We prioritise money, education and survival above this "pursuit of Jannat".. /End of thread.
If you look at the majority of religious conservative Indians overseas, you'd realize that most are super wealthy or were migrants from richer Indian families. Whereas most middle class migrants ( techies, engineers and most South Indians) put religious/cultural adherence on the back-burner till they have really become well set .Simply because many aspects of those are counterproductive to their aspirations in the new country !
Many go back to religion/culture once they are in a kind of safe stable spot, which is why you find that a lot of the Hindutva supporters in the States are mostly middle/old aged, high earning Indians .
Let me give you an example how this works , my southern State of Kerala in India has some of the highest per capita rate of educated/skilled expats and migrants to US/Europe and the Middle east.
Before the IT boom the major area for migrants was Nursing/paramedical fields. It continues to be for women even now. Marrying a nurse was a sure-shot way of getting a chance to migrate to the EU or US or earn high salaries in the middle east .
But once you reach there , the nurse has to work long hours, so it becomes difficult for her to look after the kids/household. If both parents are working in many cases it becomes nearly impossible to focus on the children's education and upbringing . So many men give up their jobs and take up the "homemaker" duties, because that's the only way they can ensure that the household runs well and the kids are raised/looked after properly ! The woman earns considerably more than the man ever will , so that partner with the lesser earning job Quits.
Tell me how many men in Pakistan would even let your wife take up a job that pays more than you ? Let alone take up the homemaker job and let the women be the "breadwinner". Would their adherence to their culture/religion allow it ?
Mind you these Indian men (it's mostly a south Indian phenomenon) are the same kind of "Mards" who make the "aurat ki aukaat" statements back home. But at one stage they realize that for obtaining the optimal results for their children and family stability they have to make this compromise and put their ego on a leash .
Through these kind of life choices most Indian parents are able to focus maximum energy on the children, with very little impact on quality of life, and the kids get well eqiupped to take on the western educational system and achieve better .