Marrying a Hindu girl

[Itachi]

Honestly speaking...... this is selfish stuff.. i know most will disagree with me but the institution of marriage in our culture is not just about you .. its about your family and kids.. something like this ends up hurting a lot of people.. what about the future kids? They will be pariahs in the family..

This sort of stuff works when you have an extremely progressive family... which most pakistani families are not!

This is a double edged sword. I also know many woman who has sacrificed her whole life so that via the institution of marriage, they tried to keep making happy everyone in the family. From outer look, it looks like an ideal family who pretends to values the principles but in the inside, it is generally ugly. Divorce rate is low not because there are some special bonds. But because one person has sacrificed to keep it intact.

 

[rhony]

Just do what I did. Live together and tell your parents that they can take their own sweet time to agree. They will come around.

 

[sensible-indian-fan]

You've been romantically involved a few weeks and already talking about marriage.

***. Takes at least 12 months of living together to know if that'll work, here ye are rushing into it after about two months

Anyway, the man you need is, as always, [MENTION=134809]sensible-indian-fan[/MENTION]

Haha. How you been buddy?

I don't think he needs my mullah type advice. Plus he has already classified some posters as negative extremists.

 

[Cpt. Rishwat]

Haha. How you been buddy?

I don't think he needs my mullah type advice. Plus he has already classified some posters as negative extremists.

He asked for advice on how to become a Hindu on a Pakistani forum. Something I have done as well to be fair, so no harm in that, but you then shouldn't be abusive when the Muslim members give you well meaning advice from Islamic sources which you don't agree with.

 

[Stewie]

This is a double edged sword. I also know many woman who has sacrificed her whole life so that via the institution of marriage, they tried to keep making happy everyone in the family. From outer look, it looks like an ideal family who pretends to values the principles but in the inside, it is generally ugly. Divorce rate is low not because there are some special bonds. But because one person has sacrificed to keep it intact.

True and hence my point.. its either one person suffering or everybody else including the kids, whether you justify the suffering of the parents or not, it still exists. Picture conservative Muslim or Hindu parents living their lives on a bed of nails cuz their beloved kid was “entrapped” by the enemy’s daughter/son.

Sounds ugly but thats how most of them feel. And then you have kids and they are all confused celebrsting everyrhing from Eid and such to Diwali and whatnot! They dont know what to believe in and dont fit in anywhere. Unless, once again, its at the suffering of one parent and they go either 100% Muslim or 100% hindu.

Hindu/muslim union is the hardest when it comes to consolidating the faith because Abrahamic faiths still have a lot in common despite the cultural differences. For Indian Muslims, it might be an easier step but I can tell you its not going to be easy for a Pakistani.

Good luck, nonetheless to the OP. When it comes to the matter of the heart.... well lets just say dont give yourself a heart attack!

 

[SpiritOf1903]

OP is SRK 20 years ago.

 

[sensible-indian-fan]

He asked for advice on how to become a Hindu on a Pakistani forum. Something I have done as well to be fair, so no harm in that, but you then shouldn't be abusive when the Muslim members give you well meaning advice from Islamic sources which you don't agree with.

Agreed captain.

 

[PakLFC]

Hindu-Muslim marriages will naturally have many difficulties as the above poster has explained the kids don't fall in to any category. Even Indo-Pak marriages are very difficult where mostly the couple are both Muslim. I have known a few such marriages that ended up in divorce. Here political views and loyalty of the kids puts to much stress on the marriage until it falls apart. I want Pakistani Muslim's to marry Muslims from any background other then Indian. The Indian Muslim's marrying their Hindu brethren has never bothered me in the slightest because to me they are first and foremost Indians.

 

[Donal Cozzie]

Haha. How you been buddy?

I don't think he needs my mullah type advice. Plus he has already classified some posters as negative extremists.

Ah good good, busy as hell if im honest.

 

[Adijazz1706]

OP bro, if you ask for advice and then don't even consider taking it, why ask for advice at all

 

[CricketCartoons]

OP bro, if you ask for advice and then don't even consider taking it, why ask for advice at all

what sort of question is this? just because one asks for advice doesn't mean one is obligated to take it.

 

[Adijazz1706]

what sort of question is this? just because one asks for advice doesn't mean one is obligated to take it.

One should at least point out the faults in said advice in a decent way without resorting to labeling people extremists and such