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Would you marry outside your race?

1 and 6 are Afghani

2 and 5 are pakistani....Saba and Iman

3 and 4 are indians...


i'll take #6........
 
2,3 Pakistanis, 5,4 Indians 1,6 Afghans.

Ethnicity/Nationality not a important factor for me.

p.s I will take 6 any day of the week.
 
1 & 6 are best. :D

As far as the main topic, I wouldn't mind marrying outside my culture. Although, I am sure my parents would mind.

Still, I am half Punjabi and half urdu speaking, so anyone from Pakistan is fine for my parents, I would assume.
 
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Its about tarbiyat how your parent grow you.

Some parents want there kids to speak English only.

right on i have seen Pakistani born kids abroad with Pakistani parents barely understanding Urdu while i know a Pakistani guy who is married to an American , his daughter is able to understand and speak both English and Urdu .
 
Already married to someone who can't speak my language, doesn't know my culture (though Indian but north and south are very different).

I am happy I did that as I got more than what I lost. :)
 
My chachi is Gujarat'an, 80s love marriage in Canada, she cant speak Punjabi/Hindi/Urdu, she is not tall like Punjaban Jatti, kids speak tutti-phutti Punjabi. There are positives also, awesome food/hardly indulges in Chugli business due to language barrier, very friendly.
 
would people also be willing to marry outside of their ethnicity?

I did.

It is a little difficult at times when I don't understand some of the humour / cultural references when her side of the family gets together.

But love overcomes all boundaries.
 
any gdlking girl vant to marry me ? iam handsome and kewl my mobile no is 03205345986 :zoni
 
Hmm. You are right. I shall create a girly thread one day and we will rate pics of men while u guys will feel left out. Ha!
It would be interesting.

Guys, this thread will help you know "What women want" :)
 
yes yes yes! We need a "what women want in men" thread. Women are so confusing and unclear about their expectations......it's sooo frustrating :po:
 
Culture and Language wont matter as long as the girl is perfect as per my expectations .
 
No desi ghee please. I can't take that.

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Take this advice, it maybe ur last..

u can't hide from ur fears, u must face em and fight

this World only supports Survival of the fittest, weak will disappear like a heap of dry leaves :yk
 
Yes I'm considering marrying outside my culture nationality and ethnicity but not outside my religion. She might be Turkish unfortunately I have learned that most Turkish girls don't have the right character and a bad personality.
It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry inside my culture nationality and ethnicity.

I will marry a women with following traits:
- Attractive 40%
- Character and personality 40%
- Family has no to very little history of genetic disease, cancer and various heart problems. 15%
- The male members of the family are mostly tall and well build. 5%
- Isn't Chinese/Japanese/east asian no matter how attractive some of them might be. Sorry but I do not wish to gift my kids epicanthic fold. 100%

I don't care what eye/hair color she has because they hold little value in my eyes. Though I like women with dark and straight hair like most east Asian women style hem.

I divide the attractiveness of a women so:
- Hair (really the biggest factor to me dunno why) 40%
- Teeth 20%
- overall facial structure 20%
- various other factors 20%

I also sometimes think of never to marry.
Anyway the question of marriage should be last thing on my mind right now.:amir
 
Yes I'm considering marrying outside my culture nationality and ethnicity but not outside my religion. She might be Turkish unfortunately I have learned that most Turkish girls don't have the right character and a bad personality.
It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry inside my culture nationality and ethnicity.

I will marry a women with following traits:
- Attractive 40%
- Character and personality 40%
- Family has no to very little history of genetic disease, cancer and various heart problems. 15%
- The male members of the family are mostly tall and well build. 5%
- Isn't Chinese/Japanese/east asian no matter how attractive some of them might be. Sorry but I do not wish to gift my kids epicanthic fold. 100%

I don't care what eye/hair color she has because they hold little value in my eyes. Though I like women with dark and straight hair like most east Asian women style hem.

I divide the attractiveness of a women so:
- Hair (really the biggest factor to me dunno why) 40%
- Teeth 20%
- overall facial structure 20%
- various other factors 20%

I also sometimes think of never to marry.
Anyway the question of marriage should be last thing on my mind right now.:amir

How about just marrying a woman you love?

You need to roam around with a calculator to find your wife otherwise! :)
 
Prince Pathan

I think its nearly impossible in your culture to marry someone else outside your culture.
There might be a few cases in which a male pathan has married a female outside his culture while there will be only one or two cases in which a female pathan married someone outside her culture.

Personaly, iamnt bothered about culture as long as the woman is religious,pious and possess good manners.
 
i am from gujar khan i speak puthwari so my wife too and my father and my mother like her me too so perfect mariage for me
p.s arrange mariage who said that doesn't work i am the perfect example
 
below are two pakistanis

two afghanis

two indians


guys have one pick...go for one of them...i want to see if somebody will naturally go for the their own :P

i already know the afghans and it wasnt really a hard choice even though all 6 are stunning...but everybody is different...

No. 4 :)
 
yes yes yes! We need a "what women want in men" thread. Women are so confusing and unclear about their expectations......it's sooo frustrating :po:
It will be simple if you leave women and try to know a woman. :P

Try to know one at a time :))
 
Yes I'm considering marrying outside my culture nationality and ethnicity but not outside my religion. She might be Turkish unfortunately I have learned that most Turkish girls don't have the right character and a bad personality.It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry inside my culture nationality and ethnicity.

I will marry a women with following traits:
- Attractive 40%
- Character and personality 40%
- Family has no to very little history of genetic disease, cancer and various heart problems. 15%
- The male members of the family are mostly tall and well build. 5%
- Isn't Chinese/Japanese/east asian no matter how attractive some of them might be. Sorry but I do not wish to gift my kids epicanthic fold. 100%

I don't care what eye/hair color she has because they hold little value in my eyes. Though I like women with dark and straight hair like most east Asian women style hem.

I divide the attractiveness of a women so:
- Hair (really the biggest factor to me dunno why) 40%
- Teeth 20%
- overall facial structure 20%
- various other factors 20%

I also sometimes think of never to marry.
Anyway the question of marriage should be last thing on my mind right now.:amir


Bravo. just wow
 
Yes I'm considering marrying outside my culture nationality and ethnicity but not outside my religion. She might be Turkish unfortunately I have learned that most Turkish girls don't have the right character and a bad personality.
It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry inside my culture nationality and ethnicity.

i knew a few turkish girls, cant say they had bad personalities, i found them to be quite freindly and easy to chat to.

unless your classing drinking alcohol as having a bad personality, bcz a lot of them do drink.
 
No 1. Afghani

No.2 Pakistani

No.3 Indian

No.4 Indian

No.5 Afghani

No.6 Pakistani
 
I can never think of marrying a Non Pathan girl. I am married though.
 
I would marry outside of my culture. As long as she is willing to get on with my first, I don't mind at all.

I don't discriminate on the basis of creed colour continent or culture.
 
Yes I'm considering marrying outside my culture nationality and ethnicity but not outside my religion. She might be Turkish unfortunately I have learned that most Turkish girls don't have the right character and a bad personality.
It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry inside my culture nationality and ethnicity.

I will marry a women with following traits:
- Attractive 40%
- Character and personality 40%
- Family has no to very little history of genetic disease, cancer and various heart problems. 15%
- The male members of the family are mostly tall and well build. 5%
- Isn't Chinese/Japanese/east asian no matter how attractive some of them might be. Sorry but I do not wish to gift my kids epicanthic fold. 100%

I don't care what eye/hair color she has because they hold little value in my eyes. Though I like women with dark and straight hair like most east Asian women style hem.

I divide the attractiveness of a women so:
- Hair (really the biggest factor to me dunno why) 40%
- Teeth 20%
- overall facial structure 20%
- various other factors 20%

I also sometimes think of never to marry.
Anyway the question of marriage should be last thing on my mind right now.:amir

This is such an epic post that there is no complete rebuttal possible. :))) :)))
 
Treu. You just can't argue with the numbers. They make too much sense! Such science, amazing!

And thats when he's NOT thinking about marriage and also considering not getting married at all. Genius!
 
I wouldnt mind but the family may have a different opinion.

Tho, the last decision will be mine as always.
 
Its madness to do that without the blessings of your parents. Also understand think about the future - how will your spouse behave with your parents etc I am assuming that this is the same religion or sect we are talking about?

Marriage is serious business - this isnt a "lets see how it goes" type thing - we are talking about a partnership of many many years.
 
nice responses guys


only njamal guessed correctly

majority of the pakistanis went for the pakistanis :P

the two indian dudes kfc zinger and chaiwala went for the indians...

lethal sami u completely guessed wrong haha...those are not the ppl at all :P...neither of them are called saba or the other 1 u said lol

order

1.afghan
2.pakistani
3.indian
4.indian
5.afghan
6.pakistani (pukhtun origin but punjabi speaking)



violet may : sorry dude-ess :P


so the general consencus here is that people would be willing to marry outside their culture?

are ye just saying it now just to look liberal or in reality that is how it is :P...because there are also those that have said they would only marry in their own culture
 
Yes I'm considering marrying outside my culture nationality and ethnicity but not outside my religion. She might be Turkish unfortunately I have learned that most Turkish girls don't have the right character and a bad personality.
It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry inside my culture nationality and ethnicity.

I will marry a women with following traits:
- Attractive 40%
- Character and personality 40%
- Family has no to very little history of genetic disease, cancer and various heart problems. 15%
- The male members of the family are mostly tall and well build. 5%
- Isn't Chinese/Japanese/east asian no matter how attractive some of them might be. Sorry but I do not wish to gift my kids epicanthic fold. 100%

I don't care what eye/hair color she has because they hold little value in my eyes. Though I like women with dark and straight hair like most east Asian women style hem.

I divide the attractiveness of a women so:
- Hair (really the biggest factor to me dunno why) 40%
- Teeth 20%
- overall facial structure 20%
- various other factors 20%

I also sometimes think of never to marry.
Anyway the question of marriage should be last thing on my mind right now.:amir

Lol! Good luck mate!!
 
Yes I'm considering marrying outside my culture nationality and ethnicity but not outside my religion. She might be Turkish unfortunately I have learned that most Turkish girls don't have the right character and a bad personality.
It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry inside my culture nationality and ethnicity.

I will marry a women with following traits:
- Attractive 40%
- Character and personality 40%
- Family has no to very little history of genetic disease, cancer and various heart problems. 15%
- The male members of the family are mostly tall and well build. 5%
- Isn't Chinese/Japanese/east asian no matter how attractive some of them might be. Sorry but I do not wish to gift my kids epicanthic fold. 100%

I don't care what eye/hair color she has because they hold little value in my eyes. Though I like women with dark and straight hair like most east Asian women style hem.

I divide the attractiveness of a women so:
- Hair (really the biggest factor to me dunno why) 40%
- Teeth 20%
- overall facial structure 20%
- various other factors 20%

I also sometimes think of never to marry.
Anyway the question of marriage should be last thing on my mind right now.:amir

lol great post
 
i knew a few turkish girls, cant say they had bad personalities, i found them to be quite freindly and easy to chat to.

unless your classing drinking alcohol as having a bad personality, bcz a lot of them do drink.

Yes this is one of the major issue.

Me being a practicing Muslim even the thought of going near the alcoholic drinks hasn't come to my mind.
So of course I can't accept that in my partner.

I think there is a difference between those who grew up in west, the majority of them have just remained Muslim by names.

Just last week a Turkish girl with a good and educated background admitted that she occasionally drinks Beer and Vodka and she has never read Quran and doesn't know how to pray.
No problem with me but please don't call yourself Muslim and make a mockery out of the religion.

They also have the habit to gossip a lot like Pakistani women.

Anyway I don't like to talk and point out bad behaviors of others. Turkish girls do have great traits but something can never be compromised.

I just find it sad, since most of Turkish men I know are practicing Muslim but their women have gone astray. Turks are one of the most friendly and caring people I know. They insist that I should finish my studies and marry a Turkish girl and were the one who started all this. Couldn't say no them but now I think otherwise.
 
How about just marrying a woman you love?

You need to roam around with a calculator to find your wife otherwise! :)

When do you know that you love a woman?

2 years I go I thought I was madly in love and couldn't live without a certain girl but today I lmfao over it with freinds.

Experience tells me that we men either find a women attractive or unattractive. There is no Hollywood/Bollywood love thing.
Only my opinion though.

I don't need a calculator, when I see a women my brain automatically reacts and tells me if I'm attracted to her or not it happens in an instant.
And with time I now know what kind of women attract me and what the main factors are.

Let me explain you why my numbers are really accurate for me:

When I see a women with dark, long, beautiful and healthy hairs I feel attraction towards her no matter how ugly her face might be.
Explanation: 40%>20%.

Though after seeing her ugly face the attraction does go down but little bit is still there.
Explanation: 40%-20%=20% attraction left.

There has been never a case where I found a women with ugly hairs but beautiful face attractive.
Explanation 20%<40% and 20%-40%=-20% attraction -> unattractive.

Now lets say a certain women attracts me by her looks but her character and personality is 0 then I won't feel any attraction.
Explanation 40%-40%=0% attraction

I'm not a math junky but just showing that I didn't choose the numbers randomly.

Every man has different factors and should figure them out for his own benefit just ask yourself -why?-, when you believe that you are in 'love' with a women.

I know guys who just 'fall in love' with beautiful women with 0 personality but I have become immune to that. After I stopped believing in the hollywood/bollywood 'love'. And see it as attraction or no attraction.

I also don't look at photos of beautiful girls and droll over them, yes they have great looks but since I can't judge there personality the attraction is very low. (only 40%)
 
^^^Attraction towards opposite sex is governed by PRE-FRONTAL CORTEX; mainly for the sole purpose of transferring better genes onto the off spring.

yes you are right, there is nothing like LOVE between the members of opposite sex(complete/relative strangers).

As far as OP is concerned; the answer for me is simple. I would never make my race "IMPURE"
 
Oh rite brother.

I haven't come across many Turks but I heard they love Pakistanis.

Want to go turkey next year.

Yes thats true they respect Pakistanis a lot and are very interested in our stability. Every time I meet them they ask me about the situation of Pakistan.
During the unfortunate flooding of 2010 they were the one who started the campaign here of gathering fund for the victims.

One of the reasons they told me is that the people of at that time 'North India' supported the Turks both financially and physically in difficult stages of the early 20th century and after and during the fall of Ottoman Empire. And now that North India has become Pakistan.

For some odd reason they also have huge respect for Gen. Zia-ul-Haq though most Pakistani hate him?

My dad has also met with the Turkish prime minister Erdogan back in 2000 when he came to visit here. He took a lot of pics with him.

I also plan of going to turkey but before that I'm going to learn Turkish it's a very sweet Language.
 
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^^^ lets not attack his views as he isnt insulting anybody

im expected to marry a pukhtun but also a sayyid pukhtun...and i might have to...as ummer khan just said

but that was hilarious acefrmspace lol
 
^^^ lets not attack his views as he isnt insulting anybody

im expected to marry a pukhtun but also a sayyid pukhtun...and i might have to...as ummer khan just said

but that was hilarious acefrmspace lol

There are sayyid Pukhtoons? They must be impure then?
 
^^^ lets not attack his views as he isnt insulting anybody

im expected to marry a pukhtun but also a sayyid pukhtun...and i might have to...as ummer khan just said

but that was hilarious acefrmspace lol

It was all in jest P_P. I wasn't attacking his views at all, even though I find them disgusting, I just thought it was too good an opportunity to miss for a gag. The word impure does make the rest of us mere mortals sound filthy which I'm sure wasn't his intention, I hope atleast.

I dig the whole race thing, it's been keeping us going for thousands of years and we have grown to respect it and guard it, with our lives in some cases. I see the practicality behind marrying in ones own culture and specifically ones own tribe or race. It just saves so much hassle in the long run. I've seen it in our own families where adhering to tradition has helped and deviating from it has upset the whole balance of the family. So I totally understand it. Not exactly a stance I would take in this day and age but fair play to them who still play by those rules.

Good luck to you finding an appropriate Pakhtun Wifey for yourself. I tell you one thing, there is nothing like finding the right life partner, I swear! So take your time and make the right choice. It is your life we're talking about, it's important. :moyo
 
You should know what you are posting. Sometimes it isn`t funny.

I'm not trying to be a clown. My question is a question and wasn't supposed to be, funny?

Since sayyid claim to be from Prophets bloodline some pakhtun must have married someone from prophets family who are Arabs and not Pakhtuns. Making his offspring not 100% pakhtun?

Maybe I don't understand the right meaning of impure.
 
There are sayyid Pukhtoons? They must be impure then?

hard to explain the genealogy...nor do i wish to with retards mentioned below in my post

@ fozee and cavalry 12 *** is so funny?

both sound like retards...kaga khula de ughayum
 
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I'm not trying to be a clown. My question is a question and wasn't supposed to be, funny?

Since sayyid claim to be from Prophets bloodline some pakhtun must have married someone from prophets family who are Arabs and not Pakhtuns. Making his offspring not 100% pakhtun?

Maybe I don't understand the right meaning of impure.

there are alot of impurities down the lines

some pukhtuns may not be the real deal...if they consider pashtunwali as their code and pushto as their language then they are pushtuns...its hard to actually truly figure out the geneaology of a pathan


S/O Sayed Imam Hussain Shaheed Kar Bela S/O Sayda Nisa Fatima –al- Zahra D/O Hazrat Muhammad (P.B.U.H)

start of my family tree

Sayed Ali Shah Kherasani Al Maroof Pir Baba Sahib S/O Sayed Kanber Ali Shah S/O

mughals...syed qanber ali shah was married to mughal emperor humayouns sister

since this time they have integrated with pashtuns...and for hundreds of years we classify ourselves as pukthuns as we abide by pashtunwali and our language is pashto...regardless for those that may want to laugh at this

doesnt hide the fact that were sayyids...also have mughal blood in us and because integrated with pukhtuns were also pathan...

id rather be above listed than anything else...three great bloodlines...
 
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Humanity is my culture or one that i want to embrace. Everything else is a sub culture.. So to OP's question, no matter whom I marry it will be within my culture. I hope my parents see it that way, I think they will. Either ways, I ll do what is right to me.
 
Am not being racist but why do pastuns act big headed with all the pastun code and stuff. I am a mix- punjabi, Pashtun, Kashmiri however consider myself as a Pakistani.
Like some members have mentioned about pure blood- no, that is just blatant racism- is half my blood pure and the other half impure??

The day when we get out of this thinking- this is the day we will progress as a nation.

The only thing that should matter is when we are cut we bleed green.
 
non pashtuns please stop saying whether something is pure or not

i will only classify a pathans opinion as valid...the rest of the opinions i couldnt truly give a toss about lol...

@simba : people are a bit stupid...theres a mix of races everywhere...nobody is pure anything
 
there are alot of impurities down the lines

some pukhtuns may not be the real deal...if they consider pashtunwali as their code and pushto as their language then they are pushtuns...its hard to actually truly figure out the geneaology of a pathan

So how important is pushtunwali I know there is the :

-Melmestia:Hospitality
-Badal: Revenge
-Jirga
-Tor: Protection of woman's honor
-Tarboor: the hostility between cousins?
 
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answered ur qs bout sayyids and pukhtuns above abdullah 22

every sayyid that is also a pukhtun has descended from pir baba
 
P_P is right. In all the Pathan tribes you will find Sayyids living with them since centuries. P_P belong to a village which is exclusively occupied by Sayyids in the heart of Mandarn Yousafzai's land. Since they are living from centuries with Pukhtoons they are merged in every Pukhtoon tribe. They hold lands, positions and a very special respect in every Pathan's eyes. They are respected because they belong to the bloodline of our Prophet (PBUH).
 
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