Is this True in Islam?

[Poseidon]

well, i just randomly gt a video on youtube, which was 2 min of a clip , some scholar is saying that a wife is not obliged to do house chores or cook for husband in Islam, its not her duty , and if she ask for maid, you have to arrange her for that , and if she ask for chief thn you have to arrange her for that too , also she is not responsible to cook for your family and she is not responsible to look after your parents , its the man's duty to look after his parents , also if she demands a separate home, a husband should provide a separate home to her .
also after having child, if she ask for a payment in return for nursing her own kids, you have to give her .

as a south asian man , i only know about half of this statement , i didnt know that wife is not obliged to do house chores or cooking or nursing to her kids etc .

thats some interesting things to know , is anything i am missing ?

 

[PakLFC]

Never heard of such nonsensical laws unless he can provide any Quranic verses or authentic hadith to support his claims. I guess it is only commonsense that if a Muslim lady chooses to work after marriage then she'll have less time to attend to home chores. Unless there is some agreement in place prior to nikaah most Muslim men can't afford maid's and servants to carry out menial tasks. We are living during times when most so called Islamic scholars are incredibly ignorant themselves. It is only fair for the lady to contribute in some form when the man work's all day long. She can't sit idly polishing her nail's all day long.

 

[Justcrazy]

This is something you need to discuss before marriage , if the husband does not have the means he cannot afford such luxuries.

 

[gazza619]

Islam is all about common sense. It is all about being considerate, tolerant and compromise where needed.

Don't need any religious scholar for this. Just remember your wife is not your servant.

 

[the Great Khan]

It is true. Just look up what the Prophet pbuh said about wives..

She isn't your naukrani or your familys..

 

[IMMY69]

Islam is all about common sense. It is all about being considerate, tolerant and compromise where needed.

Don't need any religious scholar for this. Just remember your wife is not your servant.

Correct.
Truth is everyone is equal. If anything men or "man" are th weaker sex.

 

[DeadlyVenom]

Islam is all about common sense. It is all about being considerate, tolerant and compromise where needed.

Don't need any religious scholar for this. Just remember your wife is not your servant.

Yeah basically this.

Too many peoole enter marriages as if its a business transaction.

Just work hard together, support each other and enjoy each others company.

Everything else will take care of itself.

 

[SpiritOf1903]

The Prophet SAW cooked and did house chores...that is in itself proof. Islam isn't misogynistic, the cultures are

 

[The_KING]

A lot of Pakistanis think that wife's only job is to clean the house and make food. Your wife is not a house maid.

 

[Stewie]

well, i just randomly gt a video on youtube, which was 2 min of a clip , some scholar is saying that a wife is not obliged to do house chores or cook for husband in Islam, its not her duty , and if she ask for maid, you have to arrange her for that , and if she ask for chief thn you have to arrange her for that too , also she is not responsible to cook for your family and she is not responsible to look after your parents , its the man's duty to look after his parents , also if she demands a separate home, a husband should provide a separate home to her .
also after having child, if she ask for a payment in return for nursing her own kids, you have to give her .

as a south asian man , i only know about half of this statement , i didnt know that wife is not obliged to do house chores or cooking or nursing to her kids etc .

thats some interesting things to know , is anything i am missing ?

I dont know about the rest but the part about a woman having zero obligations to take care of her in laws is absolutely correct. She is obligated to take care of her own parents though and if she needs to go do it, the husband is obligated to allow her to do it. I have heard this from a number of credible people.
I think nobody in a relationship is obliged to do anything but you must do your part and both partners should share the burden equally.
That being said, south asian culture is absolutely appalling when it comes to taking care of women and some of our practices are in direct contradiction to the faith.

 

[sweep_shot]

I dont know about the rest but the part about a woman having zero obligations to take care of her in laws is absolutely correct. She is obligated to take care of her own parents though and if she needs to go do it, the husband is obligated to allow her to do it. I have heard this from a number of credible people.
I think nobody in a relationship is obliged to do anything but you must do your part and both partners should share the burden equally.
That being said, south asian culture is absolutely appalling when it comes to taking care of women and some of our practices are in direct contradiction to the faith.

Right.

A wife can ask her husband to provide for separate accommodation.

 

[KingKhanWC]

A lot of Pakistanis think that wife's only job is to clean the house and make food. Your wife is not a house maid.

Correct but this isnt limited to Pakistanis, Indians, Bangladeshis and even English still mostly expect the wife to do the cooking and cleaning.

Imo if the husband goes to work and the wife doesnt work, its fair to expect her to keep the house running.

The term housewife is a western term.

 

[emranabbas]

well, i just randomly gt a video on youtube, which was 2 min of a clip , some scholar is saying that a wife is not obliged to do house chores or cook for husband in Islam, its not her duty , and if she ask for maid, you have to arrange her for that , and if she ask for chief thn you have to arrange her for that too , also she is not responsible to cook for your family and she is not responsible to look after your parents , its the man's duty to look after his parents , also if she demands a separate home, a husband should provide a separate home to her .
also after having child, if she ask for a payment in return for nursing her own kids, you have to give her .

as a south asian man , i only know about half of this statement , i didnt know that wife is not obliged to do house chores or cooking or nursing to her kids etc .

thats some interesting things to know , is anything i am missing ?

This is 100% correct
Cook for husband, house chores etc... is all taken from indian culture. Pakistanis live a life of islam/indian culture

 

[Champ_Pal]

The Prophet SAW cooked and did house chores...that is in itself proof. Islam isn't misogynistic, the cultures are

Any Hadith to prove that?

 

[sweep_shot]

Any Hadith to prove that?

Narrated Al-Aswad:

That he asked `Aisha (RA) "What did the Prophet (PBUH) use to do in his house?" She replied, "He used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was the time for prayer he would go for it."

Sahih Bukhari 676.

https://sunnah.com/bukhari:676

 

[Justcrazy]

The Prophet SAW cooked and did house chores...that is in itself proof. Islam isn't misogynistic, the cultures are

The main issue today is that you will find everywhere scholars speaking about womens rights , no one speaks about mens right. Does Islam not give rights to men ? How many lectures can you find on Husbands rights ?

There needs to be a balance. When we speak about Prophet , we need to speak about whole picture . Did the wives of prophet say that since you cannot afford proper meals or big houses or good lifestyle you cannot have more than one wife ?

Hadhrat Aisha says says months would go away and we survived on dates and water . Are women willing to lead such life ?

 

[Justcrazy]

This is 100% correct
Cook for husband, house chores etc... is all taken from indian culture. Pakistanis live a life of islam/indian culture

So what should a wife be doing ?

 

[Champ_Pal]

Narrated Al-Aswad:

That he asked `Aisha (RA) "What did the Prophet (PBUH) use to do in his house?" She replied, "He used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was the time for prayer he would go for it."

Sahih Bukhari 676.

https://sunnah.com/bukhari:676

Where does it say that Prophet was cooking food and cleaning the house?

 

[Poseidon]

Where does it say that Prophet was cooking food and cleaning the house?

found it .

Helping your wife with household chores is a neglected sunnah. Any man that sees it beneath him or is too arrogant to help his wife around the house is acting against the sunnah and is guilty of chauvinistic behavior. In fact, majority of Muslim scholars are of the opinion that serving one’s husband is not compulsory on a wife including Imam Malik, al-Shafi’, and Abu Hanifa. In other words, they opine that a wife is under no obligation to cook, clean, wash, sew, etc. for her husband. The popular Kuwaiti cleric Sh. Othman al-Khamis says the same in one of the videos on his YouTube channel and adds that according to many people of knowledge, it is obligatory on the husband to bring someone to serve his wife for such tasks (servant, domestic worker, etc.).

The Shafi’ scholar Sh. Musa Furber argues that a “husband is required to inform his wife that this is not the case. Furthermore, she is entitled to wages for doing so – if she decides not to do so as an act of charity. Her refusal to do so is not an act of disobedience and he cannot withhold her support if she refuses.”

Aisha, the wife of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), was asked, “What did the Prophet (ﷺ) use to do in his house?” She replied, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family (كَانَ يَكُونُ فِي مِهْنَةِ أَهْلِهِ) and when it was the time for prayer he would go for it.” (Bukhari)

The word used in the hadith is mihnah (مِهْنَة), which is translated as ‘busy serving’ here, also means in the Arabic language ‘work’, ‘job’, ‘profession’, etc. This implies helping your wife in the house is a full time job as well. Whether it’s helping wash the dishes, cooking, cleaning, raising the kids, etc., is all part and parcel of being the ‘man’ of the house. The notion that it is somehow degrading for men to help and work with the wife around the house is foreign to Islam.

In another report Aisha is reported to have said, “He did what one of you would do in his house. He mended sandals and patched garments and sewed.” (Adab Al-Mufrad graded sahih by Al-Albani)

In yet another report it is said that she said, “He milked his goat.” (Ahmad)

Hence, he did not find such things too ‘womanish’ for him to do. It is no wonder that he said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Tirmidhi; Ibn Majah)

 

[SpiritOf1903]

While in theory this is sound, I'd be quite annoyed if I came home after 10 hours, had no food and the house was a mess... sometimes culturally norms prevail for good reason.

Also, it should be incumbent on the man to do house chores which might refer to maintenance, looking after kids etc so quite a broad subject.

I personally have no interest in being a manny and while I can fend for myself and would happily do so on occasion, it certainly wouldn't be standard practice.

So this has many layers really. I find nowadays people using scenarios to their advantage via Google Mullahs...that's the danger

Mufti Tiktoki said this...

 

[IMMY69]

A man, a proper man, is someone who can cook, clean and look after their young children.
A person that is masculine enough to support their wife in whatever she wants to do.

If this is in anyway is against Islam then I'll face down hell fire with glee

 

[the Great Khan]

While in theory this is sound, I'd be quite annoyed if I came home after 10 hours, had no food and the house was a mess... sometimes culturally norms prevail for good reason.

Also, it should be incumbent on the man to do house chores which might refer to maintenance, looking after kids etc so quite a broad subject.

I personally have no interest in being a manny and while I can fend for myself and would happily do so on occasion, it certainly wouldn't be standard practice.

So this has many layers really. I find nowadays people using scenarios to their advantage via Google Mullahs...that's the danger

Mufti Tiktoki said this...

Are you married?

So just to let you all know at least two weeks out of the 4 a woman has issues around her menstrual cycle. It can effect some quite badly..excessive bleeding headaches and mood swings. She may not be physically able to feed your fat stomachs..

Secondly she is not obliged to go and service your mother or your sister or any of your relati es. If your mother moans about it that's your issue to handle.

Thirdly yes it is her duty to manage the house. This includes pleasing her husband like keep things clean within her capability. Looking after the children and educating them. If during these duties she is unable to fulfill other duties it is your job to help her. This does not include feeling you.

Fourthly it is your job to provide her sustenance. Part of your wage goes into her hand. And is hers to do as she pleases.

Finally use common sense. Use compassion and wisdom. Yes don't just lay down like a door mat but at the same time don't expect her to be a door mat too..be smart..

 

[SpiritOf1903]

Are you married?

So just to let you all know at least two weeks out of the 4 a woman has issues around her menstrual cycle. It can effect some quite badly..excessive bleeding headaches and mood swings. She may not be physically able to feed your fat stomachs..

Secondly she is not obliged to go and service your mother or your sister or any of your relati es. If your mother moans about it that's your issue to handle.

Thirdly yes it is her duty to manage the house. This includes pleasing her husband like keep things clean within her capability. Looking after the children and educating them. If during these duties she is unable to fulfill other duties it is your job to help her. This does not include feeling you.

Fourthly it is your job to provide her sustenance. Part of your wage goes into her hand. And is hers to do as she pleases.

Finally use common sense. Use compassion and wisdom. Yes don't just lay down like a door mat but at the same time don't expect her to be a door mat too..be smart..

Well...that's basically the Hadith then..

 

[Poseidon]

This is 100% correct
Cook for husband, house chores etc... is all taken from indian culture. Pakistanis live a life of islam/indian culture

so you are saying that indian sub-cont culture has distort the Islamic culture and life style .

 

[the Great Khan]

so you are saying that indian sub-cont culture has distort the Islamic culture and life style .

Yes particularly Hindu culture. I suggest you read up a bit more. There are clear guidlines for you and your wife if you are married..just remember be compassionate and don't let your family dictate your relationship with her. Protect her. That is your duty..

Trust me from experience. Your family cannot be trusted when it comes to your wife no matter how great they may seem now. It is your job to lay down the ground rules right at the beginning and that will help further down the road. Once you do that you should be OK and better able to balance your relationships.

And don't listen to people who are not married yet..