@ sensible-indian-fan .. bro, do you think it is
rational to follow these customs?
Buddy, you should quote me with no gap after the @. Or else I won't get a notification.
As for your question...
Here's my reply:
1. From a purely rational point of view, all these customs are a bunch of garbage. If I were not a Iyengar or even a Hindu, I would laugh at all these things.
2. But we humans are not rational in an absolute way. We are 100% irrational in certain aspects (religion, providing for our loved ones, etc) and rational in other aspects. What we can do is strive to be rational as much as possible (in areas where we can be) but its not fully possible.
Religion by definition involves faith and if you are a religious guy, TECHNICALLY you choose to be irrational cos you are believing in something that has not been proven and you keep believing in all customs.
Its like we take an assumption and keep building castles on it.
So yeah....I am irrational regarding this aspect.
The liberal part of me knows I am trapped. But the religious part of me asks me to follow it.
But overall when I think about everything deeply, I have to come realize that its what I am supposed to do. I can break it or I can follow it.
And here's a deeper explanation of it:
You see...our (Hindu) religion in its truest form is build on one fundamental principle (which I think is very logical but as a Hindu you can call me biased).
And that is...this world isn't the starting point of anything. If it was, then the world by definition is unfair and God is unfair. How? Simple example. Why should there be poor kids who have nothing to eat for days (Africa) while we feast ourselves here. Why should people get killed in Palestine, Syria, etc while we grow up to have a nice childhood? No one (including religious guys) would ever disagree that God doesn't love every soul equally. Everyone of us accepts that. If there is God who is perfect, he must love everyone equally. But there is no equality in this world. There is no fairness. Some are born with severe disadvantages.
According to our religion, that's attributed to the fact that this life is NOT the starting point of everything. Its about Karma. The sample set goes beyond the point from which we took the birth. Now this DOES NOT mean we look down upon others misfortune and say they deserve it (which is extremely sinful too) plus there are other complicated concepts out there like Karma+Our deeds and choices that govern our lifestyle.
If you check Dharma Sashtra (the Hindu jurisprudence NOT just for this life but all lives - in fact Yama is said to use Dharma Shastra to determine punishments), we can see the effects of one's action ACROSS births.
For example, in Mahabharatha, if you take the world as the sample set, Ganga is a villain who killed her 6 kids before Santanu saved Bhishma (who is lauded in this world but in reality was the cursed one of them all). Of course, these stories can be twisted beyond belief for people to justify their actions in this world but you get the general idea.
So the cycle of birth and death continues until we choose to liberate ourselves from it (how differs from sect to sect).
For me, this is my birth and its my duty to follow it.
And I accept that.
I know its not logical but I also know that if I have to believe in religion, I have to look beyond worldly logic.
By accepting a religion with all its customs, I chose to be irrational in this aspect of my life. Its possible all this could be a lie and I am wasting my time but that's just a risk any religious guy has to take.
That's what faith is about.
And I accept that.