How do you deal with rude co-workers?

[sweep_shot]

At my workplace, there is this Indian lady. She is always nosy and tries to micromanage even though she is not a manager. I generally ignore her. That's how I deal with it.

How do you deal with rude coworkers? Do you like to confront or ignore?

 

[Bhaijaan]

Can you elaborate your work relationship with her. Is she an internal customer of yours in the company.

Also, do you a poor image in your company. Are you seen as a WT or something by your colleagues.

After such details, we will be able to help you better.

Her nationality is not relevant for now.

 

[sweep_shot]

Can you elaborate your work relationship with her. Is she an internal customer of yours in the company.

Also, do you a poor image in your company. Are you seen as a WT or something by your colleagues.

After such details, we will be able to help you better.

Her nationality is not relevant for now.

She is one level above me. She is not a manager but tries to act like one.

Anyway, she had conflicts with other coworkers too. LOL. Other coworkers also started to ignore her and I think she got the message.

 

[sweep_shot]

Also, do you a poor image in your company. Are you seen as a WT or something by your colleagues.

Actually, I overdeliver. My performance is good and manager (a nice white Canadian lady) is satisfied with my work.

I am very glad my manager is not an annoying micromanaging Indian. I probably would've quit.

 

[sweep_shot]

I think you’re revealing yourself to be a mediocre Bangladeshi with deep inferiority complex to white people and jealousy for more successful desi people like your so called Bharatiya colleague who’s most likely going to be your next manager anyway. I see you getting fired. Spend more time being productive at office.

Whatever you say. LOL. Your opinion doesn't affect me.

Anyway, thread is not about me. It is a general thread. How would you deal with rude coworkers?

 

[RexRex]

At my workplace, there is this Indian lady. She is always nosy and tries to micromanage even though she is not a manager. I generally ignore her. That's how I deal with it.

How do you deal with rude coworkers? Do you like to confront or ignore?

Embrace her as a colleague. She will likely be your boss soon, given her micromanaging traits. It's what Indians do.

 

[sweep_shot]

Embrace her as a colleague. She will likely be your boss soon, given her micromanaging traits. It's what Indians do.

If she becomes the boss, I quit. LMAO.

One time, I was locked out of my work computer. So, I logged in from my personal computer to access my team's Microsoft Teams chat. She was like you shouldn't have done it. But, my manager overrode her and said it was okay. I felt like giving her an earful.

I don't think embracing an idiot is a good idea. It enables the person to become more problematic.

 

[SportsWarrior]

If she becomes the boss, I quit. LMAO.

One time, I was locked out of my work computer. So, I logged in from my personal computer to access my team's Microsoft Teams chat. She was like you shouldn't have done it. But, my manager overrode her and said it was okay. I felt like giving her an earful.

I don't think embracing an idiot is a good idea. It enables the person to become more problematic.

your manager is on the wrong though? you are not supposed to use your personal device to access your company resources. Even if the company allows why do you want to do that? Any access to corporate assets in any reputable organization requires MDM or such features to be installed to monitor your personal device. Why would you want your personal devices to be monitored? i don't know about other interactions, but in this case that person is clearly giving you the right advice. If there isa problem with your work computer work with your IT department to fix it.

 

[Cover Drive Six]

I logged in from my personal computer to access my team's Microsoft Teams chat. She was like you shouldn't have done it.

What? You logged into your personal laptop to access your organization's Teams chat and you are complaining about the lady?

Do you know how vulnerable that is? Organizations spend millions on cybersecurity and provide training sessions to employees to ensure they are not breaching the IT security code of conduct. It seems you lack basic awareness and understanding of the code of conduct while accessing firm information. This shows how serious you are, and yet you are complaining about the lady for warning you about this.
This is what happens when there is a lack of professionalism and understanding of basic concepts. Lol.

 

[sweep_shot]

What? You logged into your personal laptop to access your organization's Teams chat and you are complaining about the lady?

Do you know how vulnerable that is? Organizations spend millions on cybersecurity and provide training sessions to employees to ensure they are not breaching the IT security code of conduct. It seems you lack basic awareness and understanding of the code of conduct while accessing firm information. This shows how serious you are, and yet you are complaining about the lady for warning you about this.
This is what happens when there is a lack of professionalism and understanding of basic concepts. Lol.

Teams chat doesn't have any sensitive information. It is just a chat platform. It is not like SharePoint.

Anyway, manager was okay with it.

 

[Cover Drive Six]

Teams chat doesn't have any sensitive information. It is just a chat.

Anyway, manager was okay with it.

Dude, by doing that, you're risking the exposure of personal information like email addresses, mobile numbers, etc. It's not just personal data at stake; allowing unauthorized access can lead to intruders accessing organizational information. Once they get through Teams, they could potentially introduce malware and compromise the system.

Your manager must be a dumb.

 

[sweep_shot]

Dude, by doing that, you're risking the exposure of personal information like email addresses, mobile numbers, etc. It's not just personal data at stake; allowing unauthorized access can lead to intruders accessing organizational information. Once they get through Teams, they could potentially introduce malware and compromise the system.

Your manager must be a dumb.

I see.

Anyway, it was a one off thing. I was not locked out of my work computer again.

 

[oatmeal]

Dude, by doing that, you're risking the exposure of personal information like email addresses, mobile numbers, etc. It's not just personal data at stake; allowing unauthorized access can lead to intruders accessing organizational information. Once they get through Teams, they could potentially introduce malware and compromise the system.

Your manager must be a dumb.

It depends on organisation policy. My company allows slack on personal devices, it doesnt allow chat and email but that is enforced via Google device policy so it wont even work on a non approved device.

 

[Cricket Warrior]

Best to avoid them!

 

[Cover Drive Six]

Getting back to the topic, you can't always change someone's attitude if they are rude and irresponsible, as some people are simply like that. They might speak politely during high-level management calls but behave rudely in regular Teams calls. If it becomes too exhausting, I'll escalate these issues when necessary.

I haven’t encountered this kind of behavior in my own projects, but I have seen it in others.

 

[SportsWarrior]

Teams chat doesn't have any sensitive information. It is just a chat platform. It is not like SharePoint.

Anyway, manager was okay with it.

dude are you serious? are you even an IT employee? almost all business nowadays is done over Teams or Slack. We hardly use emails now. Most discussions, information, everything resides in these apps. And your manager is okay that data is accessed through a private device? you can go and check online with others, but that is a poor security practice. Your manager is a moron if she is okay with it. Whoever asked you not to do that, is the responsible one here and you are complaining about that? Almost all companies have policies which amount to "see something, saw something", which basically means if any employees sees any other employees violating any corporate policies and rules, they are supposed to say something to the employee, their manager and their organization. That person is not micromanaging, they are doing the responsible thing here. She is the only adult in this whole scenario.

 

[rickroll]

dude are you serious? are you even an IT employee? almost all business nowadays is done over Teams or Slack. We hardly use emails now. Most discussions, information, everything resides in these apps. And your manager is okay that data is accessed through a private device? you can go and check online with others, but that is a poor security practice. Your manager is a moron if she is okay with it. Whoever asked you not to do that, is the responsible one here and you are complaining about that? Almost all companies have policies which amount to "see something, saw something", which basically means if any employees sees any other employees violating any corporate policies and rules, they are supposed to say something to the employee, their manager and their organization. That person is not micromanaging, they are doing the responsible thing here. She is the only adult in this whole scenario.

+1 for this. I'm also floored that this PP forum user will even post this as a question. He openly states that he flouted IT security exposing the entire company to attacks, then says his manager approved and is then questioning why someone was not ok with this. Are you for real man?? That manager needs to be fired purely from a security violation standpoint IMO.

 

[sweep_shot]

About a decade ago, I worked at another job and I had a Japanese coworker. He was very cranky. Almost got physical with me once. I am glad he didn't get physical because I definitely would've pressed charges probably.

 

[sweep_shot]

It depends on organisation policy. My company allows slack on personal devices, it doesnt allow chat and email but that is enforced via Google device policy so it wont even work on a non approved device.

Right.

For example, when I tried to access Teams from my cell phone, I didn't have permission. But, personal laptop was okay apparently.

I used Slack once before when I was in college. Nice app.

 

[SportsWarrior]

dude are you serious? are you even an IT employee? almost all business nowadays is done over Teams or Slack. We hardly use emails now. Most discussions, information, everything resides in these apps. And your manager is okay that data is accessed through a private device? you can go and check online with others, but that is a poor security practice. Your manager is a moron if she is okay with it. Whoever asked you not to do that, is the responsible one here and you are complaining about that? Almost all companies have policies which amount to "see something, saw something", which basically means if any employees sees any other employees violating any corporate policies and rules, they are supposed to say something to the employee, their manager and their organization. That person is not micromanaging, they are doing the responsible thing here. She is the only adult in this whole scenario.

"see something, say something"

 

[ElRaja]

i have "right of the bat" rules, if anyone who hierarchically doesnt have the right to, asks me to do something, ill do it for them however only if they are respectful, and acknowledge im doing it as a favaour and it doesnt cause me to delay or stop my core duties. they cannot set a time for when i need to do this, they cannot chase me for it, and i have the right to tell em im not doing it if something more important comes up. i tell them this straight away.

second "right of the bat" rule, if anyone is disrespectful to me, i will tell them that i will not accept their behaviour.

i call them "right of the bat" rules because in both scenarios u have to make your position clear straight away, if u allow someone to ride u even once, others will take it as an indicator that your weak or impressionable.

underpinning all this is social awareness and self respect, if you know how to carry yourself in a mutually respectful manner, such occasions don't arise often.

 

[SportsWarrior]

About a decade ago, I worked at another job and I had a Japanese coworker. He was very cranky. Almost got physical with me once. I am glad he didn't get physical because I definitely would've pressed charges probably.

i hope you are able to see a trend. Once you see the trend, take a deep breath and identify what is the common denominator among all these and then you will realize the problem. hint, its you. Once you identify the problem, work on it. It might take a day, or a year, but since you have the problem, it will be easier for you to fix it.. Best of luck.

 

[sweep_shot]

i have "right of the bat" rules, if anyone who hierarchically doesnt have the right to, asks me to do something, ill do it for them however only if they are respectful, and acknowledge im doing it as a favaour and it doesnt cause me to delay or stop my core duties. they cannot set a time for when i need to do this, they cannot chase me for it, and i have the right to tell em im not doing it if something more important comes up. i tell them this straight away.

second "right of the bat" rule, if anyone is disrespectful to me, i will tell them that i will not accept their behaviour.

i call them "right of the bat" rules because in both scenarios u have to make your position clear straight away, if u allow someone to ride u even once, others will take it as an indicator that your weak or impressionable.

underpinning all this is social awareness and self respect, if you know how to carry yourself in a mutually respectful manner, such occasions don't arise often.

Good approach.

Yeah. I think it is better to let the person know right away that you cannot be taken advantage of. Otherwise, people take you for granted.

 

[ElRaja]

Good approach.

Yeah. I think it is better to let the person know right away that you cannot be taken advantage of. Otherwise, people take you for granted.

100%, imo if u do it the first time psychologically people assume that is your reflex because people dont treat you that way, and you dont tolerate that behaviour, however if you let it lie they assume you only spoke out because you were frustrated, or tired, or moody, and if they can make you feel better they can take you for a ride again.

 

[The Bald Eagle]

Death of Indian employee sparks debate on 'toxic work culture'​

The tragic death of a 26-year-old Indian employee at a leading accounting firm has ignited a serious debate about workplace culture and employee welfare in corporate environments.

Anna Sebastian Perayil, a chartered accountant at Ernst & Young (EY), died in July, four months after joining the firm. Her parents have alleged that the "overwhelming work pressure" at her new job took a toll on her health and led to her death.

EY has refuted the allegation, saying that Perayil was allotted work like any other employee and that it didn't believe that work pressure could have claimed her life.

Her death has resonated deeply, sparking a discussion on the "hustle culture" promoted by many corporates and start-ups - a work ethic that prioritises productivity, often at the expense of employee well-being.

Some argue that this culture drives innovation and growth, with many choosing extra hours out of passion or ambition. Others say that employees are often pressured by management, leading to burnout and a diminished quality of life.

Perayil's death came under the spotlight after a letter written by her mother Anita Augustine to EY went viral on social media last week. In the letter, she detailed the alleged pressures her daughter had experienced at work, including working late into the night and on weekends, and appealed to EY to "reflect on its work culture" and take steps to prioritise its employees' health.

"Anna's experience sheds light on a work culture that seems to glorify overwork while neglecting the very human beings behind the roles," she wrote. "The relentless demands and the pressure to meet unrealistic expectations are not sustainable, and they cost us the life of a young woman with so much potential."

Many people condemned EY for its "toxic work culture", sharing their experiences on Twitter and LinkedIn. One user alleged that he had been made to work for 20 hours a day at a top consultancy firm without being paid overtime.

"Work culture in India is horrid. Pay is dismal, exploitation is max [maximum]. There are zero repercussions and no remorse on the part of employers who routinely harass workers," another user wrote, adding that managers are often praised for overworking and underpaying their employees.

A former EY employee criticised the work culture at the firm and alleged that employees were often "mocked" for leaving on time and "shamed" for enjoying weekends.

"Interns [are] given crazy workload, unrealistic timelines and [are] humiliated during reviews as it builds character for their future," he wrote.

Source: BBC