Brother firstly my condolences to you and your countrymen.
Secondly I can say this to you because you will not overreact and call names but the recent GOI policy towards Kashmir has been overly ambitious and papered over some cracks. Your government fooled you guys into thinking it was over. Decades long skirmish had been solved and things were normal but they overextended too quickly and too soon by thinking things were completely normal. It is a crime to think you can have internal tourism in a place where many inhabitants are reeling from war and what they feel is occupation. Your government thought the idea of financial prosperity within India would cause groups to bury the hatchet.
Now before the resident lunatics in the asylum come and call me names and say I am supporting XYZ let me reiterate I am not. I have said similar things about Balochistan. You can't solve these through military means unless grievances are understood and acted upon. One of the biggest mistakes post 9/11 was to group all groups together as religious terrorists. Sure some may be ( ISIS type) but for many the underlying root cause is something else. They have just put on the religious cloak because other avenues have failed.
I would urge respected posters to not fall into the trap of idiots like
@rpant_gabba . Yes the terrorists were saying they acted for Islam...but the people who opened their mosques and homes for shelter and to rescue the wounded and give refuge also say they are motivated by the same ideology.
Strip it all away and it's a land dispute and will only get resolved by addressing the genuine grievance of people so that terrorists can't claim to be the only ones speaking on their behalf.
I am lucky I live near a part of the world where through talks and negotiations things can happen. The leader of the IRA even met the Queen! It can and will happen but until the live of a pandit is seen as the same as the live of a Muslim by both sides then the cycle will continue in Kashmir.