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The complexity of getting married

Punisher said:
Sadly these sort of things get looked at in our society and I have pointed out my disgust at them quite evidently in my post. Sometimes I feel we as Pakistanis should just stop thinking of oh what will the society think and more about our own happiness.

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Good to see some people out there still care. Most guys these days just want to marry the next Miss Universe, regardless of her character. And desi parents are the same.

I think your age is perfect to get married, or maybe even later. I'm not getting married before 25. Nosirree. That's why I feel sorry for Haz95.

Oh, and it seems my IK point's gotten popular!
 
Men should get married when they are around 25. I think it is the right age because the age gap between the parent and child won't be much. Also, it won't lead men into controversial habits.:moyo
 
96NotOut said:
Good to see some people out there still care. Most guys these days just want to marry the next Miss Universe, regardless of her character. And desi parents are the same.

I think your age is perfect to get married, or maybe even later. I'm not getting married before 25. Nosirree. That's why I feel sorry for Haz95.

Oh, and it seems my IK point's gotten popular!
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Lol that isn't happening tho...I'm gonna focus on my studies.
And people would wanna marry the next miss universe but then they'll realise thats she's a an absolute ***** who will end up tearing your family apart cos she'll have you wrapped around her finger. That's why character matters
 
But it's usually too late by then. Even if you end up divorcing her, people aren't willing to forgive and forget.

And P_L, what controversial habits? :13:
 
96NotOut said:
But it's usually too late by then. Even if you end up divorcing her, people aren't willing to forgive and forget.

And P_L, what controversial habits? :13:
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I might get banned if I explain about it.:asadrauf

I hope you get it.

Also, you seem like a very seedhi-saadhi girl.:ajmal
 
Pakistani_Legend said:
I might get banned if I explain about it.:asadrauf

I hope you get it.

Also, you seem like a very seedhi-saadhi girl.:ajmal
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I'm seedhi? Coming from a guy who's supposedly 14, that's funny. :P

And I still don't see how the time and age a guy gets married will affect that, assuming you're thinking what I'm thinking.
 
96NotOut said:
I'm seedhi? Coming from a guy who's supposedly 14, that's funny. :P

And I still don't see how the time and age a guy gets married will affect that, assuming you're thinking what I'm thinking.
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how old are you then?
 
In this materialistic world its very difficult to get married at a proper age i.e 22-26 who have to look for alot of things and then is a big strain on you i have a cousin (male) who got married last year he was 20 then and everybody was cursing him for this why so early n blah blah
 
Why does every youth in Pakistan think so early about marriage? Most of my western friends don't even talk about it and then I have Pakistani friends who are obsessed with the topic.
 
96NotOut said:
How old are you?

I'm just a little older than Lala.
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Guess....I'll say that i'm younger than people would think tho
and +1^---Here in England no1 ever talks about marriage really..Its only the parents that do and the brown people generally
 
You do come across as a young dude, but I think you're older than me. Maybe.

Who cares, anyway.

I guess because if you're not married by 26/27 here, people think there's something wrong.
 
If girls are not married at 26/27 in Pakistan it is considered a BIG matter of shame.

Maybe that's why girls always hide their ages. Seriously what is up with that ?

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96NotOut said:
You do come across as a young dude, but I think you're older than me. Maybe.

Who cares, anyway.

I guess because if you're not married by 26/27 here, people think there's something wrong.
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I doubt that you're younger than me....
And yeah a woman who's 27 gets looked down upon if she isn't married. There's too much weird traditions
 
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96NotOut said:
I'm seedhi? Coming from a guy who's supposedly 14, that's funny. :P

And I still don't see how the time and age a guy gets married will affect that, assuming you're thinking what I'm thinking.
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I look forward to the future. I don't let my age affect me.

The ":asadrauf" smiley hints at what I am talking about.

My point is: The lust of a person may drive him into doing something wrong.

Punisher said:
If girls are not married at 26/27 in Pakistan it is considered a BIG matter of shame.

Maybe that's why girls always hide their ages. Seriously what is up with that ?
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I think people consider it shameful because they think that no one has come for the hand of the girl.
 
Haz95 said:
I doubt that you're younger than me....
And yeah a woman who's 27 gets looked down upon if she isn't married. There's too much weird traditions
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Give me a better hint. I won't rest till I know how old you are. :P

Pakistani_Legend said:
I look forward to the future. I don't let my age affect me.

The ":asadrauf" smiley hints at what I am talking about.

My point is: The lust of a person may drive him into doing something wrong.

I think people consider it shameful because they think that no one has come for the hand of the girl.
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Yes, I get your point, but what I'm saying is that men who were married at early ages, or those who have been married for a long time have been known to indulge in all that too.

My point being, marriage does not guarantee that your kid's clean.

And consequently (on the girl's age front), that mean's something wrong with the girl. She must be sleazy or something. :facepalm: How quickly people jump to conclusions.
 
96NotOut said:
Give me a better hint. I won't rest till I know how old you are. :P
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He is around 21 according to his profile.


Yes, I get your point, but what I'm saying is that men who were married at early ages, or those who have been married for a long time have been known to indulge in all that too.

My point being, marriage does not guarantee that your kid's clean.

And consequently (on the girl's age front), that mean's something wrong with the girl. She must be sleazy or something. :facepalm: How quickly people jump to conclusions.
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I know but no society/thing can be perfect. It could reduce those activities.
 
So talking for the first time and then dating. That would be quick. :yk2
 
Question is - Mamoon have you been comfortable talking to girls in the past?

Talking as in interaction where the focus is NOT on the topic being discussed but on you two individuals.

Friendly banter.

Basically stuff that creates chemistry.
 
Mamoon, have you tried working the back channels? Anyone, an older cousin etc, who can act as an intermediary? Who can be taken into confidence, and can then bring your name up casually, and sow the seeds, so to speak.

If all else fails, just remember, I'm Cupid.


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I had one date in my life, and I was close to dating my best friend's sister but it didn't materialize.

In both cases, the girls gave me positive signs from the onset. :waqar

This one, well she pretends as if I don't exist :22:
 
Nostalgic said:
Mamoon, have you tried working the back channels? Anyone, an older cousin etc, who can act as an intermediary? Who can be taken into confidence, and can then bring your name up casually, and sow the seeds, so to speak.

If all else fails, just remember, I'm Cupid.


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Eros > Cupid.

or not?

In any case, hmmm. Well I've a first cousin who is her age and I'm very frank with her, but she lives in the UK. She will come in December to attend my brother's wedding so I reckon I'll have to wait. :sami
 
Mamoon said:
I had one date in my life, and I was close to dating my best friend's sister but it didn't materialize.

In both cases, the girls gave me positive signs from the onset. :waqar

This one, well she pretends as if I don't exist :22:
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It means she takes you very seriously, either in a very good sense or in a very bad sense.
 
Uploaded a picture on Twitter with purple nail paint. What the hell. :133:
 
96NotOut said:
Why do I have a feeling that you're basing this assumption solely on me and Cricket083?

In my defense, it's easier to like JK because I don't know what his personality's like. In reality, I find it very hard to like someone because I end up hating or disliking their personality more often than not. Or at least I find some flaws that are hard for me to live with.
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Yep, have not seen girls falling for some one else these days.

You don't need to provide a reason here, it was all fun stuff.
 
Seriously,there must be other cousins who have an eye on her. What will you do then Mamoon??
 
Mamoon said:
This one, well she pretends as if I don't exist :22:
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This is actually promising. For her to have to pretend that you don't exist is tantamount to being aware of your existence. It's almost Cartesian, this.

Some girls are exactly like this. It takes ages before there is a chink in the armor.


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Mamoon said:
Its a bit difficult for girls to not take me seriously :afridi but, why would you ignore a person you fancy? :ajmal
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There could be two explanations that she completely ignores you.

She likes you but thinks that she could do something wrong that could have an adverse effect, something that you won't approve of. It is because of shyness.

Or may be she ignores you for the reason that she does not like you and simply does not want you to have any illusion of a relation/friendship with her.

But one thing is sure that she does not ignore you but only gives a feeling of it.
 
Nostalgic said:
This is actually promising. For her to have to pretend that you don't exist is tantamount to being aware of your existence. It's almost Cartesian, this.

Some girls are exactly like this. It takes ages before there is a chink in the armor.

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I hope so, but she doesn't seem like a typical girl. A bit of a tough cookie, this one.
 
Haz95 said:
Never that simple lol.
95 is meant to be two things- one I don't want people thinking I'm some kid and two 95 just sounds cool. Still dunno my age haha :afridi
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I can only answer with the following, then:-You are five/six years older than your teeth and the same age as your eyes, nose, ears, etc.:ajmal
 
Nostalgic said:
This is actually promising. For her to have to pretend that you don't exist is tantamount to being aware of your existence. It's almost Cartesian, this.

Some girls are exactly like this. It takes ages before there is a chink in the armor.


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Say NO to Mullah Raj
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May be she wants official yes from the elders before indulging in a tense emotional relationship within family?
Does not sound a good end if 4 or 5 years of dating within family gets a "NO" when the time comes!
 
I fancy cougars over anything, but its impractical in our society. :ajmal
 
waqar goraya said:
There could be two explanations that she completely ignores you.

She likes you but thinks that she could do something wrong that could have an adverse effect, something that you won't approve of. It is because of shyness.

Or may be she ignores you for the reason that she does not like you and simply does not want you to have any illusion of a relation/friendship with her.

But one thing is sure that she does not ignore you but only gives a feeling of it.
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I think ignoring is the wrong word. I would have approached her and she would have given me a cold shoulder, that'd be ignoring right?

Lets just we've had no interaction at all.
 
Mamoon said:
I think ignoring is the wrong word. I would have approached her and she would have given me a cold shoulder, that'd be ignoring right?

Lets just we've had no interaction at all.
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No, i did not mean that. I did not mean that she mistreats you.

Again i think non interaction means seriousness.
 
From the cheeky look i reminisced a funny incident that once in mid term exams one of our class mate was trying hard to peep onto others' answer books. The invigilator had a fair idea about our fate so instead of admonishing the student he simply sang " tere mast mast do nain ".

There have been too many bollywood songs on eyes, ears and heart.
 
I am feeling more nervous than the person concerned, as time approaches.

I just don't want more sad souls like myself. Success is all I want in your case, O` young man. Go, go O` friend, for my prayers are with you. May you succeed. Amen!
 
Pakistani_Legend said:
I can only answer with the following, then:-You are five/six years older than your teeth and the same age as your eyes, nose, ears, etc.:ajmal
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Hmmmm close enough :))
Im a weird case...I had baby teeth until 13 so maybe your little theory is incorrect :D
 
Mamoon said:
Well, how about I find her number somehow and text her?
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Just a random forward text or making her aware of your feelings?


If you think that you won't lower yourself by getting rebuked, then there is no other problem. What is the worst that could happen if she declines the offer?

Yeh nhi to aur sahi, aur nhi to aur shai
 
Mamoon said:
Well, how about I find her number somehow and text her?
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Once things go well and you are sure of not being insulted, remember me and my little contribution by texting her this piece from my works......

"Special you are, unique is your style,
How admirable is your smile!"
 
DHONI183 said:
Once things go well and you are sure of not being insulted, remember me and my little contribution by texting her this piece from my works......

"Special you are, unique is your style,
How admirable is your smile!"
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Mamoon don't listen to him.

He is ensuring you somehow creep her out so he can swoop in as the shoulder to cry on.
 
Problem is she doesn't smile much. Has a serious look most of the time.
 
waqar goraya said:
Just a random forward text or making her aware of your feelings?


If you think that you won't lower yourself by getting rebuked, then there is no other problem. What is the worst that could happen if she declines the offer?

Yeh nhi to aur sahi, aur nhi to aur shai
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I can write her a long text expressing my desire to make her the mother of my children on day. :ajmal
 
If she is going to marry me, the purple nail polish is clearly off.
 
Mamoon said:
Problem is she doesn't smile much. Has a serious look most of the time.
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Perhaps only in your presence. :moyo

Mamoon said:
I can write her a long text expressing my desire to make her the mother of my children on day. :ajmal
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One of our friend used to say that mid night is the most appropriate time for text when one is away from the hustle and bustle of day life and has a time to think and feel.

Personally,i have never been in any kind of a relationship.
 
Start dating her best friend.
I hear that goes down well.
 
Pakistani_Legend said:
Don't be so happy, grandpa. You won't get one considering that you are around 100 years old.
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But I'm Cupid, remember? I have a bow and arrow and a walking stick. Plus the wings, halo and birthday suit.


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Im passing this thread onto James Cameron and Hugh Grant as we speak. The rom com should begin production shortly
 
Thread title should be renamed to "Mamoon and potential bhabi - Act 1."

We disagree on a ton of things, but good luck on this, bro :)

This thread is going to be my sole source of entertainment halfway-through finals :p
 
waqar goraya said:
Perhaps only in your presence. :moyo



One of our friend used to say that mid night is the most appropriate time for text when one is away from the hustle and bustle of day life and has a time to think and feel.

Personally,i have never been in any kind of a relationship.
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She stays up till late anyway like me. :afridi
 
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