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Hey guys I needed some advice

So I been friends with this indian Hindu girl for months. Spending nearly every evening together going to eat and shopping and movies as friends. Over the last month we got really close and over the past few weeks have become more than friends.

She said her family will never accept her marrying a non Hindu. However I know some Hindus that are okay with it. What can I do to convince her or her dad.

I was thinking of taking him to a coffee shop some how and expressing to him how much I love his daughter and how I’d make her happy.

Any advice, Were both British I’m pakistani she indian. I’m from a Muslim
Background her Hindu, however neither one of us are religious.
 
If you're both non-religious, and your parents are aware of this, then i don't see a problem. First convince her then convince her father. If you know the girl is on your side then it will be a lot easier.
 
the fact that youre both british raised should help and make it easier one would think
 
I was in a similar situation earlier this year, since this girl has already said that her dad won't accept it, you shouldn't bother cause that's a sign that a sign that she isn't too interested.
 
It’s crazy you are asking life questions on a forum, only you know the ground realities. Since you both are adults and if you both really care for each other do what you need to do. Her father will eventually come around.

It’s funny her father told her he’d be fine with anyone but a Pakistani. It would be a weird conversation to have with your daughter when she is going abroad. May be she is looking for a way out.




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It's a bad idea to convince the dad. Always go for the mother. The easier kill. Then make her your attorney so that she can represent the "good you" in their house raat din shaam subaah. He will get tired of it and will say "whatever"

.... Thank me later and invite me to the wedding.
 
Are you asking the girl to convert?

Why don't you give your blossoming relationship sometime before embarking on big decisions.....
 
I was in a similar situation and my parents didn’t agree, she was a Shiah and I am a Sunni Muslim so I had to part ways. :( But not full break up.

Then I have been dating a Catholic and my parents are against it again :moyo My father said you can kiss my property goodbye, now how can a father do that to his own blood :butt so I left her too

I am in touch with both of them and told my parents ok you guys choose now as I have given up hope :amir

If you live with your parents then listen to them as they are always right, if you really love the girl then she probably has to convert to Islam. My family asked me if they convert to Islam then they will accept, the catholic girl agreed but later she found out about my Shiah Gf so I had to come out like Steven Smith.
 
Should not matter if you are only a Muslim by name and she a Hindu that way as well. If either is remotely religious then such a marriage will cause great problems. Also think of your family as well and your possible future kids. I respect and understand that her parents only want her to marry a Hindu guy. Also appreciate that by marrying her you'll possibly be ending her relationship with her parents and close relatives as well. I couldn't live with that. Chances are if you do marry her you'll both regret it later on. Muslims are the most racially diverse community in the world that I don't understand why anyone would want to marry outside it.
 
Are you asking her to convert? Because that may freak out her father unless he is extremely liberal in these matters, your being a Pakistani will only make his anxiety worse (sorry no offence). That you both are non-religious and based abroad may make things a bit easier if you want the positive side.

Anyway talk to your parents/relevant elders first and then the girl's mom if you are really that serious. I come from a region where Hindu-Christian marriages are common. I was in a similar situation 2 years back, wanted to get extra serious with my Christian GF (former schoolmate) but then her parents and brother got involved and mine too. Wasn't worth the compromise and although it was a sad parting, I am glad I didn't get involved in lifelong misery. I have decided to follow my parent's wishes because I owe them for all that they have done for my upbringing.

I'll only say that both of you shouldn't do something that could cause either of your parents any sadness/regret, we are from a culture where family relations hold great importance, we desis aren't like the Western people. Like it or not, in our culture we have to respect our parent's wishes, I won't say whether it is good or bad but that's just how it rolls in our societies. Love marriages may not last for long if the cultural differences are too much, you'll have to get into a lifelong commitment and all the grandparents will have a say in the future of your children.
 
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Would you be happy if a lady in your family married a Hindu guy going against her family? If not then don't do a similar deed to others.
 
If you're both non religious then therein lies your answer.

If you truly love each other then nothing else should matter
 
I don’t want her to convert. I’m happy for her to stay Hindu.

Neither of us are religious at all. Just our families are. I’m going to see how things progress over the next year. If things get serious and I want to marry her, I’m gonna try to sit her father down and tell him how I feel and attempt to convince him.
 
It depends on how serious you two are. If she loves you she will revert to Islam, but with proper research first, or is willing to go the distance no matter what. And you two will be with her no matter what, even if she doesn't accepts Islam. But as a Muslim you have to convey the message of Islam, as Islamically you can only marry a Muslim or religious people person of the book (jew, christian).

Now if you're both not religious at all, and want a liberal freedom open zindagi, each to their own. Go talk to your parents nicely, try to be nice to them and keep remaining patient. Don't go against your parents, like some people suggested. Your parents want best for you, raised and took care of you all them growing up years, and now Pyar ki liye saab kuch **** de ga kya?
Personal experience, This pyar vyar been there done that, nothing is all like laila majnu true, unless it is meant.. got to be careful, always be sure properly if they are exactly right for you, and one the best ways when your down at your lowest, they're the first one to be there, advice you, to make you feel better, and one who has good patience. You realise who is 'close' true dear ones when your at that situation of being at your lowest point.

Anyway. Good luck..
 
CricketDon said:
You can convert to Hinduism?
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That would be committing Shirk.

I'm sure if any non muslim girls really truly loves a muslim boy, they will do proper research about Islam, and eventually accept it like the so many have,as examples can be found on youtube, many revert couples, both none muslim girl reverting and marrying a muslim born man and ex non muslim man reverting to Islam and marrying muslim born girl.
 
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you dont need to marry these days now anyway, considering you said none of you are religious. Just tell your parents your moving out and move in with her, no need to get in to all these troubles about converting or persuading other parents, after 5 years and having a chid or 2 the parents will slowly adjust to it.
 
Hasan2K8 said:
That would be committing Shirk.

I'm sure if any non muslim girls really truly loves a muslim boy, they will do proper research about Islam, and eventually accept it like the so many have,as examples can be found on youtube, many revert couples, both none muslim girl reverting and marrying a muslim born man and ex non muslim man reverting to Islam and marrying muslim born girl.
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What if a Muslim guy truly loves a non-Muslim girl?
 
Given the history of indian subcontinent where 99 percent muslims have hindus heritage. And luckily in hinduism ,its not sin to get convert or pray or respect any god or creature. Although its oldest yet very liberal in that regard and logical. So a hindu girl can convert to islam and it happens in india many many times. But thing is you being pakistani wud be headache.
Plus you both need to be practical. A hindu can adjust but the question is that , with the sort of restrictions you guys have. Would you be able to tolerate her
 
CricketDon said:
I don’t want her to convert. I’m happy for her to stay Hindu.

Neither of us are religious at all. Just our families are. I’m going to see how things progress over the next year. If things get serious and I want to marry her, I’m gonna try to sit her father down and tell him how I feel and attempt to convince him.
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Perfectly fine if both of your families are okay with it. If not, just move away from home and both of you can marry and live together.

But I'm not in your shoes. You would know the situation better.
 
Is it not 2018 in Britain? I would assume two consenting adults can do as they please as long as it's within the laws.

Or maybe both of you should become adults before considering marriage? Then you'll be able to make your own decisions without the need for your legal guardians to approve.


I've come to this stage in my life where if I hear something irrational, I have no respect for it. Both you and her should be making your own decisions. If religion is a non-factor in both your lives and you can see yourselves building a life with one another, then you should absolutely do it.

If religion is a factor for you and her (and only you and her) then think it through because it can be a problem later on.

And if there are people that refuse to accept completely rational decisions you've made for your life then it might not be worth having those kind of people in your life. They clearly don't respect you and see you as inferior/subordinates.
 
Hasan2K8 said:
That would be committing Shirk.

I'm sure if any non muslim girls really truly loves a muslim boy, they will do proper research about Islam, and eventually accept it like the so many have,as examples can be found on youtube, many revert couples, both none muslim girl reverting and marrying a muslim born man and ex non muslim man reverting to Islam and marrying muslim born girl.
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Ok Paindu logic.

Don't you think there are Hindus that are sitting there saying if there is any Muslim girl/boy that loves a Hindu, they will do research and convert?

Were you born into a Muslim family or did you do thorough research and look into every religion before settling on Islam?
 
PakLFC said:
Would you be happy if a lady in your family married a Hindu guy going against her family? If not then don't do a similar deed to others.
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What if he was happy that a female member of his family was going to marry a Hindu because the guy provided her with happiness and security. Should he then go ahead and pursue it?
 
RickyG said:
Is it not 2018 in Britain? I would assume two consenting adults can do as they please as long as it's within the laws.

Or maybe both of you should become adults before considering marriage? Then you'll be able to make your own decisions without the need for your legal guardians to approve.
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I was going to reply along similar lines but then thought about it, and of course, despite being in Britain 2018, the reality is most desis are usually unwilling to sever ties with their families. Personally I think they should bite the bullet and continue the relationship, in my experience there is usually a reconciliation further down the line at some point anyway. As long both partners are genuinely non-religious, there shouldn't be any issues.

Of course if your family means more to you than your potential life partner, then you should maybe reconsider how seriously you take the relationship anyway.
 
RickyG said:
Ok Paindu logic.

Don't you think there are Hindus that are sitting there saying if there is any Muslim girl/boy that loves a Hindu, they will do research and convert?

Were you born into a Muslim family or did you do thorough research and look into every religion before settling on Islam?
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Seriously what a logic that is.

If the girl truly loves a Muslim guy then she should study the religion and be under the obligation to convert.

No consideration for the other half's religion or choice anyway.
 
CricketDon said:
I don’t want her to convert. I’m happy for her to stay Hindu.

Neither of us are religious at all. Just our families are. I’m going to see how things progress over the next year. If things get serious and I want to marry her, I’m gonna try to sit her father down and tell him how I feel and attempt to convince him.
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You should become a hindu and take a hindu name, or find a muslim girl for yourself.
 
Rafa said:
Seriously what a logic that is.

If the girl truly loves a Muslim guy then she should study the religion and be under the obligation to convert.

No consideration for the other half's religion or choice anyway.
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So why can't the guy do the exact same thing if he really loves the girl? Or is one religion superior than the other? And then you speak about logic after your last sentence?
 
Hitman said:
So why can't the guy do the exact same thing if he really loves the girl? Or is one religion superior than the other? And then you speak about logic after your last sentence?
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Thanks for your advice hitman it’s very helpful. Yes that poster is brutally muudering logic.
 
No girl is worth ditching your religion. Imagine you marry her and then become religious #Muslim. What religion will your children follow? I think you need to look into Islam before making any decison. It is zina I believe having intercourse with a person who is not a Muslim, jew or Christian.
 
CricketDon said:
Hey guys I needed some advice

So I been friends with this indian Hindu girl for months. Spending nearly every evening together going to eat and shopping and movies as friends. Over the last month we got really close and over the past few weeks have become more than friends.

She said her family will never accept her marrying a non Hindu. However I know some Hindus that are okay with it. What can I do to convince her or her dad.

I was thinking of taking him to a coffee shop some how and expressing to him how much I love his daughter and how I’d make her happy.

Any advice, Were both British I’m pakistani she indian. I’m from a Muslim
Background her Hindu, however neither one of us are religious.
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Meet her parents . No big deal .
 
Cpt. Rishwat said:
I was going to reply along similar lines but then thought about it, and of course, despite being in Britain 2018, the reality is most desis are usually unwilling to sever ties with their families. Personally I think they should bite the bullet and continue the relationship, in my experience there is usually a reconciliation further down the line at some point anyway. As long both partners are genuinely non-religious, there shouldn't be any issues.

Of course if your family means more to you than your potential life partner, then you should maybe reconsider how seriously you take the relationship anyway.
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I understand that. And it's not necessarily limited to desis, there are other communities that like to only mingle within themselves. But when you refuse to integrate and amalgamate then ethnic ghettos become a reality. But it makes me wonder, when desis immigrate to the UK or Canada do they sincerely believe that they'll be able to restrict the freedom of choice their kids will have as adults?

If I wanted my child to marry only a Pakistani Muslim, I would move to a nice city like Islamabad in Pakistan and take occasional holidays to the UK or Canada. Not the other way around.

I also agree on biting the bullet. At some point, you have to take a stand or you'll continue living your life on someone else's terms. It'll also set precedent for other people in his circle of friends and family.
 
Hitman said:
So why can't the guy do the exact same thing if he really loves the girl? Or is one religion superior than the other? And then you speak about logic after your last sentence?
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I think he was agreeing with me. Just wasn't able to convey it effectively.
 
CricketDon said:
Wow this is very interesting thank you
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Some Hindu priest in some temple may not accept a convert to Hinduism. But then as a Hindu, I don't accept that priest either :)

Actually, many Hindu priests around the world would not have accepted my mother and sister given some of their feminist views, but it doesn't matter, they are Hindus still.

Hinduism is more a philosophy and way of thinking than a religion with a book which says you have to do this and do that. As for the community religious experience, there are many communities that accept converts to Hinduism, notably the Arya Samaj which has a worldwide presence.

http://aryasamajthane.com/conversion.html

the converted Hindu can marry the Hindu man/woman in Arya SamajTemple as per traditional Hindu marriage rites
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Napa said:
Some Hindu priest in some temple may not accept a convert to Hinduism. But then as a Hindu, I don't accept that priest either :)

Actually, many Hindu priests around the world would not have accepted my mother and sister given some of their feminist views, but it doesn't matter, they are Hindus still.

Hinduism is more a philosophy and way of thinking than a religion with a book which says you have to do this and do that. As for the community religious experience, there are many communities that accept converts to Hinduism, notably the Arya Samaj which has a worldwide presence.

http://aryasamajthane.com/conversion.html
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I should clarify that the Arya Samaj does not own Hinduism, nobody does. I mentioned them only in case you want the community religious experience.

It is quite possible to be a Hindu without a Hindu community religious experience, it is optional. What makes the experience of being a Hindu richer is learning about some Hindu philosophical ideas, many of which are found in the Bhagwad Gita.
 
Don't convert, it isn't worth it. The girl I was seeing wasn't religious either but she was a vegetarian, apparently non-religious hindus also avoid meat, I didn't think I could adapt to that lifestyle so had to cut things off.
 
Although I'm also very liberal and don;t care much about religion, but from the experience I have so far, by knowing many people in similar situation, unless you're true Heer Ranjha , walk away from her. She will find one for her and you too from your own community/religion.
 
RickyG said:
What if he was happy that a female member of his family was going to marry a Hindu because the guy provided her with happiness and security. Should he then go ahead and pursue it?
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No. Islam disallows a Muslim person from marrying a Hindu person, period. Any Muslim who does so becomes a apostate by default. No matter how successful, compassionate or beautiful the Hindu man or lady may be it is disallowed by Allah. These rules are divine rules which man can not fully comprehend. Even if the family is happy it is still apostasy. Better that they leave Islam altogether then marry a Hindu.
 
If anyone in my family married outside Islam I would completely disown them. There argument would be "I will marry whoever I want". My reply will be "I can also disown you and end any relationship I want as well". Just don't expect any family to feel sorry for a rebel when such a marriage crashes like it most likely will once reality sets in and the "ishq ka bhoot" fades away.
 
PakLFC said:
If anyone in my family married outside Islam I would completely disown them. There argument would be "I will marry whoever I want". My reply will be "I can also disown you and end any relationship I want as well". Just don't expect any family to feel sorry for a rebel when such a marriage crashes like it most likely will once reality sets in and the "ishq ka bhoot" fades away.
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Who needs enemies when they have family like you? I pity anyone related to you.
 
U shouldn't do it.

Ur and her parents don't deserve this.

Marriage is not just a relation between two individuals. It's the relation between two families. There will be a lot of troubles in future especially if ur and her family is moderately religious.

It's not wroth it.

My humble opinion.
 
RickyG said:
Who needs enemies when they have family like you? I pity anyone related to you.
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You know nothing about me, my family or what Islam says. Keep your views and political correctness to yourself. Weak minded people like you are to afraid to express their views, they are like sheep following whoever leads them. There are hundreds of millions of people of all faiths who will only marry in their own religious community. Nothing wrong with that at all.
 
Anyone who believes in the "kalimah" can not marry a Hindu.
 
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It's a tough one as both family's are religious, in the end if this person is the right one and am 100% sure I would just marry them without a religious ceremony whilst retaining your religious identities that way no one can really complain, but you may have to be prepared for your family going separate ways and that can always change but you have to do what you think is best for you personally.
 
shaz619 said:
You can if that hindu converted to judaism or christianity
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Question is why try to convert other, why not let her or him carry his faith, love means accepting the lover for whom he is not what his religion is, my friend married a Muslim girl, but didn't changed her religion,and respected his sentiments this won her family especially their younger daughter so much so that she went on to marry my friends younger brother,and he is even more fun loving though they were earlier skeptical even angry but now his father openly admits that he couldn't have found better groom for their daughter, in before someone makes it hindu v Muslim, I think one should let other decide his identity, you should marry someone for who she or he is, not what he or she follows.
 
Clarification.my family is religious I ain’t. I hardly even believe in god. When it comes to life decisions I don’t ever look to a book written 1400 hundred years ago, but to logic and reasoning.

For all intents and purposes I’m agnostic/atheist.
 
PakLFC said:
If anyone in my family married outside Islam I would completely disown them. There argument would be "I will marry whoever I want". My reply will be "I can also disown you and end any relationship I want as well". Just don't expect any family to feel sorry for a rebel when such a marriage crashes like it most likely will once reality sets in and the "ishq ka bhoot" fades away.
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People like you make Islam sound like a scary and unforgiving war like religion of death. The love and peace you claim is all fake. I hope you find love in your heart one day.
 
Bubby said:
Question is why try to convert other, why not let her or him carry his faith, love means accepting the lover for whom he is not what his religion is, my friend married a Muslim girl, but didn't changed her religion,and respected his sentiments this won her family especially their younger daughter so much so that she went on to marry my friends younger brother,and he is even more fun loving though they were earlier skeptical even angry but now his father openly admits that he couldn't have found better groom for their daughter, in before someone makes it hindu v Muslim, I think one should let other decide his identity, you should marry someone for who she or he is, not what he or she follows.
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Was just pointing out what is deemed acceptable, people are free to do as they please
 
CricketDon said:
People like you make Islam sound like a scary and unforgiving war like religion of death. The love and peace you claim is all fake. I hope you find love in your heart one day.
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That's people like him remember but not everyone, it is fine if you feel a certain way so long you're not harming anyone
 
CricketDon said:
Hey guys I needed some advice

So I been friends with this indian Hindu girl for months. Spending nearly every evening together going to eat and shopping and movies as friends. Over the last month we got really close and over the past few weeks have become more than friends.

She said her family will never accept her marrying a non Hindu. However I know some Hindus that are okay with it. What can I do to convince her or her dad.

I was thinking of taking him to a coffee shop some how and expressing to him how much I love his daughter and how I’d make her happy.

Any advice, Were both British I’m pakistani she indian. I’m from a Muslim
Background her Hindu, however neither one of us are religious.
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Have you been in other relationships before? The way you feel for this girl is it different from the others? If you are certain that she is the one, don’t give it up for all the naysayers.

For a Hindu family marrying their daughter into a Muslim household raises a few questions. Whether their daughter will be forced into wearing the burkha? Will she be allowed to continue working? Will her kids be allowed to participate in religious events in her family? How willing will you be to participate? Another point to consider is if you will continue living with your family post marriage. If yes how amenable are your parents to the above?

If all these check out and you are a guy who has a stable job, are reasonable to talk to, I don’t think why her family will refuse. If they do, they are just being bone headed about it and you should ignore them.

I know of a few Pakistani Muslim guys with Indian Hindu wives and the guys in question are not the typical orthodox Muslims. They are living happy lives and their parents have come around. Similarly I know of Muslim girls married to Hindu guys and they are good too.

One thing you might have to do is have 2 wedding ceremonies. A Hindu one and a Muslim one. Keeps both the families happy. Almost all inter faith marriages I have seen have been similar.
 
Pakistanian said:
I was in a similar situation earlier this year, since this girl has already said that her dad won't accept it, you shouldn't bother cause that's a sign that a sign that she isn't too interested.
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This right here .Keep it 100. Enjoy each others company for whatever time ya'll have together and then go your separate ways . Not every relationship has to end up in a marriage . If its meant to be , then it'll happen for you .
 
GBK_Fan said:
Have you been in other relationships before? The way you feel for this girl is it different from the others? If you are certain that she is the one, don’t give it up for all the naysayers.

For a Hindu family marrying their daughter into a Muslim household raises a few questions. Whether their daughter will be forced into wearing the burkha? Will she be allowed to continue working? Will her kids be allowed to participate in religious events in her family? How willing will you be to participate? Another point to consider is if you will continue living with your family post marriage. If yes how amenable are your parents to the above?

If all these check out and you are a guy who has a stable job, are reasonable to talk to, I don’t think why her family will refuse. If they do, they are just being bone headed about it and you should ignore them.

I know of a few Pakistani Muslim guys with Indian Hindu wives and the guys in question are not the typical orthodox Muslims. They are living happy lives and their parents have come around. Similarly I know of Muslim girls married to Hindu guys and they are good too.

One thing you might have to do is have 2 wedding ceremonies. A Hindu one and a Muslim one. Keeps both the families happy. Almost all inter faith marriages I have seen have been similar.
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I don’t agree with the burka and believe it should be banned. Yes she will be allowed to carry on working like normal she will be a doctor. Yes kids would be free to partake in events on both sides if they wish too. I’d participate is she does. We’d be living in our own house. I’d be a graduate in computer science so I’d have a stable high income job.
 
CricketDon said:
Clarification.my family is religious I ain’t. I hardly even believe in god. When it comes to life decisions I don’t ever look to a book written 1400 hundred years ago, but to logic and reasoning.

For all intents and purposes I’m agnostic/atheist.
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Perhaps grow some footballs and tell this to the girl and her parents? Tell them to use some logic and reasoning, put their false religion to one side and give her hand to you because aww you're in love.

You moan about religion but worry religion will stop you from being with the girl of your dreams, it's pathetic tbh.
 
KingKhanWC said:
Perhaps grow some footballs and tell this to the girl and her parents? Tell them to use some logic and reasoning, put their false religion to one side and give her hand to you because aww you're in love.

You moan about religion but worry religion will stop you from being with the girl of your dreams, it's pathetic tbh.
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KKWC Bhai Why is Hinduism a false religion?
 
TM Riddle said:
KKWC Bhai Why is Hinduism a false religion?
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Sorry bro ,let me clarify. Im not saying it's false but saying the OP believes all religions are false and this is what he should say to the girls parents. If you're anti religion(any religion) then why worry or allow religion to get in the way of argualbly the most important decision of your life, choosing your partner. He also says the girl isn't religious, if he cant then perhaps she can convince her parents to ignore this blind faith and use their logic to give the go ahead. No point ranting on a forum when you should be ranting at her parents. :)
 
CricketDon said:
I don’t agree with the burka and believe it should be banned. Yes she will be allowed to carry on working like normal she will be a doctor. Yes kids would be free to partake in events on both sides if they wish too. I’d participate is she does. We’d be living in our own house. I’d be a graduate in computer science so I’d have a stable high income job.
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Then you should meet her father and he should see reason. From your post it seems both of you are in your early 20s. I will recommend you hold on, get a job and then see how you feel about it.
 
If both are not religious, then go ahead and marry.

If either one of them is religious, it will create a lot of problems. Especially from the Girl's side.

If OP is an Indian Muslim, things will be slightly easier. But if OP is Pak muslim, then it further increases the problem.
 
CricketDon said:
People like you make Islam sound like a scary and unforgiving war like religion of death. The love and peace you claim is all fake. I hope you find love in your heart one day.
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There is plenty of love in my heart. There is plenty of forgiveness in Islam as well. I am just telling you what Islam says moreover many Muslim's have disowned family members from marrying outside Islam. This does not mean they don't have any love in their hearts, it's stupid to believe that. Disowning someone by refusing to talk to them is not a crime in any country. Weird that you find someone refusing to talk to you as being scary! What love and peace am I claiming that is fake according to you?
 
You aren't the first one and won't be the last one.

Find a way that works for both of you and be prepared for any inconvenience pertaining to people talking about it but that shouldn't matter as long as you both are happy together.
 
PakLFC said:
You know nothing about me, my family or what Islam says. Keep your views and political correctness to yourself. Weak minded people like you are to afraid to express their views, they are like sheep following whoever leads them. There are hundreds of millions of people of all faiths who will only marry in their own religious community. Nothing wrong with that at all.
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Yes I am the sheep...the irony honestly.

There's nothing wrong with marrying within your religion just like there's nothing wrong with marrying outside your religion.

The only thing that is wrong is your obsession with wanting to dictate how other people live their lives.
 
CricketDon said:
Hey guys I needed some advice

So I been friends with this indian Hindu girl for months. Spending nearly every evening together going to eat and shopping and movies as friends. Over the last month we got really close and over the past few weeks have become more than friends.

She said her family will never accept her marrying a non Hindu. However I know some Hindus that are okay with it. What can I do to convince her or her dad.

I was thinking of taking him to a coffee shop some how and expressing to him how much I love his daughter and how I’d make her happy.

Any advice, Were both British I’m pakistani she indian. I’m from a Muslim
Background her Hindu, however neither one of us are religious.
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If you are a Muslim just by name and not really bothered about Islam then you can get married with her easily . I do not see in a secular nation why two adult consenting people cannot get married. Her family may not like it , but then you can do nothing about that. Its there mindset , probably with time they will accept eventually.

Now if you are a practicing Muslim , going out and dating with even a Muslim girl is NOT allowed , let alone a Hindu girl.
 
JaDed said:
What if a Muslim guy truly loves a non-Muslim girl?
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Its his choice , whether he goes after his desires or obeys his creator. If he disobeys his creator , its not that he would be punished straightaway in this world. He can live his life on his own terms , but later would have to pay for all this.

It all basically boils down which side he wants to go.
 
KingKhanWC said:
Perhaps grow some footballs and tell this to the girl and her parents? Tell them to use some logic and reasoning, put their false religion to one side and give her hand to you because aww you're in love.

You moan about religion but worry religion will stop you from being with the girl of your dreams, it's pathetic tbh.
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You seem like a sad and bitter person. I hope you find happiness in life.
 
Justcrazy said:
Its his choice , whether he goes after his desires or obeys his creator. If he disobeys his creator , its not that he would be punished straightaway in this world. He can live his life on his own terms , but later would have to pay for all this.

It all basically boils down which side he wants to go.
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Are we just going to assume a creator exists, and that too the creator you say out of all the millions of past creators?
 
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Spoken to her father and explained how much I love his daughter and I’d spend the rest of my life caring and loving her. Give her e rrything her heart desires and support all her dreams.

I told him I ain’t a religious person and I would never have her change her religion or beliefs ever. Nor would I force the children into Islam but would allow them to choose what they believe and focus on giving them an education.

He accepted! We are going to get married in 2020 after she finishes her medicine degree and I finish my computer science degree. We finish in 2019 but want to spend a year settling into the work force and our careers then get married with money saved up!

We are going too have two ceromonies, one Islamic for my side and one Hindu for her side. Then we are going to travel for a month as a honey moon! I’m so excited, thank toh all for your paorice advice and help it really helped a lot!

Too all the negative extremists, I hope one day you find love and peace that you so claim!
 
CricketDon said:
Update

Spoken to her father and explained how much I love his daughter and I’d spend the rest of my life caring and loving her. Give her e rrything her heart desires and support all her dreams.

I told him I ain’t a religious person and I would never have her change her religion or beliefs ever. Nor would I force the children into Islam but would allow them to choose what they believe and focus on giving them an education.

He accepted! We are going to get married in 2020 after she finishes her medicine degree and I finish my computer science degree. We finish in 2019 but want to spend a year settling into the work force and our careers then get married with money saved up!

We are going too have two ceromonies, one Islamic for my side and one Hindu for her side. Then we are going to travel for a month as a honey moon! I’m so excited, thank toh all for your paorice advice and help it really helped a lot!

Too all the negative extremists, I hope one day you find love and peace that you so claim!
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Congrats. Delighted for you. It's the only way you should've handled it. Don't compromise over things that aren't even important to you.
 
CricketDon said:
You seem like a sad and bitter person. I hope you find happiness in life.
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lol. Im very happy. Isn't it you having issues? :shafiq

If religion means nothing to you both, why worry it about? Strange couple, hope you both get to be with each other.
 
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