Should parents be allowed to beat children?

[Cpt. Rishwat]

Those cousins of mine used to get beaten up by hangers and heels. I have never ever been beaten up like that. My mom might have slapped me here and then but that’s it. My dad has never beaten me up and he has shown his anger to me but now I reply with same aggression to him

You should have reported it to the police. Even in Southall the UK police will take child abuse seriously.

 

[minamino]

You should have reported it to the police. Even in Southall the UK police will take child abuse seriously.

They were in Pakistan.

 

[Abdul]

Anyone who answered yes to this question should be forced to get a vasectomy.

 

[Ronaldo7]

Those cousins of mine used to get beaten up by hangers and heels. I have never ever been beaten up like that. My mom might have slapped me here and then but that’s it. My dad has never beaten me up and he has shown his anger to me but now I reply with same aggression to him

You should be ashamed that you show aggression towards your father.

Looks like living in west has spoiled you.

 

[Darkrai]

It's all about context. A child actually likes to be praised when they do something good or be reprimanded when they do something naughty as they seek attention.

There is a difference between being reprimanded and being abused. Your cousins were most likely disciplined by caring parents and not tormented by a psychopath. Things could have turned out very differently for them if it was the latter.

There is no way to gauge the intentions of a parent when punishing a child so the best thing is to ban it all together. Better safe than sorry.

You are right, they were caring parents. The engineer I talked about, his father was very strict. When we were young, all of us cousins were scared of him. When we would hear his motorcycle's sound we used to wash our feet and get cleaned if we had been playing outside and grab our books and start studying. Today, his children have excelled in education and they are very well mannered and respectful of everyone. Everyone is our family always praises them and sets them as an example.

Last year I went to Pakistan and wanted to visit a certain place with some of my cousins, but my dad wasn't ok with that. When I told him that my other cousin (the engineer) was also going, then he had no issue with me going. But that cousin wasn't always well mannered or respected. When he was young he was disrespectful to his mother and wasn't the best in studies either. But now he and his siblings are respectful of everyone and respected by everyone.

I think having strict parents is a good thing. A light beating with good intentions here and there isn't a big deal if it is going to make someone's life unless it's having a negative impact on them.

If the parents are messed up and just abuse their children then obviously it's a big issue. Even in the west where it is banned, there are still cases where parents abuse their children. So I can see why people would want to ban it altogether. I'm personally fine with that. If you raise your kids right from the start then there shouldn't be a need to punish them physically, although the environment has a lot to do with the child's upbringing and not something that parents always have control over.

 

[Gilly]

You just need to exhaust all options before turning to hitting your child. Anger is the main reason parents beat their children, this can establish the boundaries for children but if the parent and the child have different boundaries then it escalates very quickly. I found with my boys if I calmly explained my position and listened to theirs we could always find a compromise we both were happy with. Sometimes I realized that I may have been a bit to strict and sometimes they realized they needed to respect my values.

 

[Itachi]

If they're old enough to sleep around and do drugs, they aren't really a child any more. I doubt a beating is going to make much difference at that point. You might even get one back.

I'll agree with this. Drugs, alcohol abusing kids won't give two hoots about beating. They will just prefer to get the beating if it's possible that after the beating they get some alone time to smoke some joints.

 

[Local.Dada]

Absolutely Not.

Unless it is an extreme scenario where they are harming themselves or putting someone else at harm and it is absolutely unavoidable.

 

[Hitman]

I genuinely hate people who hit kids. And I really mean it. In my opinion, such people should be locked up in jail. My father never hit me or my brother, but my mother did till a certain age. Nothing severe though. It's now after becoming a grandmother she realizes how wrong she was. Now she gets annoyed when someone even tries to reprimand her grandson, let alone lay a finger on him.

 

[ManFan]

I genuinely hate people who hit kids. And I really mean it. In my opinion, such people should be locked up in jail. My father never hit me or my brother, but my mother did till a certain age. Nothing severe though. It's now after becoming a grandmother she realizes how wrong she was. Now she gets annoyed when someone even tries to reprimand her grandson, let alone lay a finger on him.

That’s very normal.

Parents become really amiable once they become grandparents.

I may be wrong but I think they believe that their labor (children) is complete but the fruits (grandchildren) are now theirs to enjoy.

 

[Donal Cozzie]

Greatest thread title of all time )

 

[moghul]

" Asian parents beat their children frequently, still they come out brilliant and bright at studies. Is West doing something wrong by not beating their children?"

A father should never hit any child, mother I think is allowed a very light spanking on buttock with palm and not with any object/stick once in a while, not to cause any pain or hurt, just to convey her message a bit forcefully. I'm married with children and I have never hit any of my child ever, even mildly.

 

[James]

I really don’t think it should happen.

I am not sure that I would make every form and every severity of “smacking” a criminal offence - because I believe there are often complex reasons as to why a parent hits their child - and perhaps some of these parents need mental health support, and action plans setting by child services, rather than being immediately processed through the criminal justice system the first time it happens.

But from a moral point of view it is absolutely abhorrent to give your child a hiding or even a light hitting IMO, it’s physically and mentally damaging (speaking from experience I’m afraid), and it should not happen.

 

[Technics 1210]

What the hell is wrong with society these days?

Beating a child is one thing and should be banned, but a good smack behind the ear never did us any harm!

 

[KingKhanWC]

Nothing wrong with a light smack which doesn't hurt.

Some kids don't take in words so for their own safety sometimes they need a different type of warning so they don't harm themselves.

If you go too far and hurt a child, they will get used to the pain and wont listen.

lol@at the so called liberals seeing a light smack which causes no pain as wrong. Its the same liberals who openly call for bombing of children if they are with the evil dark forces against their country.

 

[Gharib Aadmi]

No you have zero rights to beat your child. And you are not doing your child any favors by raising him/her. It was your decision to want to start a family.

 

[KingKhanWC]

No you have zero rights to beat your child. And you are not doing your child any favors by raising him/her. It was your decision to want to start a family.

You have every right to protect your child. ie. If your child kept putting his fingers near the fire even after you telling him/her not to, nothing wrong with making him/her realise the seriousness of their actions by giving them a little smack on the bottom. Its worked for years in every culture throughout history. Now we have chavs , backward imbeciles who take it too far being the reasons for these new laws of smacking.

 

[Gharib Aadmi]

You have every right to protect your child. ie. If your child kept putting his fingers near the fire even after you telling him/her not to, nothing wrong with making him/her realise the seriousness of their actions by giving them a little smack on the bottom. Its worked for years in every culture throughout history. Now we have chavs , backward imbeciles who take it too far being the reasons for these new laws of smacking.

Is there no other way besides lightly smacking them? I dont have a child, so maybe I am in the wrong here, but i just feel violence is not the answer. And that it will lead to resentment later on.

 

[KingKhanWC]

Is there no other way besides lightly smacking them? I dont have a child, so maybe I am in the wrong here, but i just feel violence is not the answer. And that it will lead to resentment later on.

Not all children are the same. Some are easily handled, you tell them once and it doesn't happen again, others you need to ensure they understand the message if they don't listen to you. A light smack is not violence, it's only a reminder what the child did was so wrong it cannot happen again.

But if parents only want to talk to their children and it works, its obviously the best way. But to call those who use light smacks to protect their children as 'evil' is laughable, the world has gone politically mad correctness. lol

 

[chacha kashmiri]

It's a tricky one this

You have tyrants as parents who suppress their kids, don't let them leave the house and kill them when they do
And you have loving parents who embrace everything their kids do, let them choose their own lifestyle choices and protect them from vicious evil types of uncles and aunties that want to beat them

It's your choice as a parent behind closed doors, just make sure your kids don't run away to happier homes where they're not being terrorised just for living

 

[Nikhil_cric]

Can understand this perfectly. If my father used to have a bad day at work he would call around 3ish when I would be back home from school, mention some random reason and tell me to get ready for the *** whooping I was about to get when he got home.

The mental torture of waiting for the actual beating for 3-4 hours was much worse than the beating itself.

Also a beating I quite looked forward to as the alternatives were being locked in a dark toilet with cockroaches, being tied to a palm tree on a sizzling day on the weekend etc. The guy was creative if nothing else.

Lol I can relate to this somewhat. Situation was not as extreme as yours but my own father was a bit of a fiend and even now he's a time bomb waiting to go off and you just don't know when. A vestige of a bygone time when violence in households was quite common. I have observed that so called "self-made men" tend to lord over their children and wives a lot more than others since they are more "My way or the highway" since they are always right of course. Children's rights need to be enacted and enforced in countries like India strictly. Need to stop frustrated, cowardly men from taking it out on their wives and children.