If you are blaming your bhabi then stop blaming her, not her fault.
Everyone body changes as the get older, specially females.
Not necessarily. I sympathize with it being very tough to have to balance work, marriage and handling two twins in the west. But when you are suffering from post partum depression then the least you can do is get help for it rather than be in denial about it and take your frustrations out on your spouse who also has a job, marriage and twin kids to deal with.
From the beginning of the marriage till now for the last ten years, she habitually criticizes him in public with outsiders including his own family. Sure my brother has some weakness and shortcomings but so does my bhabi as well and I absolutely hate it when she continously criticizes him in public when he not once has done the same.
I used to tell my parents about my feelings and observations about her terrible habit of always judging him as not being as academically, professionally gifted as her and for critizing him and bringing their personal issues out in the open in public. They used to dismiss my concerns and brush everything under the carpet but this time a few months ago they could not tolerate her antics anymore and told my brother in private that he needed to start stamping his authority and not let her talk to him disrespectfully both in private and in front of his family members and even gave him the go ahead to tell her that his parents said so.
Guess what. 2 days later she called her parents up telling them she wanted a divorce and all hell broke lose between both the families. Thank goodness both families intervened to sort things out for now.
What have my parents not done for her? Supported her living expenses both in Pakistan and the US, got her her first job in Pakistan, helped them settle in the US upon immigration, gave her a full fledged financial gift to pay off her student loan incurred in her Harvard masters program, funded their downpayment for their house, supported her traveling expenses too and from the US to Pakistan to allow her to meet her family, supporting them by paying for their nanny and child care expenses. And then she had the nerve to bad mouth my brother in public
I was personally very livid and had told my dad to tell her and her family categorically that if she goes ahead with this divorce, not only does she permanently lose custody of the babies forever but that we will also file a lawsuit to demand the recovery of a good $500,000 atleast from her and her family. Am glad her folks talked sense into it and forced her to backtrack but this episode really left a bad taste for me and I cannot forgive her for putting my parents especially my mother who is terribly unwell under so much stress unnecessarily when it was the last thing in the world they needed
Anyways long story short. Women look after themselves after birth and get back into shape very quickly. I don't blame my brother for being depressed for being stuck with a horribly fat obese spouse who is showing no desire or initiative to get back into some semblance or shape and is also behaving like a nagging ***** when she is not even attractive to begin with. Guys are human beings too and have needs as well. Unless she changes her behaviour and attitude I fear the worst.
) also become heavy and bald after a few years of marriage, and some like our charismatic PM Imran Khan are in amazingly great shape considering their age. Yet could never understand the mentality of some guys who fall in the “uncle” category and want to marry trophy wives 20- 30 years younger than them a la TRUMP lol 
some very peculiar opinions in general not singling out a specific view point
