to multiple women's at the same time. Instead caring about a single wife.

 

[Suleiman]

Maybe thinking too much about others women's and getting married to multiple women's at the same time. Instead caring about a single wife.

I’m not the one asking the question though.

All 4 are happy and satisfied.

Alhamdullilah

 

[hks222]

Is social media's also responsible for increasing divorce cases? Recently I seen a lot of case in india where couples taking the divorce because they finds another partner through social media interaction.

I think its also about lack of what you want from your partner - and alot of people don't have a good understanding of that.

They jump onto the boat, and then due to social media - they're easily able to find another woman.

 

[hks222]

sexual dissatisfaction, no mutual understanding, physical abuses are the major causes for divorce... if you see any family courts in India, they are over flooded with divorce cases.... good business for Lawyers

Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the biggest reasons probably and yet hardly anyone talks about it.

I think this is more common with arranged marriages because you don't have alot of physical or intimacy experience with your partner.

 

[Rajdeep]

Sexual dissatisfaction.

That is one of the last reason of a divorce. Why are you consistently wrong in every topic?

 

[Rajdeep]

Focusing too much attention on neighbors and not enough on one’s own wife and kids

You should have used smiley instead of poor KP

 

[rpant_gabba]

Here is the counter argument against equality in workforce.
We as a species, have a major bottleneck pregnancy time and limited age zone for female for fertility. We are already seeing that nearly 60+ countries have TFR below replacement levels. The population declines are going to be severe and catastrophic in coming 40-50 years. How do we handle that boondongle??

I really hate to admit that Elon Musk might have some sense about Population decline.

Marriage and family will always cost a female far more than a male on the professional front. So do we still strive for equality if it means that it can lead to virtual end of human species down the line?

Given the limited natural resources and explosion of human population and increase in human lifespan, maybe humans need a change in their mindset?

 

[Devadwal]

You should have used smiley instead of poor KP

Pakistani poster's are trying to copy my style.

 

[KingKhanWC]

Men who divorce after having multiple kids are pathetic human beings imo.

 

[Suleiman]

You should have used smiley instead of poor KP

KP emoji captures both of your essence.

Thought he had a spat with you and you guys were breaking up.

Less obsession with neighbors may help.