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Well if you are taking it religiously then let me tell you,it's wrong to think of them..PERIOD!![]()
I don't think its a sin to pinpoint someone for future marriage

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Well if you are taking it religiously then let me tell you,it's wrong to think of them..PERIOD!![]()
Well if she he has the right assets why not?
I don't think its a sin to pinpoint someone for future marriage![]()
This thread is full of gems like thisI have seen cousins marriages where the girls had been calling her husband bhai (brother) all her life. So weird!
lol@ Pinpoint. Yeah you can choose anyone as your spouse in Islam (other than your blood relationships?)
lol@ Pinpoint. Yeah you can choose anyone as your spouse in Islam (other than your blood relationships?)
good for you lol and since you posted Malik smilie.. I have to say this as well.. stay away from internet marriages too. LOL!
This thread is full of gems like this)
I shouldn't be laughing but I can't help it! As the saying goes, cousins make dozens!
In the Indian (Muslim and Hindu) community here, this issue of marriage to cousins does still happen but very rarely. It's a very old fashioned practise that occurred a very long time ago with previous generations. There are various reasons given regarding why they practised it, ranging from keeping the wealth in the family to being strict about who was trusted to become a party of the family. The last few generations however have become well educated and no longer subscribe to this nonsense.
Cousins are blood relationships as well.
Marrying your cousin is just laziness.
Certain diseases are hereditary. Like infertility. If your parents never had children, it is quite likely you won't have any children either. Especially if your spouse's parents were also infertile.
This thread is full of gems like this)
I shouldn't be laughing but I can't help it! As the saying goes, cousins make dozens!
In the Indian (Muslim and Hindu) community here, this issue of marriage to cousins does still happen but very rarely. It's a very old fashioned practise that occurred a very long time ago with previous generations. There are various reasons given regarding why they practised it, ranging from keeping the wealth in the family to being strict about who was trusted to become a part of the family. The last few generations however have become well educated and no longer subscribe to this nonsense.
How is cousin marriage (second cousin I mean) nonsense?
First cousin marriage is dodgy medically. nothing wrong with second cousin marriages.
too much liability that's why. More liability less assets equals to no owners equity!
It still happens in South India especially Andhra Pradesh.
My Telugu friend recently married his cousin (Maternal Uncle's daughter).
For people who understand Telugu, there are songs which romanticize the love between a boy and his cousin. Even today, Telugu movie industry still makes movies glorifying this cousin marriage concept. I find it absolutely disgusting.
I study Economics not Business Studies(BS)
Second cousin or first cousin same thing basically.
It was a witty joke. You don't need to be a business major to grab the meaning..
To me it is nonsense, since family is family. The second cousin thing seems to be a scapegoat used by those who would otherwise marry their first cousins if it wasn't for the genetic problems that would be introduced. But that's just my opinionHow is cousin marriage (second cousin I mean) nonsense?
First cousin marriage is dodgy medically. nothing wrong with second cousin marriages.
To me it is nonsense, since family is family. The second cousin thing seems to be a scapegoat used by those who would otherwise marry their first cousins if it wasn't for the genetic problems that would be introduced. But that's just my opinion![]()
To me it is nonsense, since family is family. The second cousin thing seems to be a scapegoat used by those who would otherwise marry their first cousins if it wasn't for the genetic problems that would be introduced. But that's just my opinion![]()
No, mutation possibility is very low in second cousin marriages compared to first cousin ones.
Anyhow, mutation is possibility in any case.
There are many inherited diseases which carry over. There is another misconception that if child is not born disabled that mean every thing is all right.
Sure, don't mistake me thinking that it's nonsense with being against it. Whatever makes people happy, it's their lives.Everyone has their fancies. And each family is different. If gay marriage is legal, there is nothing wrong with cousin marriage or brothers and sisters marrying. The only issue is about having kids.
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_sexual_attraction
Some will consider first cousins siblings, others meet them once each 10 year and don't.
In which states it's illegal? Many of my cousins had first coursin marriages.
Yes.Is first cousin marriage legal in the UK? I know its illegal in the majority of the US states.
I guess you didDid I inspire a bump?![]()
Boy am I glad it's illegal in the US.
I would never, under any circumstances, marry a cousin. Even my best friend would be more preferable.
I shall not agree with you on this matter. Its far more comfortable to marry a cousin or a best friend, rather than a stranger. You know the personality, habits and attitude.
Stop telling me its gross because I am marrying one.![]()
It is not and not a taboo in our culture so muabrak ho bohot bohot.
CoughIf PP had a private message facility, I would have forwarded you the link of her Twitter profile.![]()
Boy am I glad it's illegal in the US.
I would never, under any circumstances, marry a cousin. Even my best friend would be more preferable.
Cousin marriage is common among many Jewish Americans. Its not illegal in the entire U.S. There some states that have separate laws that may allow it on certain conditions, in other states its not allowed and in rest of the states it's allowed - California and many east coast states.
Start the groundwork now.
Technically, pardon me, but don't you think, there is a curse word attached to it,which is very common in both India and Pakistan,do you want to be called that.
No, I think most would find that repulsive.Any guy would marry a cousin who looked like Katrina Kaif, let's not even deny this.
My beloved was taken from me through this 'cousin marriage riwaj' ! ... oh ! ... woe is me !
You can have tests before marriages which indicate whether children will be disabled or not; so I don't see why cousin marriages should be a concern. We live in a society were people are fine with gay marriages but not cousin marriages lol.
Any guy would marry a cousin who looked like Katrina Kaif, let's not even deny this. But sadly no all cousins look like Katrina, most are Zenubs and Parveens.
ek ladki ke liye kab se ro raha hai yaar??
Wo ek larki hi nahi.... The larki thi yr !!! , lagta aesa k jese sadia beet gae ho iss dil ko tut tey tut tey .
If I mention this to certain peeps, the risks associated with marrying your cousin they will respond with "I don't believe that, I believe everything is up to God" Which is true if you are a man/woman of God but "God also helps those who help themselves" so it's important for people not aware about the risks to educate themselves.
One question.
If coursin marriages were practiced in some communities for centuries or millenias, then shouldn't a vast majority of the people in that community be retarded NOW?
But they are not.
What's the explanation for that?
I get the genetic problems argument and I am not in favour of cousin marriages but I have had this doubt for a while.
Maybe the communities that practiced cousin marriages for centuries but had a lot of diseases died off? Similarly, in the communities that did survive, the children born with the dominant genetic diseases died off and only the strong survived leaving those communities with better genes for it? Or maybe they didn't actually practice cousin marriages for centuries and only started recently due to neo-Islamization.
Interesting.
But if cousin marriages happened in such a large scale, there must be some data for these massive deaths or generations with massive disabilities.
Even 70 years back, SC was very backward.
It's not as straight forward as that, sometimes a disability can be an advantage in a given environment and it only survives through inbreeding. So, inbreeding wouldn't change the death rates in those instances.
Not only that but we can only have retrospective data since people at the time didn't know that inbreeding was causing the deaths/disabilities. Also, it would have happened progressively over centuries so, for people of the time, it would have been normal fact of life to have 1/5 child disabled or whatever.
I personally think that cousin marriage is a lot more a modern phenomenon than a traditional one, at least in Pakistan.
Yeah the 1 in 5 case is possible.
But if cousin marriages were very prevalent, then constant inbreeding would have messed up the subsequent DNAs so much that 1 in 5 should have got to 1 in 4 or 1 in 3 and surely that would be noticeable right?
Even now in South India, some marry cousins (dunno about %).
This inbreeding has an exponential effects component attached to it based on what I hear about DNAs which makes me wonder.
One question.
If coursin marriages were practiced in some communities for centuries or millenias, then shouldn't a vast majority of the people in that community be retarded NOW?
But they are not.
What's the explanation for that?
I get the genetic problems argument and I am not in favour of cousin marriages but I have had this doubt for a while.
No it s called beh-----S a l a y?
You can have tests before marriages which indicate whether children will be disabled or not; so I don't see why cousin marriages should be a concern. We live in a society were people are fine with gay marriages but not cousin marriages lol.
Any guy would marry a cousin who looked like Katrina Kaif, let's not even deny this. But sadly no all cousins look like Katrina, most are Zenubs and Parveens.
In South India too cousin marriages happen so its real.