Dawah (Invitation towards Islam) can be:
Subhan Allah… my next question was actually gonna be related to this lol
To My Unmarried Muslim Brothers – Some Thoughts on Marriage
Attraction is Natural, But Boundaries Matter Be Honest About What Attracts You What is Marriage? Marrying from “Back Home” Marrying from the West Marrying a Revert Sister Intercultural Marriages Age Differences Thinking About a Second Wife? Marrying Across Ideological Lines
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Arguments & Demands in Marriage
What might seem trivial to one spouse can be a major issue for the other — and both feelings are valid. It’s important to listen, discuss, and consult with scholars who are knowledgeable and wise — those who understand both the religion and the dynamics of married life.
There is no commandment in Islam to change a name after conversion but I can't remember why I picked this username. I think something I was looking at on the Internet at the time and others were taken...
Disclaimer: These are just my humble observations based on a few years of experience engaging with Muslim couples. Feel free to disagree, and I welcome other perspectives.
There's nothing wrong with feeling attracted to someone — it's part of being human. But Islam sets clear limits: acting on those feelings outside of nikah is forbidden. However, you’re encouraged to pursue marriage in a respectful and dignified manner. If you're unsure how to proceed, seek help from someone trustworthy — a friend, elder, or mentor.
Before acting on those feelings, ask yourself: is it genuine love, just hormones, or a passing infatuation?
If you have preferences (height, skin tone, body type), don’t compromise too much — attraction matters in marriage. At the same time, be realistic. If you're average, aiming for someone who looks like a top 10 model might not be realistic.
Make a private list of the traits you're looking for — both physical and character-based (organized, messy, affectionate, etc.). Then reflect: is your list grounded or fantasy?
After the honeymoon, marriage is a lifelong journey. It’s not just about you and her — it’s about her family, your family, your social circle, and how she fits into all of it.
Marrying someone from India, Pakistan, or Bangladesh isn’t inherently good or bad. What matters is compatibility, mutual understanding, and shared values. If that’s missing, even a practicing Muslim from your own extended family may not be the right match.
A Muslim woman raised in the West often shares your cultural background. That can help — but again, it's about how well-aligned you both are.
While adopting outward Islamic practices (hijab, prayer) may take weeks, adapting to the Muslim community often takes years. Revert sisters need support, patience, and consistent encouragement. Don’t marry a revert sister just because she covers — ask yourself if you can truly support her journey and that may take years!
Multicultural marriages aren't impossible, but they take serious work and self-awareness. Don’t lie to yourself about your own cultural limits. Let me stress this again, it takes serious work and commitment and if you are lazy don't do it.
- Pakistani + Bangladeshi/Indian: Culturally close, but still different — be prepared.
- Non-Arab + Arab (e.g., Khaleejis): Cultural differences are real. Don’t romanticize multiculturalism — it requires compromise and maturity. If she is Arab (Khalejee) and you plan to migrate I would strongly advise against it.
- Non-Turk + Turk / Non-Afghan + Afghan/Tajik/Uzbeks: In the West, it's doable, but there are cultural differences that can become points of tension.
“Age is just a number” is a myth. Large age gaps bring physical, emotional, and psychological challenges. Consider your own maturity, energy level, and goals before committing.
Before going down that road, ask yourself why. Many men think it’s a solution to problems in the first marriage — it often isn’t. If you're struggling in your first marriage, adding another will likely multiply the problems.
Many women open to being a second or third wife are divorcees or widows — they often seek long-term support, not a short-term “escape.” Don’t waste their time unless you’re serious.
They may also have trauma from past experience.
A Salafi marrying a Sufi, or vice versa? It’s possible. I know a couple — both very firm in their opposite beliefs — who make it work. But that’s rare.
Discuss differences upfront. Don’t assume love will fix everything. This includes issues like vaccination, homeschooling, political views — even these can be deal-breakers.
- Someone practicing — not just in appearance, but genuinely trying to live Islam
- Someone you’re physically attracted to
- Someone who’s flexible and compromising
- Someone adaptable — because life will change, and so will you
May Allah grant us all clarity, sincerity, and righteous spouses who help us draw closer to Him. Ameen.
what about your wife being okay with being a housewife and then later on in the marriage saying she wants to be in the workforce, even if it means being around non mahram men?
Spouses make demands all the time — some are valid, some are unrealistic, and some may even seem un-Islamic. These situations are very common and need to be approached with patience, honest dialogue, and mutual respect.
One important reminder: don’t be quick to label something “haram” or “impermissible” unless you’ve done proper research. Islamic jurisprudence has a wide range of scholarly opinions, and what one group considers prohibited may be viewed as acceptable by another within the bounds of Islam.
Here are some common areas where couples disagree, yet valid scholarly differences exist:
- Combining Salah while travelling
- Wiping over socks (Masah) during wudu
- Distribution and handling of finances
- Expenses and monthly allowances
- Using each other’s income or assets
- Intimacy-related topics (like oral sex)
Every marriage comes with challenges. It’s not about having no issues, but about knowing how to navigate them with empathy and understanding.
Marriage is a test and people usually find out after marriage as to why
There is no commandment in Islam to change a name after conversion but I can't remember why I picked this username. I think something I was looking at on the Internet at the time and others were taken...
Imo it should be avoided. Culture of people of the book was similar to traditional Islamic cultures in the past. Now it is completely different.
You are conflating two issues:
Absolute disaster in the West and absolutely not recommended. I have witnessed many cases first hand where the option of marrying a Christian woman has led to a disaster.
Yeah your guys’ opinion is what I thought regarding interfaith marriage, wanted to see the opinion of folks more knowledgeable than me @LordJames @DeadlyVenom
If I can afford it and be emotionally, physically and financially just to both, am not opposed to it.
Let me put this question another way.
Yes I’m comfortable with that, as even Prophet Muhammad PBUH said to not prevent our women from going to the mosque.
Good question. Wanted to know this too also when it comes to financing or leasing a car.
Actually bro and some may disagree with me I don't believe that the levels of segregation we think is necessary is really needed.
I am not a Scholar so can't really have any thoughts but Interest is not permissible.
That is a very personal question and depends on whose Taqleed a person makes and background and location and it could be different for anyone.
You don't know Mufti Taqi Usmani?
Mufti Taqi Usmani is one of the greatest Islamic Scholars alive today.
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Mufti Taqi Usmani is one of the greatest Islamic Scholars alive today.
Muhammad Taqi Usmani - The Muslim 500
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The following line is wrong in the Bio and he refutes it explicitly...
This is his latest which is causing an uproar in the world:
Mufti Taqi Usmani and top Pakistani scholars say war on Israel 'obligatory'
The National Palestine Conference in Islamabad urged Muslim governments to wage military jihad against Israel
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Since I am not a scholar, I don't conclude any ruling myself.
Regarding this issue, there are 2 positions. So, I was wondering what he thought about it.
Is Marriage without a Wali Valid? - Islam Question & Answer
If the marriage contract was done without the presence of the guardian and without the presence of two witnesses, then it is invalid. It is not valid according to any of the scholars.
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Not a single mufti including this one has been able to give any valid criticism of Bitcoin from Islamic point of view. Remember loudspeaker and camera were deemed haram once but now they are accepted. I don't trust intellectual capability of most of these muftis.
I am sure about Bitcoin not being haram. Its actually the most Islamic form of asset just like Gold. Other currencies/assets which involve staking etc are doubtful.
Entering into Islam and apostasy are two different concepts, do you see that or not? There is no compulsion on entering into Islam but once you enter you have rules and regulations to follow so nobody forces anyone to convert but once converted you have to pray, fast etc.
But don't you think death penalty for leaving is too extreme ? Faith is a personal matter and consequences of such personal decisions must be faced hereafter as Allah decides.
Different topic altogether but the full verse is here, notice the underlined part and there isn't a single commentator in Islamic history which has interpreted it any other way.
All the 4 madhabs believe that the punishment for apostasy is death but interestingly enough, this punishment was never done during the time of the Prophet (ﷺ), and it was more of deterrant, also note that this punishment would only be done after someone openly expresses their disbelief to the wider community (spreading fitna) and then a ruling in a sharia court where the accused would also be given a chance to repent before it is carried out. You have to understand that leaving Islam is an extreme act of disobeying the almighty creator, similar to how some countries view treason. You can Google the punishment for treason in different "liberal" countries and will be surprised to find that many had the death penalty for treason up until the late 20th century and even in the United States treason is still punishable by death right now.
Will get back later.And to @Greenstorm
I honestly don't know what Ghamdi Saheb says on the topic but the rational reasons highlighted by @CadPakFan are precisely why this sort of reason is problematic. There are some "Arab" scholars who have also postulated that the death penalty of apostasy was based on "treason" to the Islamic Caliphate and since we no longer have an Islamic Caliphate, the death penalty is no longer valid.
The first thing to clear up is that the verse about "compulsion in religion" has nothing to do with apostasy if @Greenstorm can point out the words in the verse or any classic commentary or understanding which states that it is, I would be grateful.
The second thing is to look up what Muslims consistently understood for over 1400 years about apostasy and on this issue there is overwhelming consensus.
However, it is done after due process and under a proper and rigorous legal system where the defendant is tried and given a chance to defend themselves. In Islamic law if there is iota of doubt, the person is exonerated and set free as per the narration of Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon Him) which is the exact opposite of what Indian Supreme Court did to Afzal Guru. This sort of rigorous system DOES NOT exist for example in Shariah courts of Pakistan a women is granted (or not granted) Khul based on how well her Attorney can manipulate the system. There are very few (almost no) examples of death penalty to apostates in Islamic history because due to explicit narration (of setting everyone free due to doubt clause) and similar is the case of other punishments (fornication etc), the Islamic system is almost rigged in favour of setting the guilty free on the smallest of doubts!
Muslims often think that killing and chopping of limbs will be prevalent in an Islamic system, it will actually be opposite, many will walk free. In case of murder, even when awarded a death penalty the family of the deceased can grant pardon and that happens all the time in Islam. The Qadhi (Judge) speaks to the family of the victim tells them the rewards of forgiveness and they forgive the killer and it is repeated again and again and again. This is what happens in practice, read some of the history of when the British colonized Islamic lands and what they found about the "Shariah Penal system".
This is a Shariah punishment and cannot be applied in most places of Earth today (let alone in the West) because the conditions of fair trial etc do not exist. Do you think a Bangladeshi man can get a fair trial in a Saudi court?
The issue with taking the reasoning (that death penalty is due to treason) is that people can say the reasoning doesn't exist so the issue is waived and it is problematic. Consider the shortening of prayer during travel tied to distance, we can fly in a rocket and cover that distance in 15 seconds so do we not shorten the prayers because the distance which you used to take 3 days of walking took 15 seconds?
Masah (rubbing on the socks) is done on the top when it makes no sense! The Masah sock gets dirty from the bottom because the bottom touches the floor so why do we wipe on the top surface?
When we pay Zakah, the wealth is diminished i.e. I started with $100 and after paying Zakat I have $97.5 so why does Allah say that your wealth is increased due to paying Zakat, my money has decreased from $100 to $97.5, not increased!
So instead of arguing with reasoning, we have to ask Ghamdi Saheb and anybody else as to what is their evidence from Islam and what are solid reasoning for contradicted 1400+ year settled understanding of Islam? As long as anyone whoever is following these ideas clearly understands that they have left the accepted understanding of Islam for centuries and gone with something else and are comfortable with standing on the day of judgement and defending and saying "I knowingly and clearly went against the understanding of Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon Him), his companions and successors" in their defense nothing anyone else we can do.
We are not here for word salad but will die and will be called upon for to answer and will have no defense for ourselves but ourselves.
Some of the "Modernist Arab" scholars who disagree with death penalty for apostasy don't have any evidence from Islamic sources but say:
They don't directly address the evidence behind it but just the reasoning and change of era.
- It was based on "treasonous" clause and because we don't have any Islamic Government, it is void
- In today's world, it is unenforceable
- Etc. etc etc.
The same "Modernist Arab" scholars post British colonization of Muslim lands also believe that Beard is not Sunnah but just a cultural habit so whatever...
Appreciate your thoughts.
But the apostasy issue isn't universally agreed on by all scholars.
If by "scholars" we mean those from the past 100 years or so, then sure—anything goes under that definition.
How do you exactly specify these pious predecessors and their understandings? Your position merely reinforces the absolute believe in the sunni jurisprudence.
You are correct from the perspective of Sunni jurisprudence. If someone is Shia, their views may differ—and that becomes a separate issue tied to the differences between Shia and Sunni traditions.
I know that the verse does not directly address the case of apostasy but it can be used as guidance. Is there any verse in Quran which clearly stipulates death penalty for apostates ?
We are only discussing if something is deemed true or not by Quran and Sunnah. Hardly any Muslim knowingly disagree from the will of God even if they are too weak to act upon it.
I said follow the Qur'aan and Hadeeth based on the understanding of Salaf, in theory these 3 generations:
Language of Friday Khutbah
What do you think about inflation adjusted interest considering that inflation was negligible during Prophet's (PBUH) time ?
Most Muslims went through the time of fitnah starting from earliest of times. Even sahabas fought and killed each other. We are not special in that regard.
No this is not the root of the problem. Real reason Pakistan hasn't progressed is that we have a nation could not decide what kind of country we want to become. One group wants Islamic theocratic state, other wants it to be a democratic Islamic state, yet another one wants it to be a secular democratic state and the most powerful group wants it to be a military led state. We have failed to progress because of such confusion.
Can you please answer this?
