That was my question as well. What’s the yardstick here? How do we measure or define the “conservativeness”?
If the idea is to say British Pakistanis are still more in touch with the roots and lead a more close to home style lives in the UK, I would agree with it.
There is no right or wrong here. We were supposed to just compare the two demographics and share our thoughts.
Let me speak up to this one and I absolutely HATE to bring this example. I have NEVER seen this mindset with any other Pakistani decent migrant anywhere in the world.
And NO, I am NOT saying that EVERY Pakistani decent in UK is like this - but truly, this was a one off.
While shopping at a local grocery store in London we picked up a couple of PAANs.
We got back to our car and drove to the next store (Tesco, I think it was) to pick some more groceries. We pulled into the parking lot, and opened our paan wraps to chew on them.
As we stepped out, my host, the local British Pakistani Londoner, splash a large spit on the parking concrete and tossed the aluminum paan wrap in the air - while I was walking towards the near by trash can to dispose my paan wrap.
I was like, WHAT THE HECK did you just do? The trashcan is RIGHT HERE, only 5 steps away from our car - why would you spit and litter the public place? His reply left me in shock.
He pointed his index finger to the ground and said, "Isko humney Pakistan banana hai".
In Birmingham, I visited a supposedly religious gathering at someone's place. And noticed about 20 odd men and perhaps the same amount of women were reciting a certain wird. The goal was to do it 100000 times. Upon my inquiry, I was informed that we are doing some sorta of "Khattam" for our Pir Saab in Pakistan since he is our guide and our savior.
We drove by a small street loaded with litter and trash in Small Heath. My local host, proudly told me that all houses in this street are owned by British Pakistanis.
I said, but why there is SO MUCH spread out in the entire street?
He said, "ohh that's not a biggie the residents don't properly dispose their trash, they just toss it in the street. The city crew came to clean it up a few times but then they gave up. And he had a guilty conscious laugh - as if it was a moral victory of British Pakistanis against the whites.
Another incident I saw, the parents were more keen for a taweez and damm from a molvi saab rather than taking their kids to a doctor for medical treatment.
I felt tsunami type waves of JahaIut and paindupanna.
Another family I stayed with was a classical one - the dad used to work some part time job while the "hatta katta" son and the healthy mother were sucking on social welfare.
They all could find jobs and work hard to make an honest living and pay full taxes to become a positive contributing members of the British society- but none actually wanted it.
I am 100% sure not all are like that but it was pretty evident in a few desi communities that I have visited over the years.
IMO, what I noticed is that in the name of practicing conservatism and preserving self identity, there is a resistance towards merging and assimilating into the main British social flow - BEECAUSE it requires passion and hard work in pursuit of high education, academic excellence and entrepreneurship. (again, not all are like that I am sure things are changing for good.)
But looks like the kind of
conservatism and
self identity some of them have supposedly preserved, is just an excuse to not take benefit of the opportunities that the British society provides.
Putting a Burka on your women, and growing a long beard - and then unfairly sucking on the social welfare - is more of a hypocrisy rather than preserving self identity and conservatism.