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Muslim men - Would you want your future wife to wear a hijab?

I don't mind. Used to dislike the hijab but have grown to like it over the years. Absolutely no niqab though.
 
Isn't that the choice of the women herself. As a man / husband I would prefer to have no influence or objection to whichever way my future wife might adopt. If she wants to wear, then good for her; if she doesn't want then I have no issues at all.

The only things I hate are controlling men who force to veil their spouses or vice versa liberals. As long as it's in a circle of public decency I have no issues !!

P.S. About a year ago I was in a serious relationship with a Moroccan girl, she would do a proper hijab even in front of me, and I had no issues whatsoever !
 
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No woman in my fam wears the hijab and I wouldn't force any girl to wear one, that said I do find many hijabis cute. I like it for aesthetic reasons not cause of religious reasons. If I marry girl who wears one, I'd be fine.
 
I wouldnt be attracted to a woman wearing hijab or have a relationship with her

but if im with a woman already and she decided to wear hijab then its ok assuming that its just hijab and she hasnt turned into some fundo freak where hijab is just one consequence of her change
 
No, but that's a personal preference when selecting my partner.
 
So those who don't "want" their wife to wear hijab, or, those who are going to have to be okay with it because their wife "want" to wear hijab..what's the label for those men?
 
Slog said:
I wouldnt be attracted to a woman wearing hijab or have a relationship with her

but if im with a woman already and she decided to wear hijab then its ok assuming that its just hijab and she hasnt turned into some fundo freak where hijab is just one consequence of her change
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Arabs girls can pull the hijabi look
 
www787 said:
So those who don't "want" their wife to wear hijab, or, those who are going to have to be okay with it because their wife "want" to wear hijab..what's the label for those men?
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I know what you're getting at.

In the end, it's a preference.

A man who wishes for his wife to wear the hijab should be seeking a partner with this in mind.

A man who wishes for his wife to NOT wear the hijab should be seeking a partner with this in mind too.

A man who forces his opinion (pro-hijab/anti-hijab) on a woman after marriage is the one who's wrong. If it's such an issue, it's best to go your separate ways instead of asking a woman to change her mind for you.
 
kingusama92 said:
I know what you're getting at.

In the end, it's a preference.

A man who wishes for his wife to wear the hijab should be seeking a partner with this in mind.

A man who wishes for his wife to NOT wear the hijab should be seeking a partner with this in mind too.

A man who forces his opinion (pro-hijab/anti-hijab) on a woman after marriage is the one who's wrong. If it's such an issue, it's best to go your separate ways instead of asking a woman to change her mind for you.
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What if she chages her mind after marriage to either wear it or not?
 
www787 said:
What if she chages her mind after marriage to either wear it or not?
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I mentioned that in the last paragraph. It's wrong for a man to force his opinion after marriage.

If it's a big problem for him, it's best to divorce the wife and leave it at that. It should never get to the point of forcing someone to either wear or not wear the hijab.
 
I'm not the type of guy to force a girl to change the way she dresses, even if I married Shakira I wouldn't force her to change even if I felt uncomfortable in public. It's her call.
 
I think the hijab among women is a bit similar to the sikhs wearing the turban, albeit less obligatory.

The question should be would you want her to wear a niqab, which is a common practice among muslim women.
 
If she wants to, why should I get in her way and ruin my akhiraat?
 
Mine doesn't but if I was living in a Muslim country she probably would. When in Rome...
 
You must wear Hijab.

Finding excuses for your wife not to wear it and making it seem like it's a personal decision is plain wrong.

Okay fine, if she doesn't wear it, but at least considers not wearing it as wrong, I don't have any complaints.

But to consider showing hair as normal, is just plain outrageously wrong.
 
Dr_Bassim said:
You must wear Hijab.

Finding excuses for your wife not to wear it and making it seem like it's a personal decision is plain wrong.

Okay fine, if she doesn't wear it, but at least considers not wearing it as wrong, I don't have any complaints.

But to consider showing hair as normal, is just plain outrageously wrong.
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No one must do anything Its upto the individual Right or wrong is not for you or me to judge
 
Dr_Bassim said:
You must wear Hijab.

Finding excuses for your wife not to wear it and making it seem like it's a personal decision is plain wrong.

Okay fine, if she doesn't wear it, but at least considers not wearing it as wrong, I don't have any complaints.

But to consider showing hair as normal, is just plain outrageously wrong.
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No the only thing outrageously wrong is your thinking.

It should be the wife's choice. If she's comfortable wearing it so be it if not it's her choice not to.

Showing hair is very normal, unless you are insecure and thinking what's othersaybe thinking about your partner.
 
It's her choice to wear a hijab. But if she does, that would be pretty cool. And if she doesn't then I don't really care. Again it's the wife's choice not ours.
 
90MPH said:
No the only thing outrageously wrong is your thinking.

It should be the wife's choice. If she's comfortable wearing it so be it if not it's her choice not to.

Showing hair is very normal, unless you are insecure and thinking what's othersaybe thinking about your partner.
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Unfortunately , the religion that you and I follow, doesn't allow complete free will.

I mean, I am okay with you saying that she can do what she wants.

But under Islam, she must cover head.

No ifs or buts about it.
 
Zaz said:
No one must do anything Its upto the individual Right or wrong is not for you or me to judge
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If you are following a certain code of conduct and code of life (Islam) you have to follow certain rules that the religion has enjoined.

Covering the head is one of them.

Like it or not, its a fact.
 
She doesn't wear one and nor will I ever force her to.
 
Dr_Bassim said:
If you are following a certain code of conduct and code of life (Islam) you have to follow certain rules that the religion has enjoined.

Covering the head is one of them.

Like it or not, its a fact.
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I don't actually follow the codes of Islam in a dogmatic sense, if anything my wife is much stricter than me on it, she'll do the prayers and such without fail pretty much, but she doesn't wear a hijab in day to day life. There's no mention of covering head as far as I am aware in the Quran so I assume the edict to cover hair came from scholars in the following centuries. It is not clear cut by any means as far as I'm aware.
 
Most Muslim women in India I have seen wear full Burqa when they step out of the house. Even my well educated friend's mom who also works wears Burqa when out in public.
I feel to them, its like wearing slippers when you go out. So natural to them.
 
troodon said:
Most Muslim women in India I have seen wear full Burqa when they step out of the house. Even my well educated friend's mom who also works wears Burqa when out in public.
I feel to them, its like wearing slippers when you go out. So natural to them.
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Full niqab isn't common in Pakistan. It was non-existent before the 1980s and Zia's tyrannical rule.
 
street cricketer said:
I think the hijab among women is a bit similar to the sikhs wearing the turban, albeit less obligatory.

The question should be would you want her to wear a niqab, which is a common practice among muslim women.
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Where? Even in the most backward parts of Pakistan, on average, less than half the women wear it and even to get to that figure you have to consider individual neighborhoods and city boroughs because if you consider entire cities/villages/small towns, you'd be hard pressed to find a place where it's even one in six or seven(rural KPK notwithstanding. The figure in the Pukhtun parts of rural KPK and Balochistan can get ridiculously high).
 
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Their is a big misconception regarding women wearing hijab in Pakistan and it refuses to go away.
 
Muslim men should also wear Arab style dress just to make it even stevens.
 
troodon said:
Most Muslim women in India I have seen wear full Burqa when they step out of the house. Even my well educated friend's mom who also works wears Burqa when out in public.
I feel to them, its like wearing slippers when you go out. So natural to them.
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I know a non Muslim Indian girl who's told me that she and her relatives and friends etc will often wear burkhas when going through the city so as to avoid looks and stares by guys, maybe thats a reason for what youve noticed??
 
I personally wouldn't want my wife to wear the hijab especially since I live in England. I wouldn't want my wife to be target of racial abuse in this day and age where Islamophobia is at an all time high. And besides it is my opinion that you don't have to wear a hijab to be a good Muslim.
 
Donal Cozzie said:
I know a non Muslim Indian girl who's told me that she and her relatives and friends etc will often wear burkhas when going through the city so as to avoid looks and stares by guys, maybe thats a reason for what youve noticed??
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May be. Lots of frustrated youth in India who may have never even touched a female in their life before.

Even the women in Burqas also gets teased.
 
troodon said:
Muslim men should also wear Arab style dress just to make it even stevens.
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That must be the reasoning that some people use to wear Arab clothing outside of Arabia even though there's no religious requirement to wear it as far as I know. What I heard was that as long as you are covered from naval to your knees you are ok, so if you are wearing nothing but a pair of cargo shorts you should be good to go.
 
Dr_Bassim said:
You must wear Hijab.

Finding excuses for your wife not to wear it and making it seem like it's a personal decision is plain wrong.

Okay fine, if she doesn't wear it, but at least considers not wearing it as wrong, I don't have any complaints.

But to consider showing hair as normal, is just plain outrageously wrong.
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Bro the point is not everyone follows the religion to an absolute tee so your answer about hijab being compulsory is not really relevant to my question.
 
It should be up to the wife to decide what she wants. Either way I wouldn't have an issue..I would with burqa and covering her face though.
 
HIJAB (THE VEIL)

The teachings of Islam concerning hijab (the veil) and segregation of the sexes is probably the most confusing and difficult to accept for Western society. This is because of the widespread and erroneous notion that observing hijab is a heavy restriction imposed on Muslim women. In fact, the very opposite is true. You will find that hijab is a means of protecting women, and providing them with freedom from many social ills. The word "purdah" is also used to describe the concept and the practice of hijab.

Islam provides guidance not only for individuals, but also lays down rules for the good of all society. In this case, the institution of hijab/purdah guards the moral condition of society. Muslim women not only have responsibilities as wife, mother and daughter, they also share with men the responsibility of upholding the moral standard of society. The Holy Qur'an has laid down that one of the methods that men and women are to use to achieve that goal is hijab. It says:

"Say to the believing men that they restrain their eyes and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Surely, Allah is well aware of what they do." (24:31)
And
"Say to the believing women that they restrain their looks and guard their private parts, and that they display not their beauty or their embellishment except that which is apparent thereof, and that they draw their head coverings over their bosoms....." (24:32)

The verse goes on to list close relatives from whom observing hijab/purdah is not necessary.
From these verses it is made clear that both men and women are to conduct themselves with modesty and propriety at all times, and especially when in each other's presence. This teaching is based on the fact that Islam recognizes that "prevention is the better part of a cure." So segregation of the sexes is prescribed so that situations which cannot be controlled afterwards, are not allowed to develop in the first place. In this way, erosion of moral values can be prevented, and society is safeguarded from problems such as adultery, teenage pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.

The Holy Qur'an requires that Muslim women dress modestly, cover their heads and wear an outer garment to conceal their beauty from strangers. However, you must understand that this physical covering is the only first step to developing hijab. The true and full observance of hijab/purdah is achieved when "veiling" extends to a man or woman's mind and heart. This means that one should veil or shield his/her mind and heart from impure and immoral thoughts when in contact with the opposite sex. One's thoughts, words and actions should reflect a sisterly love and respect towards fellow beings. This behavior leads to one's own moral upliftment, and also creates an atmosphere where men and women, instead of resenting and degrading each other, treat each other with respect and understanding.

Another verse of the Holy Qur'an states:

"O Prophet! tell thy wives and thy daughters, and the women of the believers, that they should pull down upon them of their outer cloaks from their heads over their faces. That is more likely that they may thus be recognized and not molested. And Allah is Most Forgiving, Merciful." (33:60)

A woman who is following the rules of hijab in her dress and actions is not likely to be treated in a disrespectful way by men. Thus hijab/purdah provides Muslim women with freedom from some of the problems that women in Western society are facing today. In Islam woman is not regarded as a "sex object," nor is she exploited or harassed in this demeaning manner. As you are probably aware, various feminist movements are trying to deal with these issues today, sometimes with little success.

Islam has undoubtedly given woman dignity and honor through hijab/purdah, and has provided a protection for her so that she can pursue her activities more freely. This gives Muslim women peace of mind. You may have noticed that most Muslim women who follow the practice of hijab/purdah appear to be more relaxed and at ease with themselves. This is because Islam has reduced the importance of physical appearance as a mark of self-esteem. A Muslim woman is free to develop in herself other talents, and does not have to rely on her physical beauty to achieve what she wants. At the same time when a woman practices hijab/purdah in the true manner, she fulfills her responsibility to society and gains satisfaction in the knowledge that she is able to gain nearness to Allah.
 
PRACTICE OF HIJAB IN DAILY LIFE

Islam stresses the relationship between body and mind. The wearing of the outer garments and veiling of the body leads to veiling of the heart and shielding it from impure thoughts.

The Holy Qur'an tells women to wear an outer covering and to draw their head coverings over their bosoms. It also advises them to cover their faces. However, there is no one type of dress that is compulsory for all Muslim women. The form of the veil adopted varies from country to country. As you have probably seen, Pakistani women wear a long coat with a head scarf that can cover the face, known as a "burqa." Women in the Middle East wear a head covering over long dresses.


Guidelines for observing hijab/purdah for Muslim women in Western countries


Women born and bred in Pakistan who have moved to West, to maintain the form of hijab/purdah that they used there, i.e., the burqa, with the face covered. Women who work outside the home may take off their hijab/purdah at work, if necessary, but should wear it at all other times.

" Minimum Islamic purdah " is wearing a loose fitting outer garment and a head scarf. The face may be uncovered, but without makeup. This is adequate for sisters new to Islam, and may be used by others who are unable to use the complete burqa. Generally, Islam requires modesty in dress, with arms and legs covered. Clothes should be loose and the curves of the body should not be discernible, especially in public. A newcomer to Islam should not feel insecure about the way she dresses as long as her dress follows the Islamic code of modesty.

The conduct of a Muslim woman is a very important part of observing hijab/purdah. Whether at work, or among family and friends, a Muslim woman must conduct herself with great propriety and decorum. It is advisable to avoid idle chitchat with the opposite sex, mixed parties and shaking hands with the opposite sex.
 
Dr_Bassim said:
If you are following a certain code of conduct and code of life (Islam) you have to follow certain rules that the religion has enjoined.

Covering the head is one of them.

Like it or not, its a fact.
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It might be part of the code of islam but it is upto the induvidual if they want to follow that particular code

You may think that you cant be a muslim if you pick and choose what rules you follow but thats life and reality amongst the majority of muslims in this day and age
 
The question is whether you want your future wife to wear a hijab or not. We all know that hijab is compulsory in Islam. Yet some people are telling us the obligatory of wearing a hijab in Islam. We all know that. Please answer the question in the title.
 
The hijab is obligatory so there was no question of marrying anyone who doesn't don the hijaab. The Niqab though, is optional, and it is entirely up to her to decide if she wants to continue practicing it or not.

Dr_Bassim said:
You must wear Hijab.

Finding excuses for your wife not to wear it and making it seem like it's a personal decision is plain wrong.

Okay fine, if she doesn't wear it, but at least considers not wearing it as wrong, I don't have any complaints.

But to consider showing hair as normal, is just plain outrageously wrong.
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Mamoon said:
If she wants to, why should I get in her way and ruin my akhiraat?
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Really did not expect these answers from you two. Impressive, MashAllah.
 
The_KING said:
The question is whether you want your future wife to wear a hijab or not. We all know that hijab is compulsory in Islam. Yet some people are telling us the obligatory of wearing a hijab in Islam. We all know that. Please answer the question in the title.
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If it is obligatory, why would a "Muslim" man not want his wife to wear a hijab?
 
Bilal7 said:
The hijab is obligatory so there was no question of marrying anyone who doesn't don the hijaab. The Niqab though, is optional, and it is entirely up to her to decide if she wants to continue practicing it or not.

Really did not expect these answers from you two. Impressive, MashAllah.
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Religious freedom is important. I won't sport a beard but if my wife wants to wear a hijab, I don't have the right to stop here.
 
Dr_Bassim said:
You must wear Hijab.

Finding excuses for your wife not to wear it and making it seem like it's a personal decision is plain wrong.

Okay fine, if she doesn't wear it, but at least considers not wearing it as wrong, I don't have any complaints.

But to consider showing hair as normal, is just plain outrageously wrong.
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WHy on earth is showing hair a problem?
 
babareazam1 said:
WHy on earth is showing hair a problem?
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It is advised in the Quran to hide the parts from strangers which depict your beauty.

Unless you feel that a bald women is still beautiful, it is better to consider, hair as an apparel of women's beauty.
 
Dr_Bassim said:
It is advised in the Quran to hide the parts from strangers which depict your beauty.

Unless you feel that a bald women is still beautiful, it is better to consider, hair as an apparel of women's beauty.
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Face depicts beauty a lot more than hair, so do you think covering the entire face is also necessary?
 
Sachin136 said:
Face depicts beauty a lot more than hair, so do you think covering the entire face is also necessary?
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It does but a face without hair, is bland.

Try it, with different photoshop programs. You won't be attracted much.

Put some hair on , and then see the results.
 
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DW44 said:
Where? Even in the most backward parts of Pakistan, on average, less than half the women wear it and even to get to that figure you have to consider individual neighborhoods and city boroughs because if you consider entire cities/villages/small towns, you'd be hard pressed to find a place where it's even one in six or seven(rural KPK notwithstanding. The figure in the Pukhtun parts of rural KPK and Balochistan can get ridiculously high).
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Was talking more from an Indian perpective. Many Indian muslim women wear the niqab whenever they go out just like troodon described in his post. Just take a look at the below video. It's shot in Hyderabad by a popular youtuber. You can see many women in niqabs there.

 
Most Pakistanis that have visited India, found the Hijabs, Niqabs, Skullcaps and Beards more common among the Indians Muslims than people back home.

That's the reason perhaps why Bollywood Movies always depict a certain stereotypical appearance of Pakistanis.
 
No modern Hijab is bidah. She would be wearing a burka while I will dress the way I want to. There is no place for Munafiqet in my family.
 
The_KING said:
because not everyone is super religious and follow religion to an absolute tee.
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Do you know what the definition of a "Muslim" is? No one is picking on anyone that finds it difficult to follow everything that Allah ta'ala has commanded us to do, no one is perfect of course. However, to act arrogant and think yourself too good for these commandments is what made Iblees the Devil.
 
I am nobody to force my opinions on anyone and make them act the way i want. Hijab should be a personal choice of any woman. However its really sad to see some people expressing discomfort in case their wives start wearing hijab after marriage.
 
no not a fan of the hijab myself. But if a potential wife chose to wear one then fair enough. its up to the person what they want to wear. Tbh in Pakistan you see very few hijabs and niqabs u see more in places like UK where Pakistanis are more arabised.
 
its funny seeing some of the hijab is obligatory brigade who cry about freedom.of expression when they live in western countries but dont actually believe in freedom.of expression and the liberty of the individual and are the type of people who support the enforced hijab of Saudi and Iran where women have no choice and are prisoners of the state.
 
Why ask men in the first place? Does women become man's property after marriage? Whenever such topics are discussed I always see men saying that women wear it out of choice and not out of force. But then always in such topics I see people asking men's opinion about their wives, sisters etc. Strange
 
Indiafan said:
Why ask men in the first place? Does women become man's property after marriage? Whenever such topics are discussed I always see men saying that women wear it out of choice and not out of force. But then always in such topics I see people asking men's opinion about their wives, sisters etc. Strange
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Husbands can have an opinion on how their wives look. There's no wrong in that.
 
street cricketer said:
Was talking more from an Indian perpective. Many Indian muslim women wear the niqab whenever they go out just like troodon described in his post. Just take a look at the below video. It's shot in Hyderabad by a popular youtuber. You can see many women in niqabs there.

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That's just....... I'm lost for words.

On topic: Any woman religious enough to wear a hijab, much less a niqab, wouldn't be with me to begin with so it's a non issue.
 
street cricketer said:
Was talking more from an Indian perpective. Many Indian muslim women wear the niqab whenever they go out just like troodon described in his post. Just take a look at the below video. It's shot in Hyderabad by a popular youtuber. You can see many women in niqabs there.

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Interesting video. The white guy must have had a pait kharaab after this
 
street cricketer said:
Delhi Belly:srini
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Deccan belly

It's also wierd that whenever I see videos or documentaries from Hyderabad or even when I met people from Hyderabad they are mostly Muslims even though the demographic is that Muslims are minority there
 
It's up to her to be honest, I don't mind either way
 
Indiafan said:
Why ask men in the first place? Does women become man's property after marriage? Whenever such topics are discussed I always see men saying that women wear it out of choice and not out of force. But then always in such topics I see people asking men's opinion about their wives, sisters etc. Strange
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No, a woman doesn't become a man's property in my eyes after marriage. I merely asked this question just to know what guys want in their future wife. You know preferences. I sincerely hope that no woman has to change her appearance just to appease an overly religious man or an overly liberal man after marriage.
 
Indiafan said:
Why ask men in the first place? Does women become man's property after marriage? Whenever such topics are discussed I always see men saying that women wear it out of choice and not out of force. But then always in such topics I see people asking men's opinion about their wives, sisters etc. Strange
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The question is would you want your future wife to wear a hijab. It is the same as asking "would you want your future wife to be a doctor". No one is forcing anyone to be a doctor, but if you were looking for a wife, would you want a doctor or not? Men and women both should have the right to want a spouse with different qualities.
 
Personally I wouldn't mind, although I'd like them to. If they don't I wouldn't force it, but I would encourage it.

Religion cannot be forced on someone, after all they should be doing it for Allah not for their husband, someone who is forced isn't usually doing it for Allah.
 
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Indiafan said:
Why ask men in the first place? Does women become man's property after marriage? Whenever such topics are discussed I always see men saying that women wear it out of choice and not out of force. But then always in such topics I see people asking men's opinion about their wives, sisters etc. Strange
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Us Pakistanis have a lot of machismo in our culture.
 
Indiafan said:
Why ask men in the first place? Does women become man's property after marriage? Whenever such topics are discussed I always see men saying that women wear it out of choice and not out of force. But then always in such topics I see people asking men's opinion about their wives, sisters etc. Strange
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This is a topic based on preference. Has nothing to do with dictating or claiming women as "property" UNLESS the man goes to the next step and enforces his opinion on the woman (i.e. "You have to wear the hijab").

The same could be applied to woman. Do they like men with beards or without?

Heck, it doesn't even have to apply to physical characteristics. It can be used for personality traits too. Do they like someone who's energetic or subdued?

Everyone is attracted to something different. It's a part of life and applies to everyone. Otherwise, you could close your eyes/ears and get married to anyone.
 
Her choice. In enforcing their own wishes on their wives, a lot of men forget that whether or not his wife chooses to follow Allah's rulings is between Him and her, the man isn't anyone to dictate terms.
 
Slog said:
Deccan belly

It's also wierd that whenever I see videos or documentaries from Hyderabad or even when I met people from Hyderabad they are mostly Muslims even though the demographic is that Muslims are minority there
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I think because this is muslim majority areas, I have visited Dehli, Near Jama Mosque, you will see only Muslims and food their is very good, lot like Karachi...As a matter of fact I saw Karachi after Delhi. My first impression of Karachi was that I landed in Delhi, culture, food even language accent is so similar as well as physical appearance of people. I am talking about old Karachi and Delhi (incidentally that where I landed first in both cases)...
 
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